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By *mmandCee OP Couple
over a year ago
nantwich |
Hi,
We have never tried a club  but Mrs thinks visiting one might provide a chance for her to make me suck cock whilst she watches (a bucket list item). However I recall reading that bi-play is discouraged at some clubs.
Any advice welcome - thanks |
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By *bthreeCouple
over a year ago
Yeovil |
"Hi,
We have never tried a club but Mrs thinks visiting one might provide a chance for her to make me suck cock whilst she watches (a bucket list item). However I recall reading that bi-play is discouraged at some clubs.
Any advice welcome -
thanks"
Tell us which club and we will meet you there lolx |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"Hi,
We have never tried a club but Mrs thinks visiting one might provide a chance for her to make me suck cock whilst she watches (a bucket list item). However I recall reading that bi-play is discouraged at some clubs.
Any advice welcome - thanks"
You are close to Atlantis in Stoke. There are no bi nights pencilled in at the moment , as far as I know. But bi males are not seen as openly as bi females, but they do exist. You can always go into one of the private rooms and have some fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi,
We have never tried a club but Mrs thinks visiting one might provide a chance for her to make me suck cock whilst she watches (a bucket list item). However I recall reading that bi-play is discouraged at some clubs.
Any advice welcome - thanks"
Or just meet a bi guy or couple and try it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bi play is the new straight play!
Oh yeah! Or at least who can resist a blurred boundary?"
Blurred consensual sexual boundaries are always fun.
You just have to step over the boundary to find out... |
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You have loads of options. Chams do a bi-night every Monday. VA do a bi-night first Friday of the month (contact spicy minx to go on guest list), Arousals do the Naughty Bi Nature party on the 3rd sat of the month (all Arousals nights are bi-friendly), the Greenhouse in Luton do bi-nights every Friday, La Chamber has bi nights....so many clubs do, so there's plenty of choice.
Also, we have seen MM bi stuff creeping into regular club nights more recently, and I think this widening of boundaries is starting to get more acceptable. |
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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago
Middlesbrough |
Not found it to be an issue in the clubs we've been in and it is surprising how many folks are open to it. We've both played in open and closed rooms, great fun and as other have said becoming more normal. |
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"You have loads of options. Chams do a bi-night every Monday. VA do a bi-night first Friday of the month (contact spicy minx to go on guest list), Arousals do the Naughty Bi Nature party on the 3rd sat of the month (all Arousals nights are bi-friendly), the Greenhouse in Luton do bi-nights every Friday, La Chamber has bi nights....so many clubs do, so there's plenty of choice.
Also, we have seen MM bi stuff creeping into regular club nights more recently, and I think this widening of boundaries is starting to get more acceptable."
thank you, really helpful advice |
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"Bi play is the new straight play!"
I kind of agree with this statement. However, I am still cautious at clubs being orally bi. I would just go into a private room as stated before if in a club setting. I recently went to Quest in Leeds on a Tuesday (their bi-day) and if I played I would have felt comfy as everyone there are openminded enough..
There are alot of bi curious men out there and I also believe it is becoming acceptable. |
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Like others on this thread I can recommend the VA Bi Night Spicy Minx runs as a place where people are friendly, relaxed and far from judgemental - plenty of lovely folk there who know how to have a good time, and a great environment for doing as little or as much as you feel comfortable with. Have fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've only been to one dedicated bi-night (Luton Greenhouse) and it was a bit iffy. It may have been just the mix that night, but I haven't been back since.
On the other hand, I've attended 'no theme' nights at other clubs (e.g. Adam & Eve's) and had some great unexpected bi-experiences - including at a 40th birthday party where the lady in question ruled that the several guys had to wank each other off and come over her.
Some amazing nights. Some so-so. Some just a bit frustrating! Can't predict it, and don't try to. Just go with the flow. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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As others have said OP keep an eye out for specified Bi Nights at clubs - some clubs are welcoming of all, regardless of sexuality, at any time (think Purple Mamba in Nottingham is, for example) but you'd need to check individual club sites to be sure |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi,
We have never tried a club but Mrs thinks visiting one might provide a chance for her to make me suck cock whilst she watches (a bucket list item). However I recall reading that bi-play is discouraged at some clubs.
