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"Same "carnt understand it I am so respectfull | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone "All those things should be standard. What makes you stand out from the rest? | |||
"Join in with forum and cam room chat. Make friends. I do that with fab...works for me as a social club. Anything else is a bonus. Good luck!" thankyou | |||
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"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone "It’s mad isn’t it. I’m the same as you  | |||
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"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone "Those things should be standard practice anyway. It all comes down to attraction. | |||
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"What did you expect to happen when you decided to join Fab three weeks ago OP? " People today have no patience | |||
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"What did you expect to happen when you decided to join Fab three weeks ago OP? People today have no patience "it notably case of that, people dont like you having no verifications | |||
"Yes but people dont like it when you have o verifications every one has to start somewere." A lot of ppl use that reason as a polite way of turning ppl down. I know I do | |||
"Yes but people dont like it when you have o verifications every one has to start somewere." If someone is not what I’m looking for, no amount of verifications will change that. Common misconception is that verification will open the floodgates of unlimited Fab shag. It won’t. | |||
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"You haven't actually concocted a profile in the first place..." I sure have loads of people | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone "Is your profile showing you in the best light it can? Do you think it's making you stand out from hundreds of other single men? If yes, don't change anything. | |||
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"What did you expect to happen when you decided to join Fab three weeks ago OP? People today have no patience it notably case of that, people dont like you having no verifications"Well they definitely help but also easy to use that an excuse. Lots you can do and everybody who has veris now had no veris at some point. | |||
"Same "Ther lurkers thought I was serious please, don't worry yourself about me! I manage to get by just fine  | |||
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"He .just of been mad" Yes. She was a beautiful woman too! | |||
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"You haven't actually concocted a profile in the first place... I sure have loads of people " Eh? | |||
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Ther lurkers thought I was serious please, don't worry yourself about me! I manage to get by just fine "Awww they luff ya lol | |||
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Ther lurkers thought I was serious please, don't worry yourself about me! I manage to get by just fine
Awww they luff ya lol"I got told I'll never get a meet | |||
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"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone "OP you have only joined in here for 3 weeks that is short term. In fact that's not even shor term thats micro term. Secondly you are forgetting or maybe unaware that; with any dating/Swinging/hookup site that there is often a greater male to female ratio. | |||
"You have to realise the set up of this site and the numbers involved. Most couples are looking for couples or fems, most fems are looking for couples or fems. The biggest number of members on this site are single guys, so statistically the odds will never be in our favour, this is something that just has to be accepted. Just keep trying and don’t let any rejection make you feel bitter or isolated, most of us are in the same situation. Follow some of the advice on here about chat rooms or socials, or clubs, but my advice for any of those is always approach it without a sense of entitlement, go to have a chat and a laugh. Keep checking the meets section to see if there is anyone looking for a guy like you. Try to make your profile stand out with your text and photos and don’t send a dick pic unless it’s been asked for. Seen so many people here have more fun through banter and establishing a connection than hit pics. I’ve been at this over 12 years, have plenty of veris and friends I chat to on and off site more than I play with people, and as someone who really doesn’t have a great body type (skinny) I know I’m nothing special. But I take my wins where I can and have learnt to take the inevitable rejection. Sex is not guaranteed here for anyone, but try to be the best you and hopefully you will have some fun" Listen to this guy and read the thousands of other similar forum posts over the years that have been written and see what you can learn from others peoes perdicument. | |||
"You haven't actually concocted a profile in the first place... I sure have loads of people " I realise now you misread my comment - you've not written a profile of any description, which definitely won't help matters. | |||
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Ther lurkers thought I was serious please, don't worry yourself about me! I manage to get by just fine
Awww they luff ya lol
I got told I'll never get a meet "Well that is rubbish  they're just jealous of your wee red hat | |||
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"I am the same Bern here 2years now had 2 meets thst was when I first joined amd a couple I knew Since then nothing at all not even a message single guys struggle because some single guys get nasty when turned down so it puts loads off so I am told Also I find a lot of age cut offs don't go above 49 which is a shame because 50 is just as good as 49 " Look for the people who are looking for you. | |||
"I am the same Bern here 2years now had 2 meets thst was when I first joined amd a couple I knew Since then nothing at all not even a message single guys struggle because some single guys get nasty when turned down so it puts loads off so I am told Also I find a lot of age cut offs don't go above 49 which is a shame because 50 is just as good as 49 " By this logic we could go up in numerical value all the way to 100 | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone "Captain's Log #20274528 and we have another post from another respectful man bemoaning not getting a meet despite wanting to respect the shit out of someone. C | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone
