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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I'm thinking of attending club shhh today for its midday meet.
I haven't ever been to a club before but have a high sex drive I often can't satisfy but personally I can struggle a bit socially?
is the club scene right for me? |
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"So I'm thinking of attending club shhh today for its midday meet.
I haven't ever been to a club before but have a high sex drive I often can't satisfy but personally I can struggle a bit socially?
is the club scene right for me? "
You won’t know unless you go  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like poster above says " you won't know unless you try " ....but go with no expectations of anything happening, many guys that go to clubs nothing will happen except being able to watch (tends to be better when they go more regular and people see them being respectful and sociable) and you have to put yourself outhere a bit and try and chat to people as its very unlikely anyone will approach someone sat alone looking awkward .xx
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Unfortunately you do need to be able to talk to people. They might be more receptive at a club to overtures, but you have to be able to talk to people first in most cases, make them comfortable.
You'll likely see some unusual and exciting things, but you should never go into a club expecting sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Unfortunately you do need to be able to talk to people. They might be more receptive at a club to overtures, but you have to be able to talk to people first in most cases, make them comfortable.
You'll likely see some unusual and exciting things, but you should never go into a club expecting sex. "
and yeah I get that I doubt I'm even going tk be able to go been getting massive anxiety spikes thinking about it :/ |
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"Unfortunately you do need to be able to talk to people. They might be more receptive at a club to overtures, but you have to be able to talk to people first in most cases, make them comfortable.
You'll likely see some unusual and exciting things, but you should never go into a club expecting sex.
and yeah I get that I doubt I'm even going tk be able to go been getting massive anxiety spikes thinking about it :/"
I was anxious about going to my first club. It was a bit over a year ago. I've probably been to a club 20-30 times now. |
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
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There really isn't anything to stress about . Any club I've been to have been great and people talk mainly because they're nosey. Don't have any sexpectations and you will be grand.
I'm popping in for a bit to sort paperwork but come say hi |
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"Unfortunately you do need to be able to talk to people. They might be more receptive at a club to overtures, but you have to be able to talk to people first in most cases, make them comfortable.
You'll likely see some unusual and exciting things, but you should never go into a club expecting sex.
and yeah I get that I doubt I'm even going tk be able to go been getting massive anxiety spikes thinking about it :/"
You need to go once mate, to satisfy your curiosity about these places, otherwise you’ll just wonder and wonder......
I’ve been to a few, and to be honest, they’re a bit of an anti-climax. Don’t get me wrong; people can have a great time in them, but if you look in the reviews section in here, you will see that 90 per cent of the reviews are left by couples and single females. As a single guy, you need to be very selective about which event you attend, or, stick to one club and get your face known over a period of time.
You WILL need to speak to others, as, in my experience, nobody approaches single guys. All the best |
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"So I'm thinking of attending club shhh today for its midday meet.
I haven't ever been to a club before but have a high sex drive I often can't satisfy but personally I can struggle a bit socially?
is the club scene right for me? "
You will not know till you try. The smoking area is often a good place to socialise, they tend to be a bit quieter and smokers tend to be social creatures. As a single, and now a couple a lot of our play has evolved from a natter in the smoking area.
As many of the other posters have said, go with no expectations and an open mind.
We hope you have a great time |
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"You WILL need to speak to others, as, in my experience, nobody approaches single guys. All the best "
Our next visit we’re going to specifically seek out some single guys to gangbang me so I guess it does happen  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I've seen single guys have amazing times in clubs.
Key is to be open (gregarious), respectful, and friendly. No guarantee, but those kinds of people tend to do very well. "
this.......
people are right in that you will never know how you cope in that sort of situation until you do go, the quickest and easiest way to make yourself stand out from other people is that if you can talk to them.... talk to people like you would on any normal night out....
if you are just going to be just sitting at a bar and just wondering round like a lost lamb, you do yourself no favours.......
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"You WILL need to speak to others, as, in my experience, nobody approaches single guys. All the best
Our next visit we’re going to specifically seek out some single guys to gangbang me so I guess it does happen "
Should be a great night to be a single guy in CJ’s then  |
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"Well I'm forcing myself to go.. anxiety and all... ha
think I will get to shh just after 1pm...
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Good!
We don't bite. Just be friendly and fairly normal in the bar area. We've all had a first time, and we get it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I'm forcing myself to go.. anxiety and all... ha
think I will get to shh just after 1pm...
