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Is there anybody on here that will actually give me a chance ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Only been on here a few weeks but finding it very hard to get a reply . Just because I don't have any veri"s yet doesn't mean I'm fake and a time waster . I'm a young average looking male looking for a good time with older women lol anybody got and ideas of solving this problem ? |
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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago
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"Only been on here a few weeks but finding it very hard to get a reply . Just because I don't have any veri"s yet doesn't mean I'm fake and a time waster . I'm a young average looking male looking for a good time with older women lol anybody got and ideas of solving this problem ? "
Kill the thousands of other single men on here lol, should improve your chances.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only been on here a few weeks but finding it very hard to get a reply . Just because I don't have any veri"s yet doesn't mean I'm fake and a time waster . I'm a young average looking male looking for a good time with older women lol anybody got and ideas of solving this problem ? "
I replied to your messages, never said you was a time waster, what I said was I was looking for verified guys for particular event I want to do. Slight difference to being called a time waster!! |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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"Only been on here a few weeks but finding it very hard to get a reply . Just because I don't have any veri"s yet doesn't mean I'm fake and a time waster . I'm a young average looking male looking for a good time with older women lol anybody got and ideas of solving this problem ?
I replied to your messages, never said you was a time waster, what I said was I was looking for verified guys for particular event I want to do. Slight difference to being called a time waster!!"
are u being naughty lol x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only been on here a few weeks but finding it very hard to get a reply . Just because I don't have any veri"s yet doesn't mean I'm fake and a time waster . I'm a young average looking male looking for a good time with older women lol anybody got and ideas of solving this problem ? "
M8 same here seems I scare alot ov um off u need find a fb then go as couples workt for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only been on here a few weeks but finding it very hard to get a reply . Just because I don't have any veri"s yet doesn't mean I'm fake and a time waster . I'm a young average looking male looking for a good time with older women lol anybody got and ideas of solving this problem ?
I replied to your messages, never said you was a time waster, what I said was I was looking for verified guys for particular event I want to do. Slight difference to being called a time waster!! are u being naughty lol x "
He responded to my thread on introductions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good looking guy but you need a scriptwriter..women value intellect..if your peers are dumbing down ie language education dont get sucked in..good luck and happy to help with some private tips |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Only been on here a few weeks but finding it very hard to get a reply . Just because I don't have any veri"s yet doesn't mean I'm fake and a time waster . I'm a young average looking male looking for a good time with older women lol anybody got and ideas of solving this problem ?
I replied to your messages, never said you was a time waster, what I said was I was looking for verified guys for particular event I want to do. Slight difference to being called a time waster!!"
. Sorry I don't mean you lol I understand you want verified people for that . I wasn't having a pop at you . I just posted this for abit of help and as I'm new to this just wondered if anyone could help  seems time is the key ! What can I say I'm a very horny young man!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our advice would be to be more subtle with your profile, many girls don't like genital pictures and would much prefer more imaginative, thoughtful pictures which try to convey your preferences and character. Be honest but not blunt or judgmental and always use correct spellings and punctuation. Don't be tempted to dumb down as pointed out by someone else. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A forum whinge thats longer than your profile text, can't accomodate and look as miserable as sin in your pics?? Hmmmm wonder why you're not fighting them off!  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Only been on here a few weeks but finding it very hard to get a reply . Just because I don't have any veri"s yet doesn't mean I'm fake and a time waster . I'm a young average looking male looking for a good time with older women lol anybody got and ideas of solving this problem ? "
A few weeks? Your profile says 7 days!! |
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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago
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"Only been on here a few weeks but finding it very hard to get a reply . Just because I don't have any veri"s yet doesn't mean I'm fake and a time waster . I'm a young average looking male looking for a good time with older women lol anybody got and ideas of solving this problem ?
A few weeks? Your profile says 7 days!!"
