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Delete unverified profiles after 1 month

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Lots of profiles of people who've never met even after a year or more. If not verified Then should be deleted as not really contributing to the ethos of swinging and it's in all our interest to uphold a certain swinging standard at a minimum of being genuine.

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By *ilmisseCouple over a year ago

leicestershire

"Lots of profiles of people who've never met even after a year or more. If not verified Then should be deleted as not really contributing to the ethos of swinging and it's in all our interest to uphold a certain swinging standard at a minimum of being genuine."

The "ethos" of swinging has nothing to do with being verified or not verified on an internet site. If you don't like unverified profiles, don't look at them, speak to them and block them. easy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or you could just ignore them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

The premise being that an unverified profile who does not meet more often than not is a timewster unless they state they do not meet

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
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My Own Little World

You don't need to meet or get verified to use Fab, you can use it how ever you wish (within the rules) and that is what I like about it.

Some people only use the forums or chat rooms, great.

Others like putting up pics for others to view, why not.

But to delete their profile because of it? Seems a bit extreme when you can ignore that aren't veried or search for those that are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

utter rubbish.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I totally agree with the first post, I think that profiles that haven't had some enough form of verification within a reasonable time frame should be suspended & removed from searches.

For those that want to just chat & not meet there is the photo verification route, it takes 5 minutes to do your photo tops & 95% of people will have camera equipped phones, not to mention the other options like webcams, tablets, digital cameras so there isn't much excuse not to do one.

Is not about ruining it for anyone to me it's just giving the site extra credibility in that it is the go to site for genuine people.

Gets a thumbs up from me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I totally agree with the first post, I think that profiles that haven't had some enough form of verification within a reasonable time frame should be suspended & removed from searches.

Is not about ruining it for anyone to me it's just giving the site extra credibility in that it is the go to site for genuine people.

Gets a thumbs up from me.

how about not having a verification after 2 years?- would that be fair? after all...you might not be as described from the past...

can you see the illogical nature of booting people off the site because they arent meeting?- if they claim to be looking for meets and arrange to meet someone and dont show, that is what the reporting feature is for.

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By *rHornyGentMan over a year ago

South East London

"I totally agree with the first post, I think that profiles that haven't had some enough form of verification within a reasonable time frame should be suspended & removed from searches.

Is not about ruining it for anyone to me it's just giving the site extra credibility in that it is the go to site for genuine people.

Gets a thumbs up from me.

how about not having a verification after 2 years?- would that be fair? after all...you might not be as described from the past...

2 years ago - kick him off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I totally agree with the first post, I think that profiles that haven't had some enough form of verification within a reasonable time frame should be suspended & removed from searches.

Is not about ruining it for anyone to me it's just giving the site extra credibility in that it is the go to site for genuine people.

Gets a thumbs up from me.

how about not having a verification after 2 years?- would that be fair? after all...you might not be as described from the past...

2 years ago - kick him off

one must never shoot oneself in the testicle when posting things

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Veris, in my opinion, are not a means of identifying genuine people or not, for many reasons. However, I think that it would be useful if the people who only joined to 'have a look' and never logged in again since should be deleted and there should be a time-limit set that after being inactive for say, 6 months, the profile also deleted.

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By *tmmCouple over a year ago

harlow

I see where you're coming from my our old profile we lost the password and email and couldn't log in. When we came back with new profile it was over a month before we got veri'd again so under your ruling we'd be booted.

Also been 2yrs since our last veri as we haven't been meeting (trying for a family) but been on here chatting etc.

Just block and move on because it's another way to punish the decent ones with the indecents actions.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

What in your opinion is the ethos of swinging?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What a load of mince.. i will choose when i want to meet and if i want to be verified, there are filters why dont you use them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The ethos of swinging is swinging not obtaining verifications.

Fab is used in many ways not necessarily requiring the obtaining of verifications.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

the 'ethos of swinging' and what is that exactly ??? seems many on here have differing views as to what swinging is.....many wouldn't class a single man as a swinger, nor a single lady..... couples that always meet seperately and never together - isnt that an open rel more than swinging ?? just ignor those you dont like the look of, and interact with those you do !! simples

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think I'll run my profile how I like.

