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Club or not to Club, that is the question
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm sure everyone in this forum has attended a club? After all this is a club forum.
So, im sure some have already guessed... I've never been to a club. And in all honesty have no idea what to expect.
A little bit of reassurance from you all on what to expect, how to approach or not to approach. Just need an idea of the "Club ways"!
Thanks, T  |
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"I'm sure everyone in this forum has attended a club? After all this is a club forum.
So, im sure some have already guessed... I've never been to a club. And in all honesty have no idea what to expect.
A little bit of reassurance from you all on what to expect, how to approach or not to approach. Just need an idea of the "Club ways"!
Thanks, T "
Hi and welcome to the forums.
I always say to people who are nervous about their first club visit to treat it as a social night out at a "normal" pub or club. The only real difference is people may be wearing fewer clothes and some may be having sex at some point during the evening.
Go with no expectations of playing and if you do that's a bonus. Treat it as a social night out first and foremost. Be friendly and chatty with people and they may just ask you to join them later on.
Being nervous is normal and I would be worried if you weren't. The hardest part is just walking through the door.
Make sure you check with your chosen club what requirements they have for single men - some require you to pre-book and some have couples only evenings. Don't just turn up without checking as you may get turned away. On arrival tell them it's your first visit and they will get someone to give you a tour of the club, explain all the rules/etiquette and hopefully introduce you to a few people.
Some clubs serve alcohol but many are bring your own booze (another thing to check before you go). One or two drinks are great to settle the nerves but don't overdo it - pissed isn't sexy.
You don't have to do anything if you don't want to, just say no thanks. My first club visit was just for a look around and to get a feel for the club scene to see if it was for me. Everyone was very respectful of this and i was made to feel very welcome.
Just give it a go  |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"I'm sure everyone in this forum has attended a club? After all this is a club forum.
So, im sure some have already guessed... I've never been to a club. And in all honesty have no idea what to expect.
A little bit of reassurance from you all on what to expect, how to approach or not to approach. Just need an idea of the "Club ways"!
Thanks, T
Hi and welcome to the forums.
I always say to people who are nervous about their first club visit to treat it as a social night out at a "normal" pub or club. The only real difference is people may be wearing fewer clothes and some may be having sex at some point during the evening.
Go with no expectations of playing and if you do that's a bonus. Treat it as a social night out first and foremost. Be friendly and chatty with people and they may just ask you to join them later on.
Being nervous is normal and I would be worried if you weren't. The hardest part is just walking through the door.
Make sure you check with your chosen club what requirements they have for single men - some require you to pre-book and some have couples only evenings. Don't just turn up without checking as you may get turned away. On arrival tell them it's your first visit and they will get someone to give you a tour of the club, explain all the rules/etiquette and hopefully introduce you to a few people.
Some clubs serve alcohol but many are bring your own booze (another thing to check before you go). One or two drinks are great to settle the nerves but don't overdo it - pissed isn't sexy.
You don't have to do anything if you don't want to, just say no thanks. My first club visit was just for a look around and to get a feel for the club scene to see if it was for me. Everyone was very respectful of this and i was made to feel very welcome.
Just give it a go "
Pretty much agree, my first night was rather daunting but just chat and get to know people like any normal place |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think just walking through the door will be challenging. In general vanilla life, i can talk to pretty much anyone and feel comfortable! Travelling has helped with that. But the will be certainly extremely new bringing fear  |
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"The attic, is this just a normal saturday evening or is it membership only? "
The attic don't have any membership fees and it costs £25 for a single man to attend.
On a normal Saturday night you can just turn up any time before midnight. Tonight is a party event night and they are usually busier. If you arrive after 10pm there is a risk you may not get in if they already have a lot of men there. In my opinion the best time to arrive is about 9ish, any earlier and the club is quiet.
I'm undecided which club to visit tonight. It's either the attic or purple mamba in Nottingham, both have party events on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think sitting in the hot tub is the easiest way to start chatting to people. "
Are there hot tubs in the attic? I haven't even stepped one foot through the front door so i wouldn't know |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I dont imagine ill be climbing into any hot tubs, certainly not on my first night! 
You should! It's a nice way to chill and very social "
I best take a towel with me then  |
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"I dont imagine ill be climbing into any hot tubs, certainly not on my first night!
You should! It's a nice way to chill and very social
I best take a towel with me then "
I can't speak fo the Attic but if you make it to Chams (and do let me know) they'll give you towel |
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"I dont imagine ill be climbing into any hot tubs, certainly not on my first night!
You should! It's a nice way to chill and very social
I best take a towel with me then
I can't speak fo the Attic but if you make it to Chams (and do let me know) they'll give you towel "
The attic will give you a towel so you don't need to take one, just ask at the downstairs bar |
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