Yep, but he has left twice lol ( not ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile screems out nothing,4 pics and 2 cock pics your 24 and carnt acomm.. sell yourself to others,your likes your dislikes and explain why you carnt acomm... good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you all .. Don't mind abit of constructive criticism "
I was being honest. Think about expanding your profile text to sell yourself and make your profile stand out against the zillions of other single guys. Explain why you can't accomodate otherwise people might assume-rightly or wrongly-that you're cheating. Great that you've got face pics but try a smile (they're free on here!) and a variety of body shots. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your profile screems out nothing,4 pics and 2 cock pics your 24 and carnt acomm.. sell yourself to others,your likes your dislikes and explain why you carnt acomm... good luck "
. Ye I totally rushed my profile and really haven't put any effort into it at all so that's one thing I need sort out ! I feel like such an idiot posting this now haha thanks for the advice |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your profile screems out nothing,4 pics and 2 cock pics your 24 and carnt acomm.. sell yourself to others,your likes your dislikes and explain why you carnt acomm... good luck "
B. first message was pretty harsh but totally true . I totally rushed my profile and haven't botherd taking decent pictures ! Cheers for the advice mate |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Thank you all .. Don't mind abit of constructive criticism "
okay then....
a) rome wasn't built in a day... and it doesn't tend to be "insta-shag" either...
b) it could be perceived that you spent more time on your opening post in this thread, than you spent on your profile.....
is that a good thing???? |
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HI, my view is......
Keep the face pic but get rid of the one in the hard had ( not flattering at all )
Get rid of the cock pic taken in the public toilet !!!!!
Dont put all your eggs in one basket, get out and enjoy yourself in the pubs and clubs, dont rely on the site to find what you want.
Read the threads in the forum ( old ones too) and get an idea of what the site is about.
Be patient........and good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Took the advice on board folks . Made abit more of and effort with my profile and uploaded Afew more pictures !  "
Lose hard hat pic, not a good pic of you and mention why you can't accom |
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"Took the advice on board folks . Made abit more of and effort with my profile and uploaded Afew more pictures !
Lose hard hat pic, not a good pic of you and mention why you can't accom"
Agree about the pic, totally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only been on here a few weeks but finding it very hard to get a reply . Just because I don't have any veri"s yet doesn't mean I'm fake and a time waster . I'm a young average looking male looking for a good time with older women lol anybody got and ideas of solving this problem ? "
Ask your friend to "solve" your problem, after all he recommended this site. so one assumes either he has "solved" the problem, or more likely he's slightly more realistic in his aspirations, this is not dial-a-fuck ! |
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Apolgies for the above deleted message. The post button is too close to the preview button and I had not finished.
As I was saying.... I seldom reply on these types of thread as you really should be able to know what you are doing wrong. If I (Mr Pathfinder) were looking for singles to join us I would be completely put off by your standard of English. I am not saying you need to have perfect grammar but at least know the understanding(spelling) of no and know.
I May be critical and most will say what the relevance is when you are on the site for sex but first impressions are everything.
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It might seem a bit strange, but do a spell check on your profile!
No for which should be know, my English may not be perfect, but using the correct words makes a lot of difference.
When we are looking for guys the first thing we do is read the profile, if it is all one sentence after another without any paragraphs or wrong wording, then we would not even consider meeting.
Look at other guys profiles, your up against a lot of other single guys on here, and the fact that you will only play with females and not couples does not help.
This is not instant shag, it takes time and building up trust.
You could get a shag in a night club quicker than on here, most likely. |
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"Apolgies for the above deleted message. The post button is too close to the preview button and I had not finished.
As I was saying.... I seldom reply on these types of thread as you really should be able to know what you are doing wrong. If I (Mr Pathfinder) were looking for singles to join us I would be completely put off by your standard of English. I am not saying you need to have perfect grammar but at least know the understanding(spelling) of no and know.
I May be critical and most will say what the relevance is when you are on the site for sex but first impressions are everything.
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Beat me too it!
Just commented the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only been on here a few weeks but finding it very hard to get a reply . "
You have answered your own question with the above statement! Give it a chance FFS! just because you joined a swingers site does not mean women/couples are automatically going to be flocking round you dropping their knickers at the drop of a hat!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only been on here a few weeks but finding it very hard to get a reply . Just because I don't have any veri"s yet doesn't mean I'm fake and a time waster . I'm a young average looking male looking for a good time with older women lol anybody got and ideas of solving this problem ? "
Patience |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is there any way of deleting this post Through my iPhone ? because I totally regret putting this up . Yes I've been impatient and whinged but all I'm getting is abuse now :s |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there any way of deleting this post Through my iPhone ? because I totally regret putting this up . Yes I've been impatient and whinged but all I'm getting is abuse now :s "
Like all choices you make in life, learn to deal with the consequences of any decisions you make like all adults.
