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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Why would anyone want to hide their presence, seems sneaky."
It's not sneaky at all. It's a facility provided by the site, which some of us choose to use, as it improves our Fab experience.
Before I started browsing anonymously, I regularly got mails from people saying "I see you looked at me, would you like to meet?". (My answer would be "No, if I had wanted to meet, I would have messaged you"). Now I browse anonymously, fewer people have to feel "rejected" as they never know I looked.
However, I have now looked at your profile (anonymously - and if you still feel that's 'sneaky', then feel free to block me  ), and I see that you don't meet single men. Presumably you don't look at single males' profiles, so you wouldn't get so many irritating messages.
But just imagine an attractive couple who DO meet single males as well as other couples, but who browse anonymously for the same reason as me. If your suggestion was implemented, they wouldn't be able to view your profile, so you would potentially miss out on meeting some nice new people! |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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Why not hide your profile then and just message the one's you are interested in then unhide it to show those you are interested in?
Does sound like a bit of a faff but it will stop people looking at you who don't show.
I have mine as don't show as I would get messages just like Sunny had said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I stealth perv also, for the very reason pointed out above. Until I've looked at a profile I wont know if I want to make contact or not.
As looked at me is a feature on this site, so is not show on looked at me 
I havent looked at the op's profile, but I dont show so feel free to block me also  actually all bar 2 of my single lady friends stealth perv so maybe you should block all women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why is the presumption that stealth perving is sinister. Isn't this world all about discretion as well?
Perhaps people are shy and want to research compatability before jumping in and messaging.
Stealth pervers of the world unite....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would it be possible to have an option to block people viewing a profile if they are looking anonymously."
Good idea - although would be better to go the whole 9 yards and actually block those from viewing your profile that are outside your filters too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It should be a choice that we make, I would block anonymous views, "
Why have you something to hide?
Realistically if you did as you suggest whats to stop someone from putting up another profile with nothing on it to look at you the end result would be pretty much the same.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same type of request we essentially asked for three weeks ago, apparently we shouldn't have an opinion as it upsets the click too much ( not official response, but check the thread for detail) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would it be possible to have an option to block people viewing a profile if they are looking anonymously.
Good idea - although would be better to go the whole 9 yards and actually block those from viewing your profile that are outside your filters too."
I agree - I find it strange that anyone can read your profile when you can set filters to stop messages. Surely the coding wouldn't have to be changed that much to apply to both x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Why would anyone want to hide their presence, seems sneaky."
I sometimes look then if I like what I see and I'm in their preferences I will look again so they can see I've looked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From my personal point of view, I don't mind being blocked from profiles because I'm in stealth however, their privacy should also mean that they should be blocked from contacting me, or other stealth users.
From a safety point of view though, being as I'm now a text buddy to a number of single women, being blocked from viewing a profile when my friend is on a meet with him/them... well I guess it would be a case of emailing friends that fit the criteria to look at that profile.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"From my personal point of view, I don't mind being blocked from profiles because I'm in stealth however, their privacy should also mean that they should be blocked from contacting me, or other stealth users.
From a safety point of view though, being as I'm now a text buddy to a number of single women, being blocked from viewing a profile when my friend is on a meet with him/them... well I guess it would be a case of emailing friends that fit the criteria to look at that profile. "
who mentioned blocking anyone, I certainly didn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"who mentioned blocking anyone, I certainly didn't."
Your original post including the phrase "block people from viewing profile".
I assumed you meant "prevent people from viewing profile" - just terminology, I think, since blocking is something more extreme. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"who mentioned blocking anyone, I certainly didn't.
Your original post including the phrase "block people from viewing profile".
I assumed you meant "prevent people from viewing profile" - just terminology, I think, since blocking is something more extreme."
ok, didn't mean block. People have a choice how they browse profiles, but shouldn't we also have a choice to prevent people looking without us knowing about it. |
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"It should be a choice that we make, I would block anonymous views, "
I know you've said it's your choice, but I can't see anywhere in the thread where you've said why?
I'm not being funny just genuinely curious why you want to?
If this was implemented, then only people who you can see have viewed - could view. What would you then do with this information? Block them? Contact them? I'm just trying to understand if seeing 100 people who your not interested in have viewed your profile, is of any value to not knowing they have?
