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I’m finding it hard to find due to verification
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By *ucy78 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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How you meant to meet genuine people on here when nobody wants to know unverified people??? I respect my health no matter if I’m man or woman. It’s scary people have a dodgy webcam chat and they are verified. It’s shocking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see you travel all over - if you ever find yourself in the North Peterborough area, give me a shout and I would be happy to grab a drink and verify you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How you meant to meet genuine people on here when nobody wants to know unverified people??? I respect my health no matter if I’m man or woman. It’s scary people have a dodgy webcam chat and they are verified. It’s shocking " i cant message you due to age |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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"How you meant to meet genuine people on here when nobody wants to know unverified people??? I respect my health no matter if I’m man or woman. It’s scary people have a dodgy webcam chat and they are verified. It’s shocking "
You don't have to have a "play meet" to be verified. If you can find a verified person local to you and just meet for a drink or even a chat in a park, you can get verified as genuine.
Verifications don't need to be "reviews" of how you perform. |
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"How you meant to meet genuine people on here when nobody wants to know unverified people??? I respect my health no matter if I’m man or woman. It’s scary people have a dodgy webcam chat and they are verified. It’s shocking "
Your profile says you are on here as a couple and verified. Put that at the top of your profile along with your couples profile name and it may help.
You also say in one part that you’re engaged and another part that you’re married.
Also you’ve had the account for more than a year but the text says you’re in the process of setting this account up.
Update your text and make it really positive. Move the text saying that your partner is happy for you to have this account near the start and perhaps ask her if she’d be happy to speak on the phone to any potential meets. You only need to mention it once.
Don’t bother with a cam verification. Most people looking to meet aren’t interested in those when it comes to single guys.
Hope that helps you get verified. |
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I agree, its not a performance review its a genuine person confirmation. I have two verifications from both the female host of a house party I attended and a female guest at same.
Here is one of them.
"Met Chris at a party last night in Bellingham. A very nice well dressed and well mannered gentleman Such a pleasant man to talk to with an outgoing friendly nature. Everyone seemed to like him Looking forward to meeting him again. If you get a chance to meet him then you’ll be in for a very nice meet. Happy fabbing Chris I hope to see you again soon. It was a real pleasure to meet you. Xxx" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't even get any replies to my messages, let alone a meet for a coffee.
Its total understandable though because of the amount of messages women get on any site from sex pests, liars, cheaters, time wasters etc.
Its frustrating, but it is what it is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You really need to sort out your bio and clear up the contradictions....are you married or engaged....you say you’re verified as a couple but it’s not a couples profile, surely it would be a couples profile if you were verified as a couple....you say you’re in the process of setting your account up but your profile is over a year old. You may be totally genuine and trustworthy but your profile is full of warning signs and I wouldn’t feel comfortable arranging to meet with you. |
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"Just updated profile. Can you advise if it’s more convenient "
It’s better but it doesn’t actually say much about what you’re into. Most men who complain about not getting anywhere have very generic profiles that say their open to anything and want naughty fun (whatever that’s supposed to mean) probably so that they can cast their net far and wide.
Put more of yourself in the profile and be a bit more detailed about what you’re looking for. People appreciate that. |
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"Hi thanks for guidance. It was only a quick re write as people specifically said I repeated things to much. I’ll hopefully edited more over weekend "
It definitely makes more sense now, though I'm really not sure that the really not fussy about the women part will attract them.
Women like to feel desired not just oh she's got a vagina she will do. |
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"How you meant to meet genuine people on here when nobody wants to know unverified people??? I respect my health no matter if I’m man or woman. It’s scary people have a dodgy webcam chat and they are verified. It’s shocking " Because there is way too many fakes
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I know when i have been here an i cant even have a chat with someone smh being really gets you no where i live in the midlands an i see loads of peeps even from my area an they wont even have a drink to verify smh |
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By *ucy78 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Hi thanks for guidance. It was only a quick re write as people specifically said I repeated things to much. I’ll hopefully edited more over weekend
It definitely makes more sense now, though I'm really not sure that the really not fussy about the women part will attract them.
Women like to feel desired not just oh she's got a vagina she will do."
I understand what you are saying apologies. It does sound like that. I meant age shape or size |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How you meant to meet genuine people on here when nobody wants to know unverified people??? I respect my health no matter if I’m man or woman. It’s scary people have a dodgy webcam chat and they are verified. It’s shocking "
Go in the bisexual chat room. Get talking to loads of friendlies. You can use your phone to participate without judgement.
Make some chatroom friends - they will then verify you.
Don't rely upon just the search facility on here. I can see, you are being challenged on who you are, because you're new etc just by your update!
