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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If your new, take my advice, dating and swing sites are a waste of time and money, especially if your a single male, I learned that the hard way, I have had more success on social networking sites or just plain everyday life activates,if out of curiosity you are going to adventure on these sites, watch out for time wasters... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You've only been here for 3 weeks... it's not instant shag a man...
You've not done your chances any favours either.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Amazing joins and puts others off if you dont like it just leave as you wont be missed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Complaining wont get you meets buddy :L
Happy Hunting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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lol, its quite clear swinging isnt for you and you havent got a clue what swinging is about, just leave it to the real swingers, we have plenty of fun. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You've only been here for 3 weeks... it's not instant shag a man...
You've not done your chances any favours either.
Good luck"
What chances are you talking about? the zero present. I am a single male(I've seen how single males get treated on here) yes I have not been here long but I've been online for years and successfully dating my whole life and I've seen in the forms guys that have been here way longer then I, there was nothing wrong with the them and none of them could get meets.
I have noticed online, there is only a minority of people that are genuine, the others consist of fakes, timewasters and trolls...having said that the forms are good for general decision but a meet...
Most women don't want to be labelled as sluts so because of this if you mention sex in a message even tho they might love sex just as much as you and even find what you attractive and find your jokes about sex funny, they will either act as if they are disgusted by it or in most cases block you.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Amazing joins and puts others off if you dont like it just leave as you wont be missed "
This is a great example of people on here, very rude and insulting but don't get me wrong there is a minority of genuinely fun people and they seem to be happy with what they already have but don't look for new people to join there groups. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You've only been here for 3 weeks... it's not instant shag a man...
You've not done your chances any favours either.
Good luck
What chances are you talking about? the zero present. I am a single male(I've seen how single males get treated on here) yes I have not been here long but I've been online for years and successfully dating my whole life and I've seen in the forms guys that have been here way longer then I, there was nothing wrong with the them and none of them could get meets.
I have noticed online, there is only a minority of people that are genuine, the others consist of fakes, timewasters and trolls...having said that the forms are good for general decision but a meet...
Most women don't want to be labelled as sluts so because of this if you mention sex in a message even tho they might love sex just as much as you and even find what you attractive and find your jokes about sex funny, they will either act as if they are disgusted by it or in most cases block you.
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If you've been successfully dating your whole life then I'm surprised your on here or feel the need to be on here. You're not on here a wet weekend and already complaining. We are a couple and tried for months before being accepted in the swing scene to get a meet with another couple. There are far too many fakers/messers/fantasists/jokers etc on online sites and this puts the genuine couples and single women off replying to anybody who doesn't have "proper and real verifications".
You are right in saying that women don't particularly want to be called sluts in mails etc.....but then again if you're walking down the street or talking to a woman in a bar or club you're hardly gonna say "Oi slut why don't you come back to mine for a fucking" so why do it on these sites. Be polite, be respectful and be honest....then you've a far better chance of actually having your mail read without being binned after the first line |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm also a single male, been on here about 3 years or so now. Yes, while there is are a certain amount of time wasters and fakes on here, there are on all swingers and dating site. There are also lots of genuine people on here, as I know, seeing as I've met 300/400 or maybe even more socialy and have had a fair few meets as and when I put the effort in.
A lot of the time, I'm just a time waster as I'm on here chatting and wasting my time, but it is my time to waste. |
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By *andcCouple
over a year ago
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What a load of bollox!
We have met loads of single guys on FAB, in fact we ONLY meet single guys! The guys we have met over the years have been very successful at meeting people on this site. Perhaps their attitude to swinging allowed them to be successful, in that they realised that single men on a swinging website are very out numbered, not many single women and lots of couples only want to meet other couples, so it takes time and a lot of effort, but you get out of it what you put in.
We would say that if you're single and looking for a quick shag it is most probably easier to go in to a major town on a Saturday night and get more luck..we would usually recommend single guys go to a club to meet people to gain some verification on here...but with an attitude that people should just shag you..even a club is not a good idea |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is successfully dating for years REALLY a measure of successful dating?
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Cry more?
You get what you put in. It isn't insta-shag on here either. Get a better outlook and attitude, or give up.
No need to try and sully the experience for others just because you threw a strop. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You've only been here for 3 weeks... it's not instant shag a man...
You've not done your chances any favours either.
Good luck
What chances are you talking about? the zero present. I am a single male(I've seen how single males get treated on here) yes I have not been here long but I've been online for years and successfully dating my whole life and I've seen in the forms guys that have been here way longer then I, there was nothing wrong with the them and none of them could get meets.
I have noticed online, there is only a minority of people that are genuine, the others consist of fakes, timewasters and trolls...having said that the forms are good for general decision but a meet...
Most women don't want to be labelled as sluts so because of this if you mention sex in a message even tho they might love sex just as much as you and even find what you attractive and find your jokes about sex funny, they will either act as if they are disgusted by it or in most cases block you.
If you've been successfully dating your whole life then I'm surprised your on here or feel the need to be on here. You're not on here a wet weekend and already complaining. We are a couple and tried for months before being accepted in the swing scene to get a meet with another couple. There are far too many fakers/messers/fantasists/jokers etc on online sites and this puts the genuine couples and single women off replying to anybody who doesn't have "proper and real verifications".
