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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Will be hopefully going chams soon but will be by myself,I'm not new to the club scene and know chams very well but this will be my first time alone without my now ex. Feeling a tad nervous just thinking about it but what I'm asking is....how scary was your first time to a club alone?and did people talk to you? As when I went as a couple not that many people spoke to us haha. |
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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago
folkestone |
From my experience, women are made much more welcome than guys. First time I went to a club, i found if I didn't make the effort to just go up to couples and start a conversation, as a single guy you wouldn't have anyone start a conversation with you. |
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"From my experience, women are made much more welcome than guys. First time I went to a club, i found if I didn't make the effort to just go up to couples and start a conversation, as a single guy you wouldn't have anyone start a conversation with you. "
Agree 100% with this. I find it tough as I'm a natural introvert and never find it easy as a male. But sure as an attractive female you will have no issues. |
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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago
nottingham |
"Will be hopefully going chams soon but will be by myself,I'm not new to the club scene and know chams very well but this will be my first time alone without my now ex. Feeling a tad nervous just thinking about it but what I'm asking is....how scary was your first time to a club alone?and did people talk to you? As when I went as a couple not that many people spoke to us haha."
Wow u model u look 27.
I'm looking to try a club for the first time maybe we can help each other |
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"From my experience, women are made much more welcome than guys. First time I went to a club, i found if I didn't make the effort to just go up to couples and start a conversation, as a single guy you wouldn't have anyone start a conversation
Agree 100% with this. I find it tough as I'm a natural introvert and never find it easy as a male. But sure as an attractive female you will have no issues."
This is quite naive. You may have issues. Often the respectful couples will be under the impression thst everyone will talk to you, so will give you space. This maybe interpreted that they are not interested in you. So you may need to make an effort and strike uo conversation with couples you are interested in. |
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"Will be hopefully going chams soon but will be by myself,I'm not new to the club scene and know chams very well but this will be my first time alone without my now ex. Feeling a tad nervous just thinking about it but what I'm asking is....how scary was your first time to a club alone?and did people talk to you? As when I went as a couple not that many people spoke to us haha.
Wow u model u look 27.
I'm looking to try a club for the first time maybe we can help each other"
And of course you will be innundated with randoms offering to take you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be intimidating. But a simple Hi. Can break the ice.
I am quite introverted but cannot expect other to chase me. I just go to relax anything else is a bonus.
Just because someone is stunning doesn't mean they don't have issues.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went on Friday and everyone was so friendly. If anyone saw me alone, several people (male and female) came over and spoke. It's very scary going somewhere on your own but you'll be absolutely fine xxx |
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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago
nottingham |
"I went on Friday and everyone was so friendly. If anyone saw me alone, several people (male and female) came over and spoke. It's very scary going somewhere on your own but you'll be absolutely fine xxx"
Which club..did u play |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have visited clubs alone when travelling for work and have had a good time, it's quite liberating to be able to do what you want and not have to keep tabs on where your partner/friend is  |
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First of Chams is great club to go to a single lady. The atmosphere and people are graet. Me and My Girl have always found our selves in good company. At chams we find ourselves totally at ease and making new freinds effortlessly. Also chances are you won't be alone. In our experience there is often other single women in the club.
You will do just great alone. My first experiences of the club scene were alone. Which was difficult for a socially awkward weirdo like my self. It was a big thing to me to go anywhere alone and have to socialise with strangers let alone a swingers club. But at the end of the day life's to short to dive of the deep end now and then. I pushed my comfort zone massively. But I'm glad I did and made the effort to meet new people. Had some great times. I'm not sure if you find socialising easy or awkward but easy or hard just be yourself and go meet some people and get some conversation going. In my experience if your yourself and friendly (unless being friendly is not you of course) and carry a smile you'll soon find people you'll get alone with and some new adventures. I really don't think you'll have a problem in Chams finding some people you enjoy hanging out with as long as you put the effort in and talk to people. |
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It's a strange one this.
We've frequented club f many times as a couple and both singly.
JJ has majority vote with this as people we regularly socialise and play with as a couple tend to make much more effort to make her welcome when she goes alone than they do when I go alone.
Many times the conversation has been very limited with people that I've spoken to and attempted to engage in conversation with that we both know from going as a couple, yet JJ is instantly welcomed into groups in the bar and asked if she would be interested in being part of a group playtime.
Seems that regardless of whether you're a couple or not, ladies really do hold all the cards in some way.
So I guess you should get yourself along OP, you'll be welcomed and looked after as a single lady. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I went on Friday and everyone was so friendly. If anyone saw me alone, several people (male and female) came over and spoke. It's very scary going somewhere on your own but you'll be absolutely fine xxx
Which club..did u play"
She went to chams |
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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago
Kidderminster |
"Will be hopefully going chams soon but will be by myself,I'm not new to the club scene and know chams very well but this will be my first time alone without my now ex. Feeling a tad nervous just thinking about it but what I'm asking is....how scary was your first time to a club alone?and did people talk to you? As when I went as a couple not that many people spoke to us haha."
We'd speak to you, we find it similar to you as a couple. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you everyone for your input I'm just going to do it I think...don't want to stay over at chams though but will need to stay in a hotel what's the best one that is close by guys?yep I could Google it but like to hear what others thoughts are. Thank you. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Thank you everyone for your input I'm just going to do it I think...don't want to stay over at chams though but will need to stay in a hotel what's the best one that is close by guys?yep I could Google it but like to hear what others thoughts are. Thank you. "
Hey, I go regularly on a Friday and you're more than welcome to join my friends and I.
The holiday inn junction 10 is nice, there's 2 but I prefer the small one, the large one is the holiday inn express. |
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"Will be hopefully going chams soon but will be by myself,I'm not new to the club scene and know chams very well but this will be my first time alone without my now ex. Feeling a tad nervous just thinking about it but what I'm asking is....how scary was your first time to a club alone?and did people talk to you? As when I went as a couple not that many people spoke to us haha."
I don't give people a choice not to talk to me. I just join in conversations and introduce myself to people  . To be fair as a couple it's much harder as your a unit x as a single male or female as long as you can talk to people you will be fine x
Depends on when or where your going but most clubs have ladies that are there a lot. And they could be worth approaching. I often chaperone newbie ladies or couples to clubs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find it a lot easier to talk to people in the hot tub or smoking area and if people look at you or smile then just either smile or say hello if they have smiled or looking at you be confident you are gorgeous and they agree that you are good luck not that you need it hon x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I went on Friday and everyone was so friendly. If anyone saw me alone, several people (male and female) came over and spoke. It's very scary going somewhere on your own but you'll be absolutely fine xxx
Which club..did u play
She went to chams"
Thank you. Chams in darlaston. The attic in derby is super friendly too x |
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