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"Hey all, I started going to my local club, but they've been short staffed so unable provide tours and an overview of the club to newbies. I've been back a few times but am struggling with the new social expectations and unwritten rules of etiquette, especially with regards to different rooms. Would anyone kindly give an overview of what to expect and what is/isn't ok in different rooms such as the open areas, rooms without locks, rooms with locks, dark rooms, and glory hole rooms? I understand each club has different rules, but an overview would be a good start. Thanks" Rooms with locks is easy. Its a private room, you invite people in, close and lock the door, and whatever happens in there is between you. Open rooms are still invite only, if they have a door, if you close it then anyone trying to enter can be asked to leave, the fact that there is no lock does not mean they can wander in as they please. Open rooms without a door are usually for voyeurs and people who dont mind being watched. However, you still have the right to ask people to give you space, and if people are chatting, or being disruptive, you can ask them to leave, its down to you as to whether you stop play until they do. Public areas (like the bar, or smoking area as examples) are a grey area, some clubs dont mind you playing in them, some do, so best to ask at the club. Dark rooms are a bit of a free-for-all, the general thought seems to be that you accept being groped etc when you are in there, given that you can see very little, we avoid them, you dont know who is doing what, plus there is the added risk of unsafe sex. Glory holes are a bit random, the basic idea is a guy sticks his cock through a hole and gets a blowjob. Some are happy just for that, and dont care who is on the other side. Some would only be willing if they are sure that there is a woman the other side. Some women have been known to smuggle a guy into the suck side of the hole and trick guys into getting what they think is a BJ off a woman, when its a guy doing it. Again, we avoid them for this reason. As for basic etiqutte, as per other posts... No means no. People should only touch after confirming its ok. Talking to people is fine, but they shouldnt take that as consent. | |||
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"Hey all, I started going to my local club, but they've been short staffed so unable provide tours and an overview of the club to newbies. I've been back a few times but am struggling with the new social expectations and unwritten rules of etiquette, especially with regards to different rooms. Would anyone kindly give an overview of what to expect and what is/isn't ok in different rooms such as the open areas, rooms without locks, rooms with locks, dark rooms, and glory hole rooms? I understand each club has different rules, but an overview would be a good start. Thanks Rooms with locks is easy. Its a private room, you invite people in, close and lock the door, and whatever happens in there is between you. Open rooms are still invite only, if they have a door, if you close it then anyone trying to enter can be asked to leave, the fact that there is no lock does not mean they can wander in as they please. Open rooms without a door are usually for voyeurs and people who dont mind being watched. However, you still have the right to ask people to give you space, and if people are chatting, or being disruptive, you can ask them to leave, its down to you as to whether you stop play until they do. Public areas (like the bar, or smoking area as examples) are a grey area, some clubs dont mind you playing in them, some do, so best to ask at the club. Dark rooms are a bit of a free-for-all, the general thought seems to be that you accept being groped etc when you are in there, given that you can see very little, we avoid them, you dont know who is doing what, plus there is the added risk of unsafe sex. Glory holes are a bit random, the basic idea is a guy sticks his cock through a hole and gets a blowjob. Some are happy just for that, and dont care who is on the other side. Some would only be willing if they are sure that there is a woman the other side. Some women have been known to smuggle a guy into the suck side of the hole and trick guys into getting what they think is a BJ off a woman, when its a guy doing it. Again, we avoid them for this reason. As for basic etiqutte, as per other posts... No means no. People should only touch after confirming its ok. Talking to people is fine, but they shouldnt take that as consent." I agree with most of this except the open rooms with doors, there are many clubs with couples rooms with doors, that doesn't mean you can stop people entering. As far as I'm aware, any unlockable rooms are free for everyone to use. | |||
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"Maybe bit random but will ask What men wear on there feet when in a club. I take it girls can wear high hills either when dressed or naked and they will look good but what about men ?? Thanks for answers " It depends on the club. At Chams I prefer to go bare foot as most doo. You will get a few ladies wearing heels. | |||
"Maybe bit random but will ask What men wear on there feet when in a club. I take it girls can wear high hills either when dressed or naked and they will look good but what about men ?? Thanks for answers It depends on the club. At Chams I prefer to go bare foot as most doo. You will get a few ladies wearing heels." Right ok but if men still want to wear something on there feet while going from room to room or to public area ?? | |||