You are right in saying that women don't particularly want to be called sluts in mails etc.....but then again if you're walking down the street or talking to a woman in a bar or club you're hardly gonna say "Oi slut why don't you come back to mine for a fucking" so why do it on these sites. Be polite, be respectful and be honest....then you've a far better chance of actually having your mail read without being binned after the first line"
I am talking about stigma that is on women if they show they enjoy sex, talking about it and joking about it, which wouldn't most agree jokes about sex can be hilarious and a great way to connect with another swinger also wouldn't most agree a real swinger has a proper appreciation of intimacy.
In summery, trying to use dating and swing sites to find a fun friend or friends is a waste of time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So why are you here ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In summery, trying to use dating and swing sites to find a fun friend or friends is a waste of time. "
In Your Opinion!
I've met some great friends through Fab and other swingers sites that I use/have used. Yes, they are real life friends now, not just swinging friends. I also met my current partner through another swingers site, so I would like to say, in summery, IMO, you can make what you want from sites like this, you just have to put the effort in. If the only effort you put in is negative effort, then your opinion will serve YOU well. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You've only been here for 3 weeks... it's not instant shag a man...
You've not done your chances any favours either.
Good luck
What chances are you talking about? the zero present. I am a single male(I've seen how single males get treated on here) yes I have not been here long but I've been online for years and successfully dating my whole life and I've seen in the forms guys that have been here way longer then I, there was nothing wrong with the them and none of them could get meets.
I have noticed online, there is only a minority of people that are genuine, the others consist of fakes, timewasters and trolls...having said that the forms are good for general decision but a meet...
Most women don't want to be labelled as sluts so because of this if you mention sex in a message even tho they might love sex just as much as you and even find what you attractive and find your jokes about sex funny, they will either act as if they are disgusted by it or in most cases block you.
If you've been successfully dating your whole life then I'm surprised your on here or feel the need to be on here. You're not on here a wet weekend and already complaining. We are a couple and tried for months before being accepted in the swing scene to get a meet with another couple. There are far too many fakers/messers/fantasists/jokers etc on online sites and this puts the genuine couples and single women off replying to anybody who doesn't have "proper and real verifications".
You are right in saying that women don't particularly want to be called sluts in mails etc.....but then again if you're walking down the street or talking to a woman in a bar or club you're hardly gonna say "Oi slut why don't you come back to mine for a fucking" so why do it on these sites. Be polite, be respectful and be honest....then you've a far better chance of actually having your mail read without being binned after the first line"
The verification system is simply a tool to exclude others, it means if your not verified, no one will meet let alone chat so a person has zero present chance on here, unless your female...
I will challenge anyone on here to start a new profile as a single male, no one must know who you are, try talk to people and make advances on women and see how you get treated. It wont matter how hot, rich, funny, intelligent or how long you are on here, no one will meet you and in a lot of cases you will get alienated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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to be honest pal I cant complain. Yes I am online quite a lot which improves my chances but I have had a fair few meets |
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The verification system is simply a tool to exclude others, it means if your not verified, no one will meet let alone chat so a person has zero present chance on here, unless your female...
I will challenge anyone on here to start a new profile as a single male, no one must know who you are, try talk to people and make advances on women and see how you get treated. It wont matter how hot, rich, funny, intelligent or how long you are on here, no one will meet you and in a lot of cases you will get alienated. "
Now you are talking a load of BS. Everyone has to start somewhere. Otherwise no one would be verified.
Quit using crutches to try and justify your poor approach to this site to yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you may also want to read the feedback I give you on your profile on the other thread. It will help |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You've only been here for 3 weeks... it's not instant shag a man...
You've not done your chances any favours either.
Good luck
What chances are you talking about? the zero present. I am a single male(I've seen how single males get treated on here) yes I have not been here long but I've been online for years and successfully dating my whole life and I've seen in the forms guys that have been here way longer then I, there was nothing wrong with the them and none of them could get meets.
I have noticed online, there is only a minority of people that are genuine, the others consist of fakes, timewasters and trolls...having said that the forms are good for general decision but a meet...
Most women don't want to be labelled as sluts so because of this if you mention sex in a message even tho they might love sex just as much as you and even find what you attractive and find your jokes about sex funny, they will either act as if they are disgusted by it or in most cases block you.
If you've been successfully dating your whole life then I'm surprised your on here or feel the need to be on here. You're not on here a wet weekend and already complaining. We are a couple and tried for months before being accepted in the swing scene to get a meet with another couple. There are far too many fakers/messers/fantasists/jokers etc on online sites and this puts the genuine couples and single women off replying to anybody who doesn't have "proper and real verifications".
You are right in saying that women don't particularly want to be called sluts in mails etc.....but then again if you're walking down the street or talking to a woman in a bar or club you're hardly gonna say "Oi slut why don't you come back to mine for a fucking" so why do it on these sites. Be polite, be respectful and be honest....then you've a far better chance of actually having your mail read without being binned after the first line
The verification system is simply a tool to exclude others, it means if your not verified, no one will meet let alone chat so a person has zero present chance on here, unless your female...