Enjoy every section this site has to offer lovely x
All the best x |
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By *ucy78 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Get to an organised social. Best way to get a verification with no expectations.
Also this is not the site to look for poly...i know I've tried "
I know events are the best way but can be awkward on your own going to a strange place alone and everyone seems to know everyone |
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By *ucy78 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"How you meant to meet genuine people on here when nobody wants to know unverified people??? I respect my health no matter if I’m man or woman. It’s scary people have a dodgy webcam chat and they are verified. It’s shocking
Go in the bisexual chat room. Get talking to loads of friendlies. You can use your phone to participate without judgement.
Make some chatroom friends - they will then verify you.
Don't rely upon just the search facility on here. I can see, you are being challenged on who you are, because you're new etc just by your update!
Enjoy every section this site has to offer lovely x
All the best x "
I thought about the chat rooms but as my cd side of me is totally discreet I get worried I might get recognised and I would be mortified if family or friends found out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Get to an organised social. Best way to get a verification with no expectations.
Also this is not the site to look for poly...i know I've tried
I know events are the best way but can be awkward on your own going to a strange place alone and everyone seems to know everyone "
But that's the point, everybody doesn't know everybody. We have been to various socials where we knew no one |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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Also just to add to it that verifications don't make that much difference to many people. I really don't even look whether someone is verified or not, it makes no difference to me.
It might feel like it is something really holding you back, but personally I don't feel it's such a big deal to be verified or not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How you meant to meet genuine people on here when nobody wants to know unverified people??? I respect my health no matter if I’m man or woman. It’s scary people have a dodgy webcam chat and they are verified. It’s shocking
Go in the bisexual chat room. Get talking to loads of friendlies. You can use your phone to participate without judgement.
Make some chatroom friends - they will then verify you.
Don't rely upon just the search facility on here. I can see, you are being challenged on who you are, because you're new etc just by your update!
Enjoy every section this site has to offer lovely x
All the best x
I thought about the chat rooms but as my cd side of me is totally discreet I get worried I might get recognised and I would be mortified if family or friends found out. "
You don't have to show your face....
Entirely up to you lovely x |
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By *ucy78 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Also just to add to it that verifications don't make that much difference to many people. I really don't even look whether someone is verified or not, it makes no difference to me.
It might feel like it is something really holding you back, but personally I don't feel it's such a big deal to be verified or not"
I’m the same as long as they been on more than a week I will reply we all got to start somewhere. The ones who join for a day pretending to be people are mainly the dodgy ones. Glad someone is like me. |
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By *ucy78 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"How you meant to meet genuine people on here when nobody wants to know unverified people??? I respect my health no matter if I’m man or woman. It’s scary people have a dodgy webcam chat and they are verified. It’s shocking
Go in the bisexual chat room. Get talking to loads of friendlies. You can use your phone to participate without judgement.
Make some chatroom friends - they will then verify you.
Don't rely upon just the search facility on here. I can see, you are being challenged on who you are, because you're new etc just by your update!
Enjoy every section this site has to offer lovely x
All the best x
I thought about the chat rooms but as my cd side of me is totally discreet I get worried I might get recognised and I would be mortified if family or friends found out.
You don't have to show your face....
Entirely up to you lovely x"
I would show my face if I wasn’t into cross dressing. I’ve found myself in catch 22 having a tv profile everyone thinks the worse. |
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By *ucy78 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Get to an organised social. Best way to get a verification with no expectations.
Also this is not the site to look for poly...i know I've tried
I know events are the best way but can be awkward on your own going to a strange place alone and everyone seems to know everyone
But that's the point, everybody doesn't know everybody. We have been to various socials where we knew no one "
Yeah but you are company together. I would look odd alone. I don’t even go in spoons alone lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Get to an organised social. Best way to get a verification with no expectations.
Also this is not the site to look for poly...i know I've tried
I know events are the best way but can be awkward on your own going to a strange place alone and everyone seems to know everyone
But that's the point, everybody doesn't know everybody. We have been to various socials where we knew no one
Yeah but you are company together. I would look odd alone. I don’t even go in spoons alone lol"
Not necessarily. I happily go ouf alone..recently took myself to a board gaming night alone..i was petrified and new no-one. But ended up having a great time. We may be a couple but don't go everywhere together |
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By *ucy78 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Get to an organised social. Best way to get a verification with no expectations.
