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Struggling to find a meet am i doing something wrong
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If showing your cock in a bar wearing a full body cape to hide rest of you doesn't get you a date/shag then doing equivalent on here wont either I'm afraid.
Search forums for old threads loads of tips in there. Also be patient, very very patient. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not going to socials or clubs, and relying on messaging people .
if you have privacy issues, perhaps getting involved in this lifestyle is not the best thing for your security |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You need patience lol
I crack up when I see this comment from you now shag  Thanks lol and yes I find it fun too x"
Have you worn the letters off your keyboard yet that spell this sentence, Shag?
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You need patience lol
I crack up when I see this comment from you now shag Thanks lol and yes I find it fun too x
Patience is the key, eh Shag? Lol "
That's right and lots of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You need patience lol
I crack up when I see this comment from you now shag Thanks lol and yes I find it fun too x
Have you worn the letters off your keyboard yet that spell this sentence, Shag?
-Courtney"
Yes I almost have, the letters r abit faded away now, need to stick a new letter P sticker on soon lol. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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As I said to someone yesterday (and the day before and the week before...) post a pic of you in a big bird from sesame st costume stood on a plie of argos catalogues.
With the text "Anyone fancy a shag? Any age, body size, gender."
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*or just write something yourself rather than a mish mash of suggestions from people you've never met. Some twat might suggest a big bird costume or something FFS!!! |
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"As I said to someone yesterday (and the day before and the week before...) post a pic of you in a big bird from sesame st costume stood on a plie of argos catalogues.
With the text "Anyone fancy a shag? Any age, body size, gender."
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*or just write something yourself rather than a mish mash of suggestions from people you've never met. Some twat mightr suggest a big bird costume or something FFS!!! "
Whatever you do, don't copy somebody else's profile!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As I said to someone yesterday (and the day before and the week before...) post a pic of you in a big bird from sesame st costume stood on a plie of argos catalogues.
With the text "Anyone fancy a shag? Any age, body size, gender."
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*or just write something yourself rather than a mish mash of suggestions from people you've never met. Some twat mightr suggest a big bird costume or something FFS!!!
Whatever you do, don't copy somebody else's profile! "
copy mine it works xx |
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"As I said to someone yesterday (and the day before and the week before...) post a pic of you in a big bird from sesame st costume stood on a plie of argos catalogues.
With the text "Anyone fancy a shag? Any age, body size, gender."
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*or just write something yourself rather than a mish mash of suggestions from people you've never met. Some twat mightr suggest a big bird costume or something FFS!!!
Whatever you do, don't copy somebody else's profile!
copy mine it works xx"
Be careful...he just might!
Believe me, you don't want that! |
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"As I said to someone yesterday (and the day before and the week before...) post a pic of you in a big bird from sesame st costume stood on a plie of argos catalogues.
With the text "Anyone fancy a shag? Any age, body size, gender."
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*or just write something yourself rather than a mish mash of suggestions from people you've never met. Some twat might suggest a big bird costume or something FFS!!! "
So that's where I went wrong when I joined, I dressed up as the Count from sesame street and stood on a pile of littlewoods catalogues.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say just use the filters, profile information and pictures to show what you are about. Get to socials, parties or clubs, there shouldn't be any excuses for those really? If you can't meet / attend groups due to confidence, then that's an issue I'd seek to improve away from here.
And messages - send good ones, as in personal, well written and include face pictures. I've sent two bad ones in my time and you get out what you put in. Just be yourself. |
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"Hii there looking to find a meet on here been a member around 3 months and struggling to find a meet i dont want to put a face pick on due to privacy can anybody give me any tips ?? X  "
. You profile advises that you are 23 and seeking sex.
It tells members nothing about you . If a member cannot be bothered writing a detailed profile , why would anyone bother contacting them..
What are you unique selling points that would make you stand out from all the other male members . Can you list 15.
Most successfull members on here will have a detailed interesting profile and good pictures .
You are lucky to be young so time is on your side . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You need patience lol
Surely it's Stud Poker?
 Yes or solitare
How about Brag??YEs or that, haven't tried it, any good?
It's fun, fast, and furious!  "
Nice one, we need it fast paced  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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You know when giving advice can we please be more civil....it isn't very often women or couples ask for advice but the difference in how things are said are immense.
