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Just had a ‘fab’ idea - mutual hotlist alerts!
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Hola! 
Ok - so I know this may be in the wrong section - but we all know hardly anyone will see it if I put it elsewhere!
So - I was the last to post (hurrah) on a thread about hot lists - and finding out if you’re on someone’s.
Whilst that’s flattering - we all know it means far more if the appreciation is mutual.
Sooooo - even if it were a ‘fab option’ and meant a slight increase in fees - wouldn’t it be great if we received an alert when two people/couples hotlist each other? Similar to the way many dating apps work?
You could still message anyone (as long as they’ve not blocked your age/sex/you personally etc - but with the hotlist alert you’d know you were messaging someone who’s at least potentially interested.
For guys it would hopefully cut down on the amount of ‘junk mail’ you send out - and for the very popular single females out there - you could maybe just mostly open the alerts/messages of people of interest.
I know it may take a fair bit of programming/updating of the site - but I think it would be invaluable to those of us who actually meet - particularly the large percentage of fab who are non forumites and therefore don’t communicate on the forums.
Hugs
Peachy |
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"Hola!
Ok - so I know this may be in the wrong section - but we all know hardly anyone will see it if I put it elsewhere!
So - I was the last to post (hurrah) on a thread about hot lists - and finding out if you’re on someone’s.
Whilst that’s flattering - we all know it means far more if the appreciation is mutual.
Sooooo - even if it were a ‘fab option’ and meant a slight increase in fees - wouldn’t it be great if we received an alert when two people/couples hotlist each other? Similar to the way many dating apps work?
You could still message anyone (as long as they’ve not blocked your age/sex/you personally etc - but with the hotlist alert you’d know you were messaging someone who’s at least potentially interested.
For guys it would hopefully cut down on the amount of ‘junk mail’ you send out - and for the very popular single females out there - you could maybe just mostly open the alerts/messages of people of interest.
I know it may take a fair bit of programming/updating of the site - but I think it would be invaluable to those of us who actually meet - particularly the large percentage of fab who are non forumites and therefore don’t communicate on the forums.
Hugs
Peachy "
The deafening silence would just be even more depressing  |
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"Fab idea. Although that’s kinda what winks are for. "
Sorry to disappoint but I never even look at winks - and neither do many ladies I know. Also - it doesn’t let you know if you’ve winked each other does it? |
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"Fab idea. Although that’s kinda what winks are for.
Sorry to disappoint but I never even look at winks - and neither do many ladies I know. Also - it doesn’t let you know if you’ve winked each other does it? "
No you need to do that yourself. They wink at you, you wink them back. |
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over a year ago
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Yeah would be good if you got a notification when someone on your hotlist adds you and vice versa.
A bit like bumble where you have your matches and then you can decide if you want to message them.
Good idea. |
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over a year ago
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I think this is a brilliant idea.
However it totally depends on how you use your hotlist.
So I put people on my hotlist who post great photos or good updates rather than someone I want to meet. |
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"Hola!
Ok - so I know this may be in the wrong section - but we all know hardly anyone will see it if I put it elsewhere!
So - I was the last to post (hurrah) on a thread about hot lists - and finding out if you’re on someone’s.
Whilst that’s flattering - we all know it means far more if the appreciation is mutual.
Sooooo - even if it were a ‘fab option’ and meant a slight increase in fees - wouldn’t it be great if we received an alert when two people/couples hotlist each other? Similar to the way many dating apps work?
You could still message anyone (as long as they’ve not blocked your age/sex/you personally etc - but with the hotlist alert you’d know you were messaging someone who’s at least potentially interested.
For guys it would hopefully cut down on the amount of ‘junk mail’ you send out - and for the very popular single females out there - you could maybe just mostly open the alerts/messages of people of interest.
I know it may take a fair bit of programming/updating of the site - but I think it would be invaluable to those of us who actually meet - particularly the large percentage of fab who are non forumites and therefore don’t communicate on the forums.
Hugs
Peachy
The deafening silence would just be even more depressing "
Ok - so let’s put a positive slant on this!
If you find - after a period of time - that none of the people you’re attracted to are attracted to you - you could take a look at your profile and see if you can think of ways to make it more desirable to the people you aspire to meet!
That might be in the form of more or different public pictures (or any at all in your case) - or a tweak of profile text.
