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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just wondering if there would be interest in another search box to tick if you want to find other married people. I know I'd like to have that option.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm with you...as married I would love find others interested in meeting the "single" but married

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

"Just wondering if there would be interest in another search box to tick if you want to find other married people. I know I'd like to have that option. "

Thing is, how do you separate people playing with and without permission?

Let's face it, it isn't swinging if it is cheating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

That's not the point of the post...... Married seeking married.... Cheating or not. Like people having a preference for tall men or curvy women..... Why can't we all have a choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cheating is cheating why have a box for it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Cheating is cheating why have a box for it"

Because I'm sure there is plenty of members on here in the same situation and would like to meet similar

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

"Cheating is cheating why have a box for it

Because I'm sure there is plenty of members on here in the same situation and would like to meet similar "

Surely that facilitates cheating?

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By *umber hunterMan over a year ago

scunthorpe

I am with you on this ,

Because I'm sure there is plenty of members on here in the same situation and would like

to meet similar

I have been on the scene on and off over 10 years.

I've been to clubs etc and yes there are more married people seeking discreet fun.

So it would be a good option on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

married woman and husband looking to share with other men

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By *ancelot1633Man over a year ago

weybridge

I presume we don’t all have to sign up to the same moral code to be on here?

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By *ancelot1633Man over a year ago

weybridge

This is what they say in Oxford :

Swinging: “the practice of engaging in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.“

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Cheating is cheating why have a box for it

Because I'm sure there is plenty of members on here in the same situation and would like to meet similar

Surely that facilitates cheating?"

It's a site for letting people meet others for sex.... Regardless of their marital situation.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

"Cheating is cheating why have a box for it

Because I'm sure there is plenty of members on here in the same situation and would like to meet similar

Surely that facilitates cheating?

It's a site for letting people meet others for sex.... Regardless of their marital situation. "

If that is what you think it is then you do not know what swinging is all about.

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By *umber hunterMan over a year ago

scunthorpe

"Cheating is cheating why have a box for it

Because I'm sure there is plenty of members on here in the same situation and would like to meet similar

Surely that facilitates cheating?

It's a site for letting people meet others for sex.... Regardless of their marital situation.

If that is what you think it is then you do not know what swinging is all about.

Well you have been on fab 5 weeks, proper experts ...not...lol "

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By *ancelot1633Man over a year ago

weybridge

Urban dictionary

TOP DEFINITION

Swinging

A lifestyle of non-monogany where sexual relations occur outside the established couple. Swingers tend to refrain from romantic attachments with their outside partners, thus differentiating themselves from PolyAmorists. There is some overlap between the two communities, though the closeness of the comparisons are generally not acknowledged.

Swingers often engage in the activity as a couple. "Swing Parties" are venues where the activity may occur.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

"Cheating is cheating why have a box for it

Because I'm sure there is plenty of members on here in the same situation and would like to meet similar

Surely that facilitates cheating?

It's a site for letting people meet others for sex.... Regardless of their marital situation.

If that is what you think it is then you do not know what swinging is all about.

Well you have been on fab 5 weeks, proper experts ...not...lol "

Been on here over 10 years Bill, but just came back after having a rest from wanker single guys, no offence intended of course!

Spoken like a true cynical guy who can't accommodate!

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

What swinging does not involve is dishonesty guys.

Face it.

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By *ancelot1633Man over a year ago

weybridge

Your dictionary

Swinging

“Engaging in casual or group sexual relations.”

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By *ancelot1633Man over a year ago

weybridge

"What swinging does not involve is dishonesty guys.

Face it."

In your opinion, to which you are entitled and which I respect and which I do not agree with. Nor do the definitions I have found after an albeit brief search of the internet.

Happy to differ with you on this one and I don’t need to impose my beliefs on you.

