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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Fab is creaking to the gills with people merrily filling their boots with playful sex with strangers. But beneath the cum soaked veneer there are another group of sexual deviants and swingers struggling to find like minds. I'm talking about those who are seeking friends with benefits, polyamorous lovers, and swinging relationships. It would be truly wonderful to create a space where these relationships might form, where swingers might seek to date, whilst poly people seek out more amorous connections, and others advertise for sexual friendships.

Please could we have a space in the forums for facilitating such connections?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Could we pretty please with sprinkles on top?

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By *rolley DollyWoman over a year ago

Brilliant idea

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

Actually I really like this idea too!

Much harder to find an fwb than it is to find a one-off shag! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Same for us, much more rewarding establishing a long term relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What a brilliant idea bring it on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fab is creaking to the gills with people merrily filling their boots with playful sex with strangers. But beneath the cum soaked veneer there are another group of sexual deviants and swingers struggling to find like minds. I'm talking about those who are seeking friends with benefits, polyamorous lovers, and swinging relationships. It would be truly wonderful to create a space where these relationships might form, where swingers might seek to date, whilst poly people seek out more amorous connections, and others advertise for sexual friendships.

Please could we have a space in the forums for facilitating such connections?

I'm just at the start of a journey exactly like the one you're looking for - I'd like to understand more and be able to share with others experiences and pitfalls, worries and adventures - of course there is no rule book to a poly relationship as everyone is different but a place to share and understand each other would be great!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Add us to the want list too. We lean more toward the long term side of things. Would be good to have that as an option.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Excellent idea, I'd like to find a. Nice. Lady, broadminded, for Ltr, polyamourous, relationship, vanilla his not for all, but hard to find, non vanilla.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A sound idea as we too lean more to the one or two regular meeting of mind's and bodies.

We think a section of this type would be well served and used as when you read profiles lately there are a greater number looking for that small circle of like minded people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Brilliant idea

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Sound's a great idea!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We would definitely appreciate this

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By *unguya2zMan over a year ago

coventry..ish

Great idea.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So glad to see some support for this. Whether it's searching for friendship or love (be it poly or swinging), surely, regardless of how many express the desire for such a forum on this thread, this is just a facet of swinging life Fab should cater for

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By *llNatural36FWoman over a year ago

Denbighshire

Ideally long term suits me and I think it's a great suggestion. Well thought OP and hopefully it will happen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yup we are in too. Feel very out of fab mainstream sometimes as we want long term not just stranger sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is exactly what I'm looking for. It's hard going but hopefully heading in right direction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love this idea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We would definitely appreciate this"

I'm in Lincolnshire....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd also welcome this. Hubby and I have recently opened our relationship but casual isn't really my thing. Looking for kinky play partners primarily based on friendship and possibly dating but the poly forums on the Fetish Lifestyle website we are on are really off-putting. A slightly friendlier forum would be appreciated

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By *obbie BelleTV/TS over a year ago

Preston, Lancaster, Blackpool

Absolutely, in fact asobloodylutely.

That upset the predictive text. LOL

Stranger sex is wonderful, but building trust, playing in a way to try and please a partner totally, takes time and care.

I'm in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Please could we have a space in the forums for facilitating such connections?

Fabulous post OP, love it

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By *ucyfur77Woman over a year ago

Pleasuretown

Please could we have a space in the forums for facilitating such connections?

Count me in, please

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By *eek12Man over a year ago

lakenheath

Put my name on the list!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Put my name on the list!

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mine too

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

So, admin - there seems to be a lot of demand for this! Can we have it please??

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By *unguya2zMan over a year ago

coventry..ish

"So, admin - there seems to be a lot of demand for this! Can we have it please??

Don't hold your breath

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By *CoupleCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

Great idea, longer term is what we look for, but difficult to find. Any way to encourage this would get our vote.

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple over a year ago

East Mids

We are also fans of this idea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also in agreement, fairly new on here but would like to find someone more long term for an array of advantages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I hope this excellent idea goes through. Time for a fab petition

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This has my name written all over it...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love a social friendship where when the moments right we all get sexual,even socialising with there friends and family great to have a naughty secret.

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By *ka-sammi_n_danCouple over a year ago

nantwich

Looking for a male to join us sexually and long term as potential poly! But also couples as friends to go out with and help make the vanilla world more bearable!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Interested

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman over a year ago

Please could we have a space in the forums for facilitating such connections?

