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"What if someone said it about you but they were just being vindictive? If people believed it you may never get any fun again" we bin on this site for over three years so people no us and wouldn't believe any one calling us a time wasters | |||
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"bit confusing unless your profile has been updated as its stated you only meet at clubs or organised parties... there should have been no loss" that's why we only meet people at clubs now and we still get lots of time wasters but at least it doesn't spoil are night anymore as there always plenty of fun to have at a club but that the point the point is people still waist are time and it would be nice to worn other people who they are they then can make there own choice | |||
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"We have been on here many years and not everyone knows us... I am guessing there would be people about who would believe that we were timewasters if it was plastered somewhere. I think what you suggest is open to abuse." yer that true but if people looked at how many times we bin verified then they wouldn't believe any abuse about us | |||
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"We have been on here many years and not everyone knows us... I am guessing there would be people about who would believe that we were timewasters if it was plastered somewhere. I think what you suggest is open to abuse.yer that true but if people looked at how many times we bin verified then they wouldn't believe any abuse about us " Mud sticks, no matter how many verifications someone has. | |||
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"What if someone said it about you but they were just being vindictive? If people believed it you may never get any fun againwe bin on this site for over three years so people no us and wouldn't believe any one calling us a time wasters " I don't know you......timewaster!  | |||
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"We have been on here many years and not everyone knows us... I am guessing there would be people about who would believe that we were timewasters if it was plastered somewhere. I think what you suggest is open to abuse.yer that true but if people looked at how many times we bin verified then they wouldn't believe any abuse about us " I don't know you... nor do you know me, and importantly our definition of "wasted time" might be different. I have lots of verifications but past performance is no guarantee .... I can (and have) arranged to meet and pulled out because something changed and been accused of wasting time. I would take all naming and shaming with a pinch of salt ... it would mean very little to me. V x | |||
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"We have been on here many years and not everyone knows us... I am guessing there would be people about who would believe that we were timewasters if it was plastered somewhere. I think what you suggest is open to abuse." Ive been on and off here for 3 years and no one knows me lol And i must agree there are A LOT of vindictive people on here who will "name and shame" someone because they rejected them or insert pathetic reason here And as much as id love to do it someonetimes, it doesnt help because by naming and shaming...it only makes you look like an asshole | |||
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". And as much as id love to do it someonetimes, it doesnt help because by naming and shaming...it only makes you look like an asshole" I stopped short of saying that but yes.... I agree.... when I see people whining about time wasters I automatically think the same Rightly or wrongly. | |||
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"The most annoying thing for me on this site is people who don't even open your mail to them. Opening and then deleting it or not replying is acceptable although rude enough. But to not even look at it is beyond being ignorant ! Some kind of auto reply might be a solution. As for no shows well yes it's horrible but it happens. Happened to me several times. " if they've looked at your profile and decided that you're not for them, why would they wish to waste their time reading your message? i didnt read the UKIP leaflet pushed through my letterbox during the election because i knew it wouldn't be of any interest to me... | |||
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"The most annoying thing for me on this site is people who don't even open your mail to them. Opening and then deleting it or not replying is acceptable although rude enough. But to not even look at it is beyond being ignorant ! Some kind of auto reply might be a solution. As for no shows well yes it's horrible but it happens. Happened to me several times. " I agree with the idea raised elsewhere of deleting your sent messages so it avoids you looking back at them to see if they have been read or not and trying to second guess the recipient's actions or desire to meet. if they are interested in you then they will reply. It's wishful thinking looking at the sent messages repeatedly which is time wasting in itself for yourself and of your own making. | |||
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"bit confusing unless your profile has been updated as its stated you only meet at clubs or organised parties... there should have been no lossthat's why we only meet people at clubs now and we still get lots of time wasters but at least it doesn't spoil are night anymore as there always plenty of fun to have at a club but that the point the point is people still waist are time and it would be nice to worn other people who they are they then can make there own choice " If you are getting "lots" of timewasters then it means one of two things: A. Your definition of the word is too broad and you are using it to include people who simply have no interest in you. B. You need to look at your selection process and how you decide wether someone is worth the time and effort, as it is clearly not working. There aren't that many timewasters on here, if you are seeing them at every turn it's due to one of those reasons. | |||
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"im genuine but i dont get the chance to meet lol " then why the he'll you on the site | |||
