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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Here we go....should there be a section on fab....either on Profile or forums that acknowledge your married and cheating? Now this only applies to those on here behind someone's back,the reason I ask is because I see lots of posts from guys asking...why can't I meet or get a message...look at Profile and most say cannot accommodate or must be discreet...this is not a dig at people cheating on husbands or wives....just make fab a bit more honest |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
Forum Mod O o O oo |
We used to have on our profile, can't accommodate and discretion is a must |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Here we go....should there be a section on fab....either on Profile or forums that acknowledge your married and cheating? Now this only applies to those on here behind someone's back,the reason I ask is because I see lots of posts from guys asking...why can't I meet or get a message...look at Profile and most say cannot accommodate or must be discreet...this is not a dig at people cheating on husbands or wives....just make fab a bit more honest"
Neither terms means they are married or in a relationship and it's a big conclusion to jump to,I have always thought.
Many people prefer people to be discreet on here and as for not accomadating that to me is common sense. I can accomadate I choose not to until I know someone well and trust them and I don't see why it should be any different for a man on here. Women are just a likely to be stalkers as men are.
And I've had friends both male and female on here who regretted bringing people to their home that they didn't know because they tended to turn up unannounced after,even when told they didn't want to meet them again.
Maybe people could actually ask the person whose profile it is and find out of they are in a relationship that has always worked for me and I haven't had anyone lie to me yet about it . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here we go....should there be a section on fab....either on Profile or forums that acknowledge your married and cheating? Now this only applies to those on here behind someone's back,the reason I ask is because I see lots of posts from guys asking...why can't I meet or get a message...look at Profile and most say cannot accommodate or must be discreet...this is not a dig at people cheating on husbands or wives....just make fab a bit more honest"
If they didnt fill in the section saying married, what would the difference be? You can already make it clear, having a tick box for it wouldn't make a difference |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here we go....should there be a section on fab....either on Profile or forums that acknowledge your married and cheating? Now this only applies to those on here behind someone's back,the reason I ask is because I see lots of posts from guys asking...why can't I meet or get a message...look at Profile and most say cannot accommodate or must be discreet...this is not a dig at people cheating on husbands or wives....just make fab a bit more honest"
Cheats by their very nature are dishonest so it’s unlikely they will tick a box.
If they can lie to the person they claim to love then they can certainly lie to a stranger to get a fuck. |
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There are many reasons someone can't accommodate. I have spawn still at home so don't want to, or want people to know where I live, or house mates, or, or, or. I never see " csnt accommodate " on a profile amd automatically think " married"
Not sure the benefit of having a cheaters forum either. |
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"just make fab a bit more honest"
People that are dishonest will not suddenly become honest because of a tick box  |
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Neither terms means they are married or in a relationship"
But being married or in a relationship usually means they can't accommodate and want discretion. If you don't want to meet married guys it is a great filter. If you miss a few so what? There are plenty more fish in the sea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cheats by their very nature are dishonest so it’s unlikely they will tick a box.
If they can lie to the person they claim to love then they can certainly lie to a stranger to get a fuck."
In a nutshell! |
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Neither terms means they are married or in a relationship
But being married or in a relationship usually means they can't accommodate and want discretion. If you don't want to meet married guys it is a great filter. If you miss a few so what? There are plenty more fish in the sea."
Being married, yes usually does mean they can't accommodate, but someone not being able to accommodate does not usually mean they are married. |
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If they can't accommodate it may be they live with family |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely cheaters are defeating the point of Swinging. The lifestyle of Swingers is that you & your partner, meet & play with other couples or single people.
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People will still lie, like they do about their age and height. |
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It’s been like this since day 1 of the site. And that’s alottttt of years.
I agree it’s frustrating but it’ll never change. |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
north and south |
"It’s been like this since day 1 of the site. And that’s alottttt of years.
