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Pt.3 - BIGGEST and BEST BI EVENT IN THE NW-Friday Bi-Day @SaunaSauna 4th Oct * NOW GUEST LIST ONLY *
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I thought the purpose of the guest list was to stop the straight guys getting in? Yet having a look shows a few being added to the list. Doesn't that make the list pointless? | |||
"Checking in to see if got on the gest list fingers crossed "You were added via your original request, I responded on the forum thread 👍🏻 | |||
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"Looking forward to this, one more sleep
I thought the purpose of the guest list was to stop the straight guys getting in? Yet having a look shows a few being added to the list. Doesn't that make the list pointless? "This guest list is for people to provide their details and request attendance to the event. How people choose to define themselves on their fab profile is entirely their own personal choice as you’ll appreciate that bisexuality takes a number of different forms and preferences. As the event host it’s me that doing the work behind the scenes to assess guest suitability. If your judgement of other guests isn’t to your liking then just let me know and I will remove you from the guest list 👍🏻 | |||
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"Looking forward to this, one more sleep
I thought the purpose of the guest list was to stop the straight guys getting in? Yet having a look shows a few being added to the list. Doesn't that make the list pointless?
This guest list is for people to provide their details and request attendance to the event.
How people choose to define themselves on their fab profile is entirely their own personal choice as you’ll appreciate that bisexuality takes a number of different forms and preferences. As the event host it’s me that doing the work behind the scenes to assess guest suitability.
If your judgement of other guests isn’t to your liking then just let me know and I will remove you from the guest list 👍🏻
"If they're straight they won't bother me 🤷 Just seems you're having to work harder for no gain. | |||
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"Hi If there still room , would you put me down on the guest list Thanks" Added 👍🏻 | |||
"Hi can I bee added to guest list " Added & thanks for the chat 😉 | |||
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"Hey please could I be added to the guest list? First time at bi day and first time at the venue since the refurb "Certainly can 😉 | |||
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"Can u add single male itsaddzz" Only because it’s you asking lol 🤣 x | |||
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"Unfortunately not able to attend this one please cancel me" No problem 👍🏻 | |||
"I'd like to be added to the guest list please" Added 😉 | |||
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"Please add me to the guest list. " No problem 👍🏻 | |||
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"Please add me to the guest list too " Certainly 👍🏻 | |||
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"Hi Jax. Please would you mind adding us to the guest list. Thank you. x "Certainly can 😉 | |||
"Can you pay at the club or do you have to get your ticket via the website first?" Just pay at the club 😉 | |||
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"I expect to make it today" Do you want me to add you to the guest list? | |||
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"yes please" No problem 👍🏻 | |||
"Hi, can you add me please" Added 👍🏻 | |||
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"Gueslist add please " Added | |||
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"Can I be added to the guest list please x" Added 👍🏻 | |||
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"Looking forward to this, one more sleep
I thought the purpose of the guest list was to stop the straight guys getting in? Yet having a look shows a few being added to the list. Doesn't that make the list pointless?
This guest list is for people to provide their details and request attendance to the event.
How people choose to define themselves on their fab profile is entirely their own personal choice as you’ll appreciate that bisexuality takes a number of different forms and preferences. As the event host it’s me that doing the work behind the scenes to assess guest suitability.
If your judgement of other guests isn’t to your liking then just let me know and I will remove you from the guest list 👍🏻
If they're straight they won't bother me 🤷
Just seems you're having to work harder for no gain. "The crowds of straight guys following women and couples were embarrassing. If it doesn't say no or curious on their profile then they should not be accepted . Either that or have to get their cock sucked or suck a cock at the reception as a test! | |||
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"Checking in, we will be getting there around 7pm ish, looking forward to seeing you all!" See ya there fellow peggers | |||
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" The crowds of straight guys following women and couples were embarrassing. If it doesn't say no or curious on their profile then they should not be accepted . Either that or have to get their cock sucked or suck a cock at the reception as a test! " Ha, we had a guy message to say he was thinking of going, but he is straight. I told him we are not travelling 2 hours to go to a Bi event to play with straight guys! Unless they are happy putting on a good show for me first, they can jog on 
MrsG x | |||
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thanks lovely to see you all x
It seemed busier then last month, nicer atmosphere and definitely more couples especially in the social areas and bar so maybe the guest list did work.