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"Flip flops or sliders" That what i would think is the best option | |||
" ... Open rooms are still invite only, if they have a door, if you close it then anyone trying to enter can be asked to leave, the fact that there is no lock does not mean they can wander in as they please. Open rooms without a door are usually for voyeurs and people who dont mind being watched. However, you still have the right to ask people to give you space, and if people are chatting, or being disruptive, you can ask them to leave, its down to you as to whether you stop play until they do. ... I agree with most of this except the open rooms with doors, there are many clubs with couples rooms with doors, that doesn't mean you can stop people entering. As far as I'm aware, any unlockable rooms are free for everyone to use. " This seems to be a common area of contention, so something I'd seek clarification on at each of the clubs themselves. Again, thanks | |||
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" ... Open rooms are still invite only, if they have a door, if you close it then anyone trying to enter can be asked to leave, the fact that there is no lock does not mean they can wander in as they please. Open rooms without a door are usually for voyeurs and people who dont mind being watched. However, you still have the right to ask people to give you space, and if people are chatting, or being disruptive, you can ask them to leave, its down to you as to whether you stop play until they do. ... I agree with most of this except the open rooms with doors, there are many clubs with couples rooms with doors, that doesn't mean you can stop people entering. As far as I'm aware, any unlockable rooms are free for everyone to use. This seems to be a common area of contention, so something I'd seek clarification on at each of the clubs themselves. Again, thanks" Best idea, check with the individual clubs.  | |||
"Hey all, I started going to my local club, but they've been short staffed so unable provide tours and an overview of the club to newbies. I've been back a few times but am struggling with the new social expectations and unwritten rules of etiquette, especially with regards to different rooms. Would anyone kindly give an overview of what to expect and what is/isn't ok in different rooms such as the open areas, rooms without locks, rooms with locks, dark rooms, and glory hole rooms? I understand each club has different rules, but an overview would be a good start. Thanks Rooms with locks is easy. Its a private room, you invite people in, close and lock the door, and whatever happens in there is between you. Open rooms are still invite only, if they have a door, if you close it then anyone trying to enter can be asked to leave, the fact that there is no lock does not mean they can wander in as they please. Open rooms without a door are usually for voyeurs and people who dont mind being watched. However, you still have the right to ask people to give you space, and if people are chatting, or being disruptive, you can ask them to leave, its down to you as to whether you stop play until they do. Public areas (like the bar, or smoking area as examples) are a grey area, some clubs dont mind you playing in them, some do, so best to ask at the club. Dark rooms are a bit of a free-for-all, the general thought seems to be that you accept being groped etc when you are in there, given that you can see very little, we avoid them, you dont know who is doing what, plus there is the added risk of unsafe sex. Glory holes are a bit random, the basic idea is a guy sticks his cock through a hole and gets a blowjob. Some are happy just for that, and dont care who is on the other side. Some would only be willing if they are sure that there is a woman the other side. Some women have been known to smuggle a guy into the suck side of the hole and trick guys into getting what they think is a BJ off a woman, when its a guy doing it. Again, we avoid them for this reason. As for basic etiqutte, as per other posts... No means no. People should only touch after confirming its ok. Talking to people is fine, but they shouldnt take that as consent. I agree with most of this except the open rooms with doors, there are many clubs with couples rooms with doors, that doesn't mean you can stop people entering. As far as I'm aware, any unlockable rooms are free for everyone to use. " That’s my understanding too | |||