Captain's Log #20274528 and we have another post from another respectful man bemoaning not getting a meet despite wanting to respect the shit out of someone. Theres allways one with sarcastic remarks
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"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone "Because people need to be attracted to something about you to want to meet. Until you find someone who likes the look of your profile, that probably won't happen. | |||
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"Very hard to get a meet on here. Not sure if most are just window shopping " If they don't like what they see on the display, they just move on. Plenty of other displays to look at, some more appealing than others. | |||
"Very hard to get a meet on here. Not sure if most are just window shopping If they don't like what they see on the display, they just move on. Plenty of other displays to look at, some more appealing than others. "This  | |||
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"Very hard to get a meet on here. Not sure if most are just window shopping If they don't like what they see on the display, they just move on. Plenty of other displays to look at, some more appealing than others. " | |||
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"There is about 40 000 men on here and about 300 women " Even if there were 40,000 men and only 1 woman she likely still wouldn't meet someone if she didn't fancy them. | |||
"There is about 40 000 men on here and about 300 women Even if there were 40,000 men and only 1 woman she likely still wouldn't meet someone if she didn't fancy them. " why is it about attraction when people only want to have fun and meet once ? Or twice, it’s not a dating site it’s Friends with benefits I thought , I meet more people on date sites that are looking for attraction | |||
"There is about 40 000 men on here and about 300 women Even if there were 40,000 men and only 1 woman she likely still wouldn't meet someone if she didn't fancy them. why is it about attraction when people only want to have fun and meet once ? Or twice, it’s not a dating site it’s Friends with benefits I thought , I meet more people on date sites that are looking for attraction "Are you serious??  | |||
"There is about 40 000 men on here and about 300 women Even if there were 40,000 men and only 1 woman she likely still wouldn't meet someone if she didn't fancy them. why is it about attraction when people only want to have fun and meet once ? Or twice, it’s not a dating site it’s Friends with benefits I thought , I meet more people on date sites that are looking for attraction "
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"There is about 40 000 men on here and about 300 women Even if there were 40,000 men and only 1 woman she likely still wouldn't meet someone if she didn't fancy them. why is it about attraction when people only want to have fun and meet once ? Or twice, it’s not a dating site it’s Friends with benefits I thought , I meet more people on date sites that are looking for attraction "You'd fuck anyone who asks? | |||
"There is about 40 000 men on here and about 300 women Even if there were 40,000 men and only 1 woman she likely still wouldn't meet someone if she didn't fancy them. why is it about attraction when people only want to have fun and meet once ? Or twice, it’s not a dating site it’s Friends with benefits I thought , I meet more people on date sites that are looking for attraction
You'd fuck anyone who asks? "Hoping and praying it's next level humour that I just don't get! | |||
"There is about 40 000 men on here and about 300 women Even if there were 40,000 men and only 1 woman she likely still wouldn't meet someone if she didn't fancy them. why is it about attraction when people only want to have fun and meet once ? Or twice, it’s not a dating site it’s Friends with benefits I thought , I meet more people on date sites that are looking for attraction "Maybe I'm strange, but if I'm looking to date I'm looking for compatibility. If I'm looking for casual sex I'm looking for lust, ie, attraction. | |||
"There is about 40 000 men on here and about 300 women " Does that number include couples too although most couple profiles are men too lets admit it | |||
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"There are so many single men on here being respectful is great but you have to stand out have a great or funny first message don't pester understand a lot of couple get a lot of messages from single males all part of the site " thankyou for your advice | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone "Did you respect me when I offered to meet you and you ignored me? (In public, no private messages were sent or alluded to) Do people treat others like that in Bedford? | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone
Did you respect me when I offered to meet you and you ignored me? (In public, no private messages were sent or alluded to)
Do people treat others like that in Bedford?"I have never met anyone off here and what's Bedford. | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone
Did you respect me when I offered to meet you and you ignored me? (In public, no private messages were sent or alluded to)
Do people treat others like that in Bedford? I have never met anyone off here and what's Bedford. "I offered to help you get started | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone "Just accept that you have next to zero chances and the angst disappears! | |||
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"There is about 40 000 men on here and about 300 women Even if there were 40,000 men and only 1 woman she likely still wouldn't meet someone if she didn't fancy them. why is it about attraction when people only want to have fun and meet once ? Or twice, it’s not a dating site it’s Friends with benefits I thought , I meet more people on date sites that are looking for attraction "Wow
Are you seriously saying that people should just hook up for sex just because they're asked, regardless of any form of attraction?