Prove you're not what people have been given the impression you are-participate in the forums, get to clubs.
Good luck
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"Apolgies for the above deleted message. The post button is too close to the preview button and I had not finished.
As I was saying.... I seldom reply on these types of thread as you really should be able to know what you are doing wrong. If I (Mr Pathfinder) were looking for singles to join us I would be completely put off by your standard of English. I am not saying you need to have perfect grammar but at least know the understanding(spelling) of no and know.
I May be critical and most will say what the relevance is when you are on the site for sex but first impressions are everything.
Beat me too it!
Just commented the same."
Haha. It looks like we are both in agreement and is good advice |
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"Is there any way of deleting this post Through my iPhone ? because I totally regret putting this up . Yes I've been impatient and whinged but all I'm getting is abuse now :s "
I dont think it is abuse. Just constructive criticism which is most often the hardest pill to swallow.
You are not the first and will not be the last.
We find the biggest turn off is lack of confidence. Be confident but not cocky and you may go far! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there any way of deleting this post Through my iPhone ? because I totally regret putting this up . Yes I've been impatient and whinged but all I'm getting is abuse now :s
I dont think it is abuse. Just constructive criticism which is most often the hardest pill to swallow.
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This
OP you can report any post that you consider abusive and the mods will review it. |
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Lose the middle pic, you look about 12.
The other 2 pics are ok.
Your profile is the same as nearly every other single male out there, all looking for the same thing. Why should we pick you and not them?!?!? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Keep your chin up Danny.
We were all newbies once and someone had to take a chance on us at some point. Listen to the advice given you by the ladies and be patient... |
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By *tasiaCouple
over a year ago
West Bromwich |
Invitation sent to a Singles Social event being held a few miles from you. I'd also recommend looking around the site fully, to see whats actually on offer, rather than waiting for messages to pour into in-boxes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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M8 its not easy, if it was everyone would be doing it!!!
My advice would be the following:
Get verified
Put together a bespoke message every time you contact people, dont use 1 liners, txt speak or be crude. Take some time to read the profile of the people you are contacting and show them you are a genuine guy.Tell people what you like doing, especially if they like it as well.
Do not cut and paste the same message to a number of people, they are not daft they can tell!
Have a good look at your profile, put some thought into it and really sell yourself, dont be cocky.
Finally, its hard being a single bloke, as some on this site are total idiot's and unfortunatly they spoil it for the genuine ones.
Keep your pecker up!! you will crack it in time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Invitation sent to a Singles Social event being held a few miles from you. I'd also recommend looking around the site fully, to see whats actually on offer, rather than waiting for messages to pour into in-boxes. "
That's a lovely offer, hope he takes you up on it |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
"Only been on here a few weeks but finding it very hard to get a reply . Just because I don't have any veri"s yet doesn't mean I'm fake and a time waster . I'm a young average looking male looking for a good time with older women lol anybody got and ideas of solving this problem ? "
Listen... it took me a YEAR to get my first meet. But that was years ago and I haven't looked back since! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with Funky above, in fact the one on the right, that I have fab'd is a gorgeous picture of you.
As to the waffle, it needs paragraphs, mention why you cannot accommodate doesn't have to be a lot and say you are happy to pay for a hotel. You also have 18-99 so consider changing that to a smaller width, I mean seriously would you shag a 99 yr old?
Go to the social that Xtasia have invited you to, a very good way to meet people and good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Danny, for your consideration:
Hello/Hi, My name is Dan and I’m a 24 year old single guy from Walsall. I’m not really sure exactly what to expect signing up to this site but a friend recommended it to me as a way to get a little extra fun and to allow me to try/experience new things. I'm down to earth, love fun and I believe that everyone should get a first chance. I am new to this and would be willing to try most things but, sorry guys, I'm straight so women (and couples?) only please.
I work full time as a maintenance engineer on a huge chemical plant in West Bromwich and my job comes with a lot of danger… if that turns you on ladies ! I can travel but, unfortunately, can’t accommodate because xxxxx. I will meet socially and, if necessary, will be willing to pay for/share hotel costs.
If you'd like to know anything else, please don’t be shy; just ask.
