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Lesson in Humility : Le Boudoir

By *almprints OP Woman over a year ago

deepest, darkest West

Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

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By *uzzy NavelWoman over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

Two friends of mine attend Citizensin and Mika-X both from London x

I’m sure they’d be happy to answer any query’s x

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By *rof_cplCouple over a year ago

Gerrards Cross

We've been a few times now. Didn't realise they had any angry requirements other than joining and paying. Never been turned away.

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By *rof_cplCouple over a year ago

Gerrards Cross

"We've been a few times now. Didn't realise they had any angry requirements other than joining and paying. Never been turned away."

*Entry requirements, not angry requirements.

Bloody autocorrect.

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

There has been several threads about people being turned away / application rejected. Search the subject on here. Too old, too fat, not pretty or handsome enough type thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

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turned away you mean at the door lol noooooooooo

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

"We've been a few times now. Didn't realise they had any angry requirements other than joining and paying. Never been turned away."

Angry requirements made me spit out my tea...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That would be me knackered then

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By *n With LifeCouple over a year ago

Hadley Wood

"There has been several threads about people being turned away / application rejected. Search the subject on here. Too old, too fat, not pretty or handsome enough type thing.

No chance for us then!

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By *almprints OP Woman over a year ago

deepest, darkest West

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

turned away you mean at the door lol noooooooooo

Nope, email application...

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

I have applied twice and twice I have received a email twice saying it’s not good news over subscribed with single guys.Whilst I was disappointed I accepted the decision as it’s their right to accept and reject or they want and I have moved on.I have seen the various forums about Le Boudior regarding been rejected for various reasons but at the end of the day it’s there right who they accept or reject but there is no need for rudeness as has been mentioned in previous forums.

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By *ohohoWoman over a year ago

Up North

"I have applied twice and twice I have received a email twice saying it’s not good news over subscribed with single guys.Whilst I was disappointed I accepted the decision as it’s their right to accept and reject or they want and I have moved on.I have seen the various forums about Le Boudior regarding been rejected for various reasons but at the end of the day it’s there right who they accept or reject but there is no need for rudeness as has been mentioned in previous forums."

I didn’t read anyone being rude above. Just discussing what they think is the entry requirements of the club.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

turned away you mean at the door lol noooooooooo

Nope, email application..."
really omg this is for me a reason not to want to even consider going

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

I didn’t read anyone being rude above. Just discussing what they think is the entry requirements of the club. "
. Sorry I wasn’t too clear on the rudeness part.On a previous forum a couple stated they asked for feedback as to why their full membership had been rejected as they had been to the club before apparently.They were told it was because the lady was considered ugly and the man too fat.After various exchanges of emails and the forums it seemed like the couple may have used pictures of when they were younger.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We applied about 6 weeks ago and we were accepted. But reading the forum threads posted by others it shocked us by the way people were rejected. We can understand being rejected at the door if you have not followed dress code or are high as kite on drugs or even very d*unk. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

turned away you mean at the door lol noooooooooo

Nope, email application...really omg this is for me a reason not to want to even consider going

Me too! The thought of sending in an application, attaching a picture and waiting to see if I ‘make the cut’ makes me shudder... I’d personally find the process embarrassing whether I was accepted or not.

Doesn’t make the club come across as a friendly open minded place to be.

That been said tho we all do it on here daily. Send the first message or dreaded wink and wait to see if we’re that person/couples cup of tea and that doesn’t bother me one bit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We got the sorry it’s not good news response too.

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By *almprints OP Woman over a year ago

deepest, darkest West

"We got the sorry it’s not good news response too."

Yay, not alone and yet simultaneously boo...

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By *adyinred696969Couple over a year ago

Brecon

"We got the sorry it’s not good news response too."

Seriously?

Well, thats us out then, not the kind of place we would apply to, but if you guys got turned down theres no way they would consider us anyway!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry to hear that, the best bit about the clubs we attend are the owners and patrons are open minded and not judgemental, we would never allow ourselves to be judged although we respect the right of the owners to set their own rules.

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"There has been several threads about people being turned away / application rejected. Search the subject on here. Too old, too fat, not pretty or handsome enough type thing.

I was a member and kept getting invited to gi and gi ti events. I went to one and was told I wa refused entry despite being a member and invited.No reason given. Crap attitude really

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"We got the sorry it’s not good news response too."

And I for one simply cannot understand why they would reject you.

But they di this even yo existing members as I was.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There has been several threads about people being turned away / application rejected. Search the subject on here. Too old, too fat, not pretty or handsome enough type thing.

WOW!! :O Really??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

turned away you mean at the door lol noooooooooo

Nope, email application...really omg this is for me a reason not to want to even consider going

Doesn’t make the club come across as a friendly open minded place to be.

That been said tho we all do it on here daily. Send the first message or dreaded wink and wait to see if we’re that person/couples cup of tea and that doesn’t bother me one bit.

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true having said that i rarely send first messages and completely understand if I'm not their type i dont stress about it, i dont stress about anything

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By *carlet Rose RedWoman over a year ago

Woodley

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I totally get why some people want to have sex with hot people...everyone wants to try & punch above their weight (no pun intended) ...presumably those that submitted an application wanted to too!

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By *carlet Rose RedWoman over a year ago

Woodley

I will not attend as the owner ups the age limit when they have a birthday so they can attend their own club says it all really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

turned away you mean at the door lol noooooooooo

Nope, email application...really omg this is for me a reason not to want to even consider going

Doesn’t make the club come across as a friendly open minded place to be.

That been said tho we all do it on here daily. Send the first message or dreaded wink and wait to see if we’re that person/couples cup of tea and that doesn’t bother me one bit.

true having said that i rarely send first messages and completely understand if I'm not their type i dont stress about it, i dont stress about anything

I’m exactly the same, just baffled that a club does it. Further baffled by what they are looking for in members. Yourself and other great looking people have been rejected

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By *olden RatioWoman over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

I’ve never been to a club and had thought about trying La Boudoir but I keep hearing negative feedback about their selection criteria, so I don’t think it’s for me

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By *exylondongrlWoman over a year ago

Esher

Just to fan the flames... I like, and it is why I go there, that Le Boudoir has more of a selection policy than clubs who just admit anyone.

I have never found them, rude, elitist or pretentious. They simply insist on people being presentable. Who doesn't like people to be clean, in shape and attractive?

No one ever reached out to a user on fab and said, hey, you look dreadful but fancy meeting up?

The club is simply a higher calibre than any other in the UK (indeed more so than many I have visited in other countries, and I have been to plenty on my travels) and the people who go to Le Boudoir, are well, generally looking after themselves better and are smarter than other places.

Outside of the handful of usual suspects who always write negatively about anything and everything on these threads(and I am sure will now attack me... haters will always hate) the real truth about Le Boudoir is the overwhelmingly the positive reviews the club gets from people who have actually been to it.

If you applied and were not successful, instead of moaning, why not take a look at yourself and ask, can I do better?

Just my two penneth worth.

Merry Christmas

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By *horty4Man over a year ago

london

"Just to fan the flames... I like, and it is why I go there, that Le Boudoir has more of a selection policy than clubs who just admit anyone.

I have never found them, rude, elitist or pretentious. They simply insist on people being presentable. Who doesn't like people to be clean, in shape and attractive?

No one ever reached out to a user on fab and said, hey, you look dreadful but fancy meeting up?

If you applied and were not successful, instead of moaning, why not take a look at yourself and ask, can I do better?

Just my two penneth worth.

Merry Christmas

Very much this, lets face facts. Swinging is primarily about casual encounters. Not deep, lifelong commitments where you share the joys and cope with the trials of life. It’s sexual attraction, lust. That is somewhat superficial, if you want to try the best club going then apply. If you don’t make it, move on. Any guy on here will know that sending a message to a couple or woman will almost certainly be turned down. Anyone looking at the forum understands tha LB selects, don’t read that then whine if you are not successful.

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By *almprints OP Woman over a year ago

deepest, darkest West

"Just to fan the flames... I like, and it is why I go there, that Le Boudoir has more of a selection policy than clubs who just admit anyone.

I have never found them, rude, elitist or pretentious. They simply insist on people being presentable. Who doesn't like people to be clean, in shape and attractive?

No one ever reached out to a user on fab and said, hey, you look dreadful but fancy meeting up?

If you applied and were not successful, instead of moaning, why not take a look at yourself and ask, can I do better?

Just my two penneth worth.

Merry Christmas

You can interpret my posting as a whine if you wish, and as I said, I respect that they have their criteria. Not a problem...I was simply curious to see what other types of people had also received a similar message.

Happy fabbing

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By *almprints OP Woman over a year ago

deepest, darkest West

"Just to fan the flames... I like, and it is why I go there, that Le Boudoir has more of a selection policy than clubs who just admit anyone.

I have never found them, rude, elitist or pretentious. They simply insist on people being presentable. Who doesn't like people to be clean, in shape and attractive?

No one ever reached out to a user on fab and said, hey, you look dreadful but fancy meeting up?

If you applied and were not successful, instead of moaning, why not take a look at yourself and ask, can I do better?

Just my two penneth worth.

Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas to you also.

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By *ohohoWoman over a year ago

Up North

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No one ever reached out to a user on fab and said, hey, you look dreadful but fancy meeting up?

and the people who go to Le Boudoir, are well, generally looking after themselves better and are smarter than other places ..........

If you applied and were not successful, instead of moaning, why not take a look at yourself and ask, can I do better?

Wow. Just wow. So you can tell a persons intelligence by just looking at them? Being attractive is more than just how your look on the outside.

I have no issue with a club deciding who should be admitted. I do however have issues with people who think they are better then others when they are clearly not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

turned away you mean at the door lol noooooooooo

Nope, email application...really omg this is for me a reason not to want to even consider going

Doesn’t make the club come across as a friendly open minded place to be.

That been said tho we all do it on here daily. Send the first message or dreaded wink and wait to see if we’re that person/couples cup of tea and that doesn’t bother me one bit.

true having said that i rarely send first messages and completely understand if I'm not their type i dont stress about it, i dont stress about anything

I’m exactly the same, just baffled that a club does it. Further baffled by what they are looking for in members. Yourself and other great looking people have been rejected

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its the same premise as fab really if something or someone is popular by virtue of image or good feedback veris or reviews then that gives the same advantage in terms of supply and demand, popular females and even not so popular females can pick and chooseand this club is renowned for swinging and the beautiful people syndrome a woman i used to be friendly with a few years back went with her lesbian friend, she turned up wearing just a fur coat and a lead she shed the coat and was led in the doors naked by her lady handler to a round of applause from the other guests that night

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple over a year ago

Falkirk

We have been. It's ok. I can see why they restrict membership, it's a private established club.

It does make sense to limit the numbers and applications as this causes a demand.

Creating a demand = profit.

In in the business world that's what it's all about.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman over a year ago

Hampshire

I'd be knackered then too old or ugly for their requirements.

Have no interest in attending an elitist establishment.

There's already enough of that around in politics and vanilla life.

The thing that I love about swinging is it's inclusiveness and that most clubs are open to anyone with all shapes,sizes and gender's usually it's the one place people can truly be themselves.

There's someone for everyone.

As soon as they start vetting guest's it takes away the element of surprise.

If you go somewhere where you know everyone is going to be super hot the thrill of the chase is eliminated!

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By *talian PassionMan over a year ago

Chelmsford

Never had problems, always kind and stunning people. Amazing environment

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By *illyjohnyCouple over a year ago

brighton

"Just to fan the flames... I like, and it is why I go there, that Le Boudoir has more of a selection policy than clubs who just admit anyone.

I have never found them, rude, elitist or pretentious. They simply insist on people being presentable. Who doesn't like people to be clean, in shape and attractive?

No one ever reached out to a user on fab and said, hey, you look dreadful but fancy meeting up?

If you applied and were not successful, instead of moaning, why not take a look at yourself and ask, can I do better?

Just my two penneth worth.

Merry Christmas

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I find you post quite patronising as you are clearly in with the in crowd , to tell people who have been refused to take a look at them selves ? Why as they obviously don't fit the clubs criteria.

