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over a year ago
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It confuses me at times, you see an update on someone's profile that they'd like to meet a single guy, but when you try to message or wink they've blocked everyone of your sex?
I know some will say that if they want you they'll find you as there are so many of us! If that's the case why bother putting updates about meeting guys in the first place. |
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over a year ago
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That's fair enough I suppose, I didn't think of it like that. But some do quote "are there any single guys out there that would like some fun" that says to me they are looking for someone new?
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"That's fair enough I suppose, I didn't think of it like that. But some do quote "are there any single guys out there that would like some fun" that says to me they are looking for someone new?
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That still says to me that they want to hear from guys they have had previous correspondence with,not every bloke on the site |
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"So that guys who they've previously been in contact with, or are on their friends list, can let them know if they're available?"
That’s a pretty fair description of day to day life nowadays “ppl changing their views” or decide to try something different ??????
But things change daily too- ie single guys being to persistent- etc , or not being able to access accounts to reply
Various reasons why
Their saying one but actually do the couples/ Mf-ff- mean something else
I don’t think so
Obviously certain ppl don’t tick their boxes  |
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hi, we meet single men but set filters to stop them sending a message,
but the filter also sends a "not looking to meet" which is a shame as we also dont show in any local search but hay its a fab thing.
https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/feedback/685359 |
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I block them as i habe down not looking for guys and guys still message me. Most fells dont read profiles and you can get a lot of males contacting you to meet. So its easier to block the guys and just havr the ones you want to chat to or as abovr previously met contact you |
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"It confuses me at times, you see an update on someone's profile that they'd like to meet a single guy, but when you try to message or wink they've blocked everyone of your sex?
I know some will say that if they want you they'll find you as there are so many of us! If that's the case why bother putting updates about meeting guys in the first place. "
OK, perhaps we can help answer your question...
It's probably not that they've blocked everyone as you say.
We're looking for a single guy, but we've become quite brutal with the block button over the last month because it's the only as a way of keeping on top of it all.
We get so many men looking at us, winking at us, sending friend requests and messaging us. But as we are looking for something specific - not just 'a man' - it gets hard work keeping on top of it all.
It could be that they're too young, too old, too tall, too short, too far away... whatever. Or it could be that the missus simply doesn't fancy them.
That's not to insult the men we block, it's simply a way of keeping our line of sight clear.
However, we do also often block out of anger or frustration, for example, men with no profile or no pics (what's the point?), men who clearly haven't bothered reading our profile (obviously a common complaint of many couples/women) so haven't noticed we aren't considering bi guys etc.
In a perfect world this site would have more functionality and would allow you to set more parameters as to who can view, wink or contact you. But it doesn't, so the only option is to block people who are a no-go for whatever reason.
The missus likes a certain type, so there are guys we would never block and we engage with. There are also guys she likes the look of that we approach.
As for the others who she isn't interested in, it's easier just to block them to keep things neat and tidy.
If there's one piece of advice that's obvious from the responses you're getting on this thread, it would be... Read the profile. Don't just see the pic and get in touch.
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I read in full the profile of every person or persons I contact. I totally get all the points you've listed.
I was merely stating that it's frustrating when an update says! ( looking for single guys for tonight, get in touch)
Then you read the profile and singles guys are blocked, I just don't see the point in putting a status up like that if no one can reply. I understand it maybe to get the attention of someone they've already met, but would it not just be easier to message or wink that person individually?
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"I read in full the profile of every person or persons I contact. I totally get all the points you've listed.
I was merely stating that it's frustrating when an update says! ( looking for single guys for tonight, get in touch)
Then you read the profile and singles guys are blocked, I just don't see the point in putting a status up like that if no one can reply. I understand it maybe to get the attention of someone they've already met, but would it not just be easier to message or wink that person individually?
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some people forget they have blocked all single guys when they post for a meet 
noticed this a few times with people we know . When the mrs messaged them they changed it and thanked us for reminding them |
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