For people who are so obviously pissed off with giving advice...please stay off the threads as it is really isn't very friendly for anyone to read and is putting newbies off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You know when giving advice can we please be more civil....it isn't very often women or couples ask for advice but the difference in how things are said are immense.
For people who are so obviously pissed off with giving advice...please stay off the threads as it is really isn't very friendly for anyone to read and is putting newbies off."
same people all the time, they shouldn't be allowed to post so many sarcastic comments time and time again if they don't like whats said they should stay off the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You need patience lol
I crack up when I see this comment from you now shag "
Doesn't stop it being true....? Got it on his clipboard ready to paste in each and every thread..... |
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"You need patience lol
I crack up when I see this comment from you now shag
Doesn't stop it being true....? Got it on his clipboard ready to paste in each and every thread....."
its not true though, if you just sit there waiting patiently theres not much chance its just gonna happen for you, you need to get off yer ass, get out there be proactive and make things happen. |
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"Hii there looking to find a meet on here been a member around 3 months and struggling to find a meet i dont want to put a face pick on due to privacy can anybody give me any tips ?? X "
As the lady said, be proactive. Patience will not get you anywhere.
Nothing wrong with a cock pic or two but have it within ratio of other interesting pics. It isn't necessary to have 20 pics of your cock (even if they are all at slightly different angles).
Spend some time accurately creating your profile. As a single male, I had quite a lengthy description that included my values, boundaries, what I want, what I offer and also some humour and seriousness that projected my personality.
I believe this effort meant I was able to be successful (for want of a better phrase), sooner rather than waiting months and months.
I appreciate that not everyone can do what I did and sometimes you can not pretend to be something that you're not.
So if I didn't/couldn't do the above, what I would have done is:
1) join the chat and get involved so I got verified.
2) hit the clubs and meet people this way to get verified.
Otherwise, you'll be just one of God knows how many single male profiles and drift into the background.
And if I was looking for a single male for my woman, who is my world, that would not be the profile I want to have the privilege of doing something intimate with my woman. So have that thought in the back of your mind when trying to improve your profile.
Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"3 months isn't that long, it took me 6 months to get ma first meet. Put some body pics up and get yer arse to a few socials "
took me over 2 years to get a meet that I did not know outside of fab. still working on finding a regular fb to play with but shift work plays havoc with the lifestyle
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"3 months isn't that long, it took me 6 months to get ma first meet. Put some body pics up and get yer arse to a few socials
took me over 2 years to get a meet that I did not know outside of fab. still working on finding a regular fb to play with but shift work plays havoc with the lifestyle
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If it took over 2 years, I'd suggest creating a new profile because a profile with no meets over a length of time would suggest to me, not worth persuing.
I'd make a fresh start with a good rewrite, if I had no success within a month. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Make sure you read the woman's profile and only contact those whose requirements you believe you fit. Write an excellent message because you profile is terrible, and attach a face pic to message that way you are still keeping it private |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You need patience lol
I crack up when I see this comment from you now shag
Doesn't stop it being true....? Got it on his clipboard ready to paste in each and every thread.....
its not true though, if you just sit there waiting patiently theres not much chance its just gonna happen for you, you need to get off yer ass, get out there be proactive and make things happen."
If you check my profile you will find I am proactive.....it is a lifestyle choice....not just looking for a quick shag.....too many guys just want fast action.....? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good afternoon...
Welcome to the forums, fab and the world of swing!
May I take the opportunity to suggest adding some more content to your profile?
Inject a little humour
Change your profile picture and as mentioned previously,be patient!
Be polite
Never expect and use the forum to raise awareness and show your personality.
In the mean time you could attend socials or a club.
I hope you find this helpful and I wish you a very enjoyable Fab experience
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's really unlucky going to ask those clubs to meet people and every time the club is completely empty..... Oh no wait a minute.... That's not right is it ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just ask yourself mate. If you was a lady would you look at your profile , See a Pic of a cock and think ooooh I would love to meet him. ? Probably not is my guess . Good luck though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm having trouble too. I'm contacting women politely , and have my sent messages unread for days/weeks. Patience for me is waring thin now.