Yes you are right that some people could put a bit more effort in when attending any club but that does not seem to be the issue with becoming a member of this one as they vetted purely on a picture ?

But as a business if if works for them then that's good.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd be knackered then too old or ugly for their requirements.

Have no interest in attending an elitist establishment.

There's already enough of that around in politics and vanilla life.

The thing that I love about swinging is it's inclusiveness and that most clubs are open to anyone with all shapes,sizes and gender's usually it's the one place people can truly be themselves.

There's someone for everyone.

As soon as they start vetting guest's it takes away the element of surprise.

If you go somewhere where you know everyone is going to be super hot the thrill of the chase is eliminated!"

Amen. The whole mindset of the establishment just doesn’t sound like fun. Swinging is superficial but at its best it’s inclusive and liberating. Worrying about whether you’re up to the beauty standard on a liberated night out just doesn’t sound like the basis for a good time to me. Do I have to fuck sedately so I don’t smear my make-up? No full on fucking in case I mess up my outfit...By definition liberation and exclusivity don’t mix..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

We applied a few years ago. Initially turned down, then accepted after they invited us to an event.

Went once - host were lovely no complaints there - some of the guest were not so nice though. Rude and obnoxious, made it very clear we were not their type.

Now I get that could be at any club but it left a sour taste, we haven't been back but are thinking about giving it another go - not fair to sully it on one night.

We will have to reapply though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

We applied a few years ago. Initially turned down, then accepted after they invited us to an event.

Went once - host were lovely no complaints there - some of the guest were not so nice though. Rude and obnoxious, made it very clear we were not their type.

Now I get that could be at any club but it left a sour taste, we haven't been back but are thinking about giving it another go - not fair to sully it on one night.

We will have to reapply though. "

It just sounds worse and worse with every post

clubs are something we've thought and talked about but seriously, fuck that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

We applied a few years ago. Initially turned down, then accepted after they invited us to an event.

Went once - host were lovely no complaints there - some of the guest were not so nice though. Rude and obnoxious, made it very clear we were not their type.

Now I get that could be at any club but it left a sour taste, we haven't been back but are thinking about giving it another go - not fair to sully it on one night.

We will have to reapply though. "

Sorry just looked at your pics.... You weren't their type? Well what the hell is their type then? I can just see a stunning young couple? What am I missing?

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By *romNorfolkCouple over a year ago

Norfolk

Applied and turned down as photos we supplied did not meet the requirements. Replied to the email with “better” photos (read as “followed the rules”) and was accepted.

Went to our first Saturday night in November and we both loved it. Booked to go again in a week and then again in January.

Yes - it does feel like a more up market club than the descriptions of some others on here. Our only other experience of a club was Liberty Elite over a decade ago. It compared well to that (a decade ago) but no idea what Libs is like now to be able to give a true comparison.

We’d would recommend as a couple. No experience of doing this as singles though so not able to comment on that.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

I'd rather have a great night with the 'not good enough' crowd

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd rather have a great night with the 'not good enough' crowd

I've got a strong feeling it would be like every other event we've been to, maybe ten people we'd be interested in and the rest we'd just wonder why we were even in the same room. I certainly have no trace of fomo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Please don’t make a decision against trying a club based upon reports about this one. I doubt they’re all the same in terms of vetting, behaviour etc.

What stands out here is that some great looking fabbers have been declined. I, for one, won’t be trying to get in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

We applied a few years ago. Initially turned down, then accepted after they invited us to an event.

Went once - host were lovely no complaints there - some of the guest were not so nice though. Rude and obnoxious, made it very clear we were not their type.

Now I get that could be at any club but it left a sour taste, we haven't been back but are thinking about giving it another go - not fair to sully it on one night.

We will have to reapply though.

Sorry just looked at your pics.... You weren't their type? Well what the hell is their type then? I can just see a stunning young couple? What am I missing? "

Thank you for the compliment.

I would stress that a) this has been the only club we have had that in. All the others have been more than welcoming. B) we have only been once and could have just been a bad night - they happen.

We will go back at some point to be certain though.

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By *aeBabeWoman over a year ago

London

I've not been to Le Boudoir in a long time (for a different reason) but I can say that I had lots of amazing experiences at the club and a few less than amazing experiences to do with people who attended the club.

When I've been there was always a mixture of people, age, race and size. I know I've seen people who have turned up to the place and haven't looked like the pictures they submitted and been turned away (which is fair), I also know of 2 gentleman who had their application rejected and the only common factor I could see was that they both had dreadlocks but there may be another reason that they got rejected as I don't think race is the case.

I think because of the process of vetting people for membership before the application is successful, the applicant should put their best face forward. If you decide you want to apply for a private members club you should also be ready to accept that you won't be accepted.

Bottom line: A private members club can run their club how they see fit including the vetting of prospective members.

If that isn't for you, it's within your right to avoid said club.

London has a very diverse way of handling the swing scene, clubs like Le Boudoir and private parties like Killing Kittens will vet members a certain way to appeal to a certain niche group of swingers but there are so many people in the swing scene there's plenty for all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've crewed at fetish parties where there was very stringent vetting but it was based on safety and reputation. It was to avoid having people there who didn't know how to behave not to keep out people who weren't considered attractive enough. But you're right in that there's so many clubs that it's a small thing and not worth worrying about. I know a lot of clubs are struggling to stay open and if this is a business plan that's working for them then you can't really blame them. Someone mentioned that they get overwhelmingly positive reviews.

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By *ingle Dad SeekingMan over a year ago

Northern England

I'm reminded of this quote from Grouch Marx.

“I wouldn't want to belong to a club that would have me as a member”

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple over a year ago

on the move

We've never been but a bit put off by some stories.

Can it be a bit clicky and elitist?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I went recently, and after reading posts like this I expected super model types to fill the club. It really wasn't like that all. I struggled to see why so many think it's a club that only accept a certain type. There was a real mix of people there.

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By *heIcebreakersCouple over a year ago

Cramlington

"Just to fan the flames... I like, and it is why I go there, that Le Boudoir has more of a selection policy than clubs who just admit anyone.

I have never found them, rude, elitist or pretentious. They simply insist on people being presentable. Who doesn't like people to be clean, in shape and attractive?

No one ever reached out to a user on fab and said, hey, you look dreadful but fancy meeting up?

If you applied and were not successful, instead of moaning, why not take a look at yourself and ask, can I do better?

Just my two penneth worth.

Merry Christmas

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ANd a merry crhistmas to you. My way of doing better is by steering clear of such places.

Seriously. I'm a cyclist. We have such issues in cycling. There are cycling clubs who are invitation only, with weird rules about what kit you must wear, what bikes you must ride and how long your socks must be. There are clubs which are for socialists only. And there are other clubs where the only rule is 'don't be a dick'. Guess which I belong to?

Swinging is no different. However, if you choose to belong to one of the clubs where sock length matters, where it's invitation only and you're expelled if you can't afford the annual Majorca 'training camp' don't be surprised if other people who have other priorities think you're a bit weird, or poke fun, or critique the 'can't you do any better' snobbery....

Seriously, this isn't a personal dig, it's just an invitation to reflect on the message you send.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Going to look up the other threads. This has been quite eye-opening

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We got the sorry it’s not good news response too."

The only possible reason I could think of is-were they already full and bursting at the seams? Its the most convenient in c london so must be to use a rechnicasl term, 'oversubscribed' !

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"We got the sorry it’s not good news response too.

The only possible reason I could think of is-were they already full and bursting at the seams? Its the most convenient in c london so must be to use a rechnicasl term, 'oversubscribed' !"
. As I stated earlier I have twice got the oversubscribed email which I can fully understand and respect and from what I understand it’s not just guys that have received the oversubscribed email but couples and single ladies I have met at socials and other events.Because of its location and the fact the tube line runs threw the night on a Saturday a lot of people like myself consider it perfect with regards to opening times , location and off course the lots of fabulous club reviews on Fabs it’s no wonder people are applying.

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By *exyCouple999Couple over a year ago

South Bucks

We've been members of Le Boudoir for several years. It's a fantastic club, we've been plenty of times, and never had a less than perfect night. Attractive and friendly people throughout. Best thing for us is that the single males don't hang around in an intimidating pack like certain other clubs. All the single gents we have met are polite and respectable and know how to conduct themselves.

Every time we have been it has been packed, so clearly the swinging community as a whole likes the club, and the business model is working. It really is worth making the effort to gain membership.

We've been swinging for nearly 20 years and Le Boudoir remains our firm favourite club.

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By *horty4Man over a year ago

london

So good I’m going again of Friday. As the previous poster says, the guys are very well behaved, which actually makes it better for the guys that are allowed in. Everyone is at ease with none of the understandable defensiveness that couples and single women have at other clubs. if there is any nonsense, David kicks them out. There is a huge waiting list for guys so they don’t have to tolerate Neanderthals

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m a member but I’ve not been yet

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By *mmixtapeCouple over a year ago

middle earth

So basically, only skinny girls allowed. That's funny because I get a good whack of guys and girls of all shapes and sizes messaging me and approaching me because they love BBWs

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By *aeBabeWoman over a year ago

London

"So basically, only skinny girls allowed. That's funny because I get a good whack of guys and girls of all shapes and sizes messaging me and approaching me because they love BBWs"

No, that isn't the case. Like I said in my previous post, there were a variety of shapes and sizes when I use to go.

There are certain event nights that may attract a "good-looking" crowd, once went there with my ex (who's first time it was at LB) and he felt like he was walking into a dream but that's purely down to the people attending because they know so and so is going, etc.

Mostly it's just ordinary people like any night you would attend a cocktail bar or central London night club.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was never given an actual reason for rejection of membership. After reading a select few members opinions on here though I feel the need to thank them for not wasting our time of having us attend. To actually tell people to take a look at themselves is ridiculous. Everyone is attracted to different things and to be deluded enough to believe that everyone should model themselves on what they believe is attractive is nothing short of arrogance.

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By *layful Couple For YouCouple over a year ago

Lust

Thanks for the heads up, we’re planning a London get away, where a night at LB was planned in. Best we get prior approval first....

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

Wed never get approved being a larger couple. Plus you just have to look at their website to see how they treat trans and gay men to know its not a place for me

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By *horty4Man over a year ago

london

"Wed never get approved being a larger couple. Plus you just have to look at their website to see how they treat trans and gay men to know its not a place for me "

There’s a trans woman who is a regular on a Friday, also gay men. I’ve seen them playing on a Friday, not just the bi night. You may want to look at LBs profile on here.

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By *exyCouple999Couple over a year ago

South Bucks

"Thanks for the heads up, we’re planning a London get away, where a night at LB was planned in. Best we get prior approval first....

You'll find it is definitely worth it. Hope you enjoy your night there. Do say Hi to us if you see us !

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By *layful Couple For YouCouple over a year ago

Lust

"Thanks for the heads up, we’re planning a London get away, where a night at LB was planned in. Best we get prior approval first....

You'll find it is definitely worth it. Hope you enjoy your night there. Do say Hi to us if you see us !

We most certainly will do

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By *andKBCouple over a year ago

Plymouth

"Wed never get approved being a larger couple. Plus you just have to look at their website to see how they treat trans and gay men to know its not a place for me

There’s a trans woman who is a regular on a Friday, also gay men. I’ve seen them playing on a Friday, not just the bi night. You may want to look at LBs profile on here. "

Maybe theyve changed it but last time I looked gay couples weren't allowed unless they had proof of marriage, etc. Trans people had to be post OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So basically, only skinny girls allowed. That's funny because I get a good whack of guys and girls of all shapes and sizes messaging me and approaching me because they love BBWs"

Was definitely not skinny girls when I visited. All shapes sizes and ages. A good mix of people to be fair.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just to fan the flames... I like, and it is why I go there, that Le Boudoir has more of a selection policy than clubs who just admit anyone.

I have never found them, rude, elitist or pretentious. They simply insist on people being presentable. Who doesn't like people to be clean, in shape and attractive?

No one ever reached out to a user on fab and said, hey, you look dreadful but fancy meeting up?

If you applied and were not successful, instead of moaning, why not take a look at yourself and ask, can I do better?

Just my two penneth worth.