It may mean that you need to broaden your horizons when it comes to your ‘type’ or - worst case scenario - decide to use fab in a different way (socials/the forums/chat rooms etc) rather than focusing lots of attention on trying to get meets or - very worst case scenario - deciding whether fab is right for you at all!
Either way I think this would be a positive move. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what's the end result of this ? If you want to contact someone then send a message
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Well this is my thinking but I can see why some may find it useful. |
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over a year ago
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"I think this is a brilliant idea.
However it totally depends on how you use your hotlist.
So I put people on my hotlist who post great photos or good updates rather than someone I want to meet. "
Some of my hotlist arent ones Id meet either |
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"I think this is a brilliant idea.
However it totally depends on how you use your hotlist.
So I put people on my hotlist who post great photos or good updates rather than someone I want to meet. "
As do I - but even if they do the same - wouldn’t it be nice to know?
If you’ve hotlisted someone because you really dislike them and want to privately stalk them (and by now we all know this happens) - then you simply chose not to act on an alert if it comes up. It would simply be an alert - fab wouldn’t message them on your behalf. |
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"what's the end result of this ? If you want to contact someone then send a message
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But a lot don’t - particularly ladies. Also - guys know they’d be messaging someone who might actually reply - so they’d know to put more effort into that message!
It’d also be very useful for couples looking for single females - which can also be difficult judging by the numerous threads I’ve seen! |
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"I could get on board with this, opt in, idea, it would be nice if it came with an added 'not so much' list otherwise I would have to opt out  "
Agreed!
Though if we know the hotlist function worked in this way - we would only hotlist those of interest.
There’d need to be another list for those we want to watch for other reasons - be they positive or negative! X |
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"So, tinder? "
Not really. Tinder doesn’t have the forums, socials, chat rooms, swinging club info etc etc - unless I’m missing something?
It would just be importing one of the good things about many dating apps - whilst still enabling the ability to message in general etc.
Personally I think it would be particularly useful to single males, couples looking for other couples or single fems - and single fems who would normally lack the confidence to ‘cold message’ someone!
Win win really! |
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"Great idea ......just get rid of the winks.Surely there’s not only me that doesn’t receive many off the ladies on here. "
Great idea! I never even look at winks tbh - so I’ve probably got thousands of the feckers unopened! X |
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"Hola!
Ok - so I know this may be in the wrong section - but we all know hardly anyone will see it if I put it elsewhere!
So - I was the last to post (hurrah) on a thread about hot lists - and finding out if you’re on someone’s.
Whilst that’s flattering - we all know it means far more if the appreciation is mutual.
Sooooo - even if it were a ‘fab option’ and meant a slight increase in fees - wouldn’t it be great if we received an alert when two people/couples hotlist each other? Similar to the way many dating apps work?
You could still message anyone (as long as they’ve not blocked your age/sex/you personally etc - but with the hotlist alert you’d know you were messaging someone who’s at least potentially interested.
For guys it would hopefully cut down on the amount of ‘junk mail’ you send out - and for the very popular single females out there - you could maybe just mostly open the alerts/messages of people of interest.
I know it may take a fair bit of programming/updating of the site - but I think it would be invaluable to those of us who actually meet - particularly the large percentage of fab who are non forumites and therefore don’t communicate on the forums.
Hugs
Peachy "
Sign me up for this 
Would be a good giggle and who knows what would come of it |
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"Yeah would be good if you got a notification when someone on your hotlist adds you and vice versa.
A bit like bumble where you have your matches and then you can decide if you want to message them.
Good idea. "
Thanks - and that’s exactly what I had in mind! |
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over a year ago
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Winks are the most pointless things on here. I NEVER look at my winks and neither have I sent one in god knows how many years I’ve been here.
It would be so useful for first approach messages because if you’re a match you’ll at least know before hand that they are slightly interested (handy for the men folk).
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"I think it's been suggested before Peachy.
I think it would be a good feature, until you get an alert from someone who is on that hotlist for not being hot if you get me!"
So we’d know only to use the hotlist for people we’re actually attracted to?
There could be another list/grouping for people we just want to keep an eye on for other reasons. |
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"Winks are the most pointless things on here. I NEVER look at my winks and neither have I sent one in god knows how many years I’ve been here.