You're totally deluded! | |||
"There is about 40 000 men on here and about 300 women Even if there were 40,000 men and only 1 woman she likely still wouldn't meet someone if she didn't fancy them. why is it about attraction when people only want to have fun and meet once ? Or twice, it’s not a dating site it’s Friends with benefits I thought , I meet more people on date sites that are looking for attraction
Wow
Are you seriously saying that people should just hook up for sex just because they're asked, regardless of any form of attraction?
You're totally deluded! "Moto for some people is not always every hole is a goal, or every dick does the trick. | |||
"Go to clubs social events And send decent messages no dick pics attached you have only been here 5 weeks give it time also bare in mind there are 1000 men to 1 women on here " I would recommend a club event too - least that way you’ll hopefully be able to sort out the verification issue Would add more pics too  | |||
"There is about 40 000 men on here and about 300 women Even if there were 40,000 men and only 1 woman she likely still wouldn't meet someone if she didn't fancy them. why is it about attraction when people only want to have fun and meet once ? Or twice, it’s not a dating site it’s Friends with benefits I thought , I meet more people on date sites that are looking for attraction
Wow
Are you seriously saying that people should just hook up for sex just because they're asked, regardless of any form of attraction?
You're totally deluded! Moto for some people is not always every hole is a goal, or every dick does the trick."Absolutely!! | |||
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"Very hard to get a meet on here. Not sure if most are just window shopping " Most are. It's very shallow. There are better hunting grounds for single nice attractive men to actually meet women. | |||
"Very hard to get a meet on here. Not sure if most are just window shopping Most are. It's very shallow. There are better hunting grounds for single nice attractive men to actually meet women. " Desperate women? | |||
"Are you looking for profile advice or general advice? General - your one of 1000's what makes you stand out among the rest? Profile - can't comment as I'm not sure if that's what your asking. Mrs " It's relevant to the thread so you can comment | |||
"You've been on fab 3 weeks OP! You haven't asked for profile advice so I can't comment but as it stands I wouldn't reply to a message. J" Yes you can | |||
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"Why do men blame the site People like what they like No one is entitled to a meet or a reply or anything else" Because sex is a human right apparently | |||
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"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone "Perhaps because you have a wife & 3 kids, according to what you've said on another thread you started... | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone
Perhaps because you have a wife & 3 kids, according to what you've said on another thread you started..."oh shit busted and called out | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone
Perhaps because you have a wife & 3 kids, according to what you've said on another thread you started... oh shit busted and called out" | |||
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"Do you think your profile pic is attractive to women?" I bet he does but its not very original or make him stand out | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone
Perhaps because you have a wife & 3 kids, according to what you've said on another thread you started... oh shit busted and called out"The green arrow is very informative!! I don't think this human is even looking for meets- he just trolls the forum | |||
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"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone "Loads of socials, parties and clubs in the Merseyside area. Being clean, genuine, discreet and respectful is taken for granted. Blackpool, not too far, has great places for swingers too, had many a FAB weekend there. I'd be careful on some of the forums as they can be quite nasty and become a pissing contest for folks the further they develop. Keep an on on the forums for actual meets and parties. Don't give up, most do. Good luck and have fun, we do. | |||
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"Sheer numbers of males to women probably unfortunately " Aaaand the fact that most women prefer their men to not have a wife & 3 kids!! Lol!! | |||
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"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone "Just a quick glance at your profile and it really says nothing much about you or your personality there. I don't think the photo will attract many ladies either I'm afraid. Maybe ask advice from others about how to make your profile look better? | |||
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"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone "You are a man that's why. Take it on the chin. | |||