Merry Christmas

Good answer, we’re the same x

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By *wesomeLolaCouple over a year ago

Peterborough and Buckinghamshire

If you applied and were not successful, instead of moaning, why not take a look at yourself and ask, can I do better?

Oh how stuck up are you? I'm sure it's easy enough to meet some superficial criteria when you're 26 and female. Try again when you're 56 and see if you still get admitted. You can try to "do better" but you can't turn back the clock.

We also had the "sorry" message when we applied to go there. We won't be asking a second time. There are plenty other clubs who do appreciate our custom.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

We applied a few years ago. Initially turned down, then accepted after they invited us to an event.

Went once - host were lovely no complaints there - some of the guest were not so nice though. Rude and obnoxious, made it very clear we were not their type.

Now I get that could be at any club but it left a sour taste, we haven't been back but are thinking about giving it another go - not fair to sully it on one night.

We will have to reapply though.

Sorry just looked at your pics.... You weren't their type? Well what the hell is their type then? I can just see a stunning young couple? What am I missing?

Thank you for the compliment.

I would stress that a) this has been the only club we have had that in. All the others have been more than welcoming. B) we have only been once and could have just been a bad night - they happen.

We will go back at some point to be certain though. "

One of the reasons we have not gone back is because at the time Mrs felt she was the biggest lady in the building and some of the people that went were less than complimentary.

We have reapplied (after our membership had lapsed) and been accepted so will probably go in the near future, hoping for a vastly different night.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

We applied a few years ago. Initially turned down, then accepted after they invited us to an event.

Went once - host were lovely no complaints there - some of the guest were not so nice though. Rude and obnoxious, made it very clear we were not their type.

Now I get that could be at any club but it left a sour taste, we haven't been back but are thinking about giving it another go - not fair to sully it on one night.

We will have to reapply though.

Sorry just looked at your pics.... You weren't their type? Well what the hell is their type then? I can just see a stunning young couple? What am I missing?

Thank you for the compliment.

I would stress that a) this has been the only club we have had that in. All the others have been more than welcoming. B) we have only been once and could have just been a bad night - they happen.

We will go back at some point to be certain though.

One of the reasons we have not gone back is because at the time Mrs felt she was the biggest lady in the building and some of the people that went were less than complimentary.

We have reapplied (after our membership had lapsed) and been accepted so will probably go in the near future, hoping for a vastly different night. "
your wife /lady is beautiful but the snobbery of that place doesn't bother you have had a not so good experience on a previous visit?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

We applied a few years ago. Initially turned down, then accepted after they invited us to an event.

Went once - host were lovely no complaints there - some of the guest were not so nice though. Rude and obnoxious, made it very clear we were not their type.

Now I get that could be at any club but it left a sour taste, we haven't been back but are thinking about giving it another go - not fair to sully it on one night.

We will have to reapply though.

Sorry just looked at your pics.... You weren't their type? Well what the hell is their type then? I can just see a stunning young couple? What am I missing?

Thank you for the compliment.

I would stress that a) this has been the only club we have had that in. All the others have been more than welcoming. B) we have only been once and could have just been a bad night - they happen.

We will go back at some point to be certain though.

One of the reasons we have not gone back is because at the time Mrs felt she was the biggest lady in the building and some of the people that went were less than complimentary.

We have reapplied (after our membership had lapsed) and been accepted so will probably go in the near future, hoping for a vastly different night. your wife /lady is beautiful but the snobbery of that place doesn't bother you have had a not so good experience on a previous visit?

"
having had

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By *exylondongrlWoman over a year ago

Esher

"Just to fan the flames... I like, and it is why I go there, that Le Boudoir has more of a selection policy than clubs who just admit anyone.

I have never found them, rude, elitist or pretentious. They simply insist on people being presentable. Who doesn't like people to be clean, in shape and attractive?

No one ever reached out to a user on fab and said, hey, you look dreadful but fancy meeting up?

If you applied and were not successful, instead of moaning, why not take a look at yourself and ask, can I do better?

Just my two penneth worth.

Merry Christmas

Good answer, we’re the same x"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Am in shock reading all this tbh - due to personal reasons I don't go to clubs anymore. I was thinking about going back to the clubs but after reading all of this am honestly shit scared.

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By *exylondongrlWoman over a year ago

Esher

I am not stuck up in the least and I hope that when I am 56, I'll still be looking after myself. At no point did I actually say you were not.

And, whilst I may disagree with your opinions, I fully respect the fact that you are entitled to one.

It seems, however, that you do not afford me the same courtesy?

I find it mildly amusing that any club that upholds social standards these days and BTW, LB seems to be one of the few clubs in the UK that is thriving, always busy, sold out for NYE, moving to a new premises next year, are accused of elitism and snobbery by a handful of dissenters. That is a just a Corbynist perspective!

Everyone is not created equal, and swinging is not totally inclusive. Hyperbole from anyone that feels making no effort at all is acceptable. I don't think it is. I see it from people when I am flying. some people are smart, others look like they have been dragged through a hedge backward!

I literally lol when I read 'vetting guests, takes away the element of surprise, if you go somewhere where everyone is super hot it takes away the thrill of chase.'

Sorry, but that just makes no sense whatsoever.

Happy New Year lovers!

Now.... waiting for the haters....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What confuses and frankly galls me is that people get so defensive and entitled when they're told there not attractive enough to pass the bar of a private club yet they will say things on their profiles to exclude, for instance, others based on their race.

Surely Le Boudoir management are entitled to allow only the sexy people in according to their 'preferences'?

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"Just to fan the flames... I like, and it is why I go there, that Le Boudoir has more of a selection policy than clubs who just admit anyone.

I have never found them, rude, elitist or pretentious. They simply insist on people being presentable. Who doesn't like people to be clean, in shape and attractive?

No one ever reached out to a user on fab and said, hey, you look dreadful but fancy meeting up?

If you applied and were not successful, instead of moaning, why not take a look at yourself and ask, can I do better?

Just my two penneth worth.

Merry Christmas

Do you think they will let me in if i take the mirror with me

just incase

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am not stuck up in the least and I hope that when I am 56, I'll still be looking after myself. At no point did I actually say you were not."

Great post

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"I am not stuck up in the least and I hope that when I am 56, I'll still be looking after myself. At no point did I actually say you were not.

And, whilst I may disagree with your opinions, I fully respect the fact that you are entitled to one.

It seems, however, that you do not afford me the same courtesy?

I literally lol when I read 'vetting guests, takes away the element of surprise, if you go somewhere where everyone is super hot it takes away the thrill of chase.'

Sorry, but that just makes no sense whatsoever.

Happy New Year lovers!

Now.... waiting for the haters....

Do you think you will look good as me when you have my age 41. When you 41 please post a picture of yourself and let's compare .

Apologize i don't mean be rude

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What confuses and frankly galls me is that people get so defensive and entitled when they're told there not attractive enough to pass the bar of a private club yet they will say things on their profiles to exclude, for instance, others based on their race.

Surely Le Boudoir management are entitled to allow only the sexy people in according to their 'preferences'?"

Its a good observation! no one likes to be excluded but everyone has preferences that lead to exclusion...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surely Le Boudoir management are entitled to allow only the sexy people in according to their 'preferences'?

Its a good observation! no one likes to be excluded but everyone has preferences that lead to exclusion... "

Exactly: it's merely hypocrisy.

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

Surely Le Boudoir management are entitled to allow only the sexy people in according to their 'preferences'?

Its a good observation! no one likes to be excluded but everyone has preferences that lead to exclusion... "

I'm always up for inclusion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am not stuck up in the least and I hope that when I am 56, I'll still be looking after myself. At no point did I actually say you were not.

And, whilst I may disagree with your opinions, I fully respect the fact that you are entitled to one.

It seems, however, that you do not afford me the same courtesy?

I literally lol when I read 'vetting guests, takes away the element of surprise, if you go somewhere where everyone is super hot it takes away the thrill of chase.'

Sorry, but that just makes no sense whatsoever.

Happy New Year lovers!

Now.... waiting for the haters....

"
probably sold out for the same reason women rule here though and unfortunately thats a numbers reason so has no credibility other than supply and demand

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By *exyCouple999Couple over a year ago

South Bucks

"I am not stuck up in the least and I hope that when I am 56, I'll still be looking after myself. At no point did I actually say you were not.

And, whilst I may disagree with your opinions, I fully respect the fact that you are entitled to one.

It seems, however, that you do not afford me the same courtesy?

I literally lol when I read 'vetting guests, takes away the element of surprise, if you go somewhere where everyone is super hot it takes away the thrill of chase.'

Sorry, but that just makes no sense whatsoever.

Happy New Year lovers!

Now.... waiting for the haters....

probably sold out for the same reason women rule here though and unfortunately thats a numbers reason so has no credibility other than supply and demand

Sorry... but I have to have doubts about credibility when you start to make a point using the word "Probably"...

Putting that aside for a moment. Does your point not also apply to other less popular clubs ???

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By *exyCouple999Couple over a year ago

South Bucks

"I am not stuck up in the least and I hope that when I am 56, I'll still be looking after myself. At no point did I actually say you were not.

And, whilst I may disagree with your opinions, I fully respect the fact that you are entitled to one.

It seems, however, that you do not afford me the same courtesy?

I literally lol when I read 'vetting guests, takes away the element of surprise, if you go somewhere where everyone is super hot it takes away the thrill of chase.'

Sorry, but that just makes no sense whatsoever.

Happy New Year lovers!

Now.... waiting for the haters....

Nail on the head !

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By *atonMan over a year ago

barnet

"Just to fan the flames... I like, and it is why I go there, that Le Boudoir has more of a selection policy than clubs who just admit anyone.

I have never found them, rude, elitist or pretentious. They simply insist on people being presentable. Who doesn't like people to be clean, in shape and attractive?

No one ever reached out to a user on fab and said, hey, you look dreadful but fancy meeting up?

If you applied and were not successful, instead of moaning, why not take a look at yourself and ask, can I do better?

Just my two penneth worth.

Merry Christmas

"
wow if your representative of the clientele I'm glad I was rejected for being too old .

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"I am not stuck up in the least and I hope that when I am 56, I'll still be looking after myself. At no point did I actually say you were not.

And, whilst I may disagree with your opinions, I fully respect the fact that you are entitled to one.

It seems, however, that you do not afford me the same courtesy?

I literally lol when I read 'vetting guests, takes away the element of surprise, if you go somewhere where everyone is super hot it takes away the thrill of chase.'

Sorry, but that just makes no sense whatsoever.

Happy New Year lovers!

Now.... waiting for the haters....

probably sold out for the same reason women rule here though and unfortunately thats a numbers reason so has no credibility other than supply and demand

"
. A few other reasons why it’s sold out.It’s a good club with lots of fabulous reviews , lots of members , it’s in a location which is easy to get to via the underground which will probably be running through the night.As has been stated earlier take a look at yourself and ask can I do better is a fair comment as is you can try to do better but you can’t turn back the clock.As I stated earlier I have applied twice and been rejected twice I didn’t ask for feedback I could have said it’s because I am old , a little overweight , foreign , not attractive enough instead I accept Le Boudior decision that they are oversubscribed with single guys and I have moved on.

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By *horty4Man over a year ago

london

Can we scotch something right away, whatever criteria LB uses, race isn’t one of them. In fact it’s the most diverse crowd I’ve seen in a swingers club, one of the reasons I like it so much.

(I’m 51, short and carrying more timber than I would like. It’s not an exact tick list, apply if you want but be aware you may not get accepted on a given day. If that is not something you want to contend with then go elsewhere)

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"I am not stuck up in the least and I hope that when I am 56, I'll still be looking after myself. At no point did I actually say you were not.

And, whilst I may disagree with your opinions, I fully respect the fact that you are entitled to one.

It seems, however, that you do not afford me the same courtesy?

I literally lol when I read 'vetting guests, takes away the element of surprise, if you go somewhere where everyone is super hot it takes away the thrill of chase.'

Sorry, but that just makes no sense whatsoever.

Happy New Year lovers!

Now.... waiting for the haters....

probably sold out for the same reason women rule here though and unfortunately thats a numbers reason so has no credibility other than supply and demand

Sorry... but I have to have doubts about credibility when you start to make a point using the word "Probably"...

