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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Would it make sense to add a filter for 'Does not accept messages from married/attached' (maybe tailored to avoid true swingers doing this with their partner's permission)?
I obviously fall into the category of married and here in secret - I'm fairly new and finding that a high proportion of profiles I look at say 'no married/attached males'. Of course my request is a selfish one as it would help me find people who aren't turned off by me - on the flipside, surely it would also save people who are turned off by married/naughty a lot of hassle in the form of unwanted messages |
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It's a reasonable suggestion. It could be coupled with users adding into a new field, which could ask whether attached. Users could then exclude users who are attached, when they search too, if they want to.
Morw, or preferably all, user entered fielda, need to be searchable, for inclusion/exclusion of results. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Would it make sense to add a filter for 'Does not accept messages from married/attached' (maybe tailored to avoid true swingers doing this with their partner's permission)?
I obviously fall into the category of married and here in secret - I'm fairly new and finding that a high proportion of profiles I look at say 'no married/attached males'. Of course my request is a selfish one as it would help me find people who aren't turned off by me - on the flipside, surely it would also save people who are turned off by married/naughty a lot of hassle in the form of unwanted messages "
Why? You assume people will be open and honest about their status and tick the right box on a profile.
It doesn't work if they don't. People lie about all sorts - sexuality, height, dick size, age etc. Why would you think people would happily tick a box that will exclude them from people's searches?
A few may. I suspect the majority wouldn't. Filters are only ever as useful as the accuracy of the data they work on.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Would it make sense to add a filter for 'Does not accept messages from married/attached' (maybe tailored to avoid true swingers doing this with their partner's permission)?
I obviously fall into the category of married and here in secret - I'm fairly new and finding that a high proportion of profiles I look at say 'no married/attached males'. Of course my request is a selfish one as it would help me find people who aren't turned off by me - on the flipside, surely it would also save people who are turned off by married/naughty a lot of hassle in the form of unwanted messages
Why? You assume people will be open and honest about their status and tick the right box on a profile.
It doesn't work if they don't. People lie about all sorts - sexuality, height, dick size, age etc. Why would you think people would happily tick a box that will exclude them from people's searches?
A few may. I suspect the majority wouldn't. Filters are only ever as useful as the accuracy of the data they work on.
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That aspect wasn't something I'd really considered and yes it makes sense. Maybe I'm a bit naive being new here - my policy is to lay my situation out truthfully, albeit knowing that the majority won't like it, but with a view to finding those who are comfortable engaging with someone like me and hopefully avoiding issues later if someone was put off with what I'd hidden. I can appreciate that others don't necessarily want to narrow the pool of people they're able to reach though |
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I think a good additional filter is for people who state they are not looking for single guys.
I know there is a filter for people who have blocked single guys, but sometimes people don't block them, but just say in profile text they don't want to meet them. |
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"Would it make sense to add a filter for 'Does not accept messages from married/attached' (maybe tailored to avoid true swingers doing this with their partner's permission)?
I obviously fall into the category of married and here in secret - I'm fairly new and finding that a high proportion of profiles I look at say 'no married/attached males'. Of course my request is a selfish one as it would help me find people who aren't turned off by me - on the flipside, surely it would also save people who are turned off by married/naughty a lot of hassle in the form of unwanted messages "
It's akin to having a filter reading do you tell the truth, yes or no.
We're not bothered if the guy is married or not, has wife's permission or not as you can never confirm.
Our big no no is if they slag off their wives on a meet.
Happened a couple of times. |
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