Also this is not the site to look for poly...i know I've tried
I know events are the best way but can be awkward on your own going to a strange place alone and everyone seems to know everyone
But that's the point, everybody doesn't know everybody. We have been to various socials where we knew no one
Yeah but you are company together. I would look odd alone. I don’t even go in spoons alone lol
Not necessarily. I happily go ouf alone..recently took myself to a board gaming night alone..i was petrified and new no-one. But ended up having a great time. We may be a couple but don't go everywhere together "
I’m fine once in conversation it’s the ice breaker I struggle with. I’m not cock sure type of person. But once conversation starts I’m confident. I would never try to chat someone up unless I’d had feedback they liked me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Get to an organised social. Best way to get a verification with no expectations.
Also this is not the site to look for poly...i know I've tried
I know events are the best way but can be awkward on your own going to a strange place alone and everyone seems to know everyone
But that's the point, everybody doesn't know everybody. We have been to various socials where we knew no one
Yeah but you are company together. I would look odd alone. I don’t even go in spoons alone lol
Not necessarily. I happily go ouf alone..recently took myself to a board gaming night alone..i was petrified and new no-one. But ended up having a great time. We may be a couple but don't go everywhere together
I’m fine once in conversation it’s the ice breaker I struggle with. I’m not cock sure type of person. But once conversation starts I’m confident. I would never try to chat someone up unless I’d had feedback they liked me. "
I walked into the board gaming room and immediately walked back out again. I suffer from anxiety. Got myself a drink and forced myself to go back.
You don't know if you don't try |
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By *ucy78 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Get to an organised social. Best way to get a verification with no expectations.
Also this is not the site to look for poly...i know I've tried
I know events are the best way but can be awkward on your own going to a strange place alone and everyone seems to know everyone
But that's the point, everybody doesn't know everybody. We have been to various socials where we knew no one
Yeah but you are company together. I would look odd alone. I don’t even go in spoons alone lol
Not necessarily. I happily go ouf alone..recently took myself to a board gaming night alone..i was petrified and new no-one. But ended up having a great time. We may be a couple but don't go everywhere together
I’m fine once in conversation it’s the ice breaker I struggle with. I’m not cock sure type of person. But once conversation starts I’m confident. I would never try to chat someone up unless I’d had feedback they liked me.
I walked into the board gaming room and immediately walked back out again. I suffer from anxiety. Got myself a drink and forced myself to go back.
You don't know if you don't try"
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By *ucy78 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Get to an organised social. Best way to get a verification with no expectations.
Also this is not the site to look for poly...i know I've tried
I know events are the best way but can be awkward on your own going to a strange place alone and everyone seems to know everyone
But that's the point, everybody doesn't know everybody. We have been to various socials where we knew no one
Yeah but you are company together. I would look odd alone. I don’t even go in spoons alone lol
Not necessarily. I happily go ouf alone..recently took myself to a board gaming night alone..i was petrified and new no-one. But ended up having a great time. We may be a couple but don't go everywhere together
I’m fine once in conversation it’s the ice breaker I struggle with. I’m not cock sure type of person. But once conversation starts I’m confident. I would never try to chat someone up unless I’d had feedback they liked me.
I walked into the board gaming room and immediately walked back out again. I suffer from anxiety. Got myself a drink and forced myself to go back.
You don't know if you don't try"
You are 100% right I don’t disagree it’s getting that nerve to be brave.
Was it a naughty board game or a social |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Get to an organised social. Best way to get a verification with no expectations.
Also this is not the site to look for poly...i know I've tried
I know events are the best way but can be awkward on your own going to a strange place alone and everyone seems to know everyone
But that's the point, everybody doesn't know everybody. We have been to various socials where we knew no one
Yeah but you are company together. I would look odd alone. I don’t even go in spoons alone lol
Not necessarily. I happily go ouf alone..recently took myself to a board gaming night alone..i was petrified and new no-one. But ended up having a great time. We may be a couple but don't go everywhere together
I’m fine once in conversation it’s the ice breaker I struggle with. I’m not cock sure type of person. But once conversation starts I’m confident. I would never try to chat someone up unless I’d had feedback they liked me.
I walked into the board gaming room and immediately walked back out again. I suffer from anxiety. Got myself a drink and forced myself to go back.
You don't know if you don't try
You are 100% right I don’t disagree it’s getting that nerve to be brave.
Was it a naughty board game or a social "
No a vanilla board gaming evening |
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By *ucy78 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Get to an organised social. Best way to get a verification with no expectations.
Also this is not the site to look for poly...i know I've tried
I know events are the best way but can be awkward on your own going to a strange place alone and everyone seems to know everyone
But that's the point, everybody doesn't know everybody. We have been to various socials where we knew no one
Yeah but you are company together. I would look odd alone. I don’t even go in spoons alone lol
Not necessarily. I happily go ouf alone..recently took myself to a board gaming night alone..i was petrified and new no-one. But ended up having a great time. We may be a couple but don't go everywhere together
I’m fine once in conversation it’s the ice breaker I struggle with. I’m not cock sure type of person. But once conversation starts I’m confident. I would never try to chat someone up unless I’d had feedback they liked me.