Putting that aside for a moment. Does your point not also apply to other less popular clubs ???"

All clubs i went always I'm very welcome even after i let them know i an a transgender woman . Is ok the club having his own rules but sincerely in my opinion theres no need for segregation these days . Most clubs they have every day an event or an theme for the day , to make sure nobody is left out . I been atending clubs in my area and always i found people well look after and i can see to them hygiene is also very important .

Of course theres clubs where only elite people are allowed to in but is a diferent story ... i would believe in this club Bondoir the same criteria of selection of their members or costumers will not aply if is the case to be someone famous

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

We applied a few years ago. Initially turned down, then accepted after they invited us to an event.

Went once - host were lovely no complaints there - some of the guest were not so nice though. Rude and obnoxious, made it very clear we were not their type.

Now I get that could be at any club but it left a sour taste, we haven't been back but are thinking about giving it another go - not fair to sully it on one night.

We will have to reapply though.

Sorry just looked at your pics.... You weren't their type? Well what the hell is their type then? I can just see a stunning young couple? What am I missing?

Thank you for the compliment.

I would stress that a) this has been the only club we have had that in. All the others have been more than welcoming. B) we have only been once and could have just been a bad night - they happen.

We will go back at some point to be certain though.

One of the reasons we have not gone back is because at the time Mrs felt she was the biggest lady in the building and some of the people that went were less than complimentary.

We can't sully a club based on one visit. It may have just not been our night and as others have said everyone is entitled to preference.

With regard to LBs entrance criteria it's actually pretty sensible (even from someone who has been rejected before). One of the many problems we have found at other clubs is that whilst they allow all sorts most people have a type. LB caters for a type.

Take us for example. Mrs isn't attracted to black men. So we don't go to parties that cater for women that do. It makes zero sense to go somewhere that you know won't have anyone there for you.

Now if we go back to LB and have a similar response to the last time then we chalk it up to we are not what that crowd is after.

Mrs is gorgeous hand has spent the last year really working on herself (for herself I might add). But one of the main reasons for going back to LB is that the dungeon is such a nice space and we haven't really had the chance to use it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am not stuck up in the least and I hope that when I am 56, I'll still be looking after myself. At no point did I actually say you were not.

And, whilst I may disagree with your opinions, I fully respect the fact that you are entitled to one.

It seems, however, that you do not afford me the same courtesy?

I literally lol when I read 'vetting guests, takes away the element of surprise, if you go somewhere where everyone is super hot it takes away the thrill of chase.'

Sorry, but that just makes no sense whatsoever.

Happy New Year lovers!

Now.... waiting for the haters....

probably sold out for the same reason women rule here though and unfortunately thats a numbers reason so has no credibility other than supply and demand

Sorry... but I have to have doubts about credibility when you start to make a point using the word "Probably"...

Putting that aside for a moment. Does your point not also apply to other less popular clubs ???"
my point was choice of entry is gained by supply and demand, 10 million people live in london so the club can pick and choose who it lets through the door so on that basic it can make unfair demands of its membership, I've not been but know of others that have and theyve said "its nothing special " i would never choose to go to a club that made demands of me, i want relaxed and ease of entry, those that have achieved the heady heights of membership obviously will swear by it but its hardly in the spirit of swinging or is it, maybe swinging is based on the premise that the 'beautiful' people succeed where others don't

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By *horty4Man over a year ago

london

"I am not stuck up in the least and I hope that when I am 56, I'll still be looking after myself. At no point did I actually say you were not.

And, whilst I may disagree with your opinions, I fully respect the fact that you are entitled to one.

It seems, however, that you do not afford me the same courtesy?

I literally lol when I read 'vetting guests, takes away the element of surprise, if you go somewhere where everyone is super hot it takes away the thrill of chase.'

Sorry, but that just makes no sense whatsoever.

Happy New Year lovers!

Now.... waiting for the haters....

probably sold out for the same reason women rule here though and unfortunately thats a numbers reason so has no credibility other than supply and demand

Sorry... but I have to have doubts about credibility when you start to make a point using the word "Probably"...

Putting that aside for a moment. Does your point not also apply to other less popular clubs ???my point was choice of entry is gained by supply and demand, 10 million people live in london so the club can pick and choose who it lets through the door so on that basic it can make unfair demands of its membership, I've not been but know of others that have and theyve said "its nothing special " i would never choose to go to a club that made demands of me, i want relaxed and ease of entry, those that have achieved the heady heights of membership obviously will swear by it but its hardly in the spirit of swinging or is it, maybe swinging is based on the premise that the 'beautiful' people succeed where others don't

What is “the spirit of swinging”? What’s there a vote? I must have missed that memo.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am not stuck up in the least and I hope that when I am 56, I'll still be looking after myself. At no point did I actually say you were not.

And, whilst I may disagree with your opinions, I fully respect the fact that you are entitled to one.

It seems, however, that you do not afford me the same courtesy?

I literally lol when I read 'vetting guests, takes away the element of surprise, if you go somewhere where everyone is super hot it takes away the thrill of chase.'

Sorry, but that just makes no sense whatsoever.

Happy New Year lovers!

Now.... waiting for the haters....

probably sold out for the same reason women rule here though and unfortunately thats a numbers reason so has no credibility other than supply and demand

Sorry... but I have to have doubts about credibility when you start to make a point using the word "Probably"...

What is “the spirit of swinging”? What’s there a vote? I must have missed that memo. "
who knows maybe LB embodies it

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By *horty4Man over a year ago

london

"I am not stuck up in the least and I hope that when I am 56, I'll still be looking after myself. At no point did I actually say you were not.

And, whilst I may disagree with your opinions, I fully respect the fact that you are entitled to one.

It seems, however, that you do not afford me the same courtesy?

I literally lol when I read 'vetting guests, takes away the element of surprise, if you go somewhere where everyone is super hot it takes away the thrill of chase.'

Sorry, but that just makes no sense whatsoever.

Happy New Year lovers!

Now.... waiting for the haters....

probably sold out for the same reason women rule here though and unfortunately thats a numbers reason so has no credibility other than supply and demand

Sorry... but I have to have doubts about credibility when you start to make a point using the word "Probably"...

What is “the spirit of swinging”? What’s there a vote? I must have missed that memo. who knows maybe LB embodies it

Or maybe it’s nonsense.

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

We applied a few years ago. Initially turned down, then accepted after they invited us to an event.

Went once - host were lovely no complaints there - some of the guest were not so nice though. Rude and obnoxious, made it very clear we were not their type.

Now I get that could be at any club but it left a sour taste, we haven't been back but are thinking about giving it another go - not fair to sully it on one night.

We will have to reapply though.

Sorry just looked at your pics.... You weren't their type? Well what the hell is their type then? I can just see a stunning young couple? What am I missing?

Thank you for the compliment.

I would stress that a) this has been the only club we have had that in. All the others have been more than welcoming. B) we have only been once and could have just been a bad night - they happen.

We will go back at some point to be certain though.

One of the reasons we have not gone back is because at the time Mrs felt she was the biggest lady in the building and some of the people that went were less than complimentary.

We can't sully a club based on one visit. It may have just not been our night and as others have said everyone is entitled to preference.

Take us for example. Mrs isn't attracted to black men. So we don't go to parties that cater for women that do. It makes zero sense to go somewhere that you know won't have anyone there for you.

Now if we go back to LB and have a similar response to the last time then we chalk it up to we are not what that crowd is after.

When you go to clubs you know you will find number or diferent people no matter if is body type, race, color , gender or sexuality .

Also i presume we all know in clubs nobody is forced to do anything against their wishes.

No means no ,is also a rule .

The fact somebody is excluded just to make somebody comfortable to me as i mentioned before sounds more segregation what these days is really inappropriate.

I i go to a club obvious i have my preferences same as someone else have their preferences.

What can be atractive maybe can be unattractive to someone else and is a very valid point and for this reazon i don't think having this feeling of segregation in clubs really is appropriate these days . As i say before because you go a club and theres diferent range of people from color , sexuality , gender , body type , race etc , that doesn't mean you need to do anything with them, you are the one who choose and no means no.

Other think is you feel uncomfortable with the presence of that people that don't match your criteria , in this case yes i agree the best place to go is clubs where actually the feel of segregation hapen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That would be me knackered then

And me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I didn’t read anyone being rude above. Just discussing what they think is the entry requirements of the club. "

He meant le boudoir not anyone here love

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

We applied a few years ago. Initially turned down, then accepted after they invited us to an event.

Went once - host were lovely no complaints there - some of the guest were not so nice though. Rude and obnoxious, made it very clear we were not their type.

Now I get that could be at any club but it left a sour taste, we haven't been back but are thinking about giving it another go - not fair to sully it on one night.

We will have to reapply though.

Sorry just looked at your pics.... You weren't their type? Well what the hell is their type then? I can just see a stunning young couple? What am I missing?

Thank you for the compliment.

I would stress that a) this has been the only club we have had that in. All the others have been more than welcoming. B) we have only been once and could have just been a bad night - they happen.

We will go back at some point to be certain though.

One of the reasons we have not gone back is because at the time Mrs felt she was the biggest lady in the building and some of the people that went were less than complimentary.

We can't sully a club based on one visit. It may have just not been our night and as others have said everyone is entitled to preference.

Take us for example. Mrs isn't attracted to black men. So we don't go to parties that cater for women that do. It makes zero sense to go somewhere that you know won't have anyone there for you.

Now if we go back to LB and have a similar response to the last time then we chalk it up to we are not what that crowd is after.

When you go to clubs you know you will find number or diferent people no matter if is body type, race, color , gender or sexuality .

Also i presume we all know in clubs nobody is forced to do anything against their wishes.

No means no ,is also a rule .

The fact somebody is excluded just to make somebody comfortable to me as i mentioned before sounds more segregation what these days is really inappropriate.

I i go to a club obvious i have my preferences same as someone else have their preferences.

Excuse me please... No one is unattractive

I find poor manners and lack of respect unattractive

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"Hello

Juat wondeting if anyone else out there has received the infamous " sorry, it's not good news" from Le Boudoir. Or who has been successful?

I'm simply curious, to know. No judgements needed. They have their criteria and that's groovy.

We applied a few years ago. Initially turned down, then accepted after they invited us to an event.

Went once - host were lovely no complaints there - some of the guest were not so nice though. Rude and obnoxious, made it very clear we were not their type.

Now I get that could be at any club but it left a sour taste, we haven't been back but are thinking about giving it another go - not fair to sully it on one night.

We will have to reapply though.

Sorry just looked at your pics.... You weren't their type? Well what the hell is their type then? I can just see a stunning young couple? What am I missing?

Thank you for the compliment.

I would stress that a) this has been the only club we have had that in. All the others have been more than welcoming. B) we have only been once and could have just been a bad night - they happen.

We will go back at some point to be certain though.

One of the reasons we have not gone back is because at the time Mrs felt she was the biggest lady in the building and some of the people that went were less than complimentary.

We can't sully a club based on one visit. It may have just not been our night and as others have said everyone is entitled to preference.

Take us for example. Mrs isn't attracted to black men. So we don't go to parties that cater for women that do. It makes zero sense to go somewhere that you know won't have anyone there for you.

Now if we go back to LB and have a similar response to the last time then we chalk it up to we are not what that crowd is after.

When you go to clubs you know you will find number or diferent people no matter if is body type, race, color , gender or sexuality .

Also i presume we all know in clubs nobody is forced to do anything against their wishes.

No means no ,is also a rule .

The fact somebody is excluded just to make somebody comfortable to me as i mentioned before sounds more segregation what these days is really inappropriate.

I i go to a club obvious i have my preferences same as someone else have their preferences.

Excuse me please... No one is unattractive

I find poor manners and lack of respect unattractive "

I totally subscribe your words

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We can't sully a club based on one visit. It may have just not been our night and as others have said everyone is entitled to preference.

Take us for example. Mrs isn't attracted to black men. So we don't go to parties that cater for women that do. It makes zero sense to go somewhere that you know won't have anyone there for you.