I will challenge anyone on here to start a new profile as a single male, no one must know who you are, try talk to people and make advances on women and see how you get treated. It wont matter how hot, rich, funny, intelligent or how long you are on here, no one will meet you and in a lot of cases you will get alienated. "
There's already enough fake profiles without you asking ppl to make more.....and I'm guessing that yours is one of them.....and I'd hazard a guess that you have more than one... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I will challenge anyone on here to start a new profile as a single male, no one must know who you are, try talk to people and make advances on women and see how you get treated. It wont matter how hot, rich, funny, intelligent or how long you are on here, no one will meet you and in a lot of cases you will get alienated. "
I started a new profile as a single male 3 years ago, I put myself out, I went to socials, I chatted to people in the forums as and when I wanted and 3 years later, I'm still here, I've had loads of meets and met hundreds of fab members socialy, all that because I put the effort in!
Now if you just want to siot behind the keyboard and moan, go ahead, but you certainly won't be improving your chances that's for sure.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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swinging and dating are very different things, you dont seem to have the attitude or the knowledge for swinging neither do you seem to no what it means. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yet another "I can't get a meet so the whole sites shit" moan  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been on here 4 weeks met 6 singles/couple played with four of them my choice.All about attitude and effort.
Pull your bottom lip up stop sulking and be nice to people. |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
"Been on here 4 weeks met 6 singles/couple played with four of them my choice.All about attitude and effort.
Pull your bottom lip up stop sulking and be nice to people. "
bleedin' 'ell, you have a 12inch cock or summat?? 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I'm just honest and don't rate myself check my verifications ! I'm not Brad Pitt or pretend to be . But I'm genuine ! |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
Only pulling your leg.
Not the middle one btw  |
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"You've only been here for 3 weeks... it's not instant shag a man...
You've not done your chances any favours either.
Good luck
What chances are you talking about? the zero present. I am a single male(I've seen how single males get treated on here) yes I have not been here long but I've been online for years and successfully dating my whole life and I've seen in the forms guys that have been here way longer then I, there was nothing wrong with the them and none of them could get meets.
I have noticed online, there is only a minority of people that are genuine, the others consist of fakes, timewasters and trolls...having said that the forms are good for general decision but a meet...
Most women don't want to be labelled as sluts so because of this if you mention sex in a message even tho they might love sex just as much as you and even find what you attractive and find your jokes about sex funny, they will either act as if they are disgusted by it or in most cases block you.
If you've been successfully dating your whole life then I'm surprised your on here or feel the need to be on here. You're not on here a wet weekend and already complaining. We are a couple and tried for months before being accepted in the swing scene to get a meet with another couple. There are far too many fakers/messers/fantasists/jokers etc on online sites and this puts the genuine couples and single women off replying to anybody who doesn't have "proper and real verifications".
You are right in saying that women don't particularly want to be called sluts in mails etc.....but then again if you're walking down the street or talking to a woman in a bar or club you're hardly gonna say "Oi slut why don't you come back to mine for a fucking" so why do it on these sites. Be polite, be respectful and be honest....then you've a far better chance of actually having your mail read without being binned after the first line"
 well said  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You've only been here for 3 weeks... it's not instant shag a man...
You've not done your chances any favours either.
Good luck
What chances are you talking about? the zero present. I am a single male(I've seen how single males get treated on here) yes I have not been here long but I've been online for years and successfully dating my whole life and I've seen in the forms guys that have been here way longer then I, there was nothing wrong with the them and none of them could get meets.
I have noticed online, there is only a minority of people that are genuine, the others consist of fakes, timewasters and trolls...having said that the forms are good for general decision but a meet...
Most women don't want to be labelled as sluts so because of this if you mention sex in a message even tho they might love sex just as much as you and even find what you attractive and find your jokes about sex funny, they will either act as if they are disgusted by it or in most cases block you.
If you've been successfully dating your whole life then I'm surprised your on here or feel the need to be on here. You're not on here a wet weekend and already complaining. We are a couple and tried for months before being accepted in the swing scene to get a meet with another couple. There are far too many fakers/messers/fantasists/jokers etc on online sites and this puts the genuine couples and single women off replying to anybody who doesn't have "proper and real verifications".
You are right in saying that women don't particularly want to be called sluts in mails etc.....but then again if you're walking down the street or talking to a woman in a bar or club you're hardly gonna say "Oi slut why don't you come back to mine for a fucking" so why do it on these sites. Be polite, be respectful and be honest....then you've a far better chance of actually having your mail read without being binned after the first line"
I am on here to swing, meet new people and have fun, why are you on here?
Also yet again my point is there is a stigma on women, which is the reason they don't respond on these sites...you can be the most charming person ever and it wont matter. |
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I am on here to swing, meet new people and have fun, why are you on here?
Also yet again my point is there is a stigma on women, which is the reason they don't respond on these sites...you can be the most charming person ever and it wont matter. "
Funny, women respond to me just fine. Ever stop to think maybe YOU are the issue? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am on here to swing, meet new people and have fun, why are you on here?
Also yet again my point is there is a stigma on women, which is the reason they don't respond on these sites...you can be the most charming person ever and it wont matter.
Funny, women respond to me just fine. Ever stop to think maybe YOU are the issue?"
Nope your lying, I know how things work, its what I do. You can twist it all you want, in the end of the day new members that read this post will realise I was right. |
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I am on here to swing, meet new people and have fun, why are you on here?