Any advice welcome - thanks"
We would be quiet surprised to hear of any club that discourages this. We are a club for liberated people, your options are limitless, Bi play is most certainly allowed. What we do find is that some guys are still a little embarrassed about it and what other people think about them. So to make things a little easier we do run a Bi night where everyone who attends is comfortable about Bi play xxx |
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I'm not sure it's the clubs' reluctance so much as perhaps that some guys (it does seem to be an issue with male bi play more than female) don't like to be seen to be interested / curious, even in a club environment. But then once behind closed doors, it's often a different matter!
I've been at club nights and had a message a couple of times after the event from guys who noticed what was going on but felt not quite right showing interest at the time - even enough interest to allow for things to move somewhere more private. A dedicated bi night does ease the pressure I think - it can feel less of a risk to show an interest. But even then it can be a nerve-racking first move! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure it's the clubs' reluctance so much as perhaps that some guys (it does seem to be an issue with male bi play more than female) don't like to be seen to be interested / curious, even in a club environment. But then once behind closed doors, it's often a different matter!
I've been at club nights and had a message a couple of times after the event from guys who noticed what was going on but felt not quite right showing interest at the time - even enough interest to allow for things to move somewhere more private. A dedicated bi night does ease the pressure I think - it can feel less of a risk to show an interest. But even then it can be a nerve-racking first move!"
That's a fair point and I must confess that I've never actually tried bi play with another guy on a non-Bi Night at a club (with one exception which was a club where I knew it was unlikely to be frowned upon) as I've not felt comfortable to do so - and maybe that is part of the problem - the self-perception that it wouldn't be welcomed.
That said I've heard guys have been frowned at, made to feel awkward and actually told it's not welcome, and know of one club that specifically states in its guidelines that bi male play is not allowed - so that plays into it too.
Perhaps if more clubs (like La Chambre that posted above and Purple Mamba) made it clear they were welcoming of all sexualities on *any* night more of us bi guys would feel more comfortable about taking that step and playing.
Likewise if other people attending were more tolerant when it happens and didn't sneer, move away or get abusive (all of which I have heard of happening).
And finally perhaps if us bi males were more open and willing to, forgive the expression, suck it and see - perhaps that tolerance and acceptance would grow to the point where there was no need for specified Bi Nights which would be the ideal for many  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've enjoyed both bi specific nights, particularly VA and a bit of a bi Male take over in a part of Le Boudoir at one point.
Purple Mamba in Nottingham now have a bi night every other Thursday night. I believe the next one will be the 9th May...I can't imagine it being an issue on non specified nights there either... |
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"I'm not sure it's the clubs' reluctance so much as perhaps that some guys (it does seem to be an issue with male bi play more than female) don't like to be seen to be interested / curious, even in a club environment. But then once behind closed doors, it's often a different matter!
I've been at club nights and had a message a couple of times after the event from guys who noticed what was going on but felt not quite right showing interest at the time - even enough interest to allow for things to move somewhere more private. A dedicated bi night does ease the pressure I think - it can feel less of a risk to show an interest. But even then it can be a nerve-racking first move!
That's a fair point and I must confess that I've never actually tried bi play with another guy on a non-Bi Night at a club (with one exception which was a club where I knew it was unlikely to be frowned upon) as I've not felt comfortable to do so - and maybe that is part of the problem - the self-perception that it wouldn't be welcomed.
That said I've heard guys have been frowned at, made to feel awkward and actually told it's not welcome, and know of one club that specifically states in its guidelines that bi male play is not allowed - so that plays into it too.
Perhaps if more clubs (like La Chambre that posted above and Purple Mamba) made it clear they were welcoming of all sexualities on *any* night more of us bi guys would feel more comfortable about taking that step and playing.
Likewise if other people attending were more tolerant when it happens and didn't sneer, move away or get abusive (all of which I have heard of happening).
And finally perhaps if us bi males were more open and willing to, forgive the expression, suck it and see - perhaps that tolerance and acceptance would grow to the point where there was no need for specified Bi Nights which would be the ideal for many "
Great points
Suck It And See could actually be quite a good name for a club night... |
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Purple Mamba in Nottingham now have a bi night every other Thursday night. I believe the next one will be the 9th May...I can't imagine it being an issue on non specified nights there either..."
Purple Mamba owner has an issue with Transgender people attending their Bi nights though - if that effects you I would look elsewhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was wondering if bi-curious guys (like myself) should go on a bi night or not.
I'm looking for my first bi experience (preferably with a couple) to see how it goes.
I heard that bi guys playing in the open was frowned upon, but this was a while ago now. Or is it just a private room thing?
Do you think a club is a good option? (Not even getting replies from couples on here). I'm only looking for oral both ways to start with.
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Purple Mamba in Nottingham now have a bi night every other Thursday night. I believe the next one will be the 9th May...I can't imagine it being an issue on non specified nights there either...
Purple Mamba owner has an issue with Transgender people attending their Bi nights though - if that effects you I would look elsewhere "
Hi- I believe you messaged a few days ago. The reply was that it’s a much smaller and different club than the Attic or Club 29, both of which are well attended and have much larger changing facilities. (Hardly an issue lol!)
The club also doesn’t charge TV/CD prices separately- as members can choose either to pay single gent or single lady entry depending on their own personal identity.
You may have your wires crossed on that one  |
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Purple Mamba in Nottingham now have a bi night every other Thursday night. I believe the next one will be the 9th May...I can't imagine it being an issue on non specified nights there either...
Purple Mamba owner has an issue with Transgender people attending their Bi nights though - if that effects you I would look elsewhere
Hi- I believe you messaged a few days ago. The reply was that it’s a much smaller and different club than the Attic or Club 29, both of which are well attended and have much larger changing facilities. (Hardly an issue lol!)
The club also doesn’t charge TV/CD prices separately- as members can choose either to pay single gent or single lady entry depending on their own personal identity.
You may have your wires crossed on that one "
I am not a fetishist so I don't identify as TV or CD - I am Transgender with a diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria, I dont need a changing facility to change my Gender.
Your response made it clear I should look elsewhere naming other clubs - then you have the cheek to claim you are LGBTQ+ friendly.
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Purple Mamba in Nottingham now have a bi night every other Thursday night. I believe the next one will be the 9th May...I can't imagine it being an issue on non specified nights there either...
Purple Mamba owner has an issue with Transgender people attending their Bi nights though - if that effects you I would look elsewhere
Hi- I believe you messaged a few days ago. The reply was that it’s a much smaller and different club than the Attic or Club 29, both of which are well attended and have much larger changing facilities. (Hardly an issue lol!)
The club also doesn’t charge TV/CD prices separately- as members can choose either to pay single gent or single lady entry depending on their own personal identity.
You may have your wires crossed on that one
I am not a fetishist so I don't identify as TV or CD - I am Transgender with a diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria, I dont need a changing facility to change my Gender.
Your response made it clear I should look elsewhere naming other clubs - then you have the cheek to claim you are LGBTQ+ friendly.
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Our transgender members don’t have any issues either x
As a selective membership base, our criteria is that potential members are professional couples and singles who are of smart appearance and polite and respectable x Not everyone is accepted for membership (this criteria applies to everyone). Our members are able to attend on any night, irrespective of gender or sexual orientation. We have a fortnightly Bi-eautiful Night to enable members to find what they may be looking for more easily, (which is helpful for bi-curious). We don’t have a separate Trans membership entry price as members pay the entry depending on what they identify with (not the other way around!) |
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Purple Mamba in Nottingham now have a bi night every other Thursday night. I believe the next one will be the 9th May...I can't imagine it being an issue on non specified nights there either...
Purple Mamba owner has an issue with Transgender people attending their Bi nights though - if that effects you I would look elsewhere
Hi- I believe you messaged a few days ago. The reply was that it’s a much smaller and different club than the Attic or Club 29, both of which are well attended and have much larger changing facilities. (Hardly an issue lol!)
The club also doesn’t charge TV/CD prices separately- as members can choose either to pay single gent or single lady entry depending on their own personal identity.
You may have your wires crossed on that one
I am not a fetishist so I don't identify as TV or CD - I am Transgender with a diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria, I dont need a changing facility to change my Gender.
Your response made it clear I should look elsewhere naming other clubs - then you have the cheek to claim you are LGBTQ+ friendly.
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OK,had a private message from the Purple Mamba account.
It explains it more clearly I got irrate after seeing the posting on the event thread with the claim that you are LGBTQ+ friendly which didn't appear to correspond with your message from the other day.
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