Now if we go back to LB and have a similar response to the last time then we chalk it up to we are not what that crowd is after.

When you go to clubs you know you will find number or diferent people no matter if is body type, race, color , gender or sexuality .

Also i presume we all know in clubs nobody is forced to do anything against their wishes.

No means no ,is also a rule .

The fact somebody is excluded just to make somebody comfortable to me as i mentioned before sounds more segregation what these days is really inappropriate.

I i go to a club obvious i have my preferences same as someone else have their preferences.

Where have we said we are uncomfortable with any particular type. We stated we don't go to nights that do not cater for our needs. Much like some won't go to a BDSM night as they probably won't enjoy it if it's not their thing.

We are well versed in the club scene and the etiquette there in - something our 60+ verifications should hopefully show - my comment was that catering for a specific type, as it has been said Le Boudoir does, isn't necessarily any different from a club that caters for BDSM or BBC.

The point most seem to be bothered about here is they choose on perceived attractiveness and yes one person's view is not the same as another. But from our experience a lot of people find the same things attractive as their own selves. Not always but usually.

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By *r_Jake70Man over a year ago

London

I wouldn’t want to be the member of any club that had membership rules which were concerned with how ‘attractive’ or ‘fit’ their clientele were. It’s entirely their choice, but not one I’d wish to engage with.

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"I wouldn’t want to be the member of any club that had membership rules which were concerned with how ‘attractive’ or ‘fit’ their clientele were. It’s entirely their choice, but not one I’d wish to engage with. "

Same , and hope Pandora and Quest never take that step

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've heard of people sending pics to the club, going for an evening, probably spending a TONNE of money then being told they have been rejected for membership.

Also have heard the club doesn't really welcome TVs/TS people either. Not somewhere I would go for an evening but if others want to and enjoy it then good for them!

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

I didn’t read anyone being rude above. Just discussing what they think is the entry requirements of the club.

He meant le boudoir not anyone here love

"
. Just to clarify no one on this thread has been rude but on previous threads regarding Le Boudior when people have asked for feedback from Le Boudior they have not received it or those that did felt that Le Boudior had been rude to them in their comments about why their application was rejected.

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By *horty4Man over a year ago

london

"I've heard of people sending pics to the club, going for an evening, probably spending a TONNE of money then being told they have been rejected for membership.

Also have heard the club doesn't really welcome TVs/TS people either. Not somewhere I would go for an evening but if others want to and enjoy it then good for them! "

Someone needs to tell the very attractive TV/TS that attends most Fridays that she isn’t welcome. She seems to have a great time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've heard of people sending pics to the club, going for an evening, probably spending a TONNE of money then being told they have been rejected for membership.

Also have heard the club doesn't really welcome TVs/TS people either. Not somewhere I would go for an evening but if others want to and enjoy it then good for them!

Someone needs to tell the very attractive TV/TS that attends most Fridays that she isn’t welcome. She seems to have a great time."

Really? I've spoken to at least 10 TVs/TS people who have been rejected. Good for her. Happy to find out that piece of news. Maybe attitudes will change?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've heard of people sending pics to the club, going for an evening, probably spending a TONNE of money then being told they have been rejected for membership.

Also have heard the club doesn't really welcome TVs/TS people either. Not somewhere I would go for an evening but if others want to and enjoy it then good for them!

Someone needs to tell the very attractive TV/TS that attends most Fridays that she isn’t welcome. She seems to have a great time.

Really? I've spoken to at least 10 TVs/TS people who have been rejected. Good for her. Happy to find out that piece of news. Maybe attitudes will change? "

I think the problem may be (and I'm taking a guess here) is that they state on the website that whilst welcome TV/TS have to register as single males (assuming that they are m to f) unless they have ID to the contrary.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've heard of people sending pics to the club, going for an evening, probably spending a TONNE of money then being told they have been rejected for membership.

Also have heard the club doesn't really welcome TVs/TS people either. Not somewhere I would go for an evening but if others want to and enjoy it then good for them!

Someone needs to tell the very attractive TV/TS that attends most Fridays that she isn’t welcome. She seems to have a great time.

Really? I've spoken to at least 10 TVs/TS people who have been rejected. Good for her. Happy to find out that piece of news. Maybe attitudes will change?

I can see how some of the girls I've spoken to may find this annoying. But rules is rules. Plenty of other clubs to attend.

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"I've heard of people sending pics to the club, going for an evening, probably spending a TONNE of money then being told they have been rejected for membership.

Also have heard the club doesn't really welcome TVs/TS people either. Not somewhere I would go for an evening but if others want to and enjoy it then good for them!

Someone needs to tell the very attractive TV/TS that attends most Fridays that she isn’t welcome. She seems to have a great time.

Really? I've spoken to at least 10 TVs/TS people who have been rejected. Good for her. Happy to find out that piece of news. Maybe attitudes will change?

Can be , can be uncomfortable if they don't have the ID that recognize the contrary

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just to fan the flames... I like, and it is why I go there, that Le Boudoir has more of a selection policy than clubs who just admit anyone.

I have never found them, rude, elitist or pretentious. They simply insist on people being presentable. Who doesn't like people to be clean, in shape and attractive?

No one ever reached out to a user on fab and said, hey, you look dreadful but fancy meeting up?

If you applied and were not successful, instead of moaning, why not take a look at yourself and ask, can I do better?

Just my two penneth worth.

Merry Christmas

I have to be honest I agree with you!!!! I’m a member of LB. and I have enjoyed nights at LB.

They do have a tremendous amount of applications - and can be selective. For that I appreciate the club even more.

There are 3 clubs in local distance to me and whilst that’s great - I do not particularly seek out the clients or guests of as not what I seek.

So I lose out of 3 clubs for 1 club that does have members that are more aligned to what I would naturally seek out.

It’s gets somewhat frustrating the constant bashing I keep seeing here about LB. they have never been rude or obnoxious to me. The guests are always on point and there is a varying mix.

The owners can pick and choose who ever they want. It’s their club, they can afford to be choosey - the numbers of people not just from London who apply for membership. So they have a criteria.

It’s alittle like knowing how to dress yourself - I can see outfits that whilst seem great would look shocking on me. So I don’t buy. Same for clubs - you can see are guests are people that would have a natural affinity and interests or are they not my type?

Sometimes you just have to be real with yourselves. And sadly many have blinkers on.....

Sorry maybe not what some what to hear but hey ho.

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By *ettyboop61Woman over a year ago

St Neots

I'd better not say anything as I might get barred again so for now I'm being a good girl

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"......

No one ever reached out to a user on fab and said, hey, you look dreadful but fancy meeting up?

and the people who go to Le Boudoir, are well, generally looking after themselves better and are smarter than other places ..........

If you applied and were not successful, instead of moaning, why not take a look at yourself and ask, can I do better?

Wow. Just wow. So you can tell a persons intelligence by just looking at them? Being attractive is more than just how your look on the outside.

I have no issue with a club deciding who should be admitted. I do however have issues with people who think they are better then others when they are clearly not. "

Agree 100%! Elitist are more often than not deluded and pretentious - just the kind of people the equally deluded and pretentious tend to be attracted to so they can all assist each other to keep up the vain delusion of being better than everyone else. Folks like that are often unpleasant and unlikeable characters, so it's not a bad thing is they happen to club together - not that I'm saying that is the case here necessarily, but we all have to do due diligence on the type of club we attend and try where fits our own needs and beliefs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just to fan the flames... I like, and it is why I go there, that Le Boudoir has more of a selection policy than clubs who just admit anyone.

I have never found them, rude, elitist or pretentious. They simply insist on people being presentable. Who doesn't like people to be clean, in shape and attractive?

No one ever reached out to a user on fab and said, hey, you look dreadful but fancy meeting up?

If you applied and were not successful, instead of moaning, why not take a look at yourself and ask, can I do better?

Just my two penneth worth.

Merry Christmas

I have to be honest I agree with you!!!! I’m a member of LB. and I have enjoyed nights at LB.

They do have a tremendous amount of applications - and can be selective. For that I appreciate the club even more.

There are 3 clubs in local distance to me and whilst that’s great - I do not particularly seek out the clients or guests of as not what I seek.

So I lose out of 3 clubs for 1 club that does have members that are more aligned to what I would naturally seek out.

It’s gets somewhat frustrating the constant bashing I keep seeing here about LB. they have never been rude or obnoxious to me. The guests are always on point and there is a varying mix.

The owners can pick and choose who ever they want. It’s their club, they can afford to be choosey - the numbers of people not just from London who apply for membership. So they have a criteria.

Sometimes you just have to be real with yourselves. And sadly many have blinkers on.....

Sorry maybe not what some what to hear but hey ho.

Question for you. Not fishing for compliments and can handle rejection. If you saw us at LB would you be interested? Or would you not expect to find us at LB?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Question for you. Not fishing for compliments and can handle rejection. If you saw us at LB would you be interested? Or would you not expect to find us at LB?"

If I’m honest - from your pics - no. And I really am not an elitist tw*t. If they are the type you supplied to LB then I can understand why they rejected.

A picture speaks a thousand words.

The pic of you two (face shot) is probably the best one you have. So they are likely to turn down based on your pics. And yes they will if you use your fab name check you out on fab if they have time to see who you may party with. Remember - parties are tough to host you have to pick your guests to match what others will like and vice versa.

A decent pic doesn’t mean you have to spend money or or have high tech stuff. But looking at what and how your presented - including the room behind you is important.

I have seen larger ladies, younger ages higher ages. Ripped guys, larger non ripped guys, and all ages at LB including races!

Listen - I’m marmite for a lot of people as I’m so tattooed - I know what it’s like to be rejected or told I don’t fit a guestlist!

But knowing how to dress and present yourself is important.

You have to think - cool sophisticated cocktail chic. If this isn’t you - then why try to join and go?

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s mean and callous and unnecessary to give a reason like ‘you’re too ugly’ even if it’s true. Not professional and not classy and not ok.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"It’s mean and callous and unnecessary to give a reason like ‘you’re too ugly’ even if it’s true. Not professional and not classy and not ok. "

This exactly! Rudeness and arrogance have no place in the world anywhere. Anyone who looks down on others is an ugly human being and is more the type to avoid than congregate with where I come from.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"It’s mean and callous and unnecessary to give a reason like ‘you’re too ugly’ even if it’s true. Not professional and not classy and not ok. "

I’m sure they don’t just say that do they?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s mean and callous and unnecessary to give a reason like ‘you’re too ugly’ even if it’s true. Not professional and not classy and not ok.

I’m sure they don’t just say that do they?"

I’ve never seen any evidence of this... I think it’s what people have said to explain or ask if others haven’t been accepted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Question for you. Not fishing for compliments and can handle rejection. If you saw us at LB would you be interested? Or would you not expect to find us at LB?

If I’m honest - from your pics - no. And I really am not an elitist tw*t. If they are the type you supplied to LB then I can understand why they rejected.

A picture speaks a thousand words.

A decent pic doesn’t mean you have to spend money or or have high tech stuff. But looking at what and how your presented - including the room behind you is important.

I have seen larger ladies, younger ages higher ages. Ripped guys, larger non ripped guys, and all ages at LB including races!

Listen - I’m marmite for a lot of people as I’m so tattooed - I know what it’s like to be rejected or told I don’t fit a guestlist!

But knowing how to dress and present yourself is important.

You have to think - cool sophisticated cocktail chic. If this isn’t you - then why try to join and go? "

I personally think the nerdy couples pictures are better then your own

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s mean and callous and unnecessary to give a reason like ‘you’re too ugly’ even if it’s true. Not professional and not classy and not ok.

I’m sure they don’t just say that do they?"

Being told you don't have the right look after submitting a pic and/or going to the club for an evening then being told to not come back....yes. I've heard of two separate people (one couple and a single girl) who had this happen to them. But like the world says, rules is rules and they can run their club however they want. There are plenty if other clubs too

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

Question for you. Not fishing for compliments and can handle rejection. If you saw us at LB would you be interested? Or would you not expect to find us at LB?

If I’m honest - from your pics - no. And I really am not an elitist tw*t. If they are the type you supplied to LB then I can understand why they rejected.