Thanks
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"It should be a choice that we make, I would block anonymous views,
How would you know who to block? "
Read the thread. They don't mean they want to block individuals. They mean they want to prevent people in stealth mode viewing their profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From my personal point of view, I don't mind being blocked from profiles because I'm in stealth however, their privacy should also mean that they should be blocked from contacting me, or other stealth users.
From a safety point of view though, being as I'm now a text buddy to a number of single women, being blocked from viewing a profile when my friend is on a meet with him/them... well I guess it would be a case of emailing friends that fit the criteria to look at that profile. who mentioned blocking anyone, I certainly didn't."
You kind of did, but say I wanted to view your profile, I would simply take off stealth mode, look and then put it back on again. As soon as I put myself back into 'dont show on peoples looked at me' I vanish from all looked at me list.
So I really don't see what the point would be?? Apart from making us go into settings, look then go back into settings and change it back.
I only look at profiles of those that pm me or that I come across on the forums so If I couldn't view a profile, I'd just block it. Same as when people post on the forums they don't want me looking at their profile, I add them to my block list, so I (In future) don't try and look at that profile.  |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"From my personal point of view, I don't mind being blocked from profiles because I'm in stealth however, their privacy should also mean that they should be blocked from contacting me, or other stealth users.
From a safety point of view though, being as I'm now a text buddy to a number of single women, being blocked from viewing a profile when my friend is on a meet with him/them... well I guess it would be a case of emailing friends that fit the criteria to look at that profile. who mentioned blocking anyone, I certainly didn't.
You kind of did, but say I wanted to view your profile, I would simply take off stealth mode, look and then put it back on again. As soon as I put myself back into 'dont show on peoples looked at me' I vanish from all looked at me list.
So I really don't see what the point would be?? Apart from making us go into settings, look then go back into settings and change it back.
I only look at profiles of those that pm me or that I come across on the forums so If I couldn't view a profile, I'd just block it. Same as when people post on the forums they don't want me looking at their profile, I add them to my block list, so I (In future) don't try and look at that profile. "
Good point re the stealth settings  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"as a site supporter you can see who has viewed you. if thats a issue hide your profile. if thats a problem perhaps you should not be on here. just my opinion x"
the logic of some people, I would have thought if you feel the need to be in stealth mode, maybe you shouldn't be on the site.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would have thought if you feel the need to be in stealth mode, maybe you shouldn't be on the site."
I find this comment bewildering and somewhat offensive.
1) Stealth mode is a feature of the site which Admin have given us, to improve our Fab experience
2) I have already explained my reason for using stealth mode, and several people have posted to say that they use it for the same reason.
3) As Westy says, discretion is very important in swinging.
As others have said, if you object to people using stealth mode, then you can hide your profile, and take the initiative in finding the people you want to contact.
And so far, you haven't given any reason why you want to prevent 'stealth viewers' from viewing you. WHY do you want to be able to see everyone who has viewed you? If they saw and liked, they will have mailed you. If they saw and didn't like, you really don't need to know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had same issue, we object to being a peep show for those we aren't interested in, the general consensus on our thread was tough, hence our profile now hidden |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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To the OP...I am not sure what you are asking for is worth having as people can take themselves off stealth mode to veiw your profile and then stick themselves back on it.
But...you are in the right place for suggestions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"as a site supporter you can see who has viewed you. if thats a issue hide your profile. if thats a problem perhaps you should not be on here. just my opinion xthe logic of some people, I would have thought if you feel the need to be in stealth mode, maybe you shouldn't be on the site."
Hmmm so the fact I don't want couples and single men that I've looked at and decided NOT to contact emailing me to ask why, means I shouldn't be on this site??
Lol and here I was thinking that meeting swingers for great sex and going to swinging clubs and parties with swingers, meant I should be on this site I'm not giving up fabs because I use stealth mode... |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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"I dot care if you are in sneaky mode, but if that's the case I don't want you looking."
I see now you have hidden your profile, but you may wish to put your pictures to friends only or private as they can still be seen if that is a thing you are worried about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can't be a peep show for anyone if you have no pics on your profile. "
if you read our post fully and don't mis-quote it you would have read
"for those we are not interested in" |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"You can't be a peep show for anyone if you have no pics on your profile.
if you read our post fully and don't mis-quote it you would have read
"for those we are not interested in""
I didn't quote you...I did however comment on which part of your post I wanted to.
