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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Can this be changed completely please to a new format rather than reading about individuals conquests after each social or meet?
For women to read other women’s comments about sleeping with the same man can be very hurtful and damaging to esteem and mental health. Its not sexual fun for all, but a kick in the teeth instead. The same goes for single men and couples also.
These should always be kept hidden or Private to each individual and not on show to all and sundry.
How about a three tier recommendation slot instead:i.e: Recommended, Highly Recommended or Not Recommended?
That way it spares others feelings instead of rubbing your nose in it. |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"For women to read other women’s comments about sleeping with the same man can be very hurtful and damaging to esteem and mental health. Its not sexual fun for all, but a kick in the teeth instead. The same goes for single men and couples also."
I would say that if reading other people's comments about someone you've had a swinging encounter with (or someone you're in a swinging relationship with) is damaging to your esteem and mental health, rather than changing review system, you should take a step back from swinging for a while and maybe speak to a therapist who is experienced with poly/enm relationships.
*You is in the generic sense I'm not assuming the OP has this issue |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can this be changed completely please to a new format rather than reading about individuals conquests after each social or meet?
For women to read other women’s comments about sleeping with the same man can be very hurtful and damaging to esteem and mental health. Its not sexual fun for all, but a kick in the teeth instead. The same goes for single men and couples also.
These should always be kept hidden or Private to each individual and not on show to all and sundry.
How about a three tier recommendation slot instead:i.e: Recommended, Highly Recommended or Not Recommended?
That way it spares others feelings instead of rubbing your nose in it."
Are you going to hide your veri’s then OP? |
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"For women to read other women’s comments about sleeping with the same man can be very hurtful and damaging to esteem and mental health. Its not sexual fun for all, but a kick in the teeth instead. The same goes for single men and couples also.
I would say that if reading other people's comments about someone you've had a swinging encounter with (or someone you're in a swinging relationship with) is damaging to your esteem and mental health, rather than changing review system, you should take a step back from swinging for a while and maybe speak to a therapist who is experienced with poly/enm relationships.
*You is in the generic sense I'm not assuming the OP has this issue"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can this be changed completely please to a new format rather than reading about individuals conquests after each social or meet?
For women to read other women’s comments about sleeping with the same man can be very hurtful and damaging to esteem and mental health. Its not sexual fun for all, but a kick in the teeth instead. The same goes for single men and couples also.
These should always be kept hidden or Private to each individual and not on show to all and sundry.
How about a three tier recommendation slot instead:i.e: Recommended, Highly Recommended or Not Recommended?
That way it spares others feelings instead of rubbing your nose in it.
Are you going to hide your veri’s then OP?"
I was thinking same |
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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago
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Oh.. I was hoping there might have been about changing to distinguish between socials and personal meets
OP, best you don't read others veris then.
I find most cringeworthy anyway.
Everyone is different.
So what WOWs one woman in bed would be embarrassing for another.
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"Can this be changed completely please to a new format rather than reading about individuals conquests after each social or meet?
For women to read other women’s comments about sleeping with the same man can be very hurtful and damaging to esteem and mental health. Its not sexual fun for all, but a kick in the teeth instead. The same goes for single men and couples also.
These should always be kept hidden or Private to each individual and not on show to all and sundry.
How about a three tier recommendation slot instead:i.e: Recommended, Highly Recommended or Not Recommended?
That way it spares others feelings instead of rubbing your nose in it."
My irony-ometer just blew a fuse. 
Also, if you don't like reading verifications, don't read them. Fixed in a heartbeat.
I'm sensing "issues" here.
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"For women to read other women’s comments about sleeping with the same man can be very hurtful and damaging to esteem and mental health. Its not sexual fun for all, but a kick in the teeth instead. The same goes for single men and couples also.
I would say that if reading other people's comments about someone you've had a swinging encounter with (or someone you're in a swinging relationship with) is damaging to your esteem and mental health, rather than changing review system, you should take a step back from swinging for a while and maybe speak to a therapist who is experienced with poly/enm relationships.
*You is in the generic sense I'm not assuming the OP has this issue"
Totally agree  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh.. I was hoping there might have been about changing to distinguish between socials and personal meets
OP, best you don't read others veris then.
I find most cringeworthy anyway.
Everyone is different.
So what WOWs one woman in bed would be embarrassing for another.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would imagine people would be devastated to receive a 'not recommended' rating 
Tbh I'd be devastated to get a highly recommended rating because I don't want to be just a recommendation.
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Don’t display if it devastates you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find the indepth varis very cringe but each to their own just don't read them. I don't understand how they can affect someones self esteem reading about other people.
Just to add a guy I met had rave reviews in his varis about how amazing he was etc. He didn't hit my buttons. It's a bit like the perfect life photos on social media, don't belive everything you see. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Can this be changed completely please to a new format rather than reading about individuals conquests after each social or meet?
For women to read other women’s comments about sleeping with the same man can be very hurtful and damaging to esteem and mental health. Its not sexual fun for all, but a kick in the teeth instead. The same goes for single men and couples also.
These should always be kept hidden or Private to each individual and not on show to all and sundry.
How about a three tier recommendation slot instead:i.e: Recommended, Highly Recommended or Not Recommended?
That way it spares others feelings instead of rubbing your nose in it."
……or we could just have none graphic verifications
You could just say… this person was genuine, and we all had a good time…
It doesn’t have to be a blow by both account with director commentary!!
As for private vs public… I believe it’s only an issue if it’s graphic.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well who would display “not recommended” - If you gave one that said not recommend, I’m sure that would be a kick in the teeth for the person receiving it.
I don’t think it would be fair anyway… People would probably misuse that system.
Just don’t read them… |
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