It would be so useful for first approach messages because if you’re a match you’ll at least know before hand that they are slightly interested (handy for the men folk).
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Absolutely!
Even if they still want to send random ‘mail shots’ or ‘hi there’s’ - the ones with any intelligence/imagination would know to put more effort into the ones where there’s a mutual interest - as they’re far more likely to get a reply. |
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"Twice I've had a message in "updates" that's said "you are both on each others hotlists", has anyone else ever had that. Must admit it freaked me out a bit! "
No I haven’t - but I’d like to know this!
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"I use hotlist for people I like plus people I dont particularly like but want to snoop on so defo wouldnt work for me."
But there could be a different list for the second category - so you’d only use the hotlist facility for those you actually like. Simples! |
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"Fab idea. Although that’s kinda what winks are for.
Sorry to disappoint but I never even look at winks - and neither do many ladies I know. Also - it doesn’t let you know if you’ve winked each other does it?
No you need to do that yourself. They wink at you, you wink them back. "
Nah... Peachy's idea is Fab  |
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"Twice I've had a message in "updates" that's said "you are both on each others hotlists", has anyone else ever had that. Must admit it freaked me out a bit!
No I haven’t - but I’d like to know this!
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Yes I was very surprised. Thinking about it they may have been on Fabguys so if they can do it there they should be able to do it here too. |
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"Twice I've had a message in "updates" that's said "you are both on each others hotlists", has anyone else ever had that. Must admit it freaked me out a bit! "
So it's already a feature then?  |
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"Twice I've had a message in "updates" that's said "you are both on each others hotlists", has anyone else ever had that. Must admit it freaked me out a bit!
No I haven’t - but I’d like to know this!
Yes I was very surprised. Thinking about it they may have been on Fabguys so if they can do it there they should be able to do it here too. "
Absolutely. Easy to import the software then I imagine? (Look at me pretending to know what the feck I’m talking about! ) |
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We suggested it to Fab a while back, still think it is a really good idea. It might be better tweaked as ‘Hotlist +’, maybe with a new option that would allow people to have a private hotlist as now with another one for those that they’d like to know if the feeling was mutual. We’d be up for this as it could be a useful prompt to encourage further ‘communications’  |
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"It's been suggested many times before and still hasn't been implemented
That’s kinda why I put it in the lounge - if more see and concur its a good idea - fab May actually implement it! "
fingers crossed |
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"Twice I've had a message in "updates" that's said "you are both on each others hotlists", has anyone else ever had that. Must admit it freaked me out a bit!
So it's already a feature then? "
On fabguys by the sound of it. Owned by fab so should be feasible to import onto here too? |
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"We suggested it to Fab a while back, still think it is a really good idea. It might be better tweaked as ‘Hotlist +’, maybe with a new option that would allow people to have a private hotlist as now with another one for those that they’d like to know if the feeling was mutual. We’d be up for this as it could be a useful prompt to encourage further ‘communications’ "
I know it’s hardly a ‘eureka’ moment I’ve had - but if enough suggest it then maybe fab will actually implement it? |
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"We suggested it to Fab a while back, still think it is a really good idea. It might be better tweaked as ‘Hotlist +’, maybe with a new option that would allow people to have a private hotlist as now with another one for those that they’d like to know if the feeling was mutual. We’d be up for this as it could be a useful prompt to encourage further ‘communications’ I know it’s hardly a ‘eureka’ moment I’ve had - but if enough suggest it then maybe fab will actually implement it? "
Totally agree with you, we like the idea |
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"Hola!
Ok - so I know this may be in the wrong section - but we all know hardly anyone will see it if I put it elsewhere!
So - I was the last to post (hurrah) on a thread about hot lists - and finding out if you’re on someone’s.
Whilst that’s flattering - we all know it means far more if the appreciation is mutual.
Sooooo - even if it were a ‘fab option’ and meant a slight increase in fees - wouldn’t it be great if we received an alert when two people/couples hotlist each other? Similar to the way many dating apps work?
You could still message anyone (as long as they’ve not blocked your age/sex/you personally etc - but with the hotlist alert you’d know you were messaging someone who’s at least potentially interested.
For guys it would hopefully cut down on the amount of ‘junk mail’ you send out - and for the very popular single females out there - you could maybe just mostly open the alerts/messages of people of interest.