Also yet again my point is there is a stigma on women, which is the reason they don't respond on these sites...you can be the most charming person ever and it wont matter.
Funny, women respond to me just fine. Ever stop to think maybe YOU are the issue?
Nope your lying, I know how things work, its what I do. You can twist it all you want, in the end of the day new members that read this post will realise I was right."
Your attitude problem is what stops you getting meets!
Swingers are not just on here for a "shag", it is about the person, chatting and that means getting to know someone.
You cannot accom, your young, if you get results in town, then why the hell are you on here!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I thought I would share this since I have enough courage to speak my mind...
Who would be happy with going onto any site, only to be met with alienation, discrimination and exclusion.
I am a pleasant, considerate, intelligent, mature, open minded person with a great sense of humour...
I have noticed a lot of people on here don't take the time to read between the lines and block without a second thought, thus not giving new members a chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought I would share this since I have enough courage to speak my mind...
Who would be happy with going onto any site, only to be met with alienation, discrimination and exclusion.
I am a pleasant, considerate, intelligent, mature, open minded person with a great sense of humour...
I have noticed a lot of people on here don't take the time to read between the lines and block without a second thought, thus not giving new members a chance. "
Why not write those things on your profile then?
With respect you have discredited yourself on this post now by claiming singles don't get a chance and not responding to the various guys who have come forward saying they are doing ok including me.
Your best bet is to revamp your profile and message a few people to see how you get on.
Claiming to have being alienated wont get you anywhere. You make reference to having courage to speak up as if you were being excluded due to race or religion.
Reality is pal you are just one of many men looking for casual sex. In many respects you are no different to the rest of us
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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lol this is never going to work for you, your attitude is all wrong, and you have no idea what swinging is all about. |
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Helps if your initial posts in the forum don't paint you as some massive douche with an overinflated ego. Perhaps that's why you are getting blocked and avoided/ shunned.
Like i said, plenty of single guys who were once newbies on here are doing fine. What makes them so different from you? Attitude and willingness to improve their experience on here rather than blaming everything else for factors within your control. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Take a good look up and down this post and look at the reception I got, very few where genuine, two people gave me good advice and I thank them for it but with the stigma on women and the way single males are treated, it wont make a difference.
Two men said they did very well but did they offer to help...no and they blocked me.
Hope I saved any new members from wasting there time... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Helps if your initial posts in the forum don't paint you as some massive douche with an overinflated ego. Perhaps that's why you are getting blocked and avoided/ shunned.
Like i said, plenty of single guys who were once newbies on here are doing fine. What makes them so different from you? Attitude and willingness to improve their experience on here rather than blaming everything else for factors within your control."
I was getting blocked and shunned from day one without even a chance, I came on here with a since of humour and a willingness to have fun. "Alienated" Simply for being a single male or perhaps it was because of where im from... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You only received such a reception due to a very critical opening post. Different post different responses |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Helps if your initial posts in the forum don't paint you as some massive douche with an overinflated ego. Perhaps that's why you are getting blocked and avoided/ shunned.
Like i said, plenty of single guys who were once newbies on here are doing fine. What makes them so different from you? Attitude and willingness to improve their experience on here rather than blaming everything else for factors within your control.
I was getting blocked and shunned from day one without even a chance, I came on here with a since of humour and a willingness to have fun. "Alienated" Simply for being a single male or perhaps it was because of where im from..."
Are you messaging people in England? As that is prob going to be a problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Take a good look up and down this post and look at the reception I got, very few where genuine, two people gave me good advice and I thank them for it but with the stigma on women and the way single males are treated, it wont make a difference.
Two men said they did very well but did they offer to help...no and they blocked me.
Hope I saved any new members from wasting there time..."
I'm one of those that has blocked you, though nothing to do with this thread, but to do with other posts that you have made in the last few days.
I have offered advice and help in other posts and it has been ignored and you just keep spouting the same woe is me rubbish over and over again. You of course have your opinion which you're very entitled to, just a shame most other people don't see it the same.
If you reaffy think this site is such a waste, why stay, nice and esy to leave if you think you will never get anywher.
But as has been said over and over again in this thread and others, if you put the effort in the rewards can and are very good indeed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Helps if your initial posts in the forum don't paint you as some massive douche with an overinflated ego. Perhaps that's why you are getting blocked and avoided/ shunned.
Like i said, plenty of single guys who were once newbies on here are doing fine. What makes them so different from you? Attitude and willingness to improve their experience on here rather than blaming everything else for factors within your control.
I was getting blocked and shunned from day one without even a chance, I came on here with a since of humour and a willingness to have fun. "Alienated" Simply for being a single male or perhaps it was because of where im from...
Are you messaging people in England? As that is prob going to be a problem"
No, just local and perhaps other counties in my country. |
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By *en1966Man
over a year ago
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I'm new to this been on here about 3 weeks, i have no verifications I've met someone for a drink, had a nice evening, I wasn't expecting anything other than that, but we all have to start somewhere, if anything I find it a bit annoying when you get no reply to a email even if its a no thank you, but then again I could just be trying to talk to fakes and time wasters, but I'm still here,
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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hey if this new guy doesnt like thew site why not leave and stop bitching about it all? i am single male joine d over a yere back and all i can say what agreat fantastic people i have met on here . really nice bunch of people male and female , so if you dont like leave , its not for everyone and evryone is not for you so i wish you well and find something you might be better suited to . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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honestly OP...if u want some kind of advice please ask...starting with ur profile might help
IMO its pretty shite amongst the more successful profiles...so OBVIOUSLY u'll be bypassed by most |
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I don't get it, if the site is so shit and full of time wasters and fakes, why are you still here?