Perfect

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Read my mind. Think this would prove popular. Fingers firmly crossed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Count me in too xx

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By *igDick4LittleSlutCouple over a year ago

Newport Isle of Wight

We are also looking for a special woman for possible 3 way relationship would be great to talk to people open to the idea

Miss T

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By *otdogmark2Man over a year ago

Manchester

Love this idea I think its far more fun and relaxed with people who I meet several times

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

This thread has been running a while now and all feedback has been positive!

So admin - any chance of commenting on the thread and letting us know the chances of it happening?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Count me in! I'd love to have a long term partner to play with and explore this world with.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Please fab can we have this?! It would be great!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Our ideal arrangement is that one couple that become our fwbs all 4 of us. But everyone else's profiles that want this are all too far away for us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It would a good addition to fab profile indeed.

I don't meet one offs at all...if i think it is then it's a no thank you and yes there have been a few no thank yous. I have a couple friends I meet regularly with and just rrecently lost one over trust issues.

It's very worth while and much more satisfying than clocking up veris with single meets that ofyen leave you a bit blah as there's so much more to explore with someone than a few hrs meet.

There are a few looking for this type of partnership but some find it hard to share once into it properly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Count me in! I'd love to have a long term partner to play with and explore this world with. "

correct me if I'm wrong but would what you're looking for be more of a couples swinging profile then? Not so much polyamorous.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Count me in! I'd love to have a long term partner to play with and explore this world with.

correct me if I'm wrong but would what you're looking for be more of a couples swinging profile then? Not so much polyamorous."

Yes sorry I misunderstood the title of the chat thread then I thought it was both! Not that I'm against polyamorous, but not something I have experienced... yet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Count me in! I'd love to have a long term partner to play with and explore this world with.

correct me if I'm wrong but would what you're looking for be more of a couples swinging profile then? Not so much polyamorous.

Yes sorry I misunderstood the title of the chat thread then I thought it was both! Not that I'm against polyamorous, but not something I have experienced... yet. "

Actually you're not wrong about the title. I took it more Polyamorous from the post. Probably all apply to have as options for fab profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Count me in! I'd love to have a long term partner to play with and explore this world with.

correct me if I'm wrong but would what you're looking for be more of a couples swinging profile then? Not so much polyamorous.

Yes sorry I misunderstood the title of the chat thread then I thought it was both! Not that I'm against polyamorous, but not something I have experienced... yet.

Actually you're not wrong about the title. I took it more Polyamorous from the post. Probably all apply to have as options for fab profiles. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just to clarify. The idea is to add a special "swinging relationships" sub section to the forums for people seeking friends with benefits, polyamorous relationships, or other swingers open to dating. It's a simple idea that serves a range of similar needs based around the issue of relationships and affords people the space to connect, share advice on such issues, and generally seek out like minds

I can't see the harm in at least test running it admin. If it takes off it stays. If it doesn't it gets shut down and all the threads get transferred over to the "swinging chat" forum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just to clarify. The idea is to add a special "swinging relationships" sub section to the forums for people seeking friends with benefits, polyamorous relationships, or other swingers open to dating. It's a simple idea that serves a range of similar needs based around the issue of relationships and affords people the space to connect, share advice on such issues, and generally seek out like minds

I can't see the harm in at least test running it admin. If it takes off it stays. If it doesn't it gets shut down and all the threads get transferred over to the "swinging chat" forum "

Second this.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

We joined fan to try and find a lady to join us after we became very friendly with one of H's ex work colleagues but her "we have an open relationship" (I can fuck around, you can go with girls but only with me type open) boyfriend wasn't happy with her coming to us.

Well he's been given the heave ho & we are back in touch after she contacted us to tell us. So we've not been around much on here, we'll see how it goes, all OK so far, though early days yet, still on the F with the WB still to come.

Good luck to those that are looking.

S&H

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great idea, this is just what I want too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is what I'm looking for too!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its about time id definatly support this its exactly what im looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Count me in

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By *yropaulMan over a year ago

norwich

this was one the reasons i orginial joined fab. fingers crossed they do something

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By *ohn321300Man over a year ago

I will be keeping a close eye on this thread as my girfriend and I are interested under the right circumstances. Shame the world is such a closed minded place.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't like one offs as I need a connection in the mind . Meeting the same person allows the trust to build so the sex gets better and boundaries can be pushed .