I know it may take a fair bit of programming/updating of the site - but I think it would be invaluable to those of us who actually meet - particularly the large percentage of fab who are non forumites and therefore don’t communicate on the forums.
Hugs
Peachy "
you should ask for royalties if they do this |
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Many like minds on here.
Peachy: great idea, well done. Totally on board.
I agree, winks are useless to me. I bulk delete them every few days.
I also use my hotlist as a notlist, it's handy for checking on others' stalky behaviour. I'd have to modify my use of the site if Peachy's idea becomes reality. |
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It’s a great idea. All it needs is the option to turn the alerts on and off. Then everyone who wanted to know would know, and those who use their hotlist in a different way would remain in blissful ignorance. |
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"Many like minds on here.
Peachy: great idea, well done. Totally on board.
I agree, winks are useless to me. I bulk delete them every few days.
I also use my hotlist as a notlist, it's handy for checking on others' stalky behaviour. I'd have to modify my use of the site if Peachy's idea becomes reality. "
So would I!  |
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"It’s a great idea. All it needs is the option to turn the alerts on and off. Then everyone who wanted to know would know, and those who use their hotlist in a different way would remain in blissful ignorance. "
Absolutely! |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"It's been suggested many times before and still hasn't been implemented
That’s kinda why I put it in the lounge - if more see and concur its a good idea - fab May actually implement it! "
Admin may not see it in the lounge so why they are best in the right section as they read all suggestions in there |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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In principle it could work - however the downsides of putting (this often mentioned idea) into practice would make it a pointless thing for me.
For starters there's the already mentioned thing of some people not using their Hotlist as a Hotlist, or even if they do it may not be for any reason other than admiring someone's pictures etc - "so create a Not The Hotlist feature" I hear you say - which is just another list to view/manage. Or "Opt out" I hear you also say - which given a large chunk of the site probably would do (in the same way as they select "Stealth Mode", would make the feature pretty pointless.
Then you have the whole thing of *some* users (and let's face it it would be mostly men) who would take a "match" as an open invitation for sex and immediately send a message suggesting as much - so people would stop using the feature to save getting pestered (and you'd have no way of knowing before Hotlisting someone if they were likely to be the pester type) so again the feature would be rendered pointless.
Yes, they may have the feature on Fab Guys, but from what I hear it's a different kettle of fish there, and things like number imbalances etc obviously don't apply, and drive desperation levels, in the same way as they do here.
If you really want to know if someone has Hotlisted you, or let them know you have Hotlisted them, and are interested enough to want to do so - send them a message telling them so, it really is that simple - having a feature such as suggested is pretty irrelevant when you look at it that way, or at least it is to me. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Twice I've had a message in "updates" that's said "you are both on each others hotlists", has anyone else ever had that. Must admit it freaked me out a bit!
No I haven’t - but I’d like to know this!
Yes I was very surprised. Thinking about it they may have been on Fabguys so if they can do it there they should be able to do it here too. "
Not sure that happens...there are updates from people on your Hotlist though |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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It does need the current hotlist to be expanded, or carry on using it as we are with a simple tickbox next to the name.
"Allow user to see they are on your hotlist if matched" "Yes/No"
That way you can just pick the ones you wouldn't mind knowing & not everyone, so you can still have nots/hots on the same list
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"It does need the current hotlist to be expanded, or carry on using it as we are with a simple tickbox next to the name.
"Allow user to see they are on your hotlist if matched" "Yes/No"
That way you can just pick the ones you wouldn't mind knowing & not everyone, so you can still have nots/hots on the same list
S"
That "might" work better than the wholesale thing suggested by the OP - although potentially open to some of the downfalls I suggested still with regards to it being seen as an open invitation by some, who would then get abusive if an immediate invite to meet wasn't issued. |
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over a year ago
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"Realistically, all about cost!
If that's the case, they'll only make it for site supporters!
Which is quite reasonable really "
It needs updating in so many ways. This is just one idea after many more.
It'll be nice for Fab ownership, to add their opinion from time to time on these types of feedback threads.
Just to read their imput! |
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"Hola!
Ok - so I know this may be in the wrong section - but we all know hardly anyone will see it if I put it elsewhere!
So - I was the last to post (hurrah) on a thread about hot lists - and finding out if you’re on someone’s.
Whilst that’s flattering - we all know it means far more if the appreciation is mutual.