I think you should run your profile how you like.

That's about it really.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Set filters and block... Simple to do OP!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's not about a verification from result of a meet...it's about a verification they are genuine and photo verified ... if not photo verified within a month delete their profile and the verified photo should as is asked for couples have name and picture of person. This will help stop or at least prevent fake profile from men pretending to be women and couples.

The ethos of swinging is about being genuine... many of us are, a minority are not!

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By *G CoupleCouple over a year ago

kent

Some people are not on here to arrange meets or care about verifications.

The site is a good way for us to keep in contact with people we have met in the big wide world who share a similar interest.

Which I guess would make us unwelcome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a single guy, I have had more meets than those shown as verifications. Many women just don't verify even after a play meet.

I would have found myself with several meets under my belt, still unverified after 1 month and under your proposal would have been deleted.

Many couples meet by approaching guys direct and don't seek or give verifications. They too would face extinction under this proposal.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not about a verification from result of a meet...it's about a verification they are genuine and photo verified ... if not photo verified within a month delete their profile and the verified photo should as is asked for couples have name and picture of person. This will help stop or at least prevent fake profile from men pretending to be women and couples.

The ethos of swinging is about being genuine... many of us are, a minority are not!"

photo verification is a piece of piss to fake...doesn't prove anything and is so ultimately pointless, we don't know anyone who even looks to see if anyone is photo verified...

How do they affect your experience? you can filter unverified out of searches and messaging...if they've faked a pic veri, they can get round your filter...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The ethos of swinging is about being genuine... many of us are, a minority are not!"

The ethos of swinging is each to their own in a tolerant, respectful and inclusive manner.

How people wish to use this site, as long as it is with tolerance and within the rules, is up to them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What total tosh, just because someone is verified it doesn't guarantee that they are genuine.

People should be allowed as long or as little time to arrange a meeting as they want, it's not up to you to dictate how they should live their life and tell them they must have a meet within 31 days or under.

You don't want to meet unverified people, block them on the search filters.

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By *andiceCoolWoman over a year ago

oldham

I don't want people who have pics on here thst are black and white, have their faces covered with pink hearts or blue areas so i can't see what they look like. Nor do u want to see pics of women with a riding crop against their backside. I know. If they still have them on their page after 30 days, because let's not forget, not every month has 30 days in it, then i want admin to remove their profile as it's a swinging site, not a picture site.

See how pathetic your post is OP?.

I signed up to use this site how i see fit. Not for somebidy else to tell me how it should be used.

Rant over!.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldnt say 1 month. Maybe 6.

Its difficult for some people to get meets, even social ones.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldnt say 1 month. Maybe 6.

Its difficult for some people to get meets, even social ones."

Why does anyone have to be deleted, like you said it can be hard for some people so because they cant get a verification they should have to leave?? People ought to concentrate on their own time on fab and stop worrying about others

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldnt say 1 month. Maybe 6.

Its difficult for some people to get meets, even social ones.

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By *ewryswingerMan over a year ago

newry

I have been on here for 8 months and struggled to get the one veri that I have. Should I be deleted even though I am trying?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The premise being that an unverified profile who does not meet more often than not is a timewster unless they state they do not meet"

conveneiently ignoring th self licking lollipop effect of the ' don't meet unless you are verified' types ...

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By *hynot5642Man over a year ago

Southampton

Just because somebody is not verified dose not mean the have not met, seeing the person they have met has to be verified before they can verify somebody. So if you meet with unverified people you would never get verified. Also not evrrybody verifies who they meet and some ask not to be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How do you know they're not meeting every week?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldnt say 1 month. Maybe 6.

Its difficult for some people to get meets, even social ones.

Hear hear.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldnt say 1 month. Maybe 6.