"Having been on FAB for over 13 years, and in this lifestyle for over 30 years, I've seen this thread so often, as the site has developed over time. It seems to a lot of guys who've joined, that FAB is the quick & instantaneous route to Sex? It isn't!!! It wasn't pre-Covid and since pandemic times, it's grown worse! It can take a single guy up to a year to get noticed, as it's a "numbers" issue, ie, each male has to compete against 100's of his peers in his regional area. Guys, if you are going to be successful, you have to remember a few basic points. Your profile has to be like a Job CV. You have to describe yourself, say what you can bring to any meet plus say what you would expect. Do not write in Text Talk, nor use slang and ensure you don't include grammatical or spelling errors (that can put people off). If you cannot accommodate,,say why, as that can be off-putting to some people. Don't sound needy, or write anything negative, as people will easily & quickly move on. Have a face and/or torso pic as Public pics; leave Dick pics on Private! Ensure you have a thick skin for rejection and no responses. If you don't get any response, it's like the recipient isn't interested. Accept it and move on. Above all, read profiles FULLY! Get to Socials or Events, even Clubs in your or adjacent region plus involve yourself in the Forums as they can be useful too for getting yourself NOTICED! YOU have to put in the effort to achieve success, but it takes time. It does work; I'm 68, and still get meets; OK, not at the same level as I used to 10 or more years ago, but I still get noticed! Good Luck. " This should be compulsory read! | |||
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"Remember we are a loving couple. She isn't a lady of the night if that's what you want pay your money and crack on. We invite people that we click with and share my most precious gift my wife. You wouldn't walk into a club and expect woman to fall at your feet. Your profile sucks we wouldn't look twice. You say your respectable well news flash should that me a given? It's not a get laid site it's a site to explore and believe me we get hundreds of offers Why would we pick you? Think about what people generally want, admitted different for everyone. But start by having a good profile and chat to people see if you click. Most guys don't even read profiles you get the "nice tits" comment or "I want to fuck you" not a good start delete and we move on. Wish you luck but think about what people have said on here xxx mnj" To be fair, they are nice tits, but also Mr has a really yummy looking cock as well x | |||
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"I been here for 8 months and still aint got a meet yet, its quite hard on here" Think you have now | |||
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"I been here for 8 months and still aint got a meet yet, its quite hard on here Think you have now "Did you check my profile? Lol | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone
Just a quick glance at your profile and it really says nothing much about you or your personality there.
I don't think the photo will attract many ladies either I'm afraid.
Maybe ask advice from others about how to make your profile look better?
Err, you are a silhouette person with one picture that's a blurry cock.
You need to work on your own profile before you offer advice."I did not ask for advice thanks. I was offering my take to the OP. Not to you in any way. I have plenty if private photos and I'm always happy to chat and send them. I also meet quite easily but usually regular meets... as you can see,if you've looked, my veris are pretty respectable too. Have a lovely day... | |||
"Remember we are a loving couple. She isn't a lady of the night if that's what you want pay your money and crack on. We invite people that we click with and share my most precious gift my wife. You wouldn't walk into a club and expect woman to fall at your feet. Your profile sucks we wouldn't look twice. You say your respectable well news flash should that me a given? It's not a get laid site it's a site to explore and believe me we get hundreds of offers Why would we pick you? Think about what people generally want, admitted different for everyone. But start by having a good profile and chat to people see if you click. Most guys don't even read profiles you get the "nice tits" comment or "I want to fuck you" not a good start delete and we move on. Wish you luck but think about what people have said on here xxx mnj To be fair, they are nice tits, but also Mr has a really yummy looking cock as well x "Love it you sexy peeps xx | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone
Just a quick glance at your profile and it really says nothing much about you or your personality there.
I don't think the photo will attract many ladies either I'm afraid.
Maybe ask advice from others about how to make your profile look better?
Err, you are a silhouette person with one picture that's a blurry cock.
You need to work on your own profile before you offer advice."I notice that most people have offered the OP helpful advice here. I would say that I tried to politely do the same. You, however , jumped right in trying to belittle someone while not adding anything positive at all. | |||
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"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone
Just a quick glance at your profile and it really says nothing much about you or your personality there.
I don't think the photo will attract many ladies either I'm afraid.
Maybe ask advice from others about how to make your profile look better?