Sooooo - even if it were a ‘fab option’ and meant a slight increase in fees - wouldn’t it be great if we received an alert when two people/couples hotlist each other? Similar to the way many dating apps work?
You could still message anyone (as long as they’ve not blocked your age/sex/you personally etc - but with the hotlist alert you’d know you were messaging someone who’s at least potentially interested.
For guys it would hopefully cut down on the amount of ‘junk mail’ you send out - and for the very popular single females out there - you could maybe just mostly open the alerts/messages of people of interest.
I know it may take a fair bit of programming/updating of the site - but I think it would be invaluable to those of us who actually meet - particularly the large percentage of fab who are non forumites and therefore don’t communicate on the forums.
Hugs
Peachy "
What a great idea Peachy. It would be great to see if I'm on anyone's hot list .. Hope you're doing ok my lovely. Catch up soon |
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A good idea. It may not suit everyone but it would be good for many. It would not be difficult to have an anonymity button for those who want to keep their hotlist entirely private so any matching would be consensual. |
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"A good idea. It may not suit everyone but it would be good for many. It would not be difficult to have an anonymity button for those who want to keep their hotlist entirely private so any matching would be consensual."
Yeah... This
Giving people the choice is the way forward! |
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"I think this is a brilliant idea.
However it totally depends on how you use your hotlist.
So I put people on my hotlist who post great photos or good updates rather than someone I want to meet.
As do I - but even if they do the same - wouldn’t it be nice to know?
If you’ve hotlisted someone because you really dislike them and want to privately stalk them (and by now we all know this happens) - then you simply chose not to act on an alert if it comes up. It would simply be an alert - fab wouldn’t message them on your behalf. "
Ok yes I guess that would work. |
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"It's been suggested many times before and still hasn't been implemented
That’s kinda why I put it in the lounge - if more see and concur its a good idea - fab May actually implement it!
Admin may not see it in the lounge so why they are best in the right section as they read all suggestions in there"
In that case they act on very, very few suggestions - even suggestions that are simple to implement and have been made countless times (and agreed upon) by many, many fabbers! |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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I suppose they decide what to implement , they have done quite a few things over the years that people have asked for.
Now this has slowed down a bit I will move it to where Admin will see it
If they are going to run with it I am sure they will let us all know |
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"I suppose they decide what to implement , they have done quite a few things over the years that people have asked for.
Now this has slowed down a bit I will move it to where Admin will see it
If they are going to run with it I am sure they will let us all know "
Ok thank you x |
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"Hola!
Ok - so I know this may be in the wrong section - but we all know hardly anyone will see it if I put it elsewhere!
So - I was the last to post (hurrah) on a thread about hot lists - and finding out if you’re on someone’s.
Whilst that’s flattering - we all know it means far more if the appreciation is mutual.
Sooooo - even if it were a ‘fab option’ and meant a slight increase in fees - wouldn’t it be great if we received an alert when two people/couples hotlist each other? Similar to the way many dating apps work?
You could still message anyone (as long as they’ve not blocked your age/sex/you personally etc - but with the hotlist alert you’d know you were messaging someone who’s at least potentially interested.
For guys it would hopefully cut down on the amount of ‘junk mail’ you send out - and for the very popular single females out there - you could maybe just mostly open the alerts/messages of people of interest.
I know it may take a fair bit of programming/updating of the site - but I think it would be invaluable to those of us who actually meet - particularly the large percentage of fab who are non forumites and therefore don’t communicate on the forums.
Hugs
Peachy "
Great idea in theory, but until fab offers a couple more options for watching people, you may find you're on their hotlist for a very different reason. Until they offer, a watch list and an avoid-but-don't-want-to-block list, it would send very mixed messages. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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It's not something I feel would be of great benefit to be honest. If I want someone to know they're on my hotlist I just tell them. I was on another site with this feature and it just became a bit like winks, nobody really looked at who had hotlisted them. |
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"It does need the current hotlist to be expanded, or carry on using it as we are with a simple tickbox next to the name.
"Allow user to see they are on your hotlist if matched" "Yes/No"
That way you can just pick the ones you wouldn't mind knowing & not everyone, so you can still have nots/hots on the same list
S"
Excellent idea OP and this poster has just lightbulbed how it could work for all, without the need for a Notlist!