Its difficult for some people to get meets, even social ones.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple over a year ago

luton

I actually tend to agree with you . It would get rid of many time wasters .or hike up thier subscription prices , or only allow them access where they can find information on what socials they could go to if they are genuine on wanting to get into the swinging scene ,that's how we got started went to a social and met some very nice people , help out those looking for a quick thrill , they can find that on free porn sights

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By *SPrincessWoman over a year ago

Nowhere near you

"I actually tend to agree with you . It would get rid of many time wasters .or hike up thier subscription prices , or only allow them access where they can find information on what socials they could go to if they are genuine on wanting to get into the swinging scene ,that's how we got started went to a social and met some very nice people , help out those looking for a quick thrill , they can find that on free porn sights

No it wouldn't, it would just encourage more people to get fake verifications. Set up a profile, get a cam veri, set up multiple other profiles which you can then verify yourself. I've seen it on here before, and have been offered verifications from men I've never met many times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Use the filters provided. Being verified and photo verified does mean that they will not be a timewaster to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can you define a timewaster please?

Once I understand your benchmark I'll be able to provide a more structured response.

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The premise being that an unverified profile who does not meet more often than not is a timewster unless they state they do not meet"

And if you block unverified profiles they cannot waste your time.....that's why the site has such tools!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You don't need to meet or get verified to use Fab, you can use it how ever you wish (within the rules) and that is what I like about it.

Some people only use the forums or chat rooms, great.

Others like putting up pics for others to view, why not.

But to delete their profile because of it? Seems a bit extreme when you can ignore that aren't veried or search for those that are."

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't want people who have pics on here thst are black and white, have their faces covered with pink hearts or blue areas so i can't see what they look like. Nor do u want to see pics of women with a riding crop against their backside. I know. If they still have them on their page after 30 days, because let's not forget, not every month has 30 days in it, then i want admin to remove their profile as it's a swinging site, not a picture site.

See how pathetic your post is OP?.

I signed up to use this site how i see fit. Not for somebidy else to tell me how it should be used.

Rant over!."

I completely agree.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

is this the point of swinging, everyone has different tastes and takes on it, the same as this site!

what one is okay with, another gets turned off, swinging like the world in general is not perfect.

Some like to have lots of verification up, others like to be more quiet.

I have been here for a short time and straight away have myself photo verified as I have nothing to hide.

It is all down to individuals.

If your not happy, then use the filters or just ignore them.

Do you watch a TV program you hate or do you turn the channel over?

Do you eat food you dislike or have something else?

If you do not like those without verification, ignore them and go to one that has!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We're photo verified, on our old account we were meet verified!!

We didn't struggle finding a Fem before we got verified, we actually enjoy talking to shadows it adds to the fun!!

We've also found it really easy to find if peeps are real through chat, then Skype/call once weve been speaking for a bit...

We don't wanna read 20 verifications and know how somones gonna fuck us... not knowing adds to the fun for us xx

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple over a year ago

luton

That's Facebook not fab lol

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple over a year ago

luton

Try arranging to meet an unverified guy at hotel or girl or couple , when they don't turn up then add your response

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple over a year ago

luton

Can they afford to keep joining sight ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Try arranging to meet an unverified guy at hotel or girl or couple , when they don't turn up then add your response "

Meet for a social... book a hotel when they turn up or at a later date if everyones happyou to do so. X

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By *SPrincessWoman over a year ago

Nowhere near you

"Try arranging to meet an unverified guy at hotel or girl or couple , when they don't turn up then add your response "

I've met several unverified people. In fact the only person in several years who has stood me up WAS verified. Therefore verifications are pretty meaningless in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

every one what's the best way for a older single male with a high sex drive to get a published verification .

got lD and photos verified but no meets as yet ?

Easy going , approachable and always except boundaries. Graham

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple over a year ago

luton

I would go to a club chat to both male and female halfs of couples ,and you do get single females too . We use site mainly to let people know when we are going to club , we haven't managed many direct meets from sight and have been on seven years , the ones we have met haven't always ended in play . At clubs or socials your bound to bump into someone who you hit it off with ,and have fun anyway you chose on night we prefer mfm but have enjoyed all sorts ??

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

A month. I dont think I even had one after a month when I first ever joined

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Try arranging to meet an unverified guy at hotel or girl or couple , when they don't turn up then add your response "

Not all unverified are timewasters.

Not all timewasters are unverified.

If unverified people is where you have the most difficulty, use your filters to block them and don't arrange to meet them.