Err, you are a silhouette person with one picture that's a blurry cock.
You need to work on your own profile before you offer advice.
I notice that most people have offered the OP helpful advice here.
I would say that I tried to politely do the same.
You, however , jumped right in trying to belittle someone while not adding anything positive at all.
"Apart from the detailed advice given 8 hours ago, of course. But don't be hypocritical, you aren't in a position to offer advice. The OP isn't the only one that needs profile improvement. Feel free to critique ours, with a profile pics, face photos, in focus, verifications, a bio and even a link to a podcast. If there's anything we missed or needs improving we welcome all feedback, good and bad. | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone
Just a quick glance at your profile and it really says nothing much about you or your personality there.
I don't think the photo will attract many ladies either I'm afraid.
Maybe ask advice from others about how to make your profile look better?
Err, you are a silhouette person with one picture that's a blurry cock.
You need to work on your own profile before you offer advice.
I notice that most people have offered the OP helpful advice here.
I would say that I tried to politely do the same.
You, however , jumped right in trying to belittle someone while not adding anything positive at all.
Apart from the detailed advice given 8 hours ago, of course. But don't be hypocritical, you aren't in a position to offer advice. The OP isn't the only one that needs profile improvement. Feel free to critique ours, with a profile pics, face photos, in focus, verifications, a bio and even a link to a podcast. If there's anything we missed or needs improving we welcome all feedback, good and bad."As I've given similar feedback to others then I'd say my input was quite valid. I really do not see what your problem is at all. It is just your opinion. I'm not interested in your opinion on my profile. I'm fine with it as it is and will change or add to it as I decide and not you. As it is not my intention to speak to you , I would say that could suit both of us. I was not aware that it was some sort of competition or that my presence here was to get your approval. | |||
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"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone
Just a quick glance at your profile and it really says nothing much about you or your personality there.
I don't think the photo will attract many ladies either I'm afraid.
Maybe ask advice from others about how to make your profile look better?
Err, you are a silhouette person with one picture that's a blurry cock.
You need to work on your own profile before you offer advice."He didn't ask for his profile to be criticised or reviewed. He isn't the OP. | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone
Just a quick glance at your profile and it really says nothing much about you or your personality there.
I don't think the photo will attract many ladies either I'm afraid.
Maybe ask advice from others about how to make your profile look better?
Err, you are a silhouette person with one picture that's a blurry cock.
You need to work on your own profile before you offer advice.
I notice that most people have offered the OP helpful advice here.
I would say that I tried to politely do the same.
You, however , jumped right in trying to belittle someone while not adding anything positive at all.
Apart from the detailed advice given 8 hours ago, of course. But don't be hypocritical, you aren't in a position to offer advice. The OP isn't the only one that needs profile improvement. Feel free to critique ours, with a profile pics, face photos, in focus, verifications, a bio and even a link to a podcast. If there's anything we missed or needs improving we welcome all feedback, good and bad." | |||
"Why can I not get a meet, I am a nice clean genuine discreet respectfull guy. I will respect anyone
Just a quick glance at your profile and it really says nothing much about you or your personality there.
I don't think the photo will attract many ladies either I'm afraid.
Maybe ask advice from others about how to make your profile look better?
Err, you are a silhouette person with one picture that's a blurry cock.
You need to work on your own profile before you offer advice.
He didn't ask for his profile to be criticised or reviewed. He isn't the OP.