No one is forcing you to be here, no one is holding a gun against your head making you stay, if you don't like it, delete your account, and go back to dating successfully using other means.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"honestly OP...if u want some kind of advice please ask...starting with ur profile might help
IMO its pretty shite amongst the more successful profiles...so OBVIOUSLY u'll be bypassed by most"
Here is another example of the nonsense on here(trolls) No one gives a shit what's on your profile as long as it has basic info, people don't want to read your life story. |
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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago
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"Here is another example of the nonsense on here(trolls) No one gives a shit what's on your profile as long as it has basic info, people don't want to read your life story. "
Wrong. Profiles matter, basic info is not enough. If you are relying on a 3 line profile then at least have a decent amount of pictures that we can get an impression from. At the moment we would pass on you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't get it, if the site is so shit and full of time wasters and fakes, why are you still here?
No one is forcing you to be here, no one is holding a gun against your head making you stay, if you don't like it, delete your account, and go back to dating successfully using other means.
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By *ts artMan
over a year ago
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Sweet Jesus man get some Lego.... Build a bridge and get over yourself.
Or Google Godwin.
You get out what you put in.
What do you expect to get out of your op. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm well and truly single
Have had plenty of meets and am selective in doing so
If you are so successful on line why be on here too?
We all have to start with no verifications, carry on as you are then you will struggle... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lol this is never going to work for you, your attitude is all wrong, and you have no idea what swinging is all about."
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"honestly OP...if u want some kind of advice please ask...starting with ur profile might help
IMO its pretty shite amongst the more successful profiles...so OBVIOUSLY u'll be bypassed by most"
Don't even bother paddy. He's been given advice on numerous different threads. Even asked for it on a few occasions and then says it doesn't matter what's on your profile. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"honestly OP...if u want some kind of advice please ask...starting with ur profile might help
IMO its pretty shite amongst the more successful profiles...so OBVIOUSLY u'll be bypassed by most"
I am afraid the OP feels that the reason he doesn't get meets is down to the women on here. His opinion is that he shouldn't have to try by crafting a halfway decent profile - we should fall at his feet whatever.
I prefer to meet people with less baggage to be honest. Imagine meeting this guy and having to sit through rants about how horrible women and Fab are? No thank you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"honestly OP...if u want some kind of advice please ask...starting with ur profile might help
IMO its pretty shite amongst the more successful profiles...so OBVIOUSLY u'll be bypassed by most
I am afraid the OP feels that the reason he doesn't get meets is down to the women on here. His opinion is that he shouldn't have to try by crafting a halfway decent profile - we should fall at his feet whatever.
I prefer to meet people with less baggage to be honest. Imagine meeting this guy and having to sit through rants about how horrible women and Fab are? No thank you!"
I think that the OP's attitude towards women on this site is disgusting. Combined with a clear sense of both social and intellectual superiority and a completely unrealistic sense of expectation and entitlement it's not difficult to see why the OP is struggling and it's nothing to do with being new.
Ironic thing is people are still posting genuine advice |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"honestly OP...if u want some kind of advice please ask...starting with ur profile might help
IMO its pretty shite amongst the more successful profiles...so OBVIOUSLY u'll be bypassed by most
I am afraid the OP feels that the reason he doesn't get meets is down to the women on here. His opinion is that he shouldn't have to try by crafting a halfway decent profile - we should fall at his feet whatever.
I prefer to meet people with less baggage to be honest. Imagine meeting this guy and having to sit through rants about how horrible women and Fab are? No thank you!
I think that the OP's attitude towards women on this site is disgusting. Combined with a clear sense of both social and intellectual superiority and a completely unrealistic sense of expectation and entitlement it's not difficult to see why the OP is struggling and it's nothing to do with being new.
Ironic thing is people are still posting genuine advice"
See yet another making judgments on assumptions, a lot of people on here(not all) judge based on how they feel and don't read between the lines or look into the topic at hand.
I had this in my profile at the start, even tho I have a great sense of humour and personality, people on here are very harsh, didn't give a chance and shun, I got blocked without even an explanation, simply because of being a single male.
Why am I hulk? because hulks IQ drops to two digits when hulks penis gets bigger.
One would have to have no sense of humour not to find that funny, see given the nature of the site its not a bad joke.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"honestly OP...if u want some kind of advice please ask...starting with ur profile might help
IMO its pretty shite amongst the more successful profiles...so OBVIOUSLY u'll be bypassed by most
I am afraid the OP feels that the reason he doesn't get meets is down to the women on here. His opinion is that he shouldn't have to try by crafting a halfway decent profile - we should fall at his feet whatever.
I prefer to meet people with less baggage to be honest. Imagine meeting this guy and having to sit through rants about how horrible women and Fab are? No thank you!"
See judgments, they haven't even taken the time to get to know me... they don't give singles males a chance on this site.