I will say the same again...you can't be a peep show if you have no pics on your profile....meaning, if you don't post pics to your profile people can't peep at them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I don't give a rats arse who views me!
And yes - I'm a stealth user! I view profiles for all sorts of reasons - not because I'm interested in them - often quite the opposite!
If you put up a profile expect to be viewed. And if your filters are set correctly - that's all that will happen! No messages, no winks, no chat!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To the OP...I am not sure what you are asking for is worth having as people can take themselves off stealth mode to veiw your profile and then stick themselves back on it.
But...you are in the right place for suggestions "
I didn't realise that you could opt out of "looked at me" till the other day, my issue is that a couple of people said in the pub in front of everyone else that we were swingers, I used looked at me as a way to see we were not getting too much undue attention, then I find out that you can opt out of it altogether. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To the OP...I am not sure what you are asking for is worth having as people can take themselves off stealth mode to veiw your profile and then stick themselves back on it.
But...you are in the right place for suggestions
I didn't realise that you could opt out of "looked at me" till the other day, my issue is that a couple of people said in the pub in front of everyone else that we were swingers, I used looked at me as a way to see we were not getting too much undue attention, then I find out that you can opt out of it altogether."
I guess you want to know who's looked at you to make sure it's not some indiscreet weirdo from down the pub? Problem is, people could just make a profile with no pics. They could view you and you'd know they'd looked bit you'd be no wiser as to who it is.
Did you know you can also hide your profile from non-registered users? And also hide it from internet search engines. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To the OP...I am not sure what you are asking for is worth having as people can take themselves off stealth mode to veiw your profile and then stick themselves back on it.
But...you are in the right place for suggestions
I didn't realise that you could opt out of "looked at me" till the other day, my issue is that a couple of people said in the pub in front of everyone else that we were swingers, I used looked at me as a way to see we were not getting too much undue attention, then I find out that you can opt out of it altogether.
I guess you want to know who's looked at you to make sure it's not some indiscreet weirdo from down the pub? Problem is, people could just make a profile with no pics. They could view you and you'd know they'd looked bit you'd be no wiser as to who it is.
Did you know you can also hide your profile from non-registered users? And also hide it from internet search engines."
We have done that. But I'm not daft, I could suss out if anything didn't look right, as probably you can, most people on here can spot fakes. I would be more relaxed if I knew people couldn't look anonymously. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I didn't realise that you could opt out of "looked at me" till the other day, my issue is that a couple of people said in the pub in front of everyone else that we were swingers, I used looked at me as a way to see we were not getting too much undue attention, then I find out that you can opt out of it altogether."
Ah, I understand now, and I'm sorry to hear that you had people 'outing' you as swingers, in the pub. That was really indiscreet of them!
The thing is, though, the best way of stopping this from happening is to have quite 'anonymous' pictures on your profile, and only share face pics when you feel confident.
Your suggestion that 'stealth viewers' shouldn't be able to see your profile won't really help with this problem. Your local landlord (or co-worker, or the lady in the corner shop) could have a profile on here (with no pics) and still view your profile in non-stealth mode. To ensure that he/she/they don't recognise you, the best thing is to avoid posting any pictures where you can be identified (e.g. face or any unique tattoos etc).
Good luck, and I hope you don't have the same unpleasant experience again  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I didn't realise that you could opt out of "looked at me" till the other day, my issue is that a couple of people said in the pub in front of everyone else that we were swingers, I used looked at me as a way to see we were not getting too much undue attention, then I find out that you can opt out of it altogether.
Ah, I understand now, and I'm sorry to hear that you had people 'outing' you as swingers, in the pub. That was really indiscreet of them!
The thing is, though, the best way of stopping this from happening is to have quite 'anonymous' pictures on your profile, and only share face pics when you feel confident.
Your suggestion that 'stealth viewers' shouldn't be able to see your profile won't really help with this problem. Your local landlord (or co-worker, or the lady in the corner shop) could have a profile on here (with no pics) and still view your profile in non-stealth mode. To ensure that he/she/they don't recognise you, the best thing is to avoid posting any pictures where you can be identified (e.g. face or any unique tattoos etc).
Good luck, and I hope you don't have the same unpleasant experience again "
thanks, we will just have to be careful. |
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