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"Is it just me? An I saying something wrong? I send a genuine friendly message and get soonest 0 responses back I know covid had put a major halt on things throughout Am I too baby faced? Is my age am issue? Does no one genuinely want sex with me because of my profile? You see people posting saying they're getting loads of meets from here yet I'm having hardly any luck, I've had one meet with a very amazing couple but that's all. It's it because I'm submissive? I'm just not sure :P" Same here, even get blocked just for sending compliments lol. It’s not what it used to be here I’m afraid. Far too many guys outnumbering everyone else | |||
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"You can't accommodate that will go against you to start with. You're verified and you've had meets though? " I have had 2 meets I think over 2 years, but one isn't on this site anymore and the couple haven't out a review on me, yet! Which is unfortunate | |||
"Men are treated like dirt on here. You're better off on tinder " Tried tinder, same thing! No girl replies and when they do, they're not interested :p | |||
"Is it just me? An I saying something wrong? I send a genuine friendly message and get soonest 0 responses back I know covid had put a major halt on things throughout Am I too baby faced? Is my age am issue? Does no one genuinely want sex with me because of my profile? You see people posting saying they're getting loads of meets from here yet I'm having hardly any luck, I've had one meet with a very amazing couple but that's all. It's it because I'm submissive? I'm just not sure :P" Don't take it personally. Fab shouldn't be a measure of your succes, this is about having fun. A bit of extra kink in your life. From all the couples out there, eliminate those with one line profiles, the ones looking for specific people(age, race), the entitled ones(MESSAGE WITHOUT FACE PIC WILL BE DELETED AND YOU'LL BE BLOCKED!!!),the ones looking only for couples, and you'll see that there are not too many left.For those few, there are thousands of single males. All those couples will target the most good looking and successful singles, even if the couples are average. Those guys will put the average couples as plan B, C, D for a meeting and they will pick the best option for them.Then the couples will rant about ALL the single guys(they are fakes, unreliable, bad, bad).Don't try too hard, if you are desperate, you'll push people away. Also, don't put the sex as a supreme target, meeting couples for fun and interaction is also a good thing. Better go to a club and have direct interaction, see where it goes from there.Don't take Fab too seriously. | |||
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"Is it just me? An I saying something wrong? I send a genuine friendly message and get soonest 0 responses back I know covid had put a major halt on things throughout Am I too baby faced? Is my age am issue? Does no one genuinely want sex with me because of my profile? You see people posting saying they're getting loads of meets from here yet I'm having hardly any luck, I've had one meet with a very amazing couple but that's all. It's it because I'm submissive? I'm just not sure :P Don't take it personally. Fab shouldn't be a measure of your succes, this is about having fun. A bit of extra kink in your life. From all the couples out there, eliminate those with one line profiles, the ones looking for specific people(age, race), the entitled ones(MESSAGE WITHOUT FACE PIC WILL BE DELETED AND YOU'LL BE BLOCKED!!!),the ones looking only for couples, and you'll see that there are not too many left.For those few, there are thousands of single males. All those couples will target the most good looking and successful singles, even if the couples are average. Those guys will put the average couples as plan B, C, D for a meeting and they will pick the best option for them.Then the couples will rant about ALL the single guys(they are fakes, unreliable, bad, bad).Don't try too hard, if you are desperate, you'll push people away. Also, don't put the sex as a supreme target, meeting couples for fun and interaction is also a good thing. Better go to a club and have direct interaction, see where it goes from there.Don't take Fab too seriously. " Yeah I have been looking to plan social meets for coffee/drinks, just to make friends and hopefully build a bit of confidence too, but even then I get no replies, not just in here but other sites too | |||
"Is it just me? An I saying something wrong? I send a genuine friendly message and get soonest 0 responses back I know covid had put a major halt on things throughout Am I too baby faced? Is my age am issue? Does no one genuinely want sex with me because of my profile? You see people posting saying they're getting loads of meets from here yet I'm having hardly any luck, I've had one meet with a very amazing couple but that's all. It's it because I'm submissive? I'm just not sure :P Don't take it personally. Fab shouldn't be a measure of your succes, this is about having fun. A bit of extra kink in your life. From all the couples out there, eliminate those with one line profiles, the ones looking for specific people(age, race), the entitled ones(MESSAGE WITHOUT FACE PIC WILL BE DELETED AND YOU'LL BE BLOCKED!!!),the ones looking only for couples, and you'll see that there are not too many left.For those few, there are thousands of single males. All those couples will target the most good looking and successful singles, even if the couples are average. Those guys will put the average couples as plan B, C, D for a meeting and they will pick the best option for them.Then the couples will rant about ALL the single guys(they are fakes, unreliable, bad, bad).Don't try too hard, if you are desperate, you'll push people away. Also, don't put the sex as a supreme target, meeting couples for fun and interaction is also a good thing. Better go to a club and have direct interaction, see where it goes from there.Don't take Fab too seriously. Yeah I have been looking to plan social meets for coffee/drinks, just to make friends and hopefully build a bit of confidence too, but even then I get no replies, not just in here but other sites too" We would have potentially responded but for 2 things. The fact you can't accommodate, Now if you stated the reason why you couldnt e.g. living with parents, house share etc (as long as it was cheating) and said your willing to meet at clubs or consider hotel meets. We would have considered your profile. The 2nd factor is the kink references and Bdsm play on your profile. Those things arent for us but I'm sure others maybe into these things. We wish you the best of kuck  | |||
