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"Sorry i have no idea what swingers clubs are like. But people keep suggesting them. Can anyone explain the basics to me? "
They are all different, even on different nights. You need to let people know where in the UK you are, then they will be able to recommend specific clubs near you. My personal opinion is, go to an organised party held in a club rather than a normal club night. Or, go to an organised social and meet people there who will tell you more or even go with you. |
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"Sorry i have no idea what swingers clubs are like. But people keep suggesting them. Can anyone explain the basics to me? "
you walk over the threshold and as a female you either get in free or pay a nominal fee, men on the other hand pay as much as £70 to get in, it's the supply and demand thing, you then either go to the bar if they have a bar and socialise with like minded people or go straight to changing rooms and derobe  |
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"Sorry i have no idea what swingers clubs are like. But people keep suggesting them. Can anyone explain the basics to me? you walk over the threshold and as a female you either get in free or pay a nominal fee, men on the other hand pay as much as £70 to get in, it's the supply and demand thing, you then either go to the bar if they have a bar and socialise with like minded people or go straight to changing rooms and derobe "
After the derobing love that bit, you then discover the hidden delights of the club geography, the dungeon, the dark room, the sauna, the jacuzzi, the steam room or the hot tub or swimming pool |
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"I located near London so Berkshire, Oxfordshire, Surrey is good places. "
abfabs come kestrels newly reopened not been to new club but probably one of the more expensive clubs to frequent |
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"Think i just go for the cocktails and jazzuci. As long as noone is fucking or wanking during my time in the hot tub? ??  "
If they are then tell them to fuck off.
Think of it as a normal nightclub only some people (mostly the ladies) are dressed in lingerie or more revealing outfits than you would normally see although this is not compulsory. People talk a lot more freely about sex and some may be popping off to have some in other parts of the club.
If you are looking for Jacuzzis then the VA has a very large one, the ones at abfabs aren't up and running yet, unless anyone knows differently, but the pool is lovely. If the wet facilities are not your no1 priority, then Hellfire in Sunbury has an excellent layout and on a Wednesday has quite a relaxed vibe.
You could also look out for parties at the Sutton House, which again has no wet facilities, but does have good events.
There are many options for you to try.  |
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"Think i just go for the cocktails and jazzuci. As long as noone is fucking or wanking during my time in the hot tub? ??
Thats just gross  "
Yuch! This is very off putting. I`m thinking of giving the club thing a go & don`t want to see men wanking everywhere.
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I really enjoy the club scene but it can be nerve racking in your own. Pick a night that’s not a big event, read up on the club and go with the intention of just socialising. If it’s a night with other SFs, would you feel comfortable messaging a quick hi - it’s nice to have a familiar face when you arrive. |
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"Think i just go for the cocktails and jazzuci. As long as noone is fucking or wanking during my time in the hot tub? ??
If they are then tell them to fuck off.
Think of it as a normal nightclub only some people (mostly the ladies) are dressed in lingerie or more revealing outfits than you would normally see although this is not compulsory. People talk a lot more freely about sex and some may be popping off to have some in other parts of the club.
If you are looking for Jacuzzis then the VA has a very large one, the ones at abfabs aren't up and running yet, unless anyone knows differently, but the pool is lovely. If the wet facilities are not your no1 priority, then Hellfire in Sunbury has an excellent layout and on a Wednesday has quite a relaxed vibe.
You could also look out for parties at the Sutton House, which again has no wet facilities, but does have good events.
There are many options for you to try. "
What's the full name of VA and where is it in uk?
I did Google it and the photos are of very glamorous and good looking people enjoying themselves. Worried i feel too body conscious dressed like that on my first visit. Ok to dress down and just wear sexy dress with heels like I would going night clubbing? I don't have to do things with anyone if i don't want to and is the security good if i get really inappropriate unwanted behaviour from men? |
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We've been to a few clubs over several months. I also visited clubs on my own. When you arrive as a newbie, you will be shown around and given the opportunity to ask questions of the staff.
One thing is absolutely clear. ...you don't have to do anything you don't want to. Clubs are actually very women-centric and staff are always on hand if you have concerns. Try a club night where single men are not permitted. That might make you feel more comfortable.
You are under no obligation to do anything at a club. People who attend such clubs are there for consensual fun - they won't pressure or coerce you.
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"Think i just go for the cocktails and jazzuci. As long as noone is fucking or wanking during my time in the hot tub? ??
If they are then tell them to fuck off.
Think of it as a normal nightclub only some people (mostly the ladies) are dressed in lingerie or more revealing outfits than you would normally see although this is not compulsory. People talk a lot more freely about sex and some may be popping off to have some in other parts of the club.
If you are looking for Jacuzzis then the VA has a very large one, the ones at abfabs aren't up and running yet, unless anyone knows differently, but the pool is lovely. If the wet facilities are not your no1 priority, then Hellfire in Sunbury has an excellent layout and on a Wednesday has quite a relaxed vibe.
You could also look out for parties at the Sutton House, which again has no wet facilities, but does have good events.
There are many options for you to try.
What's the full name of VA and where is it in uk?
I did Google it and the photos are of very glamorous and good looking people enjoying themselves. Worried i feel too body conscious dressed like that on my first visit. Ok to dress down and just wear sexy dress with heels like I would going night clubbing? I don't have to do things with anyone if i don't want to and is the security good if i get really inappropriate unwanted behaviour from men? "
The Vanilla Alternative. When I visited it was full of very middle-aged people. No models. |
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"Think i just go for the cocktails and jazzuci. As long as noone is fucking or wanking during my time in the hot tub? ??
If they are then tell them to fuck off.
Think of it as a normal nightclub only some people (mostly the ladies) are dressed in lingerie or more revealing outfits than you would normally see although this is not compulsory. People talk a lot more freely about sex and some may be popping off to have some in other parts of the club.
If you are looking for Jacuzzis then the VA has a very large one, the ones at abfabs aren't up and running yet, unless anyone knows differently, but the pool is lovely. If the wet facilities are not your no1 priority, then Hellfire in Sunbury has an excellent layout and on a Wednesday has quite a relaxed vibe.
You could also look out for parties at the Sutton House, which again has no wet facilities, but does have good events.
There are many options for you to try.
What's the full name of VA and where is it in uk?
I did Google it and the photos are of very glamorous and good looking people enjoying themselves. Worried i feel too body conscious dressed like that on my first visit. Ok to dress down and just wear sexy dress with heels like I would going night clubbing? I don't have to do things with anyone if i don't want to and is the security good if i get really inappropriate unwanted behaviour from men? "
The vanilla alternative is in Tempsford on the A1,reviews in the club section.
You've answered most of your own questions.
Yes you can dress how you wish.
You don't have to do anything that you don't want to.
Any unwanted attention that you are receiving will be dealt with when you seek assistance.
You will see all the different body types in a club so no need to feel self conscious, besides which you look fantastic. |
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