"Hey all, I started going to my local club, but they've been short staffed so unable provide tours and an overview of the club to newbies. I've been back a few times but am struggling with the new social expectations and unwritten rules of etiquette, especially with regards to different rooms. Would anyone kindly give an overview of what to expect and what is/isn't ok in different rooms such as the open areas, rooms without locks, rooms with locks, dark rooms, and glory hole rooms? I understand each club has different rules, but an overview would be a good start. Thanks Rooms with locks is easy. Its a private room, you invite people in, close and lock the door, and whatever happens in there is between you. Open rooms are still invite only, if they have a door, if you close it then anyone trying to enter can be asked to leave, the fact that there is no lock does not mean they can wander in as they please. Open rooms without a door are usually for voyeurs and people who dont mind being watched. However, you still have the right to ask people to give you space, and if people are chatting, or being disruptive, you can ask them to leave, its down to you as to whether you stop play until they do. Public areas (like the bar, or smoking area as examples) are a grey area, some clubs dont mind you playing in them, some do, so best to ask at the club. Dark rooms are a bit of a free-for-all, the general thought seems to be that you accept being groped etc when you are in there, given that you can see very little, we avoid them, you dont know who is doing what, plus there is the added risk of unsafe sex. Glory holes are a bit random, the basic idea is a guy sticks his cock through a hole and gets a blowjob. Some are happy just for that, and dont care who is on the other side. Some would only be willing if they are sure that there is a woman the other side. Some women have been known to smuggle a guy into the suck side of the hole and trick guys into getting what they think is a BJ off a woman, when its a guy doing it. Again, we avoid them for this reason. As for basic etiqutte, as per other posts... No means no. People should only touch after confirming its ok. Talking to people is fine, but they shouldnt take that as consent. I agree with most of this except the open rooms with doors, there are many clubs with couples rooms with doors, that doesn't mean you can stop people entering. As far as I'm aware, any unlockable rooms are free for everyone to use. That’s my understanding too" Public rooms are exactly that, public. | |||
"Hey all, I started going to my local club, but they've been short staffed so unable provide tours and an overview of the club to newbies. I've been back a few times but am struggling with the new social expectations and unwritten rules of etiquette, especially with regards to different rooms. Would anyone kindly give an overview of what to expect and what is/isn't ok in different rooms such as the open areas, rooms without locks, rooms with locks, dark rooms, and glory hole rooms? I understand each club has different rules, but an overview would be a good start. Thanks Rooms with locks is easy. Its a private room, you invite people in, close and lock the door, and whatever happens in there is between you. Open rooms are still invite only, if they have a door, if you close it then anyone trying to enter can be asked to leave, the fact that there is no lock does not mean they can wander in as they please. Open rooms without a door are usually for voyeurs and people who dont mind being watched. However, you still have the right to ask people to give you space, and if people are chatting, or being disruptive, you can ask them to leave, its down to you as to whether you stop play until they do. Public areas (like the bar, or smoking area as examples) are a grey area, some clubs dont mind you playing in them, some do, so best to ask at the club. Dark rooms are a bit of a free-for-all, the general thought seems to be that you accept being groped etc when you are in there, given that you can see very little, we avoid them, you dont know who is doing what, plus there is the added risk of unsafe sex. Glory holes are a bit random, the basic idea is a guy sticks his cock through a hole and gets a blowjob. Some are happy just for that, and dont care who is on the other side. Some would only be willing if they are sure that there is a woman the other side. Some women have been known to smuggle a guy into the suck side of the hole and trick guys into getting what they think is a BJ off a woman, when its a guy doing it. Again, we avoid them for this reason. As for basic etiqutte, as per other posts... No means no. People should only touch after confirming its ok. Talking to people is fine, but they shouldnt take that as consent. I agree with most of this except the open rooms with doors, there are many clubs with couples rooms with doors, that doesn't mean you can stop people entering. As far as I'm aware, any unlockable rooms are free for everyone to use. That’s my understanding too Public rooms are exactly that, public." I guess its open to interpretation. If there is a door, for us that provides a barrier, if we close the door then once people establish that the room is in use they should check to see if we want company...a closed door might give them a bit of a clue though lol! Some non-lockable rooms are only big enough for two people (talking about our local club), so I would think that a quick glance would be enough. If we want company in a room with a door, we wedge it open. | |||