Yes there where a few walking wanking single males but there always is wherever you go tbf…but in all they were we'll behaved around the female with no touches.
See you next month | |||
"Well we both had a fantastic time, meeting friends old and new ones but of socialising with some fun in between in a cabin, the cinema and in the g room as well, you know who you are that was fun! thanks lovely to see you all x
It seemed busier then last month, nicer atmosphere and definitely more couples especially in the social areas and bar so maybe the guest list did work.
Yes there where a few walking wanking single males but there always is wherever you go tbf…but in all they were we'll behaved around the female with no touches.
See you next month"I agree that most guys weren't handsy with me, but the same can't be said for the hubby! We lost count of the number of times guys just grabbed him, (it was always the much older guys) which made us not want to play in the open spaces/group rooms. We did have some fun in the private rooms, and the steam room/hot tub were lovely, but lack of manners from the older guys kind of killed the vibe for us  | |||
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"Not a bad day, although I found there was too many lingering straight guys and noticed that most couples or ladies just stuck to who they new. It was so difficult to chat to couples as they just walked away( not just from me). Trying to find that couple for a private meet was virtually impossible. Also as I said too many straight guys and yes us bi's know." That's not the impression we got at all tbh. In fact, most of the guys I would have been interested were only looking for other men 😅 MrsG | |||
"Not a bad day, although I found there was too many lingering straight guys and noticed that most couples or ladies just stuck to who they new. It was so difficult to chat to couples as they just walked away( not just from me). Trying to find that couple for a private meet was virtually impossible. Also as I said too many straight guys and yes us bi's know. That's not the impression we got at all tbh. In fact, most of the guys I would have been interested were only looking for other men 😅 MrsG"As Robbie Williams once said “all the handsome men are gay” 😅 | |||
"Not a bad day, although I found there was too many lingering straight guys and noticed that most couples or ladies just stuck to who they new. It was so difficult to chat to couples as they just walked away( not just from me). Trying to find that couple for a private meet was virtually impossible. Also as I said too many straight guys and yes us bi's know. That's not the impression we got at all tbh. In fact, most of the guys I would have been interested were only looking for other men 😅 MrsG
As Robbie Williams once said “all the handsome men are gay” 😅
"🤣🤣🤣 Love it! | |||
"Not a bad day, although I found there was too many lingering straight guys and noticed that most couples or ladies just stuck to who they new. It was so difficult to chat to couples as they just walked away( not just from me). Trying to find that couple for a private meet was virtually impossible. Also as I said too many straight guys and yes us bi's know. That's not the impression we got at all tbh. In fact, most of the guys I would have been interested were only looking for other men 😅 MrsG"Fair enough, yes it did get a bit better in the evening. Looks like you were looking at the wrong guys you didn't come find me lol | |||
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Absolutely love this event and the guest list seemed to improve it imo. See you all next time. Xx | |||
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"Glad that you all had fun in that place last night. In response to those of you moaning about there being too many men in there, PLEASE don’t forget that the venue you attended is a sauna for GAY and BI men. It’s not, nor has it ever been a swingers club. The place has been going for many many and owes its success to those men and the gay community that have supported and consistently paid to visit. It’s their space, always has been, always will be. Only in the last few years were women allowed in a few nights a year and the only reason it’s open until 1am (when it normally closes at 8pm) is because they can cash in on curious couples that want to know what goes on in one of the UK’s biggest and most modern gay saunas. I wouldn’t dream of going to a swingers club and complaining there were too many women or too many swingers, even on a night that might have a “Gay Theme” to it. I’m merely a guest in a venue that caters for a different sexuality to my own. If I don’t like it, then I just leave. There are a million and one swingers and couples places all over the UK, but exclusively gay spaces for this kind of thing are a little harder to find. To those unhappy with the clientele, just count yourselves lucky that you get to experience what the rest of us have all year round and what we’ve made successful as gay and bi men in our local community. Northwich hasn’t always been so easy for gay people and we’re proud of what we have on our doorstep. " I don't think it's the amount of men in there on these bi nights, I've been twice on regular days and 3 times now on bi nights. I think and is that there was a fair few straight single guys in there who made it obvious they were straight. Think that's what most us bi noticed. Just our thoughts. If staying with guests list I'd and probably others would like to see some kind of vetting. Also I did notice quite a few getting in who were not on the list or wasn't asked. Rant over,think the place is cool otherwise | |||
