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Ate they worth it?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes clubs are better,
they are real people so no time wasters, you see them for who they are no messing with messages and pic swapping,
however that does not mean they all want to play with you. but instead of a written profile you are there to sell yourself so your personality cums through |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had good meets from socials. Similar reasons to those above, but with less pressure to act on things instantly. When I go to clubs I tend to have set up meets in advance. |
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I’ve had a run of time wasters on the site over the last couple of weeks so while I continue to see who’s out there, I’m all about clubs at the moment.
No ego boosters, no cold feet, no picture collectors - just people who’ve made the effort and genuinely want to play. |
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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago
Over the roundabout and then turn right. |
We often use fab to arrange meets at our favourite club. There are many benefits of doing things this way. First and foremost we have the safety of the club environment. Neither of us needs to accommodate. There are excellent facilities. To date we have never been let down but if we were then we can still have a great night.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my experience, no, but that's just me. If you're outgoing and decent looking, you'll have a decent time. If, like me, you're shy, lacking confidence and had a good whacking from the ugly stick, you'll be paying a lot of money to sit on your own while other people enjoy themselves around you. |
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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago
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"The club we’ve been to was dreadful, such an anti-climax! We much prefer private meets from Fab but would love to find a decent club to go to. Amelia x"
Like everything else there are good and bad. Perhaps ask for some recommendations in your area, or within your travelling requirements. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
I have had meets not show up, keep altering the times and have nasty breath.
At a club you can have a chat, see them in person and even if you don't play with anyone , if you talk to others, you can set up future meets, get useful verifications to say you are real.
The atmosphere in most club's are friendly if you make some effort to chat to people. You can watch the fun and have a great time that is cheaper than a night out if it's a BYOB club.  |
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Never or very rarely organise a club meet through Fab as it usually ends up as a freeloader trying to get in with Mrs M as a couple.
We like the clubs but don't arrange anything prior to going and have found the majority in there are respectful and as they have actually bothered to get a membership, seem to get the swinger dynamic rather than the majority on here who seem to think that its just another hook up site. |
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Much prefer going to a club & seeing who I meet that I click with. No time wasters, everyone is there to have fun, you can gauge someone from actually meeting & chatting to them rather than from an online chat and it’s much better IMO.
But everyone’s different & clubs aren’t for everyone! |
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"Much prefer going to a club & seeing who I meet that I click with. No time wasters, everyone is there to have fun, you can gauge someone from actually meeting & chatting to them rather than from an online chat and it’s much better IMO.
But everyone’s different & clubs aren’t for everyone! "
The thing with the clubs Morty is; it all depends on