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. Have a great time sure you will. I was like yourself bit hesitant to try clubs but now 3 years down the time absolutely love them. Only thing I would say don’t go with any expectations and try and get chatting to people in there. I was at Quest last night does still baffle me how some single guys come in and dress down straight away and hoover around the rooms. Anyway have fun and pretty sure you’ll be a club regular soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I'm forcing myself to go.. anxiety and all... ha
think I will get to shh just after 1pm...
. Have a great time sure you will. I was like yourself bit hesitant to try clubs but now 3 years down the time absolutely love them. Only thing I would say don’t go with any expectations and try and get chatting to people in there. I was at Quest last night does still baffle me how some single guys come in and dress down straight away and hoover around the rooms. Anyway have fun and pretty sure you’ll be a club regular soon "
Can I just make it clear that I would LOVE a man who came to mine, dressed down and hoovered round my rooms... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lol seen that at clubs, still doesn't guarantee sex!!!
Ummm. If a fit guy hoovered my house naked, I think it pretty much might..  "
Haha .....Wonder what i would have to do for my ironing done too...I've alot of ironing  .
So just me sat waiting to hear from op to see how he got on ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well I would say it was successful..
only had 2h there total spent the first hour having a drink and a bit of a social with a woman who we seemed to click.
had a bit of time in hot tub, watched a couple have a bit of play, and rounded it all out with a bit of play time... so overall I would say it was fairly successful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That sounds pretty good to me. Glad you enjoyed. Maybe convince a few other of your sociable, sexy friends to come along. Scare off the moody, non talking towel wankers. I’ve been a couple of times recently and sociable single men were very thin on the ground. |
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"Well I would say it was successful..
only had 2h there total spent the first hour having a drink and a bit of a social with a woman who we seemed to click.
had a bit of time in hot tub, watched a couple have a bit of play, and rounded it all out with a bit of play time... so overall I would say it was fairly successful "
Sounds like you had a very good first club visit, I'm assuming it will not be your last. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"That sounds pretty good to me. Glad you enjoyed. Maybe convince a few other of your sociable, sexy friends to come along. Scare off the moody, non talking towel wankers. I’ve been a couple of times recently and sociable single men were very thin on the ground."
my social circle isn't great belive me...
but yeah I'm allways open to try n talk to people. felt bit weirder in the hot tub though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Sounds like you had a very good first club visit, I'm assuming it will not be your last. "
doubt it, all depends on work times and such though (is about a 1h drive to get to club) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sounds like a great day was had and hopefully this has built your confidence to go again . Might give a few other guys reading this a boost to try them too .... key is be polite and respectful which obviously you were. Xx
Mrs xx
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sounds like a great day was had and hopefully this has built your confidence to go again . Might give a few other guys reading this a boost to try them too .... key is be polite and respectful which obviously you were. Xx
Mrs xx
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yeah will definitely try and get up again all depends on work for me. and yeah I went in without "sexspextations" and just chilled out and tried to treat it like more of a social and get to know someone. worked out well for me |
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"Well I would say it was successful..
only had 2h there total spent the first hour having a drink and a bit of a social with a woman who we seemed to click.
had a bit of time in hot tub, watched a couple have a bit of play, and rounded it all out with a bit of play time... so overall I would say it was fairly successful "
Fair play to you mate! Glad to hear it worked out for you! Also well done to Shh for making him feel welcome, and looking after a single guy on his first visit! Only £1 entry every Monday through May? What a bargain! |
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"Sounds like a great day was had and hopefully this has built your confidence to go again . Might give a few other guys reading this a boost to try them too .... key is be polite and respectful which obviously you were. Xx
Mrs xx
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It does also depend on who is in when you are too; you can’t play squash without a wall to bounce off |
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"If you have a high sex drive you often can't satisfy, why don't you pay an escort for guaranteed sex ?
because I'm not that rich.
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Surely all the swinging women will appreciate being treated as a cheap alternative to a hooker and queue up for your attention.
Socially awkward indeed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you have a high sex drive you often can't satisfy, why don't you pay an escort for guaranteed sex ?
because I'm not that rich.
"Surely all the swinging women will appreciate being treated as a cheap alternative to a hooker and queue up for your attention.
Socially awkward indeed. ""
Thats not how it was ment to come across... if i was wanting garunteed sex then yeah pay an escort but actually getting to know someone on here and having a fun time in a trusting way is much better. |
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