I really need this. I like having messages to go through but it can be overwhelming to not catch up on the older ones and be polite without new ones arriving and feeling impatient because they can see you're online and feel ignored. I Need to be able to come on and click 'appear ofline' and catch up. Honestly sometimes it's sometimes a chore that I just don't log in for months and the Fab looses on money from me.
Or I have to pretend 'all my messages have disappeared' because I deleted them in a rage of unable to get ahead of it.
I know I can turn on special messaging filters but I don't want to, I just want to pause and be able to appear offline.
Would love this option pleaseeee |
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"I really need this. I like having messages to go through but it can be overwhelming to not catch up on the older ones and be polite without new ones arriving and feeling impatient because they can see you're online and feel ignored. I Need to be able to come on and click 'appear ofline' and catch up. Honestly sometimes it's sometimes a chore that I just don't log in for months and the Fab looses on money from me.
Or I have to pretend 'all my messages have disappeared' because I deleted them in a rage of unable to get ahead of it.
I know I can turn on special messaging filters but I don't want to, I just want to pause and be able to appear offline.
Would love this option pleaseeee "
TITLE MEANT TO READ APPEAR OFFLINE |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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"This exactly!! I just go into hidden mode to catch up on message admin then everyone on friends list is asking if I’m ok!!
But you could use the status to explain prior "
Then you just get more messages
Absolutely agree op, it’s so stupid to have it as a feature anyway |
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"I know you don't want to but if you turn all your message filters on as soon as you log on it will have the same effect. Although people who've messaged you before will still be able to. "
Will setting the age filters from 98-99 do the same thing? |
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By *ucka39Man 5 weeks ago
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"I know you don't want to but if you turn all your message filters on as soon as you log on it will have the same effect. Although people who've messaged you before will still be able to.
Will setting the age filters from 98-99 do the same thing?"
Hiya
I'm assuming it'd do same if it were 18/18 |
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Being able to appear offline is a great idea, and perhaps it could be available to site supporters
It is completely overwhelming getting literally over 100 messages in a day and not being able to respond or filter through them
I end up bulk deleting a lot of the time |
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I would just be very clear in your profile that you get a lot of messages, try to take time to respond and ask them not to get upset if they don’t get a reply instantly.
Also reading and then setting back to unread is never a bad option then they don’t necessarily know you have been on or read it yet.
And there is always the fails safe to make sure people have read that bit by asking them to add a special word to the message first line (as headings have gone now). At least you would know the ones to prioritise. |
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"I know you don't want to but if you turn all your message filters on as soon as you log on it will have the same effect. Although people who've messaged you before will still be able to.
Will setting the age filters from 98-99 do the same thing?"
I think it would |
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By *riel13Woman 5 weeks ago
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"You could hide your profile as an option "
It doesn't stop the ones that have hotlisted, messaged or friended you before as they can check in those lists and see the blue dot.. And some do look  |
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So in that case I wouldn’t worry, you are perfectly honest in your profile