"Thankyou . Very kind of you. I just trued to offer a little advice and get attacked here. I never held myself up as any expert. Thanks again. | |||
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"Can’t seem to get a meet as well " Have to accept that, as older guys, it's not easy. Go to a club or sauna, more chance of fun. | |||
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"Be on here for feels like ages, still not verified and am a genuine down to earth guy, go figure" Unfortunately it takes more than being genuine and down to earth chap, gotta be two way attraction. X | |||
"This site is not great for meets , we have only managed a few as a couple , ok for chat and forum , get yourself to clubs or socials where you can actually meet people face to face " This! | |||
"Having been on FAB for over 13 years, and in this lifestyle for over 30 years, I've seen this thread so often, as the site has developed over time. It seems to a lot of guys who've joined, that FAB is the quick & instantaneous route to Sex? It isn't!!! It wasn't pre-Covid and since pandemic times, it's grown worse! It can take a single guy up to a year to get noticed, as it's a "numbers" issue, ie, each male has to compete against 100's of his peers in his regional area. Guys, if you are going to be successful, you have to remember a few basic points. Your profile has to be like a Job CV. You have to describe yourself, say what you can bring to any meet plus say what you would expect. Do not write in Text Talk, nor use slang and ensure you don't include grammatical or spelling errors (that can put people off). If you cannot accommodate,,say why, as that can be off-putting to some people. Don't sound needy, or write anything negative, as people will easily & quickly move on. Have a face and/or torso pic as Public pics; leave Dick pics on Private! Ensure you have a thick skin for rejection and no responses. If you don't get any response, it's like the recipient isn't interested. Accept it and move on. Above all, read profiles FULLY! Get to Socials or Events, even Clubs in your or adjacent region plus involve yourself in the Forums as they can be useful too for getting yourself NOTICED! YOU have to put in the effort to achieve success, but it takes time. It does work; I'm 68, and still get meets; OK, not at the same level as I used to 10 or more years ago, but I still get noticed! Good Luck. " Yawn .. some of us simply don't have the time to apply for a job meeting women ..jeeso.. This is obviously from the 'scene' textbook. How about just relaxing and being yourself. All of your advice is tantamount to pretention .. ie pretending to be someone you are not. Fails everytime. | |||
"Having been on FAB for over 13 years, and in this lifestyle for over 30 years, I've seen this thread so often, as the site has developed over time. It seems to a lot of guys who've joined, that FAB is the quick & instantaneous route to Sex? It isn't!!! It wasn't pre-Covid and since pandemic times, it's grown worse! It can take a single guy up to a year to get noticed, as it's a "numbers" issue, ie, each male has to compete against 100's of his peers in his regional area. Guys, if you are going to be successful, you have to remember a few basic points. Your profile has to be like a Job CV. You have to describe yourself, say what you can bring to any meet plus say what you would expect. Do not write in Text Talk, nor use slang and ensure you don't include grammatical or spelling errors (that can put people off). If you cannot accommodate,,say why, as that can be off-putting to some people. Don't sound needy, or write anything negative, as people will easily & quickly move on. Have a face and/or torso pic as Public pics; leave Dick pics on Private! Ensure you have a thick skin for rejection and no responses. If you don't get any response, it's like the recipient isn't interested. Accept it and move on. Above all, read profiles FULLY! Get to Socials or Events, even Clubs in your or adjacent region plus involve yourself in the Forums as they can be useful too for getting yourself NOTICED! YOU have to put in the effort to achieve success, but it takes time. It does work; I'm 68, and still get meets; OK, not at the same level as I used to 10 or more years ago, but I still get noticed! Good Luck. Yawn .. some of us simply don't have the time to apply for a job meeting women ..jeeso.. This is obviously from the 'scene' textbook. How about just relaxing and being yourself. All of your advice is tantamount to pretention .. ie pretending to be someone you are not. Fails everytime. " So you don't have time to be thoughtful about your profile text or go to an event? While I wouldn't say events should be compulsory, they are a way to tip the balance. I'd say people who don't have the time to help themselves will struggle. | |||
"Welcome. It's not what you think it is on here. Be prepared for the 'fab rules'. Go ahead and be super nice, super sexy, super funny, super relevant, super cheeky, super non clingy, super alpha in your perfect messages and still get very little response if any. Be prepared to get your head around the fact that you are still wrong.. despite following all the advice .. How long you bother your arse doing all that depends how thick the wall is your bashing your head against .. you'll eventually just do what most guys do and just browse for (some of) the pictures and odd forum post and do your hunting elsewhere where the grass is definitely greener. You'll definitely get the odd nice woman who will regularly chat with you, but it's not what you think on here. For swinging couples yes. Single guys, no. Also beware of the white knight guys who will condemn you (and me just shortly) and say anything to court favour with the ladies.. makes me chuckle.. " I think single guys need to accept what it is, its a numbers game. Single men out number females and couples by a ridiculous amount and most couples and females will be overrun with guys vying to meet them. We try to reply to most people that message us but then some take that as an interest in meeting them. | |||
ies just as much as single men because I get veiwed and use to get a lot of messages from couples before I filtered them | |||
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