Personally, I use it for folks I fancy and who's new pics and updates I am interested in seeing, from an admiring perspective.
For those using Hotlist for stalking type behaviour, I don't think that is what this site is designed for, so I have less sympathy, if it were implemented, for your usage being diminished.
PS fully paid site supporter here |
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"Hola!
Ok - so I know this may be in the wrong section - but we all know hardly anyone will see it if I put it elsewhere!
So - I was the last to post (hurrah) on a thread about hot lists - and finding out if you’re on someone’s.
Whilst that’s flattering - we all know it means far more if the appreciation is mutual.
Sooooo - even if it were a ‘fab option’ and meant a slight increase in fees - wouldn’t it be great if we received an alert when two people/couples hotlist each other? Similar to the way many dating apps work?
You could still message anyone (as long as they’ve not blocked your age/sex/you personally etc - but with the hotlist alert you’d know you were messaging someone who’s at least potentially interested.
For guys it would hopefully cut down on the amount of ‘junk mail’ you send out - and for the very popular single females out there - you could maybe just mostly open the alerts/messages of people of interest.
I know it may take a fair bit of programming/updating of the site - but I think it would be invaluable to those of us who actually meet - particularly the large percentage of fab who are non forumites and therefore don’t communicate on the forums.
Hugs
Peachy "
We’ve talked about this before. It’s a great idea. We’d love to know if we’re on peoples hotlist that are on ours too! Although we’d love to know who’s hotlist, if any, were on full stop lol x |
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"Hola!
Ok - so I know this may be in the wrong section - but we all know hardly anyone will see it if I put it elsewhere!
So - I was the last to post (hurrah) on a thread about hot lists - and finding out if you’re on someone’s.
Whilst that’s flattering - we all know it means far more if the appreciation is mutual.
Sooooo - even if it were a ‘fab option’ and meant a slight increase in fees - wouldn’t it be great if we received an alert when two people/couples hotlist each other? Similar to the way many dating apps work?
You could still message anyone (as long as they’ve not blocked your age/sex/you personally etc - but with the hotlist alert you’d know you were messaging someone who’s at least potentially interested.
For guys it would hopefully cut down on the amount of ‘junk mail’ you send out - and for the very popular single females out there - you could maybe just mostly open the alerts/messages of people of interest.
I know it may take a fair bit of programming/updating of the site - but I think it would be invaluable to those of us who actually meet - particularly the large percentage of fab who are non forumites and therefore don’t communicate on the forums.
Hugs
Peachy "
some in fact loads use it as both though a hotlist and a not list  |
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"Hola!
Ok - so I know this may be in the wrong section - but we all know hardly anyone will see it if I put it elsewhere!
So - I was the last to post (hurrah) on a thread about hot lists - and finding out if you’re on someone’s.
Whilst that’s flattering - we all know it means far more if the appreciation is mutual.
Sooooo - even if it were a ‘fab option’ and meant a slight increase in fees - wouldn’t it be great if we received an alert when two people/couples hotlist each other? Similar to the way many dating apps work?
You could still message anyone (as long as they’ve not blocked your age/sex/you personally etc - but with the hotlist alert you’d know you were messaging someone who’s at least potentially interested.
For guys it would hopefully cut down on the amount of ‘junk mail’ you send out - and for the very popular single females out there - you could maybe just mostly open the alerts/messages of people of interest.
I know it may take a fair bit of programming/updating of the site - but I think it would be invaluable to those of us who actually meet - particularly the large percentage of fab who are non forumites and therefore don’t communicate on the forums.
Hugs
Peachy "
The problem is though that it can be super easily exploited. I'm a programmer myself, it wouldn't be so hard to do, but the problem is that men would simply hotlist everyone. The same as tinder, swipe yes to everyone.
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Sounds like a good idea initially but suspect that as always it would be abused buy single guy's just adding every single lady and couple to the list and seeing what they get before sending out a cut and paste messages or the usual "I'm available" or "fancy a Fuck" messages 
We already have friends invites, great idea but sadly we know so well is abused by random invites been sent without even bothering to message to break the ice?
Possibly it would be more appropriate for all profiles not getting the ability to send messages without been photo verification and site support and some kind of filtration to initial message content and having to message and get a reply before friend invites could be sent
The environment here can only be improved by reducing the fakes and encouraging people to behave in a more civil way |
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