Most women only put in a few lines anyway, why should males have to work any harder then females? people are on here to have fun and not be told for a year that there profile needs to be fixed...waste of time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"honestly OP...if u want some kind of advice please ask...starting with ur profile might help
IMO its pretty shite amongst the more successful profiles...so OBVIOUSLY u'll be bypassed by most
I am afraid the OP feels that the reason he doesn't get meets is down to the women on here. His opinion is that he shouldn't have to try by crafting a halfway decent profile - we should fall at his feet whatever.
I prefer to meet people with less baggage to be honest. Imagine meeting this guy and having to sit through rants about how horrible women and Fab are? No thank you!
I think that the OP's attitude towards women on this site is disgusting. Combined with a clear sense of both social and intellectual superiority and a completely unrealistic sense of expectation and entitlement it's not difficult to see why the OP is struggling and it's nothing to do with being new.
Ironic thing is people are still posting genuine advice
See yet another making judgments on assumptions, a lot of people on here(not all) judge based on how they feel and don't read between the lines or look into the topic at hand.
I had this in my profile at the start, even tho I have a great sense of humour and personality, people on here are very harsh, didn't give a chance and shun, I got blocked without even an explanation, simply because of being a single male.
Why am I hulk? because hulks IQ drops to two digits when hulks penis gets bigger.
One would have to have no sense of humour not to find that funny, see given the nature of the site its not a bad joke.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"honestly OP...if u want some kind of advice please ask...starting with ur profile might help
IMO its pretty shite amongst the more successful profiles...so OBVIOUSLY u'll be bypassed by most
I am afraid the OP feels that the reason he doesn't get meets is down to the women on here. His opinion is that he shouldn't have to try by crafting a halfway decent profile - we should fall at his feet whatever.
I prefer to meet people with less baggage to be honest. Imagine meeting this guy and having to sit through rants about how horrible women and Fab are? No thank you!
See judgments, they haven't even taken the time to get to know me... they don't give singles males a chance on this site.
Most women only put in a few lines anyway, why should males have to work any harder then females? people are on here to have fun and not be told for a year that there profile needs to be fixed...waste of time."
Why should males have to work harder than females?
Thats the way the world works Im afraid irrespective of whether you are talking real life, dating site, sex site etc. Just have to get on with it |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I had this in my profile at the start, even tho I have a great sense of humour and personality, people on here are very harsh, didn't give a chance and shun, I got blocked without even an explanation, simply because of being a single male."
That might have been the case when you first joined, but I suspect your opinions about the women on here has gone a long way to add to the number of profiles you've been blocked by. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"honestly OP...if u want some kind of advice please ask...starting with ur profile might help
IMO its pretty shite amongst the more successful profiles...so OBVIOUSLY u'll be bypassed by most
I am afraid the OP feels that the reason he doesn't get meets is down to the women on here. His opinion is that he shouldn't have to try by crafting a halfway decent profile - we should fall at his feet whatever.
I prefer to meet people with less baggage to be honest. Imagine meeting this guy and having to sit through rants about how horrible women and Fab are? No thank you!
I think that the OP's attitude towards women on this site is disgusting. Combined with a clear sense of both social and intellectual superiority and a completely unrealistic sense of expectation and entitlement it's not difficult to see why the OP is struggling and it's nothing to do with being new.
Ironic thing is people are still posting genuine advice
See yet another making judgments on assumptions, a lot of people on here(not all) judge based on how they feel and don't read between the lines or look into the topic at hand.
I had this in my profile at the start, even tho I have a great sense of humour and personality, people on here are very harsh, didn't give a chance and shun, I got blocked without even an explanation, simply because of being a single male.
Why am I hulk? because hulks IQ drops to two digits when hulks penis gets bigger.
One would have to have no sense of humour not to find that funny, see given the nature of the site its not a bad joke.
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A joke that needs explaining surely, by definition is not funny?
As for judgements, well I've judged based on your posts and stand by it. Plenty do it to me and I have no qualms about it, it's the nature of a forum. You can say how you've got a great personality and sense of humour but without actively demonstrating it how does anyone truly know?
I still fail to see why you think people blocking all singlemales is a personal reflection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why don't you show everybody just how nice, honest, sexy and intellectual you really are. Come along to the m&g in limerick next weekend. Then we can all judge for ourselves exactly what you're like when you're not sitting behind a screen.
We won't take any excuses for not turning up. Be a man.....now there's a challenge for ye..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Simples, don't like it leave...... For those who are genuinely nice decent people and understand the concept behind swinging fab works brilliantly.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry but i see lots of single males profiles that are very successful they just get on with it and have great attitudes etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most women only put in a few lines anyway, why should males have to work any harder then females? people are on here to have fun and not be told for a year that there profile needs to be fixed...waste of time."
Woman have to work just as hard sorting out the wheat from the chaff
The site is what you make of it you have look learn and give it time |
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"Why don't you show everybody just how nice, honest, sexy and intellectual you really are. Come along to the m&g in limerick next weekend. Then we can all judge for ourselves exactly what you're like when you're not sitting behind a screen.
We won't take any excuses for not turning up. Be a man.....now there's a challenge for ye....."
