I have been toying with the idea of trying to become a member here, I really want to try and get into the scene and have some fun!
I was involved in a fatal car crash a few years ago and as a result I have severe anxiety and PTSD... I have lost all confidence however I want to start getting that confidence back!
My main concern is that I’m a single guy and I would find it difficult to get a membership and find that person who would vouch for me on my first visit.
I moved to County Durham about 2 years ago and I still don’t know anyone (kind of sad) but my anxiety just stops me from taking that leap to socialise publicly, maybe socialising privately with people who stick to the golden rule “what happens at the club stays at the club” may help me gain that confidence.
Are there any couples, single males or females in here that can give me any advice? Happy to accept private messages if you wish to remain anonymous to everyone else, any help or tips or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Hope to hear from you soon |
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when you you will get a tour then left with members the rests up to you, just like a pub crack on get to know people , don't just go in the chill area sitting on a phone a few weeks you will wonder why you didn't before. |
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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago
Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me |
They're great I had a fab night and I'm sure if u speak to them beforehand they will be able to advise you excellent club I'll be returning for sure xxx |
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"They're great I had a fab night and I'm sure if u speak to them beforehand they will be able to advise you excellent club I'll be returning for sure xxx"
Hopefully I may see you there in the new year  xx |
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First off really sorry to hear about your anxiety related trauma. Mr has similar issues from a weekend where we miscarried and he lost his grandfather in the same weekend. We were terrified on our first visit but it all melted away after we got comfortable.
The dungeon has fairly low ceilings which can be a trigger for him but having so many lovely people to talk to distracted him from it and he did great and we had a lovely time, the hardest part for us is finding another free night to go lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Again great advice given by all
We really have the lovliest members and the best staff ever!! (Of course I am bias and I would say that but being friendly is one of our most important bits! )xxxx |
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"First off really sorry to hear about your anxiety related trauma. Mr has similar issues from a weekend where we miscarried and he lost his grandfather in the same weekend. We were terrified on our first visit but it all melted away after we got comfortable.
The dungeon has fairly low ceilings which can be a trigger for him but having so many lovely people to talk to distracted him from it and he did great and we had a lovely time, the hardest part for us is finding another free night to go lol"
My Trigger is just being in social groups, I think came from having to deal with police, insurers, solicitors etc etc I just shut down and closed myself of and have created my own safe little bubble which I am trying so hard to burst.
Thankyou for reaching out and sharing your story , makes me more determined to go and meet new people x |
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"You have the same post up twice "
Also the last post wasn’t 2 hours ago I replied to someone 2 hours ago... if you look they were posted a day or 2 ago at similar times, I’m very new to this lol please go easy on me |
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