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"This is why I’m no longer a site supporter. Genuinely have better luck just going to the pub. There’s literally two profiles who actually meet in the 20 miles from my gaff. The rest just treat this as another form of social media. Status updates about what they had for dinner, where they’re going on holiday and what they’re watching on Netflix. " Yeah I tend to find that too, people posting events (which I don't attend for no reason other than too shy) or typically posts saying single guys are gross yet I send a lovely message (will never intentionally be rude to anyone) and get blocked/deleted anyway | |||
"This is why I’m no longer a site supporter. Genuinely have better luck just going to the pub. There’s literally two profiles who actually meet in the 20 miles from my gaff. The rest just treat this as another form of social media. Status updates about what they had for dinner, where they’re going on holiday and what they’re watching on Netflix. " So we should just all fuck all the men and not have a social life on here! | |||
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"Men are treated like dirt on here. You're better off on tinder " No more than anyone else | |||
"Men are treated like dirt on here. You're better off on tinder " I don't think tinder is any better than here. | |||
"This is why I’m no longer a site supporter. Genuinely have better luck just going to the pub. There’s literally two profiles who actually meet in the 20 miles from my gaff. The rest just treat this as another form of social media. Status updates about what they had for dinner, where they’re going on holiday and what they’re watching on Netflix. So we should just all fuck all the men and not have a social life on here! " What...? Not what he suggested at all. | |||
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"Is it just me? An I saying something wrong? I send a genuine friendly message and get soonest 0 responses back I know covid had put a major halt on things throughout Am I too baby faced? Is my age am issue? Does no one genuinely want sex with me because of my profile? You see people posting saying they're getting loads of meets from here yet I'm having hardly any luck, I've had one meet with a very amazing couple but that's all. It's it because I'm submissive? I'm just not sure :P" Yes Covid has dramatically affected things during the 2 years you're referring to. You may have been willing to meet but lots of people weren't and still aren't. They don't necessarily want to just chat either (see below). Your age etc will be a factor for some people but not others and the same applies to everything else you might choose to highlight in your profile including images. You can't appeal to everyone here. It is very hard for decent guys on FAB but the main reason for that is the behaviour of too many other guys here. They don't read profiles and just send out 'polite' and not so polite messages to people who they're not anywhere near a reasonable match for. It happens to us multiple times a day. I have no idea if that's what you're doing but it's a major reason why guys get blocked without a response. It may seem harsh but that's because it almost certainly doesn't happen to you anywhere near as much as it happens to fems/cples. Loads of guys here start off conversations 'politely' and as soons as they get a response and ascertain they're chatting to a female, they start with the dirty talk. They have no real interest in polite conversation, their interest is in dirty chat/wanking and frankly it's tedious and a real PITA. Not all guys here do that of course but when it happens again and again you soon realise that the only way to deal with it is to block them. The chances are people are viewing your profile even if they're not responding to your messages. If, say, they immediately see you're too young, too far, can't accommodate or whatever, they'll just block you rather than writing back to explain why you're not quite what they're looking for and risking getting abuse in return. Oh and yes that does happen quite frequently. This subject comes up here virtually every day and sometimes several times. Why more people don't read these forums more before posting baffles me. I think you just need to acccept that you're one of thousands of guys here competing for relatively few fems/cples. The best advice is to read profiles and tailor your messages to those people who're seeking someone like you rather than targeting people you happen to fancy. Good luck. | |||