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"Glad that you all had fun in that place last night. In response to those of you moaning about there being too many men in there, PLEASE don’t forget that the venue you attended is a sauna for GAY and BI men. It’s not, nor has it ever been a swingers club. The place has been going for many many and owes its success to those men and the gay community that have supported and consistently paid to visit. It’s their space, always has been, always will be. Only in the last few years were women allowed in a few nights a year and the only reason it’s open until 1am (when it normally closes at 8pm) is because they can cash in on curious couples that want to know what goes on in one of the UK’s biggest and most modern gay saunas. I wouldn’t dream of going to a swingers club and complaining there were too many women or too many swingers, even on a night that might have a “Gay Theme” to it. I’m merely a guest in a venue that caters for a different sexuality to my own. If I don’t like it, then I just leave. There are a million and one swingers and couples places all over the UK, but exclusively gay spaces for this kind of thing are a little harder to find. To those unhappy with the clientele, just count yourselves lucky that you get to experience what the rest of us have all year round and what we’ve made successful as gay and bi men in our local community. Northwich hasn’t always been so easy for gay people and we’re proud of what we have on our doorstep. " it’s not the men, most of us go for bi and gay men otherwise it’s just an Alchamy night, me personall am a sim a customer on normal gay and bi male only days so we appreciate it. As above I think think the comments aimed at the obviously straight men. not all straights men.. but the ones who act like they have never seen a women and think wanking in their face is gona get them laid lol Any awesome place, fantastic staff, always have fun both on bi night and Normal bi gay days and long May it continue to thrive | |||
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"Brilliant afternoon / early evening, thanks for having me "It was my pleasure haha Fantastic afternoon I love this event ❤️ | |||
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They don’t have a clue do they!!! I love the queer community. We really have it good don’t we | |||
" They don’t have a clue do they!!! I love the queer community. We really have it good don’t we " | |||
"I’m inclined to agree with the majority of the posts here. I’ve been going to SaunaSauna for many years and have seen 3 different owners. I’ve been to nearly all of the bi events and a number of Alchemy events and also visit other Swinging clubs. For what it’s worth, this is my view: • It’s a gay sauna event, not a swinging event • A lot of the single guys are gay men who want to play with men only, not women • Some of the single guys are bi and happy to play with both • Some of the single guys are straight and only want to play with women So, best approach is if you have a certain type of play in mind, make sure your choice of partner is into the same thing, this applies to MF couples, Singles, TV’s, etc. The concept of none bi, or limited bi play from singles guys engaging with MF couples is not new and not limited to SaunaSauna. It happens at swinging clubs that have specific bi events as I hear this complaint from couples on a regular basis. If you’re a MF couple and want bi MMF play, make that clear. It’s not enough to assume that the person you choose to play with is into the same things as you, and if we’re being honest, that applies to all types of play. Making your boundaries and expectations known means that it’s clear and if someone steps beyond those they can be challenged. As far as the behaviour of the single males is concerned, it isn’t always the best and the fact there isn’t a lot of monitoring by the venue doesn’t help. However, as this event has evolved over time, I do not see it changing much. If someone behaves in a bad way, report them to reception, multiple times if necessary. If the venue chooses to do nothing, then you then have to decide if you want to continue to attend the venue and event. Onto the positives, this is the most open minded and free event that you will come across in the mixed lifestyles of swinging and bi/gay events. What I noticed on Friday was a lot of closed doors, so lots of private play taking place, more