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"Sorry but tats rediculous wot Fab are you om the place is full of time wasters and no matter how good you think you are at spotting tem u will eventually get caught by one" Yes you are correct, eventually we will get caught out by one despite our best efforts. And that is what we expect. But the difference is it will just be one, and not lots. We've only been doing this 2 years and haven't had one yet. We are only using the same fab as you, so must be doing something right. | |||
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"im genuine but i dont get the chance to meet lol then why the he'll you on the site " Lots of people don't meet and use this site for forums only. | |||
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"bit confusing unless your profile has been updated as its stated you only meet at clubs or organised parties... there should have been no lossthat's why we only meet people at clubs now and we still get lots of time wasters but at least it doesn't spoil are night anymore as there always plenty of fun to have at a club but that the point the point is people still waist are time and it would be nice to worn other people who they are they then can make there own choice If you are getting "lots" of timewasters then it means one of two things: A. Your definition of the word is too broad and you are using it to include people who simply have no interest in you. B. You need to look at your selection process and how you decide wether someone is worth the time and effort, as it is clearly not working. There aren't that many timewasters on here, if you are seeing them at every turn it's due to one of those reasons. " Perfect example. | |||
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"Dear admin could you change your site rules so people could name and shame all time wasters that arrange to meet you and don't turn up as this spoil someone evening and it cost money to travel to meet people so by naming these people we can worn other people so they don't waste there time and money arranging to meet these time wasters " But what if they cancel with a genuine reason,i think blocking them n moving on is a better option. | |||
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"You can report time wasters... On the verification page there's the option to verify as genuine or not... pick not genuine and write your reason why for admin to see. I'd like to think if someone got more than a couple of complaints about them admin would actually act upon it. Maybe that's me being too optimistic again! " when we have arranged to meet someone and they don't turn up I always message them the next day to ask what happened to them and 99% of the time they just ignore us so then I report and block them and when we do put a meet page up we always put time wasters will be blocked and reported to the site but it doesn't bother them as they no nothing gets done about it | |||
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"Sorry but tats rediculous wot Fab are you om the place is full of time wasters and no matter how good you think you are at spotting tem u will eventually get caught by one" we bin caught out a few times that why we only meet at clubs so if they don't turn up there always plenty of fun going on | |||
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"So because you've got lots of veris your not a time waster ! So someone decides to be vindictive and call me a time waster and because I've only 2 veris I'm a time waster ? Because I'm not a prolific swinger I'm a time waster!? Absolutely silly idea. I think people who allow themselves to be open to no shows time wasters etc have themselves to blame. Use common sense and arrange meets wisely with communication and problem solved " that's why we put on are profile we only meet at clubs but most guys can't be bothered to read a fucking profile | |||
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"We have been on here many years and not everyone knows us... I am guessing there would be people about who would believe that we were timewasters if it was plastered somewhere. I think what you suggest is open to abuse.yer that true but if people looked at how many times we bin verified then they wouldn't believe any abuse about us " verified people also no show so it would be no use | |||
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"Dear admin could you change your site rules so people could name and shame all time wasters that arrange to meet you and don't turn up as this spoil someone evening and it cost money to travel to meet people so by naming these people we can worn other people so they don't waste there time and money arranging to meet these time wasters " Report them, deleted and Block them!! SIMPLE!! | |||
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"You can report time wasters... On the verification page there's the option to verify as genuine or not... pick not genuine and write your reason why for admin to see. I'd like to think if someone got more than a couple of complaints about them admin would actually act upon it. Maybe that's me being too optimistic again! " funny i just went to do that on someone who no showed to a meet today and the only options that come up when u click verify is the usual verify by cam/in person/by phone what you are recommending is if you verify someone for the first time which comes up with verify as genuine or not. under not genuine it states to report them not anything else | |||
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"You can report time wasters... On the verification page there's the option to verify as genuine or not... pick not genuine and write your reason why for admin to see. I'd like to think if someone got more than a couple of complaints about them admin would actually act upon it. Maybe that's me being too optimistic again! " You are best reporting from the profile itself as you would just be verifying them by doing that | |||
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"Naming and shaming achieves nothing apart from being open to abuse. Not naming and shaming is one of the basic rules of this site and has been since day One, that's not going to change. Fab gives you all the tools you need, in order to get meets and avoid being messed around as far as is humanly possible." Hear hear.. but will still happen.. no matter what u do  | |||