Yes I would definitely be interested ??

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By *unniebee1970Woman over a year ago

The Hive

Me too. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This would be great!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

what a great idea x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't see the harm in at least test running it admin. If it takes off it stays. If it doesn't it gets shut down and all the threads get transferred over to the "swinging chat" forum "

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By *RH and HRNCouple over a year ago

Carmarthen

We would certainly welcome such a place. . Much prefer a regular playmate for HRN. .

Polyamourous relationships are hard to come by xxx

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

As a poly person who also enjoys more casual fun this would be most welcome.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

great idea , I would love an FWB simply because as someone mentioned earlier , it strengthens the connection and leads to better sex . win win win

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By *icoleAndLisaTransTV/TS over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Please could we have a space in the forums for facilitating such connections?

I love this idea so much, I could kiss you for it. It'd be great to find something regular with someone proven. The combination of no shows and poor performers really takes the fun out of just taking pot luck all the time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would really like this x

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

So after five weeks, every everyone loves the idea - but admin still haven't even bothered to come on and comment!

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By *amdenfunMan over a year ago

London

Always thought it's more of a continuum between swinging, open relationships and polyamory, and we too have considered polyamory - so yes, we, too, think this is a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great idea it's what I'm look for to x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Great idea it's what I'm look for to x"

so am I xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would date a swinger

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By *entadreadMan over a year ago

Essex

"This is exactly what I'm looking for. It's hard going but hopefully heading in right direction."

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By *entadreadMan over a year ago

Essex

"Me too. X"
I like your mind,

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By *iggerd69Man over a year ago

wherever you are

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By *oreFunForAllCouple over a year ago

Dumstable

We would like this

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By *Carver-Man over a year ago

Glasgow

Seconding this!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love this thread...... so many like minded people. Polly and Swinging are not mutually exclusive..... Please Fab, give it a try!

And if it proves as popular as we all think then add it to the "looking for" or "interests" options on profiles....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I think this thread has shown that swingers looking for a relationship, those looking for friends with benefits, and those of a polyamorous persuasion, make for a natural mix of people with quite similar needs, outlooks, and probably overlapping advice and experience. It's this common ground that suggests a forum for this "relationships" approach to swinging would be highly successful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think this thread has shown that swingers looking for a relationship, those looking for friends with benefits, and those of a polyamorous persuasion, make for a natural mix of people with quite similar needs, outlooks, and probably overlapping advice and experience. It's this common ground that suggests a forum for this "relationships" approach to swinging would be highly successful"

Nicely summed up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

having done this a couple of times now , I agree this is a bloody good idea

let's get this started erm somehow lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just to be an alternative point of view: isn't this idea why we have the ability to put our preferences on our profiles? Where we write what we are looking for and what we enjoy?

Several times now people I've been chatting away with suddenly spring in that they want me to be exclusive to them- with no warning or prior indications that this is what they're looking for!

Equally that social time before or after fun where you're sharing a drink is ideal for discussing how things could work going forward: with the caveat that the other parties might GOSH OMG! lie under pressure.

Isn't this idea just another label? Much like the is he bi? Bi-curious? Orally-bi? Bi-playful? Who cares!!

Sorry for getting all serious. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just to be an alternative point of view: isn't this idea why we have the ability to put our preferences on our profiles? Where we write what we are looking for and what we enjoy?

Several times now people I've been chatting away with suddenly spring in that they want me to be exclusive to them- with no warning or prior indications that this is what they're looking for!

Isn't this idea just another label? Much like the is he bi? Bi-curious? Orally-bi? Bi-playful? Who cares!!

Sorry for getting all serious. Lol"

A searchable "looking for an unconventional relationship" flag would be great as it would help you find like minds. However, people don't usually make friends by being contacted by a stranger who wants to be their friend. Instead, they just get chatting and discover they get on. We see this happening in the forums all the time. But it's unfocused friendships between swingers. The benefit of having a forum for more intimate relationships is that you know the people posting there are looking for more than just a forum friendship. As such, it would be an excellent place to start "seeking someone special" threads, something that often seems a bit incongruous on the other forums.