The tools are there for you.

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By *lyreelMan over a year ago

King's lynn

What rubbish. I would agree about getting photo verified as that helps to prove peeps are genuine but as for verification from others well that's not fair.

I have 2, they took me a long time to get because I was selective, I do not want to have to go out in the first month to gang bang some fat slag whilst bareback just to get a verification to stop you throwing me out!!

I am into swinging, but it's hard to find the right partners, it's easy for a lady to be a swinger, much harder for the bloke. I think intrinsically that men are all up for swinging but there has to be a female side to it, unless it's a gay thing obviously. Most women seem to want the dream Adonis, pity them, as opposed to genuinely swinging.

So whilst I feel your pain there must be better remedies than removal.

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By *dwalu2Couple over a year ago

Bristol

We got our first veri after 9 months.

Apologies to the ethos of swinging!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Most women seem to want the dream Adonis, pity them, as opposed to genuinely swinging.

Yeah,what are these women thinking,coming on here wanting to fulfill their fantasies.obviosly they don't know that a guy who takes care and pride in his body and appearance couldn't possibly be considered a genuine swinger

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By *maxMan over a year ago

bolton

Utter rubish op.. who are you head of the swinging police

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By *ane dickCouple over a year ago

cardiff

We don't tell the world who and when what we done called discreet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What a load of codswallop.

Can we delete members who keep asking for non verified members to be deleted please? Yawns and goes back to bed.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

Some people dont want to be verified and if you delete after a month,many single men would be penalised immediately.

Why not just avoid unverified profiles?although in my opinion a green tick isnt 100 guarenteed to stop people wasting time etc.

Miss

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By *ougar_n_TILFCouple over a year ago

Burton on Trent

I think that people who haven't learned to use the free search and message filters after a month should be deleted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think that people who haven't learned to use the free search and message filters after a month should be deleted. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who are you to define how often someone should be meeting?

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

What's this mythical swinging standard?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's this mythical swinging standard? "

BS6969 a rare quoted British Standard which was replaced by EN DAWAY1 when European Standards replaced good old British ones.....I expect more prevalence of BS6969 once Article 51 is enabled....

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By *ouple LearningCouple over a year ago

Coventry

We met someone in a cinema. He ask if we are on fab. We have chatted a bit since I gave him a verification he didn't return. So over 3 months between veris. Do we get kicked out because not every one we meet gives us a verification.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

I give not a shit about verifications. I generally don't give them and I don't want them. Why does the way I conduct myself anyone's business but mine?

If you don't like the profile, move on to the next one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If someone is unverified after a time and the site deletes them they can just start up another profile anyway so what's the point.

I'd say if an account hasn't actually been logged onto in three months or more there may be an argument for it.

But essentially wtf does it matter. If you don't trust unverified profiles move on to something else....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You do know you have the option to block unverified profiles from contacting you right?

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By *ear norwichCouple over a year ago

"Are we there yet"

"The premise being that an unverified profile who does not meet more often than not is a timewster unless they state they do not meet"

Is it dark up there .... It must be dark ... I mean if I was up my own arsehole that far ... I'm guessing I'd need a torch and a piece of twine to find my way out ... ??

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

So much time wasted on how other people run their profiles

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"If someone is unverified after a time and the site deletes them they can just start up another profile anyway so what's the point.

I'd say if an account hasn't actually been logged onto in three months or more there may be an argument for it.

But essentially wtf does it matter. If you don't trust unverified profiles move on to something else....

But sometimes I wander off and don't log in for a while. Why should someone else decide I can't come back?

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By *mmabluTV/TS over a year ago

upton wirral

There is a t girl on here who does not have verifications but she meets quite often.I have met her a few times myself,she does not want them because she says who she meets and what she does is private.

Yes I think this is a bit odd but it proves you cannot enforce this sort of rule in this site.

There are plenty of reasons as others have said why people do not have verifications

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Yes I think this is a bit odd but it proves you cannot enforce this sort of rule in this site.

Why is someone who prefers privacy odd?

I really don't understand the problem. It's a bit like a film review. I wouldn't pay any attention to those either. My taste in films won't be the same as the last reviewer so I'll use my own tiny mind and make it up all by myself.