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By *ncubus XMan over a year ago

midlands - glasgow - islands

Sex is sex

People are people

Cheats will cheat

And swingers along with the rest of the world will fuck and prob never know if they have just helped a man or lady who is cheating especially when it’s done in a club or cinema or out dogging!

Who gives a shit shall we have a I’m vaccinated button and a I believe in fairies button aswell??

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

"What swinging does not involve is dishonesty guys.

Face it.

In your opinion, to which you are entitled and which I respect and which I do not agree with. Nor do the definitions I have found after an albeit brief search of the internet.

Happy to differ with you on this one and I don’t need to impose my beliefs on you.

Likewise to you chap.

We have different beliefs and that is what a forum is all about.

We just feel that if you can't be honest to a life partner that you have chosen then it is really sad.

Funny enough, we are currently chatting to a guy who has discussed his plans to be on here with his wife.

10/10 to him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What swinging does not involve is dishonesty guys.

Face it.

In your opinion, to which you are entitled and which I respect and which I do not agree with. Nor do the definitions I have found after an albeit brief search of the internet.

Happy to differ with you on this one and I don’t need to impose my beliefs on you.

Likewise to you chap.

We have different beliefs and that is what a forum is all about.

We just feel that if you can't be honest to a life partner that you have chosen then it is really sad.

Funny enough, we are currently chatting to a guy who has discussed his plans to be on here with his wife.

10/10 to him."

Excuse me if I sound a little cynical but how do you know he's discussed his plans to be on here with his wife? Because he told you he has?! And of course everyone on here tells the truth...

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"Cheating is cheating why have a box for it

Because I'm sure there is plenty of members on here in the same situation and would like to meet similar

Surely that facilitates cheating?

It's a site for letting people meet others for sex.... Regardless of their marital situation. "

Please let your wife be on here having the time of her life having sex with lots of men behind your back

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By *rNaturistMan over a year ago

Small Town

Everyone has an option.

My option is this is not a sex site but it has been turned into a sex site.

To me i will always see it as a swingers site where when i meet it's to indulge in the swinging aspect be it with couples or singles.

No sex has to take place to have a swing experience and fulfill desires for all.

I'm not interested in the guys who turn bi late at night because they can't connect with others.

I'm not interested in the politics of cheats where if I'm told your married as such i would just pass you by and continue with my search for swinging individuals.

P.s

Only contact me if you are a swinger who knows what swinging is about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone has an option.

My option is this is not a sex site but it has been turned into a sex site.

To me i will always see it as a swingers site where when i meet it's to indulge in the swinging aspect be it with couples or singles.

No sex has to take place to have a swing experience and fulfill desires for all.

I'm not interested in the guys who turn bi late at night because they can't connect with others.

I'm not interested in the politics of cheats where if I'm told your married as such i would just pass you by and continue with my search for swinging individuals.

P.s

Only contact me if you are a swinger who knows what swinging is about.

Well said that man

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just wondering if there would be interest in another search box to tick if you want to find other married people. I know I'd like to have that option. "

Or even a box that says “will meet married people”. Maybe that might help too.

We have probably met married guys but we don’t force them to give us a life history.

We definitely know guy was married because his wife mailed on here to ask if she could send him over - wildly exciting when he sent her pics and had to text to ask if he could slide on a condom.

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple over a year ago

Nuneaton

We prefer a married couple as opposed to a fb couple,

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

"Everyone has an option.

My option is this is not a sex site but it has been turned into a sex site.

To me i will always see it as a swingers site where when i meet it's to indulge in the swinging aspect be it with couples or singles.

No sex has to take place to have a swing experience and fulfill desires for all.

I'm not interested in the guys who turn bi late at night because they can't connect with others.

I'm not interested in the politics of cheats where if I'm told your married as such i would just pass you by and continue with my search for swinging individuals.

P.s

Only contact me if you are a swinger who knows what swinging is about.