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"bit confusing unless your profile has been updated as its stated you only meet at clubs or organised parties... there should have been no lossthat's why we only meet people at clubs now and we still get lots of time wasters but at least it doesn't spoil are night anymore as there always plenty of fun to have at a club but that the point the point is people still waist are time and it would be nice to worn other people who they are they then can make there own choice " You will never avoid those that are not genuine or hell bent on just messing folks around. Like others have said it would be easy to turn the tables on you, it is not about people that already know you, it is also about people that could be interested in you. The only sure why of avoiding this (even at a Club) is just rock up at a Club without any pre arranged meets and see what happens, you cannot be let down that way. If you hook up with others on the night happy days, if not you can always play on your own and be in the Zone. | |||
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"Any assumptions made before the meet about how genuine someone is just risk management." I think this is spot on, use the tools the site provides and your own instincts and then common sense to minimise cost if they don't turn up. We wouldn't travel long distances for someone we'd never met before and if we book a hotel we go for ones you can cancel for free until the same day so if they drop off the radar just before we're not out of pocket. Name and shame is too open to abuse, if you're being let down a lot rethink your approach. | |||
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"We have been on here many years and not everyone knows us... I am guessing there would be people about who would believe that we were timewasters if it was plastered somewhere. I think what you suggest is open to abuse.yer that true but if people looked at how many times we bin verified then they wouldn't believe any abuse about us verified people also no show so it would be no use" if you click on there name then click on menu then click block then click on report them that what we do but don't seem to make any difference doing that | |||
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"bit confusing unless your profile has been updated as its stated you only meet at clubs or organised parties... there should have been no lossthat's why we only meet people at clubs now and we still get lots of time wasters but at least it doesn't spoil are night anymore as there always plenty of fun to have at a club but that the point the point is people still waist are time and it would be nice to worn other people who they are they then can make there own choice You will never avoid those that are not genuine or hell bent on just messing folks around. Like others have said it would be easy to turn the tables on you, it is not about people that already know you, it is also about people that could be interested in you. The only sure why of avoiding this (even at a Club) is just rock up at a Club without any pre arranged meets and see what happens, you cannot be let down that way. If you hook up with others on the night happy days, if not you can always play on your own and be in the Zone. " that is what we do but when you get messages from people saying we would like to meet you and what club will you be at and we tell them and they reply by saying we will be there and guess what they don't turn up and when we message them the next day to ask what happened to them they iv ignore us or say couldn't be bothered or to nervous so we block and report them | |||
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"bit confusing unless your profile has been updated as its stated you only meet at clubs or organised parties... there should have been no lossthat's why we only meet people at clubs now and we still get lots of time wasters but at least it doesn't spoil are night anymore as there always plenty of fun to have at a club but that the point the point is people still waist are time and it would be nice to worn other people who they are they then can make there own choice You will never avoid those that are not genuine or hell bent on just messing folks around. Like others have said it would be easy to turn the tables on you, it is not about people that already know you, it is also about people that could be interested in you. The only sure why of avoiding this (even at a Club) is just rock up at a Club without any pre arranged meets and see what happens, you cannot be let down that way. If you hook up with others on the night happy days, if not you can always play on your own and be in the Zone. that is what we do but when you get messages from people saying we would like to meet you and what club will you be at and we tell them and they reply by saying we will be there and guess what they don't turn up and when we message them the next day to ask what happened to them they iv ignore us or say couldn't be bothered or to nervous so we block and report them " The Maths are easy, just say look we will be there if we see you great, if we dont, dont worry..Dont even think about getting all bent up over it and messaging them the following day. | |||
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"bit confusing unless your profile has been updated as its stated you only meet at clubs or organised parties... there should have been no lossthat's why we only meet people at clubs now and we still get lots of time wasters but at least it doesn't spoil are night anymore as there always plenty of fun to have at a club but that the point the point is people still waist are time and it would be nice to worn other people who they are they then can make there own choice You will never avoid those that are not genuine or hell bent on just messing folks around. Like others have said it would be easy to turn the tables on you, it is not about people that already know you, it is also about people that could be interested in you. The only sure why of avoiding this (even at a Club) is just rock up at a Club without any pre arranged meets and see what happens, you cannot be let down that way. If you hook up with others on the night happy days, if not you can always play on your own and be in the Zone. that is what we do but when you get messages from people saying we would like to meet you and what club will you be at and we tell them and they reply by saying we will be there and guess what they don't turn up and when we message them the next day to ask what happened to them they iv ignore us or say couldn't be bothered or to nervous so we block and report them " you report people for being too nervous to go to a club? | |||