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By *ellhung198113Man over a year ago

mansfield

I dont see a problem with it mainly as this site is pretty shit and full of fake profiles and people not using it for its intended purpose anyway veri or not real or not its still shit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dont see a problem with it mainly as this site is pretty shit and full of fake profiles and people not using it for its intended purpose anyway veri or not real or not its still shit "

And yet.............

you're still here.

*you couldn't make some of this stuff up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That would be silly, to delete or ban profiles after 1 month, with no verifications. Ive been on here for a few months, never received a verification, and as someone else said, other members dont have verifications, but we are just as important as members without verification, this is supposed to be a community, not singling a group of people out due to a lack of verifications, to even make a claim that they should be deleted or banned is bonkers.

If this becomes a thing, its going to create problems of fake profiles, or the community as a whole becoming smaller and smaller

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I think this is a bit odd but it proves you cannot enforce this sort of rule in this site.

Why is someone who prefers privacy odd?

Have you seen La La Land?

Just wondering if it's worth the ticket price.

Thanks.....

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Yes I think this is a bit odd but it proves you cannot enforce this sort of rule in this site.

Why is someone who prefers privacy odd?

Have you seen La La Land?

Just wondering if it's worth the ticket price.

Thanks.....

You don't have your own tiny mind to make up?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I think this is a bit odd but it proves you cannot enforce this sort of rule in this site.

Why is someone who prefers privacy odd?

Have you seen La La Land?

Just wondering if it's worth the ticket price.

Thanks.....

You don't have your own tiny mind to make up?

Oooooh I see what you did there.........

I was going to confirm that I had knocked one out earlier.

Now no one will know why I typed that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's lot's of correct post's in answer to the original post but the poster has forgot the one simple fact that shows how stupid a idea it would be, it would cost Fabswingers loss of income due to the loss of site hit's, renewals, excreta and i don't there stupid enough to do that.

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By *ozwon2016Man over a year ago

Thats like putting a sell by date on anything.. ambition love hopes dreams... lol

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

I have filtered out, amongst others, unverified profiles. That works for me

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By *ragon-tattMan over a year ago

runcorn

The "ethos" of swinging has nothing to do with being verified or not verified on an internet site. If you don't like unverified profiles, don't look at them, speak to them and block them. easy!"

I only have one vari from nearly a year ago, but that doesn't mean I'm not contributing. I'm not here to fuck anything that moves, im here for the social and tbh, I still chat to people I met the first time round..here and abroad. Does the fact I play internationally mean I contribute more or the fact I don't have vari mean I contribute less? It's not easy being a single bloke on here, yes I understand the need to be verified. It's the same on any website. But to shun because of a lack, that's your choice..to demand deletion as a result..a little harsh tbh..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What a load of rubish veris mean nothin

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

heres an idea

come and verify me

if only to say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is really hard for many to get verified on here. You can't verify someone unless your verified so how can you contribute?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It is really hard for many to get verified on here. You can't verify someone unless your verified so how can you contribute?

Several ways;

Meet someone who is verified.

Go to a club and meet people.

I'm led to believe the management of some clubs will verify you.

Don't let the reason for meeting people be getting verified.

Getting verified frequently changes very little, it's not the key to future success.

Don't obsess about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get the drift of OP is that a method is needed to ensure people are genuine and therefore reliable... verifications prove nothing but a system of sorts is required to ensure no more fake profiles of blokes pretending to be women or couples

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get the drift of OP is that a method is needed to ensure people are genuine and therefore reliable... verifications prove nothing but a system of sorts is required to ensure no more fake profiles of blokes pretending to be women or couples "

But why is it the sites responsibility to do that? we're all grown ups, it's really easy to spot the fakes, dreamers and wannabes...Surely we should take some accountability for ourselves?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What is this the new fascist fab

Why should everyone be subjected to censure being removed having accounts closed to meet the needs of a vocal small minded element of fab who seem to believe that they are somehow more important than other members... and thst anyone who doesn't fit thier preconceptions should be removed forthwith...