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"Is it just me? An I saying something wrong? I send a genuine friendly message and get soonest 0 responses back I know covid had put a major halt on things throughout Am I too baby faced? Is my age am issue? Does no one genuinely want sex with me because of my profile? You see people posting saying they're getting loads of meets from here yet I'm having hardly any luck, I've had one meet with a very amazing couple but that's all. It's it because I'm submissive? I'm just not sure :P Yes Covid has dramatically affected things during the 2 years you're referring to. You may have been willing to meet but lots of people weren't and still aren't. They don't necessarily want to just chat either (see below). Your age etc will be a factor for some people but not others and the same applies to everything else you might choose to highlight in your profile including images. You can't appeal to everyone here. It is very hard for decent guys on FAB but the main reason for that is the behaviour of too many other guys here. They don't read profiles and just send out 'polite' and not so polite messages to people who they're not anywhere near a reasonable match for. It happens to us multiple times a day. I have no idea if that's what you're doing but it's a major reason why guys get blocked without a response. It may seem harsh but that's because it almost certainly doesn't happen to you anywhere near as much as it happens to fems/cples. Loads of guys here start off conversations 'politely' and as soons as they get a response and ascertain they're chatting to a female, they start with the dirty talk. They have no real interest in polite conversation, their interest is in dirty chat/wanking and frankly it's tedious and a real PITA. Not all guys here do that of course but when it happens again and again you soon realise that the only way to deal with it is to block them. The chances are people are viewing your profile even if they're not responding to your messages. If, say, they immediately see you're too young, too far, can't accommodate or whatever, they'll just block you rather than writing back to explain why you're not quite what they're looking for and risking getting abuse in return. Oh and yes that does happen quite frequently. This subject comes up here virtually every day and sometimes several times. Why more people don't read these forums more before posting baffles me. I think you just need to acccept that you're one of thousands of guys here competing for relatively few fems/cples. The best advice is to read profiles and tailor your messages to those people who're seeking someone like you rather than targeting people you happen to fancy. Good luck." I think you've hit the nail on the head with this one, I must admit I do read every profile and try and mention something in the as a conversation starter or to see the relatable difference but it just seems to get not where. I must admit, there is alot of single males that come across here that do send rude messages to begin with so I've heard alot about, which doesn't make it any easier x | |||
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"Is it just me? An I saying something wrong? I send a genuine friendly message and get soonest 0 responses back I know covid had put a major halt on things throughout Am I too baby faced? Is my age am issue? Does no one genuinely want sex with me because of my profile? You see people posting saying they're getting loads of meets from here yet I'm having hardly any luck, I've had one meet with a very amazing couple but that's all. It's it because I'm submissive? I'm just not sure :P" Hey..I can't comment on your messages as I can only see your profile. I would suggest that you try swingers clubs in your area. It's a well known fact that the ratios on here are very skewed . The women on fab have far fewer in number. Many , in my experience choose to seek out the type of person they want and many messages get lost in the sheer numbers they receive. I found that by widening my age group and being less rigid in my preferences I managed to make some fantastic contacts. Good luck | |||
"Seeing a few comments about the OP not accommodating. Someone has to accommodate right? Why does it have to be the OP? There are plenty who don't or won't accommodate and give no reasons " As a general rule if married couples can't accommodate its due to the fact the have children. We have a 10 month old baby who if we go to a meet with be looked after by his Nana and Grandad in our/ his family home where he feels most comfortable. A large proportion (but in no way all) of guys who by there 30s can't accomodate its because there are here cheating with an unsuspecting wife at home. This isn't a hard and fast rule but due to the volume of single males on here messaging couples for us and many couples only meeting guys who can accommodate means you vastly cut down on the no shows and largely avoid cheaters and all the potential drama that goes with it. Now don't get us wrong if a guy has can't accommodate but has on his profile that he can't for genuine reasons e.g. single dad, house share etc and they state they are happy to explore meeting at a hotel or a swinging club then we will definitely still consider meeting them. KJ | |||
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"Seeing a few comments about the OP not accommodating. Someone has to accommodate right? Why does it have to be the OP? There are plenty who don't or won't accommodate and give no reasons As a general rule if married couples can't accommodate its due to the fact the have children. We have a 10 month old baby who if we go to a meet with be looked after by his Nana and Grandad in our/ his family home where he feels most comfortable. A large proportion (but in no way all) of guys who by there 30s can't accomodate its because there are here cheating with an unsuspecting wife at home. This isn't a hard and fast rule but due to the volume of single males on here messaging couples for us and many couples only meeting guys who can accommodate means you vastly cut down on the no shows and largely avoid cheaters and all the potential drama that goes with it. Now don't get us wrong if a guy has can't accommodate but has on his profile that he can't for genuine reasons e.g. single dad, house share etc and they state they are happy to explore meeting at a hotel or a swinging club then we will definitely still consider meeting them. KJ" Yeah I've heard that about single makes hiding their partner, now I wish that wasn't the case but I see it happens often, I've changed my profile to reflect why I can't, but genuinely if I could find a partner into the same kinks as me, and was living with them, I'd have no need to be on here! Single life does suck and I think covid certainly put s hold on that for almost 2 years x | |||
