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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all! So I’ve been toying with the thought of going to a club for the first time. And as i am single male and not a couple, I would like to know the does and dont’s. Could you all please give me some advice on how to make it the best experience for me. Also, I’m quite shy in new settings and have a hard time starting conversations with strangers. Thanks for the help. |
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Hello and welcome to the forums 
The best advice I can give anyone thinking of visiting clubs, regardless of gender, is "don't be a dick!"
Clubs are predominantly a social gathering with a little bit of naughtiness thrown in. If you are sociable and chatty you will enjoy the experience far more than someone who doesn't like to talk to new people.
Do some research beforehand as most clubs have specific entry requirements for single men and many host events for couples and single ladies only. You don't want to arrive and be turned away. On the club review page there are links to club websites where you can find out more information.
Go with no expectations of any "action", just plan for a social evening and if you get on well with people they may invite you to join them.
Ask for a tour of the club on arrival. They will also explain the rules and hopefully introduce you to a few people.
Enjoy planning your visit |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
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The shyness is going to be your biggest problem. It's unusual for people to approach the single man sitting on his own in the corner. Make the effort. Approach people, and be friendly and respectful.
I'm very shy and withdrawn, but I've found the club that I go to is a safe and encouraging space for getting out of my shell. As long as you're not a dick, people will generally be happy to chat. But you have to make the effort.
I find the hot tub is a good place for the shy. It's quieter, and there isn't the crowd you get in the bar. And everyone's naked.
Aim for an enjoyable social night out, and you won't be disappointed. Anything more is a bonus. |
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