Well said that man

Well said.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We prefer a married couple as opposed to a fb couple, "

Same here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In many peoples eyes swinging is wrong, we all have our reasons why we choose our own path. I for one don't choose to take a moral judgement on others especially without in depth knowledge of their circumstances.

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

"In many peoples eyes swinging is wrong, we all have our reasons why we choose our own path. I for one don't choose to take a moral judgement on others especially without in depth knowledge of their circumstances. "

Finally a logical and concise sensible answer.

Bizare people making moral judgements on a site like this. Everyone has their own views. We can respect all of them without necessarily agreeing with all of then.

Back to the OP, would it be a good idea - yes think so. Then those looking to avoid can do so, and vice versa i.e. an informed choice can be made.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

Finally a logical and concise sensible answer.

Bizare people making moral judgements on a site like this. Everyone has their own views. We can respect all of them without necessarily agreeing with all of then.

Back to the OP, would it be a good idea - yes think so. Then those looking to avoid can do so, and vice versa i.e. an informed choice can be made. "

Being honest or not to your life partner, is that making a moral judgement.

This is not a question of morality, just honesty to the person who is closest to you in this world.

Even in this world, surely honesty is of great value?

If someone lies to their life partner, then their promise of discretion may also be a blatant lie.

We actually know of a person like this.

Honesty and trust is not a moral choice, just a human one.

Sorry to people who think our opinion is wrong and we certainly don't pretend to know all the circumstances, but what circumstances make dishonesty ok?

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

This is an interesting conversation to be honest!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Let's be realistic...... The Internet and honesty never go hand in hand. I have my reason for being on here..... I could have easily said I'm single but I haven't. My original point is just that option would be nice to have.

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By *ancelot1633Man over a year ago

weybridge

Couldn’t agree more and how succinctly put

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By *ancelot1633Man over a year ago

weybridge

"Everyone has an option.

My option is this is not a sex site but it has been turned into a sex site.

To me i will always see it as a swingers site where when i meet it's to indulge in the swinging aspect be it with couples or singles.

No sex has to take place to have a swing experience and fulfill desires for all.

I'm not interested in the guys who turn bi late at night because they can't connect with others.

I'm not interested in the politics of cheats where if I'm told your married as such i would just pass you by and continue with my search for swinging individuals.

P.s

Only contact me if you are a swinger who knows what swinging is about.

Presume you mean opinion rather than option (don’t you just hate predictive text) and we all have them. Mine certainly differ from yours in this respect but that’s fine and just as you sensibly avoid people who don’t fit in with what you like/think is acceptable I try and do the same. All this probably supports the OP in thinking marital status is a relevant bit of info to be able to search on for those that care.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

"Just wondering if there would be interest in another search box to tick if you want to find other married people. I know I'd like to have that option. "

We have just realised yet again that we have managed to drag another subject into a thread and for that we apologise.

OP. You ARE right about that as a possible option.

It could mean that the 'fab single' people can find likeminded members, and the people who disagree can block without contact.

Honestly sorry for using your post as a soap box.

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By *ancelot1633Man over a year ago

weybridge

"Just wondering if there would be interest in another search box to tick if you want to find other married people. I know I'd like to have that option.

We have just realised yet again that we have managed to drag another subject into a thread and for that we apologise.

OP. You ARE right about that as a possible option.

It could mean that the 'fab single' people can find likeminded members, and the people who disagree can block without contact.

Honestly sorry for using your post as a soap box. "

But the discussion did in fact help answer the question.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sex is sex

People are people

Cheats will cheat

And swingers along with the rest of the world will fuck and prob never know if they have just helped a man or lady who is cheating especially when it’s done in a club or cinema or out dogging!

Who gives a shit shall we have a I’m vaccinated button and a I believe in fairies button aswell??"

Some of us do ‘give a shit’ and don’t want to meet cheaters. So with that in mind, a box that indicates “married cheater confusing cheating with swinging” would be most welcome for elimination purposes.

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