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"Is it just me? An I saying something wrong? I send a genuine friendly message and get soonest 0 responses back I know covid had put a major halt on things throughout Am I too baby faced? Is my age am issue? Does no one genuinely want sex with me because of my profile? You see people posting saying they're getting loads of meets from here yet I'm having hardly any luck, I've had one meet with a very amazing couple but that's all. It's it because I'm submissive? I'm just not sure :P" It's not a god given right that someone wants to meet you. Go to clubs with mates or try dating sites. Don't expect sex when you are not putting the work in. | |||
"Is it just me? An I saying something wrong? I send a genuine friendly message and get soonest 0 responses back I know covid had put a major halt on things throughout Am I too baby faced? Is my age am issue? Does no one genuinely want sex with me because of my profile? You see people posting saying they're getting loads of meets from here yet I'm having hardly any luck, I've had one meet with a very amazing couple but that's all. It's it because I'm submissive? I'm just not sure :P It's not a god given right that someone wants to meet you. Go to clubs with mates or try dating sites. Don't expect sex when you are not putting the work in. " But I've never said that everyone I message has to meet me? Just surely 1 out of a hundred or so would want at least 1 public meet. And there are people like me who feel Intinated by clubs by how clique they can be, and how put down single males typically are anyway, what you're saying is everyone on here HAS to attend clubs to get a meet? | |||
"Is it just me? An I saying something wrong? I send a genuine friendly message and get soonest 0 responses back I know covid had put a major halt on things throughout Am I too baby faced? Is my age am issue? Does no one genuinely want sex with me because of my profile? You see people posting saying they're getting loads of meets from here yet I'm having hardly any luck, I've had one meet with a very amazing couple but that's all. It's it because I'm submissive? I'm just not sure :P It's not a god given right that someone wants to meet you. Go to clubs with mates or try dating sites. Don't expect sex when you are not putting the work in. But I've never said that everyone I message has to meet me? Just surely 1 out of a hundred or so would want at least 1 public meet. And there are people like me who feel Intinated by clubs by how clique they can be, and how put down single males typically are anyway, what you're saying is everyone on here HAS to attend clubs to get a meet? " I’ve always found clubs friendly but I can see why single men struggle with it | |||
"Men are treated like dirt on here. You're better off on tinder No more than anyone else " Let’s be honest on here it’s single women and couples have the power. They can have their pick of many 100’s of single men. Single men need to get their head around this and work out and I don’t mean this in crass way, but a 2/10 woman can pull a 10/10 guy on here as why would you have W chicken nugget when a steak is avalaible. I’m not shagging Susan Boyle (no offence Susan) when Jennifer Lopez is on offer. There are some exceptionally rude women and couples on here, and some exceptionally rude single guys who show no respect and think they are entitled to fuck whoever they want because they messaged them. Some of the messages women receive on here are disgraceful. There are some lovely genuine people and some vile horrible people as is life! Also on the guy who made the social media comment- that’s what it is! It just so happens a that the uniting cause is a liberal sexual attitude. | |||
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"The thing you're doing wrong is having any kind of expectation with regard to making connections via the site. The site is merely a tool which yes, can be used to chat etc, but is best thought of as a platform to keep up to date with swinging events." Yeah I guess that all it seems to be at the moment, I was suggested this from a munch event about 3 years ago and I think from there hoped I could build a connection, but even getting passed a few sentences from some people on here is a task in itself! I'm happy to talk to pretty much anyone, and enjoy getting to know people  shame to see that the messages from rude people spoil it for others chance to be polite x | |||
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"Me too, I send a text and get no replies. I’m getting a complex" Maybe rethink your profile. You sound married for a start | |||
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"You can't accommodate that will go against you to start with. You're verified and you've had meets though? I have had 2 meets I think over 2 years, but one isn't on this site anymore and the couple haven't out a review on me, yet! Which is unfortunate " I need to change this, this couple did ask if I wanted a verification and I said no as I didn't mind, I was just happy to meet them, it Wasn't unfortunate at all as I did say no, they offered! It was actually very FORTUNATE to have met them and was glad I did x | |||