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"Hey all, I started going to my local club, but they've been short staffed so unable provide tours and an overview of the club to newbies. I've been back a few times but am struggling with the new social expectations and unwritten rules of etiquette, especially with regards to different rooms. Would anyone kindly give an overview of what to expect and what is/isn't ok in different rooms such as the open areas, rooms without locks, rooms with locks, dark rooms, and glory hole rooms? I understand each club has different rules, but an overview would be a good start. Thanks Rooms with locks is easy. Its a private room, you invite people in, close and lock the door, and whatever happens in there is between you. Open rooms are still invite only, if they have a door, if you close it then anyone trying to enter can be asked to leave, the fact that there is no lock does not mean they can wander in as they please. Open rooms without a door are usually for voyeurs and people who dont mind being watched. However, you still have the right to ask people to give you space, and if people are chatting, or being disruptive, you can ask them to leave, its down to you as to whether you stop play until they do. Public areas (like the bar, or smoking area as examples) are a grey area, some clubs dont mind you playing in them, some do, so best to ask at the club. Dark rooms are a bit of a free-for-all, the general thought seems to be that you accept being groped etc when you are in there, given that you can see very little, we avoid them, you dont know who is doing what, plus there is the added risk of unsafe sex. Glory holes are a bit random, the basic idea is a guy sticks his cock through a hole and gets a blowjob. Some are happy just for that, and dont care who is on the other side. Some would only be willing if they are sure that there is a woman the other side. Some women have been known to smuggle a guy into the suck side of the hole and trick guys into getting what they think is a BJ off a woman, when its a guy doing it. Again, we avoid them for this reason. As for basic etiqutte, as per other posts... No means no. People should only touch after confirming its ok. Talking to people is fine, but they shouldnt take that as consent. I agree with most of this except the open rooms with doors, there are many clubs with couples rooms with doors, that doesn't mean you can stop people entering. As far as I'm aware, any unlockable rooms are free for everyone to use. That’s my understanding too Public rooms are exactly that, public. I guess its open to interpretation. If there is a door, for us that provides a barrier, if we close the door then once people establish that the room is in use they should check to see if we want company...a closed door might give them a bit of a clue though lol! Some non-lockable rooms are only big enough for two people (talking about our local club), so I would think that a quick glance would be enough. If we want company in a room with a door, we wedge it open." What about couples rooms with a door? A large bed made for multiple people? | |||
"Hey all, I started going to my local club, but they've been short staffed so unable provide tours and an overview of the club to newbies. I've been back a few times but am struggling with the new social expectations and unwritten rules of etiquette, especially with regards to different rooms. Would anyone kindly give an overview of what to expect and what is/isn't ok in different rooms such as the open areas, rooms without locks, rooms with locks, dark rooms, and glory hole rooms? I understand each club has different rules, but an overview would be a good start. Thanks Rooms with locks is easy. Its a private room, you invite people in, close and lock the door, and whatever happens in there is between you. Open rooms are still invite only, if they have a door, if you close it then anyone trying to enter can be asked to leave, the fact that there is no lock does not mean they can wander in as they please. Open rooms without a door are usually for voyeurs and people who dont mind being watched. However, you still have the right to ask people to give you space, and if people are chatting, or being disruptive, you can ask them to leave, its down to you as to whether you stop play until they do. Public areas (like the bar, or smoking area as examples) are a grey area, some clubs dont mind you playing in them, some do, so best to ask at the club. Dark rooms are a bit of a free-for-all, the general thought seems to be that you accept being groped etc when you are in there, given that you can see very little, we avoid them, you dont know who is doing what, plus there is the added risk of unsafe sex. Glory holes are a bit random, the basic idea is a guy sticks his cock through a hole and gets a blowjob. Some are happy just for that, and dont care who is on the other side. Some would only be willing if they are sure that there is a woman the other side. Some women have been known to smuggle a guy into the suck side of the hole and trick guys into getting what they think is a BJ off a woman, when its a guy doing it. Again, we avoid them for this reason. As for basic etiqutte, as per other posts... No means no. People should only touch after confirming its ok. Talking to people is fine, but they shouldnt take that as consent. I agree with most of this except the open rooms with doors, there are many clubs with couples rooms with doors, that doesn't mean you can stop people entering. As far as I'm aware, any unlockable rooms are free for everyone to use. That’s my understanding too Public rooms are exactly that, public. I guess its open to interpretation. If there is a door, for us that provides a barrier, if we close the door then once people establish that the room is in use they should check to see if we want company...a closed door might give them a bit of a clue though lol! Some non-lockable rooms are only big enough for two people (talking about our local club), so I would think that a quick glance would be enough. If we want company in a room with a door, we wedge it open. What about couples rooms with a door? A large bed made for multiple people?" The one at the attic is ONLY couples and if you go in with your partner you have to accept other couples may join you in the room. If they join in your fun is entirely between yourselves while in there. Even though it has a door, it is unlocked and couples can enter as they please even if youre already busy | |||