I Feel like I'm wasting my time here. Good luck though hope you get a meet soon. |
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Yes these threads are tedious & repetitive, but this is unbeknown to the Op, otherwise they wouldn't ask the question. Sadly they are often given a hard time or take offence to things people say & as in the case of this thread the Op frequently disappears. Isn't it about time we had stickies on the top of each forum, as on most other public forums, it could just give short concise advice on the most frequently asked questions? Can't think of a good reason as to why this can't be implemented. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes these threads are tedious & repetitive, but this is unbeknown to the Op, otherwise they wouldn't ask the question. Sadly they are often given a hard time or take offence to things people say & as in the case of this thread the Op frequently disappears. Isn't it about time we had stickies on the top of each forum, as on most other public forums, it could just give short concise advice on the most frequently asked questions? Can't think of a good reason as to why this can't be implemented. "
There are plenty of tips in the help section.
I suggested moving it to the header from the footer in another forum |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes these threads are tedious & repetitive, but this is unbeknown to the Op, otherwise they wouldn't ask the question. Sadly they are often given a hard time or take offence to things people say & as in the case of this thread the Op frequently disappears. Isn't it about time we had stickies on the top of each forum, as on most other public forums, it could just give short concise advice on the most frequently asked questions? Can't think of a good reason as to why this can't be implemented.
There are plenty of tips in the help section.
I suggested moving it to the header from the footer in another forum"
Sorry that should have said FAQ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to freshion my profile every couple of months regardless whether i meet or not. I try to make the odd social aswel. People learn who you are, whether they can trust you and your personality. Two big words there in the swinging lifestyle, TRUST & PERSONALITY.. I've been part of the lifestyle for 20 years plus and believe in those two things to enjoy myself and make sure those i'm with enjoy themselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Patience is good
Also attending clubs helps
Try going to a social only event or evening at a club, these are usually free or lower priced and do not require memberships but each event and club may vary so check before hand xx |
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"You need patience lol
I crack up when I see this comment from you now shag
Doesn't stop it being true....? Got it on his clipboard ready to paste in each and every thread.....
its not true though, if you just sit there waiting patiently theres not much chance its just gonna happen for you, you need to get off yer ass, get out there be proactive and make things happen.
If you check my profile you will find I am proactive.....it is a lifestyle choice....not just looking for a quick shag.....too many guys just want fast action.....?"
I didnt say you werent proactive, I was pointing out that if people take notice of the patience comment and sit waiting, the likelihood is that nothing will happen, therefore people like the op that are struggling need to get out there and put some effort in, be proactive, dont sit back waiting thinking that joining a website makes you a swinger and will therefore do all the work for you, its quite clear you are proactive. |
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"I'm having trouble too. I'm contacting women politely , and have my sent messages unread for days/weeks. Patience for me is waring thin now.
I Feel like I'm wasting my time here. Good luck though hope you get a meet soon."
You're probably contacting the females that have joined a few hours ago with (sometimes) hot pics and a short paragraph along the lines of "just split up with my boyfriend, looking for fun with males, females & couples" verbatim.
I suggest you look at females with an established profile and many verifications. As the lady said, a nice impressive email with a pic (not cock, as it would suggest it's better looking than your face) is most likely going to get you a result, even if it's a no thank you.
Just bear in mind their mailbox is most likely going to get hammered (Mmmmm that word has just got me going lol) every day!
Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd ignore messages where i can't see the guys face in the message or profile, and tbh i get a lot of messages so can't reply to them all and ignore loads anyway. I do get mostly decent messages so, often it's not the guys fault he gets no reply it's just i haven't got time to reply to them or meet them so see no point in replying. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Yes these threads are tedious & repetitive, but this is unbeknown to the Op, otherwise they wouldn't ask the question. Sadly they are often given a hard time or take offence to things people say & as in the case of this thread the Op frequently disappears. Isn't it about time we had stickies on the top of each forum, as on most other public forums, it could just give short concise advice on the most frequently asked questions? Can't think of a good reason as to why this can't be implemented. "
Probably for the same reason as you mentioned in your first sentence. not everyone will know where to look or what to look out for.
The best thing for people to do for now is have a bit of respect for how other users want to use the forum. If they want to ask for help, leave them to it if you can't be civil. |
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