Does that help explain it better?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love the idea of this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh I get your intention, but a good profile should get the attention of the right people. Unless you're a bloke in which case you'll have to do most of the running. If a couples profile indicates what they're looking for, the viewer can identify if they're of interest.

I'm just offering a simpler, ready made solution which I'm sure most people already employ. Putting another cog or an alternative cog into the process of exploration/relationship building just complicates matters.

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By *issBiWoman over a year ago

Bournemouth

Absolutely Fabulous, Fabswingers, bring it on xx Pretty please

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By *icker2010Man over a year ago

cambs/london/Norfolk

"So glad to see some support for this. Whether it's searching for friendship or love (be it poly or swinging), surely, regardless of how many express the desire for such a forum on this thread, this is just a facet of swinging life Fab should cater for

Totally agree with the sentiment expressed here the poly /Libertines lifestyle is the Natural extension to the sexual journey many of us here are on. Of course full on orgies are great mostly but sharing intimacy with a group of like minded friends and lovers is the pinnacle in my opinion. Those lucky enough to have the that really are living the dream...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Oh I get your intention, but a good profile should get the attention of the right people. Unless you're a bloke in which case you'll have to do most of the running. If a couples profile indicates what they're looking for, the viewer can identify if they're of interest.

Creating a conversational space for groups of like minds to bubble up relationships with each other is far from "adding another cog that complicates things". Are the current forums cogs that complicate things? No. They build community and friendships in ways that wouldn't happen if we were all forced to chat separately with each other via our profiles as you are suggesting.

A "relationship" forum would offer the same community and cross pollination, except for people who are seeking more of a connection with their playmates than is the norm on the other forums. It may also help counter Fab's prevailing nsa culture, giving those who are looking for a little more connection a place to hang out and grow their quite different culture.

There are forums for things like politics for crying out loud. Talk about an unnecessary extra cog. This forum idea is not only far more relevant. It covers a current poly/dating blindspot which Fab has.

Don't deconstruct the idea just because it's fun to try and poke holes in it. It has evoked keen support from everyone else who's posted on this thread precisely because it promises a really easy to implement solution to a common issue

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes please. Me too x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great idea. We'd be interested. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Let's get this on fab asap please admin

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

I hope this is not inappropriate. If anyone in or around London is interested in poly social meets....I organise the largest and most long running one. Please PM for details.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What a great idea hope it get noticed and sorted out we are thinking about poly relationship looking to start with a single bi guy but hard to find someone that wants the same

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By *aveandkate35Couple over a year ago

telford

Great idea. Kate and I have discussed bringing in others to our relationship, male, and we are open to it. It's not something we actively look for but if it happens will embrace it.

Would be great to have a forum on it on here. However, the request for a cuckold forum got to 3 filled threads and still hasn't happened, which is a shame because, again, the folks on fab are a damn diverse bunch!!

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By *ka-sammi_n_danCouple over a year ago

nantwich

Still hunting for our male ??

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By *inky KatzCouple over a year ago

Scotland

We also like this idea as we are looking for a special single male who my Mrs can have a second relationship with as she wants a second bf

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By *econdtryWoman over a year ago

Warwick

Yes please!

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By *aznlouCouple over a year ago

co durham

We've just been talking about this kind of thing too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This sounds like a great idea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

why can't you ask who ever u talking or shagging to if they are interested y do u have to wait for chat rooms lol #my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Please could we have a space in the forums for facilitating such connections?

I think I'd like this place.

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

Wasn't there a fabdating site?

No one seemed to be on it, and seems to have dropped off the Web.

But it seems that it would have been what everyone here says they want.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wasn't there a fabdating site?

No one seemed to be on it, and seems to have dropped off the Web.

But it seems that it would have been what everyone here says they want. "

Now I think about it.. I'd imagine most of us are quite capable of spotting one another amongst the crowd.

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By *ast_jjMan over a year ago

Dublin and London

As a starting point while waiting for admin to decide,you could post a topic in the forum and start from there. Not a permanent solution I know,but it's a start. .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a starting point while waiting for admin to decide,you could post a topic in the forum and start from there. Not a permanent solution I know,but it's a start. ."

Each week bump the subject. Those interest will see likeminded people in the post and can get in touch if interested to chat further about the possibilities.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Happily married and both happily playing with others out in the open with no lies or secrets and it's never been better. Love this lifestyle and it's made us stronger.