"Hey all, I started going to my local club, but they've been short staffed so unable provide tours and an overview of the club to newbies. I've been back a few times but am struggling with the new social expectations and unwritten rules of etiquette, especially with regards to different rooms. Would anyone kindly give an overview of what to expect and what is/isn't ok in different rooms such as the open areas, rooms without locks, rooms with locks, dark rooms, and glory hole rooms? I understand each club has different rules, but an overview would be a good start. Thanks Rooms with locks is easy. Its a private room, you invite people in, close and lock the door, and whatever happens in there is between you. Open rooms are still invite only, if they have a door, if you close it then anyone trying to enter can be asked to leave, the fact that there is no lock does not mean they can wander in as they please. Open rooms without a door are usually for voyeurs and people who dont mind being watched. However, you still have the right to ask people to give you space, and if people are chatting, or being disruptive, you can ask them to leave, its down to you as to whether you stop play until they do. Public areas (like the bar, or smoking area as examples) are a grey area, some clubs dont mind you playing in them, some do, so best to ask at the club. Dark rooms are a bit of a free-for-all, the general thought seems to be that you accept being groped etc when you are in there, given that you can see very little, we avoid them, you dont know who is doing what, plus there is the added risk of unsafe sex. Glory holes are a bit random, the basic idea is a guy sticks his cock through a hole and gets a blowjob. Some are happy just for that, and dont care who is on the other side. Some would only be willing if they are sure that there is a woman the other side. Some women have been known to smuggle a guy into the suck side of the hole and trick guys into getting what they think is a BJ off a woman, when its a guy doing it. Again, we avoid them for this reason. As for basic etiqutte, as per other posts... No means no. People should only touch after confirming its ok. Talking to people is fine, but they shouldnt take that as consent. I agree with most of this except the open rooms with doors, there are many clubs with couples rooms with doors, that doesn't mean you can stop people entering. As far as I'm aware, any unlockable rooms are free for everyone to use. That’s my understanding too Public rooms are exactly that, public. I guess its open to interpretation. If there is a door, for us that provides a barrier, if we close the door then once people establish that the room is in use they should check to see if we want company...a closed door might give them a bit of a clue though lol! Some non-lockable rooms are only big enough for two people (talking about our local club), so I would think that a quick glance would be enough. If we want company in a room with a door, we wedge it open. What about couples rooms with a door? A large bed made for multiple people? The one at the attic is ONLY couples and if you go in with your partner you have to accept other couples may join you in the room. If they join in your fun is entirely between yourselves while in there. Even though it has a door, it is unlocked and couples can enter as they please even if youre already busy" My point exactly. | |||
"Hey all, I started going to my local club, but they've been short staffed so unable provide tours and an overview of the club to newbies. I've been back a few times but am struggling with the new social expectations and unwritten rules of etiquette, especially with regards to different rooms. Would anyone kindly give an overview of what to expect and what is/isn't ok in different rooms such as the open areas, rooms without locks, rooms with locks, dark rooms, and glory hole rooms? I understand each club has different rules, but an overview would be a good start. Thanks Rooms with locks is easy. Its a private room, you invite people in, close and lock the door, and whatever happens in there is between you. Open rooms are still invite only, if they have a door, if you close it then anyone trying to enter can be asked to leave, the fact that there is no lock does not mean they can wander in as they please. Open rooms without a door are usually for voyeurs and people who dont mind being watched. However, you still have the right to ask people to give you space, and if people are chatting, or being disruptive, you can ask them to leave, its down to you as to whether you stop play until they do. Public areas (like the bar, or smoking area as examples) are a grey area, some clubs dont mind you playing in them, some do, so best to ask at the club. Dark rooms are a bit of a free-for-all, the general thought seems to be that you accept being groped etc when you are in there, given that you can see very little, we avoid them, you dont know who is doing what, plus there is the added risk