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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When we check out a guy or couple and find they don't interest us at this time we usually block them to avoid us accidentally contacting them again or them contacting us if we don't suit them.
However, blocking always seems the nuclear option. Could we have a "red flag" system that tells us we are not compatible but still allows contact in case things change?
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"When we check out a guy or couple and find they don't interest us at this time we usually block them to avoid us accidentally contacting them again or them contacting us if we don't suit them.
However, blocking always seems the nuclear option. Could we have a "red flag" system that tells us we are not compatible but still allows contact in case things change?
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If you're not compatible in the first place then what could change? |
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People change, initial impressions can be hasty, a whole host of reasons.
You can have a friends list, which is by mutual consent.
A hot list, for those you like the look of.
A not list, for those who don't currently appeal or you don't fit their criteria.
And the block list for those you do not want any contact with.
I have blocked people who I think I wouldn't get along with, only to find that once I see them round the forums, they are actually on the right wavelength for me. |
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"When we check out a guy or couple and find they don't interest us at this time we usually block them to avoid us accidentally contacting them again or them contacting us if we don't suit them.
However, blocking always seems the nuclear option. Could we have a "red flag" system that tells us we are not compatible but still allows contact in case things change?
If you're not compatible in the first place then what could change?"
Perhaps they are soft swing and mover to full swing? |
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"People change, initial impressions can be hasty, a whole host of reasons.
You can have a friends list, which is by mutual consent.
A hot list, for those you like the look of.
A not list, for those who don't currently appeal or you don't fit their criteria.
And the block list for those you do not want any contact with.
I have blocked people who I think I wouldn't get along with, only to find that once I see them round the forums, they are actually on the right wavelength for me. "
You understand. It would be nice to know when you see them on line thay have been messaged but were not quite right.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I like this too. I generally block people I'll never be interested in, but it would be good to mark out people I've looked at and am not interested in at this time. Otherwise I end up going to their profile and they take it as an opportunity to message me because clearly viewing their profile is me being interested in them... |
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"Block and if things change you can unblock?"
Over time you forget why they were blocked. If it was for rudeness, timewasting or gross obscenity then blocking is right. If they were just noobs and were going to improve then a not interested is more important.  |
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"Block and if things change you can unblock?"
If you block them, you cannot see if their requirements change.
I went through a phase of blocking couples not looking for guys like me. How would I know if their situation has changed? |
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Sometimes it's just a matter of not suitable at the moment,but like the look of. I do have the ability to write notes,but forget to look at them and it would take up a lot more time looking to see if you have made a note. |
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"... Otherwise I end up going to their profile and they take it as an opportunity to message me because clearly viewing their profile is me being interested in them..."
This is why I have my privacy settings set as 'don't show that I have viewed'. Before I knew about this, I used to hate getting messages from men "I see you viewed my profile, would you like to meet?" 99% of time, I read the profile and decide I DON'T want to take things any further. |
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"Block and if things change you can unblock?
If you block them, you cannot see if their requirements change.
I went through a phase of blocking couples not looking for guys like me. How would I know if their situation has changed?"
Absolutely the point. The red flag would allow you to read to see if they change. blocking does not. |
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"Sometimes it's just a matter of not suitable at the moment,but like the look of. I do have the ability to write notes,but forget to look at them and it would take up a lot more time looking to see if you have made a note. "
This |
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If you're not compatible in the first place then what could change?"
Mindset/attitude/preferences/accommodation options/ more explanatory profile/ beard shaved off lol,/ age group prefs/ lost weight /gained weight/and just a plain of change of mind! +,+,+,
Its a great idea. |
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If you're not compatible in the first place then what could change?
Mindset/attitude/preferences/accommodation options/ more explanatory profile/ beard shaved off lol,/ age group prefs/ lost weight /gained weight/and just a plain of change of mind! +,+,+,
Its a great idea. "
Thanks. Perhaps admin can do it? Tgey have the "you winked at them" etc. It may not be hard to add? |
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