Nah, he'd rather sit there, whine and troll the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well anyway, am gonna enjoy a weekend of filth
I musta done something right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why don't you show everybody just how nice, honest, sexy and intellectual you really are. Come along to the m&g in limerick next weekend. Then we can all judge for ourselves exactly what you're like when you're not sitting behind a screen.
We won't take any excuses for not turning up. Be a man.....now there's a challenge for ye....."
thats an oppurtunity for you to try and redeem your attitude, turn up and show real swingers what a good attitude you have. |
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Single female here who is not scared of her sexuality or stigmatised by other peoples perception of it.
I also meet unverified men.
But I'm here for the fulfillment of my own fantasies and desires and if you don't match up then you'll get declined and possibly blocked. Why should I give someone totally unappealling to me any time and effort?
As for messages that begin with sex; this may be a swinging site but basic courtesies of conversation still apply. Hello, take a look at my profile and get back to me if you're interested is always going to be more successful than wanna fuck. And yes, women read profiles and look at pics before they make their minds up - it may be one of the so-called gender differences but we do it and successful single guys on here put effort into their profiles and reap the rewards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are still new to this site and the whole lifestyle! Only started on here about a month ago, we were not picture verified or have any verifications! But we took our time messaging people being nice, sent face pics on request and have now met 3 great couples and have another arranged! I will say we have come across quite a few time wasters which is annoying but to be expected! We are enjoying this site a lot! If I were on here as a single lady then yes I suppose I would of struggled with the first meets as it can be scary but if I spoke to you enough and got to no you then I would of been happy to meet. Just be nice have a look around and message away!! We did! I sent loads of messages out before our first meet! Good luck! Be polite and I'm sure you will get there xx |
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Perhaps a clear face pic would help. No offence mate but the glasses do look you look kinda camp |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Single female here who is not scared of her sexuality or stigmatised by other peoples perception of it.
I also meet unverified men.
But I'm here for the fulfillment of my own fantasies and desires and if you don't match up then you'll get declined and possibly blocked. Why should I give someone totally unappealling to me any time and effort
As for messages that begin with sex; this may be a swinging site but basic courtesies of conversation still apply. Hello, take a look at my profile and get back to me if you're interested is always going to be more successful than wanna fuck. And yes, women read profiles and look at pics before they make their minds up - it may be one of the so-called gender differences but we do it and successful single guys on here put effort into their profiles and reap the rewards."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the op seems to have gone quiet since he got a real offer to go meet real swingers. |
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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago
Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;) |
Dude, did you have to work for your qualifications? Your first girl friend, your first car? I'm guessing so.. It all takes effort.
Swinging is no different, just because people enjoy sex with others does not meet they will drop it all because you ask.
Put some leg work in bud, yeah it's disheartening getting messages just deleted but hey. Do you get every job you go for???
Chill out, gear your msgs towards the person and learn what works or like you say get on POF |
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Did anyone actually think his 'joke' was even slightly funny? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did anyone actually think his 'joke' was even slightly funny? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the op seems to have gone quiet since he got a real offer to go meet real swingers."
All talk and no action I suspect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"honestly OP...if u want some kind of advice please ask...starting with ur profile might help
IMO its pretty shite amongst the more successful profiles...so OBVIOUSLY u'll be bypassed by most
Here is another example of the nonsense on here(trolls) No one gives a shit what's on your profile as long as it has basic info, people don't want to read your life story. "
If that is the case, why as a single guy have I hade several ladies compliment me on both my pictures and the content of my profile!
I havent blocked you but have offered advice.
Personally if you put more of the positive comments you have posted on this thread in your profile, then the crap you have written you may get some where! A change of attitude is required because underneat the faccade is no doubt a decen chap! He says wishfully thinking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am doing very well thankyou very much lol |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"honestly OP...if u want some kind of advice please ask...starting with ur profile might help
IMO its pretty shite amongst the more successful profiles...so OBVIOUSLY u'll be bypassed by most
Here is another example of the nonsense on here(trolls) No one gives a shit what's on your profile as long as it has basic info, people don't want to read your life story. "
You keep saying that it doesn't matter what's on your profile but it obviously isn't working for you as it is.
Profile content and photos do matter to us and to lots of others we know.
We would pass yours by..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ive seen people on here give advice to people about building there profile and the person that is giving advice, has a profile that is no better then the person they are "advising"
Any genuine swingers that might be on here, have already paired up and got there groups and block new users, especially single males.
Do you really think they are genuine users posting on this post...lots of fakes.
I seen on one post of a user that said he had a meet set up, travelled and on the day the people he was meant to meet, turned there phones off.
Either there is a high level of discrimination on this site or there are lots of trolls with fake profiles. |
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Are you deliberately being obtuse, or are you really dense?
Drop the defensive, trollish attitude, take the advice given and have fun. Or don't. Being an ass for the sake of it because of some preconceived notion you have just alienates you further, not because you are new, but because you are being a tool.
I was once new. As was everyone else at some point. How do you think we found some degree of success on here? Definitely not by acting like you.
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"Ive seen people on here give advice to people about building there profile and the person that is giving advice, has a profile that is no better then the person they are "advising"
Any genuine swingers that might be on here, have already paired up and got there groups and block new users, especially single males.
Do you really think they are genuine users posting on this post...lots of fakes.