A picture speaks a thousand words.

A decent pic doesn’t mean you have to spend money or or have high tech stuff. But looking at what and how your presented - including the room behind you is important.

I have seen larger ladies, younger ages higher ages. Ripped guys, larger non ripped guys, and all ages at LB including races!

Listen - I’m marmite for a lot of people as I’m so tattooed - I know what it’s like to be rejected or told I don’t fit a guestlist!

But knowing how to dress and present yourself is important.

You have to think - cool sophisticated cocktail chic. If this isn’t you - then why try to join and go? "

That club really sounds very sophisticated , it say "Play It Sexy " also in the entrance ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Question for you. Not fishing for compliments and can handle rejection. If you saw us at LB would you be interested? Or would you not expect to find us at LB?

If I’m honest - from your pics - no. And I really am not an elitist tw*t. If they are the type you supplied to LB then I can understand why they rejected.

A picture speaks a thousand words.

A decent pic doesn’t mean you have to spend money or or have high tech stuff. But looking at what and how your presented - including the room behind you is important.

I have seen larger ladies, younger ages higher ages. Ripped guys, larger non ripped guys, and all ages at LB including races!

Listen - I’m marmite for a lot of people as I’m so tattooed - I know what it’s like to be rejected or told I don’t fit a guestlist!

But knowing how to dress and present yourself is important.

You have to think - cool sophisticated cocktail chic. If this isn’t you - then why try to join and go?

I personally think the nerdy couples pictures are better then your own

I didn’t make an opinion on your pics - nor did I ask for your opinion on my pics.

So quite frankly I give zero fucks what you think

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Question for you. Not fishing for compliments and can handle rejection. If you saw us at LB would you be interested? Or would you not expect to find us at LB?

If I’m honest - from your pics - no. And I really am not an elitist tw*t. If they are the type you supplied to LB then I can understand why they rejected.

A picture speaks a thousand words.

A decent pic doesn’t mean you have to spend money or or have high tech stuff. But looking at what and how your presented - including the room behind you is important.

I have seen larger ladies, younger ages higher ages. Ripped guys, larger non ripped guys, and all ages at LB including races!

Listen - I’m marmite for a lot of people as I’m so tattooed - I know what it’s like to be rejected or told I don’t fit a guestlist!

But knowing how to dress and present yourself is important.

You have to think - cool sophisticated cocktail chic. If this isn’t you - then why try to join and go?

I personally think the nerdy couples pictures are better then your own

I didn’t make an opinion on your pics - nor did I ask for your opinion on my pics.

So quite frankly I give zero fucks what you think

Vile attitude aswell

I was simply stating the couple are more appealing to me then yourself.

It’s called preference

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

I may submit a membership request to LB , of course i will send a note saying i wont acept a no as answer , and i will be next day night at their doors to play it sexy

Actually i can play quite sexy

Check my pictures

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Question for you. Not fishing for compliments and can handle rejection. If you saw us at LB would you be interested? Or would you not expect to find us at LB?

If I’m honest - from your pics - no. And I really am not an elitist tw*t. If they are the type you supplied to LB then I can understand why they rejected.

A picture speaks a thousand words.

A decent pic doesn’t mean you have to spend money or or have high tech stuff. But looking at what and how your presented - including the room behind you is important.

I have seen larger ladies, younger ages higher ages. Ripped guys, larger non ripped guys, and all ages at LB including races!

Listen - I’m marmite for a lot of people as I’m so tattooed - I know what it’s like to be rejected or told I don’t fit a guestlist!

But knowing how to dress and present yourself is important.

You have to think - cool sophisticated cocktail chic. If this isn’t you - then why try to join and go?

I personally think the nerdy couples pictures are better then your own

I didn’t make an opinion on your pics - nor did I ask for your opinion on my pics.

So quite frankly I give zero fucks what you think

Vile attitude aswell

I was simply stating the couple are more appealing to me then yourself.

It’s called preference

Not a vile attitude - again - that’s your opinion. I just don’t care. Why would I? I don’t know you, you have no baring on my life so I’m hardly offended you don’t like my pics. Again - it’s down to the person who interprets them. Isn’t this forum thread about the exact same thing????

LB can view applicants and decide what fits their venue and guests. And if it’s a no then it’s a no.

But You tried to make this personal by hitting reply quote and voicing your opinion over my pics to the couples - I never asked what your thoughts were to me being appealing to you. So you dived in arrogantly stating a fact that was neither asked for. Nor cared for.

My response is what it is. Zero fucks given. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surely Le Boudoir management are entitled to allow only the sexy people in according to their 'preferences'?

Its a good observation! no one likes to be excluded but everyone has preferences that lead to exclusion...

Exactly: it's merely hypocrisy."

Please leave common sense out of this thread....

Swingers reject people daily on Fab... the minute these same people get rejected from LB they attack the club....

My question to all the people who have been rejected.....

If LB is such a bad club , why did you try to join in the first place?

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

Is this thread OP have an exit emergency door where we can run out in case LB starts kickoff

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

Surely Le Boudoir management are entitled to allow only the sexy people in according to their 'preferences'?

Its a good observation! no one likes to be excluded but everyone has preferences that lead to exclusion...

Exactly: it's merely hypocrisy.

Please leave common sense out of this thread....

Swingers reject people daily on Fab... the minute these same people get rejected from LB they attack the club....

My question to all the people who have been rejected.....

If LB is such a bad club , why did you try to join in the first place? "

Probably to see if is a good club

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By *exyCouple999Couple over a year ago

South Bucks

Surely Le Boudoir management are entitled to allow only the sexy people in according to their 'preferences'?

Its a good observation! no one likes to be excluded but everyone has preferences that lead to exclusion...

Exactly: it's merely hypocrisy.

Please leave common sense out of this thread....

Swingers reject people daily on Fab... the minute these same people get rejected from LB they attack the club....

My question to all the people who have been rejected.....

If LB is such a bad club , why did you try to join in the first place?

Probably to see if is a good club "
so... they are prepared to visit to see if is a good club until they get rejected... then it is a bad club. Got it ! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Question for you. Not fishing for compliments and can handle rejection. If you saw us at LB would you be interested? Or would you not expect to find us at LB?

If I’m honest - from your pics - no. And I really am not an elitist tw*t. If they are the type you supplied to LB then I can understand why they rejected.

A picture speaks a thousand words.

A decent pic doesn’t mean you have to spend money or or have high tech stuff. But looking at what and how your presented - including the room behind you is important.

I have seen larger ladies, younger ages higher ages. Ripped guys, larger non ripped guys, and all ages at LB including races!

Listen - I’m marmite for a lot of people as I’m so tattooed - I know what it’s like to be rejected or told I don’t fit a guestlist!

But knowing how to dress and present yourself is important.

You have to think - cool sophisticated cocktail chic. If this isn’t you - then why try to join and go? "

Thank you for your honesty. But for the record we have been accepted to LB.

My reason for asking was to see if we go will we be accepted. Its safe to say we are alternative looking and Mrs is curvy so we know we are not for everyone. Would you think that your opinion of us (really again it's fine whatever the answer) would be the opinion of most at LB.

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

Surely Le Boudoir management are entitled to allow only the sexy people in according to their 'preferences'?

Its a good observation! no one likes to be excluded but everyone has preferences that lead to exclusion...

Exactly: it's merely hypocrisy.

Please leave common sense out of this thread....

Swingers reject people daily on Fab... the minute these same people get rejected from LB they attack the club....

My question to all the people who have been rejected.....

If LB is such a bad club , why did you try to join in the first place?

Probably to see if is a good club so... they are prepared to visit to see if is a good club until they get rejected... then it is a bad club. Got it ! Lol"

no ,

they never had the oportunity to see if is a good club because they have been rejected at first time , because they are not good enough in the eyes of who runs LB .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surely Le Boudoir management are entitled to allow only the sexy people in according to their 'preferences'?

Its a good observation! no one likes to be excluded but everyone has preferences that lead to exclusion...

Exactly: it's merely hypocrisy.

Please leave common sense out of this thread....

Swingers reject people daily on Fab... the minute these same people get rejected from LB they attack the club....

My question to all the people who have been rejected.....

If LB is such a bad club , why did you try to join in the first place?

Probably to see if is a good club so... they are prepared to visit to see if is a good club until they get rejected... then it is a bad club. Got it ! Lol"

Can we state for the record we have not attacked the club. Just some of the guests on the occasion we went were less than civil. The club initially sent a rejected email but then when we enquired as to why they told us the wrong one was sent and we had been accepted. We allowed out membership to lapse due to not having the best time there. But when we reapplied again accepted.

Sensibly - after some time we want to try the club again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surely Le Boudoir management are entitled to allow only the sexy people in according to their 'preferences'?

Its a good observation! no one likes to be excluded but everyone has preferences that lead to exclusion...

Exactly: it's merely hypocrisy.

Please leave common sense out of this thread....

Swingers reject people daily on Fab... the minute these same people get rejected from LB they attack the club....

My question to all the people who have been rejected.....

If LB is such a bad club , why did you try to join in the first place?

Probably to see if is a good club so... they are prepared to visit to see if is a good club until they get rejected... then it is a bad club. Got it ! Lol

Sensibly - after some time we want to try the club again. "

You tried it. Didn't like it and want to try again. Good for you. Javing never been to LB I cannot comment i can only go on what I have personally heard. By the way, you guys are gorgeous

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

Surely Le Boudoir management are entitled to allow only the sexy people in according to their 'preferences'?

Its a good observation! no one likes to be excluded but everyone has preferences that lead to exclusion...

Exactly: it's merely hypocrisy.

Please leave common sense out of this thread....

Swingers reject people daily on Fab... the minute these same people get rejected from LB they attack the club....

My question to all the people who have been rejected.....

If LB is such a bad club , why did you try to join in the first place?

Probably to see if is a good club so... they are prepared to visit to see if is a good club until they get rejected... then it is a bad club. Got it ! Lol

no ,

they never had the oportunity to see if is a good club because they have been rejected at first time , because they are not good enough in the eyes of who runs LB ."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably to see if is a good club so... they are prepared to visit to see if is a good club until they get rejected... then it is a bad club. Got it ! Lol

Sensibly - after some time we want to try the club again.

You tried it. Didn't like it and want to try again. Good for you. Javing never been to LB I cannot comment i can only go on what I have personally heard. By the way, you guys are gorgeous

So are your eyes. Can't see the rest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Question for you. Not fishing for compliments and can handle rejection. If you saw us at LB would you be interested? Or would you not expect to find us at LB?

If I’m honest - from your pics - no. And I really am not an elitist tw*t. If they are the type you supplied to LB then I can understand why they rejected.

A picture speaks a thousand words.

A decent pic doesn’t mean you have to spend money or or have high tech stuff. But looking at what and how your presented - including the room behind you is important.

I have seen larger ladies, younger ages higher ages. Ripped guys, larger non ripped guys, and all ages at LB including races!

Listen - I’m marmite for a lot of people as I’m so tattooed - I know what it’s like to be rejected or told I don’t fit a guestlist!

But knowing how to dress and present yourself is important.

You have to think - cool sophisticated cocktail chic. If this isn’t you - then why try to join and go?

Thank you for your honesty. But for the record we have been accepted to LB.

I didn’t actually comment on you both as in person. As mentioned LB nights have many people of all shapes sizes and colours and age attend. So I really wouldn’t have commented on you as people. I just said your best pic was the couples pic (first page on your profile) as I personally thought so and think others would as well.

I also said - I’m marmite as heavily tattooed. So alternative in some kind. Yet I was accepted and a member.

As for if you want to know if you would enjoy your night - if LB accepted your membership then they clearly think you will find people to your taste there.

If you still dress with the intention of chic sophisticated cocktail party - and yes alternative looks can seriously rock that style.... then you will find couples and people to your liking!

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

Probably to see if is a good club so... they are prepared to visit to see if is a good club until they get rejected... then it is a bad club. Got it ! Lol

Sensibly - after some time we want to try the club again.

You tried it. Didn't like it and want to try again. Good for you. Javing never been to LB I cannot comment i can only go on what I have personally heard. By the way, you guys are gorgeous

So are your eyes. Can't see the rest

They have been rejected at first time and because that reazon they never had the chance to see if is a goodclub , because at the eyes of who runs the club they are not good enough.

