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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My wife had a breast removed because of cance she is reluctant to go to a swingers club because she thinks she isn't attractive anymore and she will be stared at and rejected by guys. Im trying to reassure her. Any advice? |
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Firstly give back her confidence with you Be caring and attentive and make her feel she is just as special now than she ever was, perhaps even moreso because of what she has been through. If she wishes to go after you have done your job the great. If not please respect her wishes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She could always keep her bra on so that it's not seen.
Personally, I'd show the battle scars. No-one would treat her any different.
It's just a mindset she has to let go. With your help she'll get rid of the gremlins.
Good luck and happy adventures.
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By *a55ageMan
over a year ago
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It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest, In fact it would be more appealing to me that she has got the confidence to go. I’d love to go to a club but I’m rather small down below so that stops me from going. Try and suggest a meet with another couple who potentially have had the same issues. I did go and meet a couple where the lady had to have both breast removed. She kept her bra on but it wouldn’t have made any difference to me as she was very sexy. |
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Having a testicle removed back in my late 20's, there is a massive knock to your confidence.
Like another poster has suggested, you need to build her confidence up. When she is happy with you, then pissible suggest others seeing her topless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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While back l had a female fwb with a breast missing , she was lovely just the same, she said it was tough at first, but started to enjoy life more as her confidence came back, time is a great healer they say and supportive friends too. |
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Speaking personally, it's people that I adore, and feel attracted to, and aroused by.
I'm not counting limbs, fingers, toes, balls, breasts, ears, eyes or hair follicles when the magic chemistry of attraction happens.
It's the spirit of a complete person that will either make me think "phwoooar" or "naaaah".
That has not been removed.
It might feel a bit lost at the moment for your wife, but she will find it again once she recognises her completeness beyond the emotional adjustment to the new situation.
Pepper her with affection and show her in a million tiny ways how lovely she is, how sexy she is, and how easy it is to want her. She'll be swinging for the benches in no time.
Life adjusts all of us, but those adjustments make us complete. |
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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago
Tralee |
It will always be a bigger issue in her mind than it will be to others. She can leave on lingerie or a bra. In fact a Club visit may be ideal as she could just dress down to what she's comfortable in, chat and mingle with others and be under no pressure to play. Doing that once or twice might build up her confidence and make it easier to go the next step. |
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