of unsafe sex. Glory holes are a bit random, the basic idea is a guy sticks his cock through a hole and gets a blowjob. Some are happy just for that, and dont care who is on the other side. Some would only be willing if they are sure that there is a woman the other side. Some women have been known to smuggle a guy into the suck side of the hole and trick guys into getting what they think is a BJ off a woman, when its a guy doing it. Again, we avoid them for this reason. As for basic etiqutte, as per other posts... No means no. People should only touch after confirming its ok. Talking to people is fine, but they shouldnt take that as consent. I agree with most of this except the open rooms with doors, there are many clubs with couples rooms with doors, that doesn't mean you can stop people entering. As far as I'm aware, any unlockable rooms are free for everyone to use. That’s my understanding too Public rooms are exactly that, public. I guess its open to interpretation. If there is a door, for us that provides a barrier, if we close the door then once people establish that the room is in use they should check to see if we want company...a closed door might give them a bit of a clue though lol! Some non-lockable rooms are only big enough for two people (talking about our local club), so I would think that a quick glance would be enough. If we want company in a room with a door, we wedge it open. What about couples rooms with a door? A large bed made for multiple people?" Couples rooms are for couples, we like to play with couples, if we are in there then we are happy to be watched, or play if everyone is up for it. What we dont like are the ones who start a discussion about their weekly shopping, or some other random stuff, if you want to chat, find a seat somewhere else, we are playing here lol! | |||
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"Hey all, I started going to my local club, but they've been short staffed so unable provide tours and an overview of the club to newbies. I've been back a few times but am struggling with the new social expectations and unwritten rules of etiquette, especially with regards to different rooms. Would anyone kindly give an overview of what to expect and what is/isn't ok in different rooms such as the open areas, rooms without locks, rooms with locks, dark rooms, and glory hole rooms? I understand each club has different rules, but an overview would be a good start. Thanks Rooms with locks is easy. Its a private room, you invite people in, close and lock the door, and whatever happens in there is between you. Open rooms are still invite only, if they have a door, if you close it then anyone trying to enter can be asked to leave, the fact that there is no lock does not mean they can wander in as they please. Open rooms without a door are usually for voyeurs and people who dont mind being watched. However, you still have the right to ask people to give you space, and if people are chatting, or being disruptive, you can ask them to leave, its down to you as to whether you stop play until they do. Public areas (like the bar, or smoking area as examples) are a grey area, some clubs dont mind you playing in them, some do, so best to ask at the club. Dark rooms are a bit of a free-for-all, the general thought seems to be that you accept being groped etc when you are in there, given that you can see very little, we avoid them, you dont know who is doing what, plus there is the added risk of unsafe sex. Glory holes are a bit random, the basic idea is a guy sticks his cock through a hole and gets a blowjob. Some are happy just for that, and dont care who is on the other side. Some would only be willing if they are sure that there is a woman the other side. Some women have been known to smuggle a guy into the suck side of the hole and trick guys into getting what they think is a BJ off a woman, when its a guy doing it. Again, we avoid them for this reason. As for basic etiqutte, as per other posts... No means no. People should only touch after confirming its ok. Talking to people is fine, but they shouldnt take that as consent. I agree with most of this except the open rooms with doors, there are many clubs with couples rooms with doors, that doesn't mean you can stop people entering. As far as I'm aware, any unlockable rooms are free for everyone to use. That’s my understanding too Public rooms are exactly that, public. I guess its open to interpretation. If there is a door, for us that provides a barrier, if we close the door then once people establish that the room is in use they should check to see if we want company...a closed door might give them a bit of a clue though lol! Some non-lockable rooms are only big enough for two people (talking about our local club), so I would think that a quick glance would be enough. If we want company in a room with a door, we wedge it open. What about couples rooms with a door? A large bed made for multiple people? Couples rooms are for couples, we like to play with couples, if we are in there then we are happy to be watched, or play if everyone is up for it. What we dont like are the ones who start a discussion about their weekly shopping, or some other random stuff, if you want to chat, find a seat somewhere else, we are playing here lol!" This has just answered every question I came on here to ask. We can't wait to visit our first club but not knowing the etiquette left us a bit unsure. | |||