Better see and look at the eyes of people than come across and only see ego

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Question for you. Not fishing for compliments and can handle rejection. If you saw us at LB would you be interested? Or would you not expect to find us at LB?

If I’m honest - from your pics - no. And I really am not an elitist tw*t. If they are the type you supplied to LB then I can understand why they rejected.

A picture speaks a thousand words.

A decent pic doesn’t mean you have to spend money or or have high tech stuff. But looking at what and how your presented - including the room behind you is important.

I have seen larger ladies, younger ages higher ages. Ripped guys, larger non ripped guys, and all ages at LB including races!

Listen - I’m marmite for a lot of people as I’m so tattooed - I know what it’s like to be rejected or told I don’t fit a guestlist!

But knowing how to dress and present yourself is important.

You have to think - cool sophisticated cocktail chic. If this isn’t you - then why try to join and go?

Thank you for your honesty. But for the record we have been accepted to LB.

I also said - I’m marmite as heavily tattooed. So alternative in some kind. Yet I was accepted and a member.

As for if you want to know if you would enjoy your night - if LB accepted your membership then they clearly think you will find people to your taste there.

If you still dress with the intention of chic sophisticated cocktail party - and yes alternative looks can seriously rock that style.... then you will find couples and people to your liking!

Ps as with any club you still need to pick the nights you go as that can make or break them!

I tend to go on a Saturday and when I know friends are going or people I have been introduced to and or know of that I have something in common with. That helps kicking things off nicely!

Otherwise it can be hard work!

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By *horty4Man over a year ago

london

Question for you. Not fishing for compliments and can handle rejection. If you saw us at LB would you be interested? Or would you not expect to find us at LB?

If I’m honest - from your pics - no. And I really am not an elitist tw*t. If they are the type you supplied to LB then I can understand why they rejected.

A picture speaks a thousand words.

A decent pic doesn’t mean you have to spend money or or have high tech stuff. But looking at what and how your presented - including the room behind you is important.

I have seen larger ladies, younger ages higher ages. Ripped guys, larger non ripped guys, and all ages at LB including races!

Listen - I’m marmite for a lot of people as I’m so tattooed - I know what it’s like to be rejected or told I don’t fit a guestlist!

But knowing how to dress and present yourself is important.

You have to think - cool sophisticated cocktail chic. If this isn’t you - then why try to join and go?

Thank you for your honesty. But for the record we have been accepted to LB.

I’m there twice a month at least, you’ll be fine! It’s not primarily a fetish vibe but I’ve seen plenty of that kind of play and rubber/latex/ropes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree with all your points and am also a member. I've never found it to be elitist either, there has always been a cross selection from all ages and differing levels of effort when it comes to keeping fit...however, definitely all make an effort across all boards - conversation, dress, clean, respectful and obviously have been honest when it comes to their application I.e photos recent, not 20yrs ago.

I'd hate to think a few negative post would put people off the place; the owners and clientele are all very welcoming and it's a great naughty fun night out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably to see if is a good club so... they are prepared to visit to see if is a good club until they get rejected... then it is a bad club. Got it ! Lol

Sensibly - after some time we want to try the club again.

You tried it. Didn't like it and want to try again. Good for you. Javing never been to LB I cannot comment i can only go on what I have personally heard. By the way, you guys are gorgeous

So are your eyes. Can't see the rest

They have been rejected at first time and because that reazon they never had the chance to see if is a goodclub , because at the eyes of who runs the club they are not good enough.

Better see and look at the eyes of people than come across and only see ego "

Why are you commenting on something you obviously haven't read.

We (the people who said we haven't attacked the club, were accepted, had a badish experience, wanted to see if that was a one off. Then you go on about eyes and ego.

The eyes comment was to the person who commented.on use.being attractive.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i love the euphemism "looking after yourselves" because it doesn't take intot consideration for example you could get hit by a bus tomorrow... for drop dead on your jog! or heaven forbid something else life-altering could happen tomorrow... and then you wouldn't be "looking after yourselves"....

I get that swinging can be a very shallow activity.. lets call it what it is! you are never going to be attracted to everyone, and here's the kicker... here it comes!!! everyone is not going to be attracted to you!!!

but I do draw the line and people thinking they are somehow better than i am because they happen to be skinnier than i am!!

I wouldn't put up with that shit if someone alluded to that in relation to "race", and i am certainly not going to put up with that in relation to "size"!

so not on my watch and i'll tell it like it is!... and here is one more coming!

if they are moving the goalposts so they qualify for their own events, that doesn't really say much for the strengths of guidelines... or conviction to put it mildly!

all thank you's and/or abuse can go to my inbox, i'm a big enough adult to be able to take it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i love the euphemism "looking after yourselves" because it doesn't take intot consideration for example you could get hit by a bus tomorrow... for drop dead on your jog! or heaven forbid something else life-altering could happen tomorrow... and then you wouldn't be "looking after yourselves"....

but I do draw the line and people thinking they are somehow better than i am because they happen to be skinnier than i am!!

I wouldn't put up with that shit if someone alluded to that in relation to "race", and i am certainly not going to put up with that in relation to "size"!

so not on my watch and i'll tell it like it is!... and here is one more coming!

if they are moving the goalposts so they qualify for their own events, that doesn't really say much for the strengths of guidelines... or conviction to put it mildly!

all thank you's and/or abuse can go to my inbox, i'm a big enough adult to be able to take it"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Please leave common sense out of this thread....

Swingers reject people daily on Fab... the minute these same people get rejected from LB they attack the club.... "

Amen...

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By *heHookyMonsterMan over a year ago

Liverpool

but I do draw the line and people thinking they are somehow better than i am because they happen to be skinnier than i am!!

I wouldn't put up with that shit if someone alluded to that in relation to "race", and i am certainly not going to put up with that in relation to "size"!

so not on my watch and i'll tell it like it is!... and here is one more coming!

if they are moving the goalposts so they qualify for their own events, that doesn't really say much for the strengths of guidelines... or conviction to put it mildly!

all thank you's and/or abuse can go to my inbox, i'm a big enough adult to be able to take it"

Well said that man!

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By *almprints OP Woman over a year ago

deepest, darkest West

Wow, as the original OP, this thread took a turn.

As it happens, I have not slammed the club nor am I insecure, needing to work on myself or elitist. I think I'm pretty average and quite fun, enjoy swinging and meeting people. I'm not for everyone and nor should I be.

I was literally curious to know what other people had been rejected and that was it. Thank you to everyone who has posted their own views and comments. Hope you have all had a good xmas and happy new year.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

but I do draw the line and people thinking they are somehow better than i am because they happen to be skinnier than i am!!

I wouldn't put up with that shit if someone alluded to that in relation to "race", and i am certainly not going to put up with that in relation to "size"!

so not on my watch and i'll tell it like it is!... and here is one more coming!

if they are moving the goalposts so they qualify for their own events, that doesn't really say much for the strengths of guidelines... or conviction to put it mildly!

all thank you's and/or abuse can go to my inbox, i'm a big enough adult to be able to take it"

I think you’re missing a big caveat.......

You as a person have the choice to apply to join this club....

This is just like applying to go to Oxford University, you can’t apply to Oxford with terrible grades , then call Oxford an elitist University for denying you entry with your terrible grades....

People knew the standards before they applied to LB , so they should know there was a chance of rejection.....

For the record I couldn’t get into Oxford...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its interesting. Until the owner/manager lashed out on here at someone who they rejected and came across utterly vile I dont recall any threads like this about LB. Now it seems every thread goes this way...

To be honest I've no issue about a selection criteria. For instance I know killing kittens would laugh at me if I applied but that's okay because I know their criteria before I apply. What I dont like is a non-specific and on the face of it purely subjective selection criteria. I'm not sure how that really works?

I really don't like the elitism shown on this and other threads though. That never make me want to see if I'd get through their selection process

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

but I do draw the line and people thinking they are somehow better than i am because they happen to be skinnier than i am!!

I wouldn't put up with that shit if someone alluded to that in relation to "race", and i am certainly not going to put up with that in relation to "size"!

so not on my watch and i'll tell it like it is!... and here is one more coming!

if they are moving the goalposts so they qualify for their own events, that doesn't really say much for the strengths of guidelines... or conviction to put it mildly!

all thank you's and/or abuse can go to my inbox, i'm a big enough adult to be able to take it

I think you’re missing a big caveat.......

You as a person have the choice to apply to join this club....

This is just like applying to go to Oxford University, you can’t apply to Oxford with terrible grades , then call Oxford an elitist University for denying you entry with your terrible grades....

People knew the standards before they applied to LB , so they should know there was a chance of rejection.....

For the record I couldn’t get into Oxford...

"
you say people knew the standards, how would they know the standards if they've never been, Oxfords reputation has hundreds of years of contribution LB is a swingers club one says ooooo I'm in London wheres nearest club or normally one does then you maybe contact to see if its possible to get in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

LB has never appealed to me because of their vetting process and (in my opinion) the levels of arrogance of some of their disciples. It's a small swingers club, not some sort of exclusive millionaires club, so keep it in perspective

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

but I do draw the line and people thinking they are somehow better than i am because they happen to be skinnier than i am!!

I wouldn't put up with that shit if someone alluded to that in relation to "race", and i am certainly not going to put up with that in relation to "size"!

so not on my watch and i'll tell it like it is!... and here is one more coming!

if they are moving the goalposts so they qualify for their own events, that doesn't really say much for the strengths of guidelines... or conviction to put it mildly!

all thank you's and/or abuse can go to my inbox, i'm a big enough adult to be able to take it

I think you’re missing a big caveat.......

You as a person have the choice to apply to join this club....

This is just like applying to go to Oxford University, you can’t apply to Oxford with terrible grades , then call Oxford an elitist University for denying you entry with your terrible grades....

People knew the standards before they applied to LB , so they should know there was a chance of rejection.....

For the record I couldn’t get into Oxford...

you say people knew the standards, how would they know the standards if they've never been, Oxfords reputation has hundreds of years of contribution LB is a swingers club one says ooooo I'm in London wheres nearest club or normally one does then you maybe contact to see if its possible to get in.

Ok , maybe this might go over your head but I’ll try again.....

As a single guy , I know better than to show up at any high end night club without a great looking female or females on my arm...

Because any exclusive high end night club in any major city in the world, will not let anyone in that walks off the street....

LB is no different

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

but I do draw the line and people thinking they are somehow better than i am because they happen to be skinnier than i am!!

I wouldn't put up with that shit if someone alluded to that in relation to "race", and i am certainly not going to put up with that in relation to "size"!

so not on my watch and i'll tell it like it is!... and here is one more coming!

if they are moving the goalposts so they qualify for their own events, that doesn't really say much for the strengths of guidelines... or conviction to put it mildly!

all thank you's and/or abuse can go to my inbox, i'm a big enough adult to be able to take it

I think you’re missing a big caveat.......

You as a person have the choice to apply to join this club....

This is just like applying to go to Oxford University, you can’t apply to Oxford with terrible grades , then call Oxford an elitist University for denying you entry with your terrible grades....

People knew the standards before they applied to LB , so they should know there was a chance of rejection.....

For the record I couldn’t get into Oxford...

Ok , maybe this might go over your head but I’ll try again.....

As a single guy , I know better than to show up at any high end night club without a great looking female or females on my arm...

Because any exclusive high end night club in any major city in the world, will not let anyone in that walks off the street....

LB is no different "
lol but youve missed my point entirely how does one know its " a high end club" if ones never been and the feed back from people youve spoken to is " its nothing special" i personally don't expect much from a club its the people that make it, people and cleanliness and nothing goes over my head. My other point earlier was more to do with the attraction of going to a club that has a judgemental criteria for entry which others have talked about not i, i have no interest in going to that particular club because of it but I'm glad you enjoy it, happy new year

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

but I do draw the line and people thinking they are somehow better than i am because they happen to be skinnier than i am!!