I agree it’s frustrating but it’ll never change. "
I can accommodate, No kids but don’t get my inbox full , It’s about choice to whom people fancy seeing them selves with and not many what to bring strangers home , That mostly they won’t meet again? |
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"Here we go....should there be a section on fab....either on Profile or forums that acknowledge your married and cheating? Now this only applies to those on here behind someone's back,the reason I ask is because I see lots of posts from guys asking...why can't I meet or get a message...look at Profile and most say cannot accommodate or must be discreet...this is not a dig at people cheating on husbands or wives....just make fab a bit more honest"
So you want a checkbox for I’m cheating and expect people to be honest about it? That’s never going to work it’s up to the individuals to vet potential play mates and make their own decisions |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Your right.....back to the drawing board lol |
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It’s like having a tick box for straight… but they’re actually fab straight  |
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Sadly people are not honest so it would rely on those who are cheating being upfront & not all will be.
I just go with my own instincts ,as I don't think you can rely on fab to find out who is on here behind their partners backs. |
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Granted you would find Some folk who are the same as yourselves doing that but some won’t do it in case they get abused but I just put it on my profile it’s up to you then if you meet and yes I’ve been on here for an age now and no meets but have fun chatting in the forums |
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"Here we go....should there be a section on fab....either on Profile or forums that acknowledge your married and cheating? Now this only applies to those on here behind someone's back,the reason I ask is because I see lots of posts from guys asking...why can't I meet or get a message...look at Profile and most say cannot accommodate or must be discreet...this is not a dig at people cheating on husbands or wives....just make fab a bit more honest
Neither terms means they are married or in a relationship and it's a big conclusion to jump to,I have always thought.
Many people prefer people to be discreet on here and as for not accomadating that to me is common sense. I can accomadate I choose not to until I know someone well and trust them and I don't see why it should be any different for a man on here. Women are just a likely to be stalkers as men are.
And I've had friends both male and female on here who regretted bringing people to their home that they didn't know because they tended to turn up unannounced after,even when told they didn't want to meet them again.
Maybe people could actually ask the person whose profile it is and find out of they are in a relationship that has always worked for me and I haven't had anyone lie to me yet about it ."
Come on Bo, can we keep common sense and logic out of the Forum please?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't accommodate and I'd prefer to be discreet. I'm very much single. |
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I have a partner who is fully aware I'm on here and we do have a couples profile.
I can't accommodate because I live in a small square and my neighbours can see everything that goes on here and like to talk about everyones comings and goings. So I choose not to set the gossips off even more than it does when I'm leaving the house on a weekend to head for a club in my tarty dress and fishnets.
We can't make assumptions that someone is cheating just because they can't/won't accommodate as everyone had the right to choose how they want to be in the lifestyle. That been said I won't meet guys who are openly cheating as I like to be ethical in my swinging... however I never know if I'm being lied to. |
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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago
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I have a daughter that lives with me so can only accommodate on occasions when she is away.
But I am single and not in a relationship.
So what does that make me????? |
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"I have a daughter that lives with me so can only accommodate on occasions when she is away.
But I am single and not in a relationship.
So what does that make me?????"
A cheating husband apparently |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Surely cheaters are defeating the point of Swinging. The lifestyle of Swingers is that you & your partner, meet & play with other couples or single people.
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Is it that swinger couples want to play with other couples or singles or is it simply that swinger couples just want to play with other people? Being single has nothing to do with it. |
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In theory yes but too many lie about it so kinda pointless ha.
Be good for the cheaters to get less abuse and those against it not to have their profile ignored 
Never happen though haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well no one knows the reason why they do it it could be that they are in a marriage which has no fun anymore or they want to play with others but there partner dose not there are men and ladies on this site that can be in this situation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Brilliant plan buddy.
Let’s make the cheats and liars tick a box that’ll make 75% of the women / men on Fab dismiss them out of hand.
What could possibly go wrong?
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No point. It'll just be the same as Cyclists and Cycle lanes. |
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By *odmozMan
over a year ago
walsall |
Nobody cheats if the partner doesn't swing its not there falt some people are genuine my wife doesn't want to no so I'm having extra marital fun no harm done who agrees with me |
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"Nobody cheats if the partner doesn't swing its not there falt some people are genuine my wife doesn't want to no so I'm having extra marital fun no harm done who agrees with me "
Does she know you’re swinging though? |
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So some good points raised here...personally I am not too bothered or judgemental on what walk of life others come from, its their business. Additionally, I would say that if people were to lie about it, then surely thats again their issue? Just like life in general, through FAB you will get lots of people who choose whether they want to be honest or not. Ultimately swinging is for me/us is about being genuine and open to others. Whats the point otherwise? |
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