hi all we would like to try a swingers club in fact we are going to, we have nothing against bi gay or tvs its just not our thing but we see quite a lot of people that go to a swingers club are bi or gay how do you think we might cope without causing offence |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hi all we would like to try a swingers club in fact we are going to, we have nothing against bi gay or tvs its just not our thing but we see quite a lot of people that go to a swingers club are bi or gay how do you think we might cope without causing offence"
. What would you be doing that may cause offence ?
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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago
Torridge area of Devon |
"hi all we would like to try a swingers club in fact we are going to, we have nothing against bi gay or tvs its just not our thing but we see quite a lot of people that go to a swingers club are bi or gay how do you think we might cope without causing offence"
Are you expecting to be jumped on as soon as you walk through the door? If so you will be disappointed. It doesn’t happen.
Once you have chatted in the social areas, you will know if you want to play or not. If you do and someone asks to join in, you can decide if you want them to.
If someone starts touching bits you are uncomfortable with, you simply ask them not to do that, as you don’t like it. No need to make a fuss, kill anyone, or kill yourself...go have an open mind and enjoy.... |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
Currently Faraway |
"hi all we would like to try a swingers club in fact we are going to, we have nothing against bi gay or tvs its just not our thing but we see quite a lot of people that go to a swingers club are bi or gay how do you think we might cope without causing offence"
If somebody makes a move on you, all you can do is politely explain that you’re both straight and you haven’t thought of crossing that boundary yet. It’s perfectly legitimate! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hi all we would like to try a swingers club in fact we are going to, we have nothing against bi gay or tvs its just not our thing but we see quite a lot of people that go to a swingers club are bi or gay how do you think we might cope without causing offence"
I'm confused by what you mean when you ask how would you cope? Cope with what? Them being there? If you mean if they show an interest then it's the same asize stright couple you don't fancy, you just politely decline |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"hi all we would like to try a swingers club in fact we are going to, we have nothing against bi gay or tvs its just not our thing but we see quite a lot of people that go to a swingers club are bi or gay how do you think we might cope without causing offence"
You do realise that bi/gay people aren't sexual deviants that will force themselves on you? Also, bi people like both sexes so obviously can play 'straight'. |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"hi all we would like to try a swingers club in fact we are going to, we have nothing against bi gay or tvs its just not our thing but we see quite a lot of people that go to a swingers club are bi or gay how do you think we might cope without causing offence"
You talk to them and find out if they are because it's your first night you have a ready-made excuse for not get involved and after that, I'm afraid it down to good old fashion honesty. |
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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago
Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me |
Treat people all the same and if theyre not for you theyre not fpr you thats what no is for communication is key and you never know you might make new friends instead x |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"hi all we would like to try a swingers club in fact we are going to, we have nothing against bi gay or tvs its just not our thing but we see quite a lot of people that go to a swingers club are bi or gay how do you think we might cope without causing offence"
It's true, I had no idea how gay swinging was when I started. |
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"we just don't want to say no which may cause offence to some I suppose"
If anyone is offended by a polite no, then they don't belong in a club.
If someone asks and you're not interested, take it as a compliment but say no. That's really all there is to it. |
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"we just don't want to say no which may cause offence to some I suppose"
If it is bi people you are worried about don't we are both straight and any time anyone bi has shown an interest in either of us we have just told them politely that we are straight and have never had any issues ? |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"we just don't want to say no which may cause offence to some I suppose
If it is bi people you are worried about don't we are both straight and any time anyone bi has shown an interest in either of us we have just told them politely that we are straight and have never had any issues ? "
Yeah if they're not "accidentally trying to touch you", cleaning up your cum or moaning at you for wearing trunks in the jacuzzi. They are no problem.
The only times I had a problem was when I was waved to join in and i didn't wanna kill the mood by discussing boundaries.
I'm 100% straight and played with the lady of several couples where the guy is Bi. I have told them and they have been nothing but respectful. |
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