open play in the larger room, a lot of socialising in the bar. I noticed male partners in MF couples making underwear choices they maybe would not feel comfortable doing in a typical swinging event! The event is in some ways a victim of its own success, word has got around there’s a place you can pay £18 with no ID, no membership and you might get to have some fun… I don’t think the guest list option is going to work as it will be too difficult to identify those genuinely bi curious guys from the straight guys, in doing so, it has already resulted in bi guys being turned away. You also have to ask, as an open-minded event for all, is it right to be turning people away purely based on their sexuality. Poor behaviour yes, sexuality…. " Our only complaint about the evening was that a lot of the older guys "assumed consent". With all the posters around reiterating the importance of asking before you touch, we just weren't expecting it. It seemed to be some weird double standard as it was only a problem for the Mr. A glancing touch trying to get someones attention is one thing, but shoving your fingers so far into someones ass crack thay are in danger of getting an atomic wedgie as they are just casually walking by is quite another! And it wasn't a one time thing 🙄 We are both Bi, have attend lots of queer events, and are regulars in our local gay bars/clubs. This is not a "bless their hearts, they don't have a clue" situation. This is a "other people's shitty behaviour made us feel uncomfortable" situation. To the people moaning about all the locked doors, and lack of couples in group spaces, this is probably why. I don't care whether you are Bi, straight, or gay, a non-con sneak attack is not OK! | |||
" Our only complaint about the evening was that a lot of the older guys "assumed consent". With all the posters around reiterating the importance of asking before you touch, we just weren't expecting it. It seemed to be some weird double standard as it was only a problem for the Mr. A glancing touch trying to get someones attention is one thing, but shoving your fingers so far into someones ass crack thay are in danger of getting an atomic wedgie as they are just casually walking by is quite another! And it wasn't a one time thing 🙄 We are both Bi, have attend lots of queer events, and are regulars in our local gay bars/clubs. This is not a "bless their hearts, they don't have a clue" situation. This is a "other people's shitty behaviour made us feel uncomfortable" situation. To the people moaning about all the locked doors, and lack of couples in group spaces, this is probably why. I don't care whether you are Bi, straight, or gay, a non-con sneak attack is not OK! " | |||
Maybe the club should trial a Greedy Girls event. Very popular at The Attic in Derby.
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"Brilliant afternoon / early evening, thanks for having me
It was my pleasure haha
Fantastic afternoon
I love this event ❤️ "Especially when you chose which cock for me to suck | |||
"I do think that reverting to none Guest list is the best option, as I can only imagine how much effort was required to try an validate bi-ness, then deal with people attending who were not on the list. It’s very much up to people to decide if they want to attend, or not. " I could imagine and tgen saw the reality of a guest list being a logistical nightmare for this event. Sadly tgere are some very desperate men if they are pretending at the outset to be bi or resorting to changing their profile preference to go to get around a guest list. From what I've witnessed at the event tgey really are quite embarrassing and possibly an annoyance to sone couples and women. I chose to avoid the group of mindless wanking zombies. | |||
" The crowds of straight guys following women and couples were embarrassing. If it doesn't say no or curious on their profile then they should not be accepted . Either that or have to get their cock sucked or suck a cock at the reception as a test! Ha, we had a guy message to say he was thinking of going, but he is straight. I told him we are not travelling 2 hours to go to a Bi event to play with straight guys! Unless they are happy putting on a good show for me first, they can jog on
MrsG x"I completely agree. I had a situation towards the end of the night at the last event I attended where I was chatting to a couple near the glory hole area and the woman suggested I gave a guy chatting to them a bj and he gave a pretty aggressive reply back making it very clear he was straight. I think that she realised and that's why she pushed him over it. The security guy was there at the time and nothing was said which did surprise me. The couple went into the larger gh room and a couple of the guys in that groups said that they would not risk it in case it was a man sucking and not the woman of the couple. Certainly not what I'd expect from a Bi event. My swing partner if she was to go would expect to watch guys playing first which then gets her in the mood to play. No play with her otherwise. | |||