"Is it just me? An I saying something wrong? I send a genuine friendly message and get soonest 0 responses back I know covid had put a major halt on things throughout Am I too baby faced? Is my age am issue? Does no one genuinely want sex with me because of my profile? You see people posting saying they're getting loads of meets from here yet I'm having hardly any luck, I've had one meet with a very amazing couple but that's all. It's it because I'm submissive? I'm just not sure :P" You have a good profile. I like that you explain why you can not accommodate as that’s a big alarm bell. Good photos too. Age could go against you, as could submissive but this is who you are so see the deletes as time saved. If you read the profile and respond appropriately then you just have to take it as you’re not for them. | |||
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"Men are treated like dirt on here. You're better off on tinder " Tinder is rubbish. All fakes and no one ever talks. The NSA sex scene us now as bad as the dateing scene its just too hard and full of timewasters sadly | |||
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"Is it just me? An I saying something wrong? I send a genuine friendly message and get soonest 0 responses back I know covid had put a major halt on things throughout Am I too baby faced? Is my age am issue? Does no one genuinely want sex with me because of my profile? You see people posting saying they're getting loads of meets from here yet I'm having hardly any luck, I've had one meet with a very amazing couple but that's all. It's it because I'm submissive? I'm just not sure :P Don't take it personally. Fab shouldn't be a measure of your succes, this is about having fun. A bit of extra kink in your life. From all the couples out there, eliminate those with one line profiles, the ones looking for specific people(age, race), the entitled ones(MESSAGE WITHOUT FACE PIC WILL BE DELETED AND YOU'LL BE BLOCKED!!!),the ones looking only for couples, and you'll see that there are not too many left.For those few, there are thousands of single males. All those couples will target the most good looking and successful singles, even if the couples are average. Those guys will put the average couples as plan B, C, D for a meeting and they will pick the best option for them.Then the couples will rant about ALL the single guys(they are fakes, unreliable, bad, bad).Don't try too hard, if you are desperate, you'll push people away. Also, don't put the sex as a supreme target, meeting couples for fun and interaction is also a good thing. Better go to a club and have direct interaction, see where it goes from there.Don't take Fab too seriously. " I’m an entitled one
Or maybe just choose not to chat without face cos as attraction is important. Remember that some people get hundreds of messages a day and the quickest way to stream to to delete all without face photos attached/ haven’t read the profile. | |||
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"I agree its shit on here" Maybe for you but for others it’s great | |||
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"Men are treated like dirt on here. You're better off on tinder " The worst thing that can happen to a single man on fab is that he gets ignored. Women (and MF couples to a degree) regularly receive horrible abuse - mostly from deluded single guys That's why many ladies/couples are so defensive and suspicious...and it's because of the actions of a minority of entitled guys It's unfortunate, but that's just the way it is | |||
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"You need to be covered in tattoos, have a beard, have a drink or drug problem, treat this as a social media site rather than a swinging site, and be pretty down-market....then you will be fine!!" and that is just some of the women! I can well remember going to meet a female on here who said she wanted to meet me. Her pictures must have been taken at least a decade ago as she had changed from being quite a woman next door type of girl to a fat smelly d*unk with skanky teeth that turned up for the meet. I turned and fled! | |||
"Is it just me? An I saying something wrong? I send a genuine friendly message and get soonest 0 responses back I know covid had put a major halt on things throughout Am I too baby faced? Is my age am issue? Does no one genuinely want sex with me because of my profile? You see people posting saying they're getting loads of meets from here yet I'm having hardly any luck, I've had one meet with a very amazing couple but that's all. It's it because I'm submissive? I'm just not sure :P" Not everyone gets what they want in life generally, so this site is no different to everyday life' Membership doesn't guarantee sex. Nothing does. Just because you walk into a pub it doesn't mean someone in there will have sex with you. Same applies here. | |||
"You need to be covered in tattoos, have a beard, have a drink or drug problem, treat this as a social media site rather than a swinging site, and be pretty down-market....then you will be fine!!" Agree..  | |||
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"The effort reward ratio is massive for guys. If you just want to get laid then make friends with your wife or gf again , be nice to her, go hire an escort , go to a parlour , get on a real dating site .. do something positive where there are real prospects. Don’t delude yourself sitting on here day and night ." Personally I don't sit on here day and night. I've tried a lot of the dating sites. They're the same. I've tried going to clubs, events and munches but only get polite chit chat and never able to break through the established circles. It ends up with me chasing and getting conscious of pestering. Its all really way too much hard work. So fate has to take its course. There's not much a single man can do about his predicament. | |||