Happy swinging guys x
...I'd suggest you lose the first two 'baby' photos. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your opinion is noted but the guy has got to start somewhere and it might be best to give him a hand rather than simply (constuctively or otherwise) criticizing him. Perhaps you could start a new OP suggesting the perfect profile for a single (Newbie) male? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never had to go on to the forums whinging about not getting meets or whatever ,i grasped the concept of how swinging works, its not all about you! if you cant do that in the first few weeks of being on then theres not much hope |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on this site for a while and my advice is to treat it as you would a dating site. Write an interesting and unique profile. Get some pictures that capture the best of you and if you decide to show you face, you really should smile!
Swinging isn't just a website...its a scene, so to be part of the scene, you have to seen. Get yourself to socials, clubs and parties and before you know it, you'll be having amazing and memorable experiences. Send out friendly messages and don't get downhearted if you don't get instant offers...if you are patient and genuine, it will work out. Good Luck! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site for a while and my advice is to treat it as you would a dating site. Write an interesting and unique profile. Get some pictures that capture the best of you and if you decide to show you face, you really should smile!
Swinging isn't just a website...its a scene, so to be part of the scene, you have to seen. Get yourself to socials, clubs and parties and before you know it, you'll be having amazing and memorable experiences. Send out friendly messages and don't get downhearted if you don't get instant offers...if you are patient and genuine, it will work out. Good Luck!"
. Finally a decent guy giving advice not a haul of abuse like 80% of the people on forums lol . Cheers mate will take what you said into consideration |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Your opinion is noted but the guy has got to start somewhere and it might be best to give him a hand rather than simply (constuctively or otherwise) criticizing him. Perhaps you could start a new OP suggesting the perfect profile for a single (Newbie) male?"
. Cheers mate I'll take what you suggested on board to !
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My advice would be to actually book a room at a travel lodge and list it in the meets section, when we look at meeting someone, we look to see who's actually wanting to meet on the same day we're available. Also, it's probably worth meeting couples too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site for a while and my advice is to treat it as you would a dating site. Write an interesting and unique profile. Get some pictures that capture the best of you and if you decide to show you face, you really should smile!
Swinging isn't just a website...its a scene, so to be part of the scene, you have to seen. Get yourself to socials,
clubs and parties and before you know it, you'll be having amazing and memorable experiences. Send out friendly messages and don't get downhearted if you don't get instant
offers...if you are patient and genuine, it will work out. Good Luck!"
excellent advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Y is it my pics getting rejected wen it clearly me just cause I don't want my face in pic "
You need to ask this in the site help section not hijack someone else's thread but I think the suggestion was not to delete but contact Admin and ask them. Do a search via the forums as this question has been asked before |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only been on here a few weeks but finding it very hard to get a reply . Just because I don't have any veri"s yet doesn't mean I'm fake and a time waster . I'm a young average looking male looking for a good time with older women lol anybody got and ideas of solving this problem ? "
yeah leave the shagging to me and give up! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Finally a decent guy giving advice not a haul of abuse like 80% of the people on forums lol . Cheers mate will take what you said into consideration "
Oh lose the persecution complex, it's not an attractive look. People start these threads all the time, it's tedious and the advice is often ignored. But many of the forum regulars still offer advice time and time again.
What did you expect from this thread? An overflowing inbox and people telling you how amazing your pics and profile are?
The fact that you've not taken any of it on board and are being dismissive if those that gave the advice speaks volumes. |
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" Finally a decent guy giving advice not a haul of abuse like 80% of the people on forums lol . Cheers mate will take what you said into consideration
Oh lose the persecution complex, it's not an attractive look. People start these threads all the time, it's tedious and the advice is often ignored. But many of the forum regulars still offer advice time and time again.
What did you expect from this thread? An overflowing inbox and people telling you how amazing your pics and profile are?
The fact that you've not taken any of it on board and are being dismissive if those that gave the advice speaks volumes."
Had we not have replied we would have seen the "nobody like's me posts" and "all I wanted was some attention"
I am going to stop replying to these threads and give the "guys" a break. They clearly do not take advice of any form!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been on this site a while now and only had two meets but I have also made friends with lots of new people. Be more open minded about what you want and are looking for because you will find getting to actually know people works better than just trying to meet. Also I have lost count of the amount of times I have re- written my profile people remember the same old profile and pics ! Keep them changing. But above all be honest and patient. Good things come to those who wait. |
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neither will whinging after a few weeks 