I wouldn't put up with that shit if someone alluded to that in relation to "race", and i am certainly not going to put up with that in relation to "size"!

so not on my watch and i'll tell it like it is!... and here is one more coming!

if they are moving the goalposts so they qualify for their own events, that doesn't really say much for the strengths of guidelines... or conviction to put it mildly!

all thank you's and/or abuse can go to my inbox, i'm a big enough adult to be able to take it

I think you’re missing a big caveat.......

You as a person have the choice to apply to join this club....

This is just like applying to go to Oxford University, you can’t apply to Oxford with terrible grades , then call Oxford an elitist University for denying you entry with your terrible grades....

People knew the standards before they applied to LB , so they should know there was a chance of rejection.....

For the record I couldn’t get into Oxford...

Ok , maybe this might go over your head but I’ll try again.....

As a single guy , I know better than to show up at any high end night club without a great looking female or females on my arm...

Because any exclusive high end night club in any major city in the world, will not let anyone in that walks off the street....

LB is no different "

Well the one difference is that it's not an exclusive high end night club whatever some of its patrons might think.

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By *exylondongrlWoman over a year ago

Esher

How would you know BikeMonkey? You have never been and have no first hand experience.

It's all about perspective. Is it Soho House? No, of course not. But then again, Soho House doesn't allow its members to BYOB and end up shagging everywhere!

For the record, I went to LB last night. It was busy, it was clean, it was a lovely looking crowd. It wasn't overcrowded with single guys because the club caps the number. When I was checking my coat at the front desk a guy turned up who hadn't booked a ticket, chancing his arm for admission. He had clearly been drinking and he was in trainers and a sweatshirt. The club's owner kept to his principles and refused the guy admission when other clubs wouldn't have given a damn and would have just taken the money.

And that Is the difference. As a single lady, that's why I go to this club. I feel safer there.

I met a young couple from Asia (extra lovely BTW) who said it was the best club they had ever been too. I met a single guy from France who said he thought it was 'magnifique' too.

That is 'real' first hand experience of Le Boudoir.

So please, single males from God knows where, speak not of what you don't know!

Still wishing you all a Happy New Year

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By *heIcebreakersCouple over a year ago

Cramlington

but I do draw the line and people thinking they are somehow better than i am because they happen to be skinnier than i am!!

I wouldn't put up with that shit if someone alluded to that in relation to "race", and i am certainly not going to put up with that in relation to "size"!

so not on my watch and i'll tell it like it is!... and here is one more coming!

if they are moving the goalposts so they qualify for their own events, that doesn't really say much for the strengths of guidelines... or conviction to put it mildly!

all thank you's and/or abuse can go to my inbox, i'm a big enough adult to be able to take it

I think you’re missing a big caveat.......

You as a person have the choice to apply to join this club....

This is just like applying to go to Oxford University, you can’t apply to Oxford with terrible grades , then call Oxford an elitist University for denying you entry with your terrible grades....

People knew the standards before they applied to LB , so they should know there was a chance of rejection.....

For the record I couldn’t get into Oxford...

"
I could (get into Oxford) but turned them down. The same applies to Ms Icebreaker. Some people feel empowered by selection processes that prize the qualities they have (or value) and some people feel repelled by them. That's the whole point of this thread. Getting snitty about it, or making vacuous political points (there is no such thing as Corbynism, despite what one poster suggests above) really doesn't move the conversation on. I think you've got it bang on - there is no one measure of desirability or attractiveness - I feel happy for those who have found Le Boudoir suits their needs, but the language of better or worse....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How would you know BikeMonkey? You have never been and have no first hand experience.

It's all about perspective. Is it Soho House? No, of course not. But then again, Soho House doesn't allow its members to BYOB and end up shagging everywhere!

And that Is the difference. As a single lady, that's why I go to this club. I feel safer there.

I met a young couple from Asia (extra lovely BTW) who said it was the best club they had ever been too. I met a single guy from France who said he thought it was 'magnifique' too.

That is 'real' first hand experience of Le Boudoir.

So please, single males from God knows where, speak not of what you don't know!

Still wishing you all a Happy New Year

Can you tell me which clubs do let men in that are intoxicated, not on the guest list and dont meet the dresscode? Because that sounds like just about every club I've ever been to (with one exception but then that vlub doesn't cap single men and was truly awful) so I'm not sure that is the barometer for which a club should be measured as having a high standards.

I'm also not sure how having some completely subjective membership criteria makes you feel safer either.

So come on, which are these clubs that dont "give a dam" and where you wouldn't feel safe?

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By *entleman of GirthMan over a year ago

Forest Row

Never been, but I prefer inclusive clubs where all are welcome, rather than “exclusive” where weight, disability, gender and age are used to discriminate. Give me a friendly club everytime.

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"How would you know BikeMonkey? You have never been and have no first hand experience.

It's all about perspective. Is it Soho House? No, of course not. But then again, Soho House doesn't allow its members to BYOB and end up shagging everywhere!

And that Is the difference. As a single lady, that's why I go to this club. I feel safer there.

I met a young couple from Asia (extra lovely BTW) who said it was the best club they had ever been too. I met a single guy from France who said he thought it was 'magnifique' too.

That is 'real' first hand experience of Le Boudoir.

So please, single males from God knows where, speak not of what you don't know!

Still wishing you all a Happy New Year

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. It’s good that Le Boudior didn’t let the guy in with trainers , sweatshirt that had been drinking it could have been tempting for them to take his £70 - £80 entrance fee but as they have so many regular members there is no need for them to be tempted to take his cash.On a couple of occasions I have seen guys smartly dressed try to get into the members club that I attend and like Le Boudior management have refused them entrance as they are not members.Good to hear that you feel safe ,comfortable and welcomed and that you and the couple from Asia and the French gentleman all had a good time.

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By *ettyboop61Woman over a year ago

St Neots

"Never been, but I prefer inclusive clubs where all are welcome, rather than “exclusive” where weight, disability, gender and age are used to discriminate. Give me a friendly club everytime. "

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By *rHornyGentMan over a year ago

South East London

"We got the sorry it’s not good news response too.

And I for one simply cannot understand why they would reject you.

But they di this even yo existing members as I was. "

I remember your thread and recall the incident wasn’t quite as you describe. That also applies to a few of the other single males who have posted lengthy diatribes about the club.

The only guy who’s kept a consistent position, defended the venue to make its own rules, while accepting his application has been rejected, due to an oversupply of single guys is Costas.

Bravo Costas.

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By *rHornyGentMan over a year ago

South East London

For the record, I was at the club on Saturday with a swinging girlfriend, it was jam packed, partly due to this thread.

To dispel a few myths. Not everyone was a perfect 10. The mix was of the sort you see in any well attended central London cocktail bar. People made the effort to dress up and look good knowing the other guests would do the same.

There were people with blue, brown, ginger, red, blonde, grey, black and white hair. People who were thin, short, tall, basketball tall, big boned, average, long hair, chest hair, short hair, curly hair, no hair, young, middle age and seniors plus guys with beards of all shapes and sizes.

We spoke with fellow Brits, Irish, Asian, Norwegians, Americans, Kiwi’s, Aussies, Hungarians, French, Icelandic, German, South East Asian and a few South American couples during the night along with a good few new members there for the first time.

It all goes to show that while it may not appeal to everyone for differing reasons, it does work for enough people and with a membership list running into the tens of thousands, it’s well and truly here to stay as the new premises I’ve been lucky enough to see in person attests to.

Keep doing what you’re doing Le Boudoir. For everyone else that doesn’t like the venue, please keep the thread going. It reassures Club members who’ve not been, that people like you won’t be there.

And to the nerdy couple, come down again soon and see what you think. If you have a lapsed membership it doesn’t cost too much to reactivate, just drop the club an email with your membership number.

On the TV/TS point, the UK does not currently recognise a third gender. Representations have been made to change UK law on gender identification from a formal diagnosis of ‘gender dysphoria’ to one of ‘gender self determination’ to bring the UK into line with Belgium, Denmark, Iceland, Ireland, Malta, Norway, Portugal, New Zealand, Pakistan, Nepal, South Korea, India, Argentina, Chile, Columbia, Uruguay and Uganda who all recognise a third intersex gender. Until such time the club are quite within their rights to price on gender terms. As Shorty says, the TV/TS who visits on Friday nights is very popular with couples and single guys.

Wishing all my fellow Le Boudoir members a bloody good night on New Years Eve. Saturday was a sell out as is NYE!!

For the avoidance of doubt, I’ve been a regular member since it opened its doors in 2015.

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"We got the sorry it’s not good news response too.

And I for one simply cannot understand why they would reject you.

But they di this even yo existing members as I was.

I remember your thread and recall the incident wasn’t quite as you describe. That also applies to a few of the other single males who have posted lengthy diatribes about the club.

The only guy who’s kept a consistent position, defended the venue to make its own rules, while accepting his application has been rejected, due to an oversupply of single guys is Costas.

Bravo Costas. "
. Thanks MrHG for your kind words.Yes I have defended the venue to make their own rules it is first and foremost a member only club so it is their right as to who they accept and don’t accept.As most of you know I have applied twice been rejected twice yes I was disappointed and in anger I could have given the reason as been I am too old or foreign but once I reflected on it I can understand that as one of only two members clubs in London that I know off they can take their pick off who they want as members.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And there it is people. If that comment isn't arrogant, elitist and quite frankly up their own arse, then what is??

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By *rank speakerMan over a year ago

Worcester

"We got the sorry it’s not good news response too."

I clearly won't bother trying! I always look even older than I am in pictures and certainly don't need my lack of looks reinforcing. Having said that,I've been made very welcome at some clubs and had fabulous nights. (Mind you,it could be because I've been accompanied by stunning ladies?)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We got the sorry it’s not good news response too.

Having a beautiful woman on your arm is like having a Black Amex....

She will open doors for you.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

it seems this thread has helped the clubs entry figures, so all good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For the record, I was at the club on Saturday with a swinging girlfriend, it was jam packed, partly due to this thread.

Please, please tell us how you know this thread was a factor in the club being 'jam packed' on Saturday night?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For the record, I was at the club on Saturday with a swinging girlfriend, it was jam packed, partly due to this thread.

Please, please tell us how you know this thread was a factor in the club being 'jam packed' on Saturday night?

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they all mentioned it in their qualification entry emails

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By *uffnmuffCouple over a year ago

London

The club is always busy on a Saturday.

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By *iss LovelyWoman over a year ago

Here and There

I’ve never been to LB, nor have I applied to be a member as I’m a Yorkshire girl so it’s too far for me. I have happily submitted photos for approval for other parties though after growing tired of attending clubs/party nights with zero quality control. If I’ve gone to the effort of getting dressed up in beautiful lingerie (which invariably has cost me a fortune), doing my hair and smelling good etc then it’s disappointing when my options at a party are people who’ve made zero effort and are let in anyway despite there being a published dress code/code of conduct. It’s not sexy to feel like you’ve stumbled into the local working men’s club by accident. Being leered at by d*unken men in their scruffy jeans, stained tshirts and dirty trainers who want their monies worth for their entrance fee isn’t my idea of a fun night. I don’t appreciate being groped as I walk past. So I like the idea of a club that maintains standards. I like effort. I don’t like the idea of being judged on my body type or looks really, but going to party where everyone looks presentable and knows how to behave would be wonderful.

So if there was a club up here like LB then I might apply. If I wasn’t accepted I’d probably be a bit embarrassed. But I’d live.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

LB is our go to club and I’ve attended previously as a single gent which I had no issue submitting a picture for.

The cub is no way elitist and is the most cosmopolitan club we’ve been to and personally if you’re or and around the area and want to try a club then stick a request in as you’ll love the place if accepted.

The club owners a some of the most responsive and reactive patrons I have met and they have the club running like a smoothly oiled machine and trust me they do not miss a trick on fab or any other site.

We will certainly be back early next year and certainly wish we were free NYE to attend.

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By *urpeesandwineCouple over a year ago

Hove

It’s our favourite club (with VA a close second). We didn’t realise that there was a chance you could be rejected at application stage

. Just as well or we might have been put off sending our membership request

It is a great club and full of lovely, gorgeous, respectful people (who mainly happen to be filthy fun people too)

We are there on 18th Jan

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