I walked into the board gaming room and immediately walked back out again. I suffer from anxiety. Got myself a drink and forced myself to go back.
You don't know if you don't try
You are 100% right I don’t disagree it’s getting that nerve to be brave.
Was it a naughty board game or a social
No a vanilla board gaming evening "
Which involves? Sorry to be naive |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Get to an organised social. Best way to get a verification with no expectations.
Also this is not the site to look for poly...i know I've tried
I know events are the best way but can be awkward on your own going to a strange place alone and everyone seems to know everyone
But that's the point, everybody doesn't know everybody. We have been to various socials where we knew no one
Yeah but you are company together. I would look odd alone. I don’t even go in spoons alone lol
Not necessarily. I happily go ouf alone..recently took myself to a board gaming night alone..i was petrified and new no-one. But ended up having a great time. We may be a couple but don't go everywhere together
I’m fine once in conversation it’s the ice breaker I struggle with. I’m not cock sure type of person. But once conversation starts I’m confident. I would never try to chat someone up unless I’d had feedback they liked me.
I walked into the board gaming room and immediately walked back out again. I suffer from anxiety. Got myself a drink and forced myself to go back.
You don't know if you don't try
You are 100% right I don’t disagree it’s getting that nerve to be brave.
Was it a naughty board game or a social
No a vanilla board gaming evening
Which involves? Sorry to be naive "
I’m not totally sure but I’m guessing it involves playing board games in the evening and nothing sexual in any way |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Get to an organised social. Best way to get a verification with no expectations.
Also this is not the site to look for poly...i know I've tried
I know events are the best way but can be awkward on your own going to a strange place alone and everyone seems to know everyone
But that's the point, everybody doesn't know everybody. We have been to various socials where we knew no one
Yeah but you are company together. I would look odd alone. I don’t even go in spoons alone lol
Not necessarily. I happily go ouf alone..recently took myself to a board gaming night alone..i was petrified and new no-one. But ended up having a great time. We may be a couple but don't go everywhere together
I’m fine once in conversation it’s the ice breaker I struggle with. I’m not cock sure type of person. But once conversation starts I’m confident. I would never try to chat someone up unless I’d had feedback they liked me.
I walked into the board gaming room and immediately walked back out again. I suffer from anxiety. Got myself a drink and forced myself to go back.
You don't know if you don't try
You are 100% right I don’t disagree it’s getting that nerve to be brave.
Was it a naughty board game or a social
No a vanilla board gaming evening
Which involves? Sorry to be naive "
Going somewhere to play board games |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"How you meant to meet genuine people on here when nobody wants to know unverified people??? I respect my health no matter if I’m man or woman. It’s scary people have a dodgy webcam chat and they are verified. It’s shocking
Go in the bisexual chat room. Get talking to loads of friendlies. You can use your phone to participate without judgement.
Make some chatroom friends - they will then verify you.
Don't rely upon just the search facility on here. I can see, you are being challenged on who you are, because you're new etc just by your update!
Enjoy every section this site has to offer lovely x
All the best x
I thought about the chat rooms but as my cd side of me is totally discreet I get worried I might get recognised and I would be mortified if family or friends found out.
You don't have to show your face....
Entirely up to you lovely x
I would show my face if I wasn’t into cross dressing. I’ve found myself in catch 22 having a tv profile everyone thinks the worse. "
I don't understand what you mean by everyone thinks the worse? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How you meant to meet genuine people on here when nobody wants to know unverified people??? I respect my health no matter if I’m man or woman. It’s scary people have a dodgy webcam chat and they are verified. It’s shocking "
I Co-sign this to the maxxxxxxx |
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By *ucy78 OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"How you meant to meet genuine people on here when nobody wants to know unverified people??? I respect my health no matter if I’m man or woman. It’s scary people have a dodgy webcam chat and they are verified. It’s shocking
Go in the bisexual chat room. Get talking to loads of friendlies. You can use your phone to participate without judgement.
Make some chatroom friends - they will then verify you.
Don't rely upon just the search facility on here. I can see, you are being challenged on who you are, because you're new etc just by your update!
Enjoy every section this site has to offer lovely x
All the best x
I thought about the chat rooms but as my cd side of me is totally discreet I get worried I might get recognised and I would be mortified if family or friends found out.
You don't have to show your face....
Entirely up to you lovely x
I would show my face if I wasn’t into cross dressing. I’ve found myself in catch 22 having a tv profile everyone thinks the worse.
I don't understand what you mean by everyone thinks the worse?"
With family and friends etc. Hard to explain |
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