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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We are on here but have not met up with anyone yet , can we have some tips on how to make sure we are safe and comfortable? What was it like your first time?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Social meet first or a club is always a plan from a safety perspective. A club may also be a plan based on what you are looking for.
Not entirely sure what you mean by comfortable but no always means no and always remember that you can and should stop rather than do something you aren't entirely comfortable with. |
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Never ever move your goalposts because you feel pressured. Stick to exactly what you want and make sure that you talk openly and honestly with each other and agree what you want before you meet.
Above all, have fun, its not meant to be stressful x  |
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"Never ever move your goalposts because you feel pressured. Stick to exactly what you want and make sure that you talk openly and honestly with each other and agree what you want before you meet.
Above all, have fun, its not meant to be stressful x "
And, if you are looking for females, either as a singly or part of a cpl, always, always, always, speak to her first on the phone before arranging anything. too many people arrange to meet a "cpl" or "fem", and end up with a no-show, or a guy turning up on his own as "she" is in work etc.  |
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Guessing that after 7 months you have decided to take the next step ?
So , invite or visit a couple who are happy for you to go at your own pace - chat on the phone first then without too much ado , go for it .
As long as everyone knows the score it will be fine - you may just play with each other and watch the other couple , or you may feel comfortable touching a bit and maybe joining in , but too much thinking can often stop you from doing anything !
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Make sure you both know what you want.
We always meet at a local pub and see how we get on.if no spark we are honest and say so politely.
If there is an attraction happy to go back to ours to carry on the meet
Always be honest with each other to what you liked and would like to try
Most of all relax and have fun |
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