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"bit confusing unless your profile has been updated as its stated you only meet at clubs or organised parties... there should have been no lossthat's why we only meet people at clubs now and we still get lots of time wasters but at least it doesn't spoil are night anymore as there always plenty of fun to have at a club but that the point the point is people still waist are time and it would be nice to worn other people who they are they then can make there own choice You will never avoid those that are not genuine or hell bent on just messing folks around. Like others have said it would be easy to turn the tables on you, it is not about people that already know you, it is also about people that could be interested in you. The only sure why of avoiding this (even at a Club) is just rock up at a Club without any pre arranged meets and see what happens, you cannot be let down that way. If you hook up with others on the night happy days, if not you can always play on your own and be in the Zone. that is what we do but when you get messages from people saying we would like to meet you and what club will you be at and we tell them and they reply by saying we will be there and guess what they don't turn up and when we message them the next day to ask what happened to them they iv ignore us or say couldn't be bothered or to nervous so we block and report them you report people for being too nervous to go to a club? " if they say they will meet us and don't turn up saying you was to nervous then why be on a swingers site that just another excuse and they are a time wasters | |||
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"bit confusing unless your profile has been updated as its stated you only meet at clubs or organised parties... there should have been no lossthat's why we only meet people at clubs now and we still get lots of time wasters but at least it doesn't spoil are night anymore as there always plenty of fun to have at a club but that the point the point is people still waist are time and it would be nice to worn other people who they are they then can make there own choice You will never avoid those that are not genuine or hell bent on just messing folks around. Like others have said it would be easy to turn the tables on you, it is not about people that already know you, it is also about people that could be interested in you. The only sure why of avoiding this (even at a Club) is just rock up at a Club without any pre arranged meets and see what happens, you cannot be let down that way. If you hook up with others on the night happy days, if not you can always play on your own and be in the Zone. that is what we do but when you get messages from people saying we would like to meet you and what club will you be at and we tell them and they reply by saying we will be there and guess what they don't turn up and when we message them the next day to ask what happened to them they iv ignore us or say couldn't be bothered or to nervous so we block and report them The Maths are easy, just say look we will be there if we see you great, if we dont, dont worry..Dont even think about getting all bent up over it and messaging them the following day." then they shouldn't message us and waist are time at the end of the day anyone that don't message you and say they can't make it are time wasters | |||
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"I don't understand why people not showing at a club is wasting anyone's time. Surely thats why you meet at a club, so if they don't make it for any reason you haven't wasted your time, should be able to find an alternative. I think people have very different ideas of what constitutes time wasting. " What a load of crap it doesn't matter if you arrange to meet someone at a club or private if you don't turn up you are a time wasters easy as that | |||
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"I don't understand why people not showing at a club is wasting anyone's time. Surely thats why you meet at a club, so if they don't make it for any reason you haven't wasted your time, should be able to find an alternative. I think people have very different ideas of what constitutes time wasting. What a load of crap it doesn't matter if you arrange to meet someone at a club or private if you don't turn up you are a time wasters easy as that " No, if you were going to go to that particular club on that night anyway then how exactly have they wasted your time? If you weren't going to go and they said they would meet you there which made you change your mind, then that's slightly different. But even so you may still meet someone else, so still haven't wasted your time. Unless your the sort of couple who only goes to clubs when you have a guaranteed meet arranged? As I said before, think your definition of the word is far too broad. | |||
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"I don't understand why people not showing at a club is wasting anyone's time. Surely thats why you meet at a club, so if they don't make it for any reason you haven't wasted your time, should be able to find an alternative. I think people have very different ideas of what constitutes time wasting. What a load of crap it doesn't matter if you arrange to meet someone at a club or private if you don't turn up you are a time wasters easy as that No, if you were going to go to that particular club on that night anyway then how exactly have they wasted your time? If you weren't going to go and they said they would meet you there which made you change your mind, then that's slightly different. But even so you may still meet someone else, so still haven't wasted your time. Unless your the sort of couple who only goes to clubs when you have a guaranteed meet arranged? As I said before, think your definition of the word is far too broad. " are you for real it doesn't matter if it a club meet or not if you contact someone saying they would like to meet you and they say they will meet you and don't turn up they are a time wasters because they was the one that contacted me for them to meet us so if they don't turn up then again time wasters so get your head out of your ass | |||
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