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

"Wasn't there a fabdating site?

No one seemed to be on it, and seems to have dropped off the Web.

But it seems that it would have been what everyone here says they want.

Now I think about it.. I'd imagine most of us are quite capable of spotting one another amongst the crowd."

Fab is generally about finding friends for fun, not partners for poly relationships.

So not everyone is looking, not everyone is listing that option.

On the fabdating site

couples could look for thirds, etc. For a more long-term relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Please could we have a space in the forums for facilitating such connections?

I woukd welcome something like this

Although no interest in a relationship I am looking for a Fwb

And it's not easy finding someone who genuinely wants the same

So come on fab, pull your finger out and let's see if you could pull this one off

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By *entle giraffeMan over a year ago

Minehead

Yes please

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By *ANMANMan over a year ago

plymouth

Count me in, social side, FWB & a polly relationship are what a lot of people are looking for.

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

Don't see why you need a separate section. I've had two long term poly relationships ( over a year) from Fab.

I'm currrntly seeing a young guy from here and we both have agreed to an open relationship. I've had fab friends that I've known for years that I still play with from time to time.

If you put in the effort you'll find the right people to have the poly relationship with.

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By *eterbeebeeMan over a year ago

Derby

Wonderful idea! I've been looking for this for over 10 years with no luck or response to enquiries!!

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By *BWandhusbandCouple over a year ago

Midlands

It's something we're looking for in the future. We want a guy to be exclusive though, so it's a lot to ask.

One day. No rush.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm so on board! There better be some great, eligible cucks!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm always looking for a regular playmate but it seems hard as no one local to me is reliable

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By *uriousityjaneWoman over a year ago

Northampton

I think it's a great idea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great but hard to find unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Great but hard to find unfortunately

Hard to find because...

1) There isn't a space for it on this site and, as such, few people acknowledge on their profiles that they're open to this, lest they put swingers off meeting them

2) It requires an element of getting a feel for someone's character that doesn't really work well via messaging on here because, by just wanting to chat, you come across as a timewaster or fake

Someone mentioned earlier that they couldn't see why it needed to be a separate forum. For many it would be a welcome relief to have such a forum as it would mean A) they're not weird and unwelcome B) there are others like them C) there is a place they can finally go to specifically to search for and develop friendships and relationships.

Another bdsm related site has polyamorous user groups and there are various other polyamorous communities on the web. There are clearly some polyamorous people on Fab but they tend to hide in the shadows as there is no space for them to gather. Plus, the site seems overly focused on nsa sex, to the detriment of those seeking friends with benefits. Thus a space for friendships and poly relationships would serve two purposes. Finally, it's clear that, contrary to most swingers who would rather not form emotional ties, there is a sizeable community of singles on here who are open to finding love. Put all these minority groups together and you've actually got quite a large sub culture on here that might benefit greatly from coming out into the light, something specialised forums are perfect for doing.

Let's hope someone up there is reading all these posts and nodding their head

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think this would also help people who are in mono/poly relationships (as we are) as it will give them perspectives and an outlet to ask other couples questions that they not be able to ask their partner??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's a meet up group but not been brave enough to go to a meeting

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

8 weeks of positive comments to the suggestion yet admin still haven't bothered to even comment, let alone investigate or implement!

Impressive!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Excellent idea us please on list op. X

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By *ivedancerMan over a year ago

Horsham

Count me in for the Seeking Poly / Ethical Non Monogamous . Relationship forum. Im currently part of a wonderful V and the chance of meeting new friends or potential lover who are party/club friendly would be lovely as well .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We'd love to find other couples that might like to share any combination of 2/3/4 way mix ups on a semi regular basis. If that's you say hi

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By *entle giraffeMan over a year ago

Minehead

"Great but hard to find unfortunately

Hard to find because...

1) There isn't a space for it on this site and, as such, few people acknowledge on their profiles that they're open to this, lest they put swingers off meeting them

2) It requires an element of getting a feel for someone's character that doesn't really work well via messaging on here because, by just wanting to chat, you come across as a timewaster or fake

Let's hope someone up there is reading all these posts and nodding their head

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Great idea!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds like a decent idea to me x

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By *ink and inkedCouple over a year ago

Essex

Great idea ! We would love a poly relationship with a guy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh yes please. Stranger sex can be awkward I'm definitely looking for regular sexy, pushing my boundaries relationships .... couples and females yummy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't see why you need a separate section. I've had two long term poly relationships ( over a year) from Fab.

