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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Sorry to seem daft I wanna go chams tonight but I nervous any advice please I'm a single guy that just want to enjoy a night there first bother me at all if no one intrested interested in me just want to go and enjoy the scene but worried bout what others will be like as I'm a single guy |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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Do you have membership sorted ? Not sure you can role up and join on the day as a single guy.
Once you get in , try and hover near the bar and just chat to people. Wander around and see what is going on. But dont follow a single guy conga line. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry to seem daft I wanna go chams tonight but I nervous any advice please I'm a single guy that just want to enjoy a night there first bother me at all if no one interested interested in me just want to go and enjoy the scene but worried bout what others will be like as I'm a single guy"
no.1 ask if you can get on the guest list by call as will be a wasted journey otherwise.
no.2 see it a club where you can meet like minded others but they arent dressed up. some are in towels some are in lingerie and some in boxers.
speak to both of the couple if looking to play with a couple. smile relax and chill
Chams is a great place where the staff and most member's will put u at ease
and have a great time x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yah I just rang them and emailed them
What sort of things can I wear there that I feel comfortable in "
a towell they provide or boxers or shorts. its a dress down club (wet club)
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There really is nothing to worry about. Sure, we all get a bit nervous the first time but ocne you are in and relaxing you will wonder what you were worried about. All the advice above is great - be realxed and considerate and talk to people. Engage in some conversation rather than just look or stare or sit quietly on your own. You don't have to be the centre of the party but don't be shy of just starting a casual conversation with people that are there. That will also help to just loosen and relax you. Then see where the evening goes.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry to seem daft I wanna go chams tonight but I nervous any advice please I'm a single guy that just want to enjoy a night there first bother me at all if no one interested interested in me just want to go and enjoy the scene but worried bout what others will be like as I'm a single guy
no.1 ask if you can get on the guest list by call as will be a wasted journey otherwise.
no.2 see it a club where you can meet like minded others but they arent dressed up. some are in towels some are in lingerie and some in boxers.
speak to both of the couple if looking to play with a couple. smile relax and chill
Chams is a great place where the staff and most member's will put u at ease
and have a great time x"
I don't wear boxers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pretty sure there's a massive waiting list for single guys to join chams. If you're really nervous xtasia probably a better club to start with as it's more geared as a sociable space with less play, and not dress down. |
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"Eek I bottled it sad ain't i"
Aww...
You will get there. Just treat it as if you're checking out a new pub.
There was a very good thread on a male's first visit to a club, which was initially scary but resulted to be a very positive experience for him. Without trying to break forum rules by mentioning other threads, I will say that I did comment on the subject, so you could find it by looking at my green arrow.
It is well worth the search, as I suspect that a positive experience from a male viewpoint will be far more reassuring for you and indeed any other male contemplating going to a club.
Best
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Pretty sure there's a massive waiting list for single guys to join chams. If you're really nervous xtasia probably a better club to start with as it's more geared as a sociable space with less play, and not dress down."
The waiting list is a myth |
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Just an idea if you scroll down in the forum to swinging club/ads section look in there for parties at chams as most you can go to if not a member. Some are on Saturdays which single guys can’t attend as it’s couples and single ladies only but other parties are on Fridays. If you wanted to go to one on a Friday you’d have to make sure you’re name is on the list as couldn’t just turn up.
Also I must say I’ve got a single fem membership and think if I can go there on my own I’m pretty sure you could  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just an idea if you scroll down in the forum to swinging club/ads section look in there for parties at chams as most you can go to if not a member. Some are on Saturdays which single guys can’t attend as it’s couples and single ladies only but other parties are on Fridays. If you wanted to go to one on a Friday you’d have to make sure you’re name is on the list as couldn’t just turn up.
Also I must say I’ve got a single fem membership and think if I can go there on my own I’m pretty sure you could "
Unless you are a member you cant.
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"Just an idea if you scroll down in the forum to swinging club/ads section look in there for parties at chams as most you can go to if not a member. Some are on Saturdays which single guys can’t attend as it’s couples and single ladies only but other parties are on Fridays. If you wanted to go to one on a Friday you’d have to make sure you’re name is on the list as couldn’t just turn up.
Also I must say I’ve got a single fem membership and think if I can go there on my own I’m pretty sure you could
Unless you are a member you cant.
If the party is actually hosted by chams then it’s members only but for parties hosted by a third party like for someones birthday then non members are welcome but name has to be on the guest list for that party
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