I seen on one post of a user that said he had a meet set up, travelled and on the day the people he was meant to meet, turned there phones off.
Either there is a high level of discrimination on this site or there are lots of trolls with fake profiles. "
It is up to everyone what they have on their profile. Those that have offered advice and only have short profiles themselves haven't been posting on the forums bleating how unfair it is and that the world of fab is against them have they?? You asked. People advised. You say they are all wrong and it's part of some big conspiracy against newbie single males. Sorry but that's total bollocks! Have you ignored the people who have commented saying they've not been around long but have had messages/socials/meets etc??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You wind up merchant lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I m eet single males, verified or not, New or old. But as you've already been told women read profiles first, and some how with just a couple of lines you annoy me enough I wouldn't meet you.
what if I don't want to meet socially in a cafe first? or go to a hotel party? why do you get to decide what we're doing before we even speak?
and your in the forums complaining about the site ( which also won't get you a meet) so why would I ask you for advice about anything? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive seen people on here give advice to people about building there profile and the person that is giving advice, has a profile that is no better then the person they are "advising"
Any genuine swingers that might be on here, have already paired up and got there groups and block new users, especially single males.
Do you really think they are genuine users posting on this post...lots of fakes.
I seen on one post of a user that said he had a meet set up, travelled and on the day the people he was meant to meet, turned there phones off.
Either there is a high level of discrimination on this site or there are lots of trolls with fake profiles. "
I have given you advice, had meets and not blocked you. Does that make me fake or just someone who has put a bit of effort into my profile and listened to what others had to say? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gangbangs, clubs, parties, bukkake, not the sort of thing I find on social networking.
I've had pleanty of fun on here.
Maybe he just isn't what people want? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive seen people on here give advice to people about building there profile and the person that is giving advice, has a profile that is no better then the person they are "advising"
Any genuine swingers that might be on here, have already paired up and got there groups and block new users, especially single males.
Do you really think they are genuine users posting on this post...lots of fakes.
I seen on one post of a user that said he had a meet set up, travelled and on the day the people he was meant to meet, turned there phones off.
Either there is a high level of discrimination on this site or there are lots of trolls with fake profiles. "
Wow!
How to make friends and influence people!!!
I have a FB (so in some sense 'paired up' as you put it - but still meet on my own as and when I want!) and we don't block new users and actively seek single males.
As for all the 'fakes' and 'trolls' - really?? Have you ever actually looked at the majority of the profiles of forum posters? Or just concentrated on those that use the forums purely to moan about a lack of perceived 'success' by blaming others and the classic excuses of fakes and timewasters - rather than looking at their own actions, interactions and the way they approach the site?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well......I only meet guys. I love sex. I am a complete slut as I am only really interested in multiple partner sex or dogging at a really busy site. I have few limits and will fuck (almost) anyone if they ask nicely.
Your profile, I have blocked in case I ever get a message from you and had forgotten who you were. After you rude abusive and arrogant rant I would be surprised if you ever meet with a woman from this site! I assume you are on here because your years of dating experience have led to nothing and your relationships don't last......may I suggest you ask yourself why, as the only common factor running trough the situation is YOU. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well......I only meet guys. I love sex. I am a complete slut as I am only really interested in multiple partner sex or dogging at a really busy site. I have few limits and will fuck (almost) anyone if they ask nicely.
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what a horny statement! hah |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes is right ,
I think this site is If you don t have nothing to do or if you want to play with some one else |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love this 3 weeks and you've decided every one is fake or has some grudge against you. I also notice you didn't reply to the one person who offered you a meet on here ?
Either leave if this site upsets you so much or change your attitude and put some effort in. Go to one social and as long as your not a complete dick you would get a veri if not more. It may even lead to you getting a real meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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His mammy won't let him stay out after 10pm I'm guessing..... |
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"You've only been here for 3 weeks... it's not instant shag a man...
You've not done your chances any favours either.
Good luck
What chances are you talking about? the zero present. I am a single male(I've seen how single males get treated on here) yes I have not been here long but I've been online for years and successfully dating my whole life and I've seen in the forms guys that have been here way longer then I, there was nothing wrong with the them and none of them could get meets.
I have noticed online, there is only a minority of people that are genuine, the others consist of fakes, timewasters and trolls...having said that the forms are good for general decision but a meet...
Most women don't want to be labelled as sluts so because of this if you mention sex in a message even tho they might love sex just as much as you and even find what you attractive and find your jokes about sex funny, they will either act as if they are disgusted by it or in most cases block you.
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got to say... nothing wrong with them in your eyes.. but you wouldnt be the ine being messaged.. maybe the fems have standards that those guys didnt fit.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I m eet single males, verified or not, New or old. But as you've already been told women read profiles first, and some how with just a couple of lines you annoy me enough I wouldn't meet you.
what if I don't want to meet socially in a cafe first? or go to a hotel party? why do you get to decide what we're doing before we even speak?
and your in the forums complaining about the site ( which also won't get you a meet) so why would I ask you for advice about anything? "
A café is a natural meeting place, it is so the people I might meet feel comfortable, on the first. One don't learn everything about a person by talking online...people lie online about there age, weight, high and agenda all the time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So based on that, everything you come out with is a lie? |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
And I think we will leave it there |
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