Fab is supposed to be a place for all who wish to participate in the way they feel comfortable participating... not the way some other member decrees they should behave

Ffs grow up and don't impose your prejudices on others...

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By *ovely CummingsWoman over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

The ethos of swinging is about being genuine... many of us are, a minority are not!"

I'm not photo verified, and never will be

I meet people, go to clubs, organised socials and swinging festivals like swingfields

Not having a photo verification on here doesn't make me less genuine

Going unlos on here though makes me question how genuine a persons motives are on here, hide profile when wanting a break, but unlos repeatedly to me says much more than if someone has a photo verification

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By *dwalu2Couple over a year ago

Bristol

"What is this the new fascist fab

Fab is supposed to be a place for all who wish to participate in the way they feel comfortable participating... not the way some other member decrees they should behave

Ffs grow up and don't impose your prejudices on others... "

It's not the new anything, it's someone who had an idea and posted it without thinking it through.

And they've now gone UNLOS.

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By *ozwon2016Man over a year ago

The ethos of swinging is about being genuine... many of us are, a minority are not!

I'm not photo verified, and never will be

I meet people, go to clubs, organised socials and swinging festivals like swingfields

Not having a photo verification on here doesn't make me less genuine

Second that! I went unlos due to a relationship but i do find that it is more couples who look down their noses at unverified... does make me wonder if its just the bloke enjoying the validity received from a couples prof he almost definitely wouldnt have received as a standalone man.

Note: no need for photo verification, the ones up are enough for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have been approached by and swapped kik etc with a number of unverified people on here and fab guys.

So as I'm unverified, it's wholly possible for someone who's unverified to meet a few other unverified people and .... gasp ... see they are genuine before meeting.

Also I consider it my right to have a long hard look at whose about and who I want to spend time with, and due to my prefences, who I would risk meeting for some of the things I know I enjoy already, and the things I wish to try.

Now I know a large part of this site are couples, wishing to play with other couples or wishing to meet (visit or by invitation) single males or females.

Single females, I would hope take great care and attention to who they meet as they are at risk, if they should choose to meet a certain type of person that would be easily capable of making a credible profile, if not a fully verified one.

As a single bi male who enjoys roll play and a certain amount of submission, I am never going to knowingly or willingly put myself at the mercy of a complete stranger. Anyone who fails to understand this is not the sort of person I would like to meet.

If you misconstrue, me wanting to KIK with you, then swap numbers and actually talk to you, then meet for a coffee or a walk around a gallery or museum so we can chat and see if we both are after the same thing and share attraction before making a date to play or moving on, with me wasting your time, then I'm going to assume you have no concept of the level of trust a normal person will want to gain with some one they are going to allow to have that level of control and command over me.

There is also no way any sensible person would meet a random stranger who happens to have a verification and a nice pic and allow them to use handcuffs etc.

Other risks may include, your partner finding out, my work finding out, you suddenly feeling all dirty and aggressive towards me etc.

Like many people I have had good and bad experimental experiences throughout my life, and I would like, as any normal well balkanced (yah it's me but I'm not a totes loony) to have good enjoyable experiences and not suffer some more of the bad things I experienced from time to time in my late teens and early twenties from meetings set up on phone chat lines, text services and the old wap chat.

If the technology exists to allow for some touchy feely check each over out now, use it and you will never have to come across some of the things I did as a young bi male.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh one last thing, why would anyone assume, that some one is going to trust someone else's opinion? I'm sure my tastes are different from most other peoples in most things.

That's why we choose things for ourselves, because we are all different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As pointless threads go this one's a whopper....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Or you could just ignore them"

You can at that...but they reappear in searches or updates if nearby. I agree with lilmiss above..block ...end of. The block is good for filtering too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps he got deleted for not having any verries

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If anyone is going to get deleted, we think it should be the people who haven't logged in for months. Quite often we do a search & get 200 results, of which 180 have not logged in for over 12mths. Those are the ones to delete.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol I've been on here over a year and only photo verified hope that not mean I should be deleted

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS over a year ago

Larne

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm actually looking for meets but I'm short to old for most in my area so it actually difficult to get meet don't go to clubs as only one I know in my area used by those I don't meet requirements on here in first place so no point lol

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