I'm currrntly seeing a young guy from here and we both have agreed to an open relationship. I've had fab friends that I've known for years that I still play with from time to time.

If you put in the effort you'll find the right people to have the poly relationship with.

Wow your lucky (unless I'm just a minger lol) not one decent prospect local to me yet!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't like one offs as I need a connection in the mind . Meeting the same person allows the trust to build so the sex gets better and boundaries can be pushed .

Yes I would definitely be interested ??"

Totally agree. I'm lucky that I've got this at the moment. But would be interested in the forum anyway. I've been meeting someone regularly for a few months and some swinging friends frown upon it. They think there's more to it, ie

which isn't the case, for me it's so important to have a connection and build trust. Getting to know each others' needs and desires obviously results in better sex.

I think it would be good to be able to discuss pros & cons of such relationships without having people reply 'this is swinging not dating' etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am married for 8 year now and I'm also am in a d/s - dd/lg relationship since may its been going amazing we even went Trafford center on a 3 way date. That was so much fun kissing both and holding hands. I'm not sure if you class that as poly but I do like having my hubby and my lover is amazing.

I hope you all get what you want I know after this I will never go back to monogamous relationships

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive been looking for a proper poly relationship for years. Doubt I will ever find it on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel the same way as you. This is exactly what I would like. We wouldn't be on here unless we were highly sexual and wanted to meet like-minded people and I agree, for me, knowing someone better makes for a better sexual connection. I totally get that sex can be very hot with strangers, I just prefer what you describe. I couldn't have put it better!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't like one offs as I need a connection in the mind . Meeting the same person allows the trust to build so the sex gets better and boundaries can be pushed .

Yes I would definitely be interested ??

which isn't the case, for me it's so important to have a connection and build trust. Getting to know each others' needs and desires obviously results in better sex.

I think it would be good to be able to discuss pros & cons of such relationships without having people reply 'this is swinging not dating' etc etc. "

oops - my above message was supposed to reply to you! I'm a forum newbie

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By *exsibonCouple over a year ago

Winchester and Brussels

Please could we have a space in the forums for facilitating such connections?

Apologies for the tardiness but we've only just come across your post. It very much reflects our thoughts and so we would wholeheartedly support your suggestion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not one of those filling my boots...

If you don't get inside my mind make me tingle at the very thought of you and make us both want to share more than just friction then

What's the point...

Fb of fwb who I could share time thoughts hopes dreams and time with...who understands me and who makes me smile at the very thought of them... I'm in...

But maybe it may take a while...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love to meet a decent poly couple that we could meet regular too

Yes very hard to find

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not one of those filling my boots...

If you don't get inside my mind make me tingle at the very thought of you and make us both want to share more than just friction then

What's the point...

Fb of fwb who I could share time thoughts hopes dreams and time with...who understands me and who makes me smile at the very thought of them... I'm in...

But maybe it may take a while..."

Fuck the mind before my body

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

"Love to meet a decent poly couple that we could meet regular too

Yes very hard to find"

The media presents poly as MF couples looking for a third.

When in reality there are many ways of doing poly of which that is just one....and certainly not the most common.

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By *N_FunMan over a year ago

Swindon

I tend to lurk in the forum's but this subject struck a chord with me - I'm very much of the opinion that the better you know someone outside of sex the better the sex..I've been looking for a 'friend with benefit' for awhile now, the suggestions here may well help that process, if the suggestions are acted on that is.

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By *oreFunForAllCouple over a year ago

Dumstable

As it doesn't look like there is going to be a forum section for this, it might be best if people start asking their questions with a suitable topic title in the main forum.

I'd like to say that we are a pretty secure and happy Poly MFF so if we can contribute we will

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"8 weeks of positive comments to the suggestion yet admin still haven't bothered to even comment, let alone investigate or implement!

Impressive!

They're too busy admiring the view from the top of their ivory tower...

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

I've mentioned before that I organise London's biggest and longest standing poly social meets as well as an annual conference. Do feel free to PM me for more info.

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

"I've mentioned before that I organise London's biggest and longest standing poly social meets as well as an annual conference. Do feel free to PM me for more info."

An anuual conference for poly relationships? How do you secure a venue for that?

We've had trouble getting venues for fab socials at times and even when the venues are kept secret until the day they can still be sabotaged by someone calling them. It's happened on several occasions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally in agreement.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

In the absence of a specific 'room' we could do one of those ongoing threads

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By *uck4youMan over a year ago

Amsterdam/London

Could we have a sub category for cuckolds too... No pun intended!

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By *hiterabbit6Couple over a year ago

Sexytown, Moray

I would also be very interested in this and have put several threads over time in the London forums...

Rabbit x

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

"I've mentioned before that I organise London's biggest and longest standing poly social meets as well as an annual conference. Do feel free to PM me for more info.

An anuual conference for poly relationships? How do you secure a venue for that?

We are upfront about the nature of the conference so the venues have the chance to say "no". In fact the biggest problem is cost, a decent (but modest) community centre south of the river is into four figures four figures. Since our requirements are several rooms, basic catering facilities, 250 chairs, facilities such as PA and projectors and a couple of caretakers on hand....we need to be totally upfront about what we're doing.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

As for poly and non-monogamy socials, the ones I organise are in a Wetherspoons pub and a Stsrbucks coffee shop. The 'spoons meet has been going for years without a hitch while the Starbucks manager is curious about poly himself. We don't keep it a secret, and if course it's not like we are having sex on the tables.

Other socials I have attended have been in pubs. The kink scene sometimes uses gay bars for munches as they tend to be very open to such meetings.

Tonight 70 people have RSVP's for the poly social I organise at a 'spoons. The pub emailed yesterday to check we're coming and to ask about numbers. It's quite simple really

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What an amazing idea

I'd love to find a couple or female for exactly this arrangement. Any near me?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Big

from me about this idea.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In the absence of a specific 'room' we could do one of those ongoing threads

Yeah cracking idea

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By *entle giraffeMan over a year ago

Minehead

"In the absence of a specific 'room' we could do one of those ongoing threads

Yeah cracking idea"

Let's do it then

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By *entle giraffeMan over a year ago

Minehead

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not put on your status FWB wanted?

I posted boyfriend wanted NSA.I got plenty of offers.

But luckily someone I knew wanted a FWB so we decided to give it a go. And we are both happy with it.

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By *heartsasoneCouple over a year ago

outside of plymouth

Poly and FWB is always good we find there is a better connection and also someone to turn to if either of us is away. Would love to find a another lovely lady to join us in a poly relationship

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Amazed at such a big response to this. We would be very interested. As soon as we say we are looking for friends first, and not a one off shag, we get classed as lightweights and not proper swingers. We can play very hard, but just want to do so regularly with one couple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol

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By *inkyDragonsCouple over a year ago

Ammanford

This is a great idea & something we'd very much support..

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By *adein68Man over a year ago

Basingstoke

Brilliant idea, hard to find and a search would be great.

Poly and bi

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By *inkerbelleWoman over a year ago

Manchester

I'm in an open poly relationship and would love to meet other people like us xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We would love this!

Did have a fwb for a few years but since he left the scene to get married we struggled to find another

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By *reman6976Man over a year ago

Deeping St James

Great idea! As has been mentioned it is much harder to find a fwb than a one-off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are still open to the idea of a tri relationship. Certainly willing to give it a go, see if we gel with someone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just bumping this thread

Still very interested if anyone is local to me

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By *he witch returnsWoman over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow in SW Devon

Someone has voiced my thought. Yes please.

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By *ndieCPL2016Couple over a year ago

Aberdeen

Good one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It can be a minefield of misunderstandings within early communications so I agree this needs to be a thing

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By *ay and DeborahCouple over a year ago

Co. Down

This is a great idea...something we would be interested in. Most baulk at the idea of regular friendships, as they see fab as strictly nsa sex....so its very refreshing to see this thread...big thumbs up from us!

Debs x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm currently seeing two guys we all meet together and separately if we meet others then we have the courtesy to tell each other first. Works well for us and they both have a key x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Glad this is still alive...23 weeks later. Sad that neither admin nor mods have acknowledged the genuine sincere interest expressed by a wide range of people across the country.

Come on Admin... Have a butchers at this idea please.

In the mean time guys maybe look through those on here and maybe make contact with someone nearby and see what transpires. Im in one but they didn't come from FAB... Was another site i use.

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