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BGHS - first time experience for a single male
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello all,
I hope I can get some advice from the more experienced members.
I have never been to BGHS before.
I am single and male which makes it a bit harder.
From what I have read around, it is usually rammed with single males, is that true?
I am not the pushy type, I am not going there with only one thing in mind.
I want to chat a bit with a couple or a lady but how does one go about it without coming across as another perv?
I am kinda self conscious so preferably I would love to go when it's a bit quieter, any times you'd suggest?
Does the stuff / other clients just stare at you?
Maybe there's a couple or a lady wanting to accompany me? Check the place out, go for a massage, use the saunas and jacuzzis etc. just a normal relaxing day...
Apologise if it's all like a nonsensical rumbling, I want to get all my thoughts out and its a bit chaotic. Lets get the conversation started!
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Been there countless times and it has fantastic facilities,our advice would be to not hassle or follow people around as this puts us right off .Happy to chat and get to know people in either the bigger hot tubs or in lounge area .If you go with no expectations and just enjoy the place sure you will have a great time and maybe some fun . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go down on a weekday in the afternoon or evening, it's quieter than the weekends. There's usually a few couples and women around but generally men outweigh the women.
Forget that the place has "playrooms" and just go and enjoy the spa facilities. I take a book with me to read of I am going on my own.
If you do start chatting, keep the conversation off sex. There's nothing more off putting than a guy striking up a conversation in the sauna and then asking for a blowjob before you've even broken the ice.
Enjoy, it is a fabulous place to relax  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s a lovely place
If you stump up the courage to talk to anyone you’ll be ahead of most of the single guys we saw there  "
I'm afraid I would be exactly the same initially... I've never been fully naked infront of someone else than my partner.
lol just the thought of having to talk to anyone while stripped gives me anxiety :D
Might follow the advice below and take a book or something... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Been there countless times and it has fantastic facilities,our advice would be to not hassle or follow people around as this puts us right off .Happy to chat and get to know people in either the bigger hot tubs or in lounge area .If you go with no expectations and just enjoy the place sure you will have a great time and maybe some fun ."
That is exactly what I want to avoid!
I am not the pushy type, I don't want someone to feel like I am blatantly perving on them... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Go down on a weekday in the afternoon or evening, it's quieter than the weekends. There's usually a few couples and women around but generally men outweigh the women.
Forget that the place has "playrooms" and just go and enjoy the spa facilities. I take a book with me to read of I am going on my own.
If you do start chatting, keep the conversation off sex. There's nothing more off putting than a guy striking up a conversation in the sauna and then asking for a blowjob before you've even broken the ice.
Enjoy, it is a fabulous place to relax "
Bloody hell, sometimes it amazes my how blatant people can be, even about such things... then I remember why I tend to not socialise :D
I can't even imagine a conversation while fully naked or being stared at... lol I guess it's not just women that don't enjoy it! |
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It’s a great place, I’ve been going for years if you do fancy a woman play it cool keep it polite no sex talk unless the woman instigates it, and the most important rule ever is do not follow a woman around the spa for any reason |
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Do as I always do, go just expecting a great relaxing time, and anything on top is a bonus. I've been going for many years now and have only had a couple of visits where nothing has happened. Couples/single ladies are usually thin on the ground, but sometimes lady luck does wave her magic wand in your direction. |
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You'll be provided with a towel - use that to conceal it! I've not seen a full stiffy outside of the restrooms. The staff to patrol regularly and take a dim view of any amorous activity, including public erections.
I was convinced I'd get a stiffy on my first visit but it didn't happen, even with plenty of naked bodies around. In the restrooms though, it was a different matter. You can be as hard as you like in there. |
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"It’s a lovely place
If you stump up the courage to talk to anyone you’ll be ahead of most of the single guys we saw there
I'm afraid I would be exactly the same initially... I've never been fully naked infront of someone else than my partner.
lol just the thought of having to talk to anyone while stripped gives me anxiety :D
Might follow the advice below and take a book or something... "
A book?? You could do that at home!
If I saw a bloke reading a book, I'd think it a bit weird and a sign that he did t want to be approached for a chat.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s a lovely place
If you stump up the courage to talk to anyone you’ll be ahead of most of the single guys we saw there
I'm afraid I would be exactly the same initially... I've never been fully naked infront of someone else than my partner.
lol just the thought of having to talk to anyone while stripped gives me anxiety :D
Might follow the advice below and take a book or something...
A book?? You could do that at home!
If I saw a bloke reading a book, I'd think it a bit weird and a sign that he did t want to be approached for a chat.
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Point taken!
I don't know, some people find it sexy... |
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By *lovisMan
over a year ago
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"It’s a lovely place
If you stump up the courage to talk to anyone you’ll be ahead of most of the single guys we saw there
I'm afraid I would be exactly the same initially... I've never been fully naked infront of someone else than my partner.
lol just the thought of having to talk to anyone while stripped gives me anxiety :D
Might follow the advice below and take a book or something...
A book?? You could do that at home!
If I saw a bloke reading a book, I'd think it a bit weird and a sign that he did t want to be approached for a chat.
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Or if it was a book you had read it could be a perfect conversation starter.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s a lovely place
If you stump up the courage to talk to anyone you’ll be ahead of most of the single guys we saw there
I'm afraid I would be exactly the same initially... I've never been fully naked infront of someone else than my partner.
lol just the thought of having to talk to anyone while stripped gives me anxiety :D
Might follow the advice below and take a book or something...
A book?? You could do that at home!
If I saw a bloke reading a book, I'd think it a bit weird and a sign that he did t want to be approached for a chat.
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I take a book because I go to BGHS to unwind and chill out, not to loiter around in the rest rooms trying to get laid. |
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We love going to relax.
We've never actually played with anyone other than each other.
Have you visited the website as they have very strict rules?
At the weekends it's only opened from 12pm until 17.30 for single guys after that it's couples only and they do come looking for you. My advice would be as a couple of people have previously said.... Don't follow a woman around... I find it off putting. Strike up a conversation, don't be afraid to chat. |
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"We love going to relax.
We've never actually played with anyone other than each other.
Have you visited the website as they have very strict rules?
At the weekends it's only opened from 12pm until 17.30 for single guys after that it's couples only and they do come looking for you. My advice would be as a couple of people have previously said.... Don't follow a woman around... I find it off putting. Strike up a conversation, don't be afraid to chat. "
I promise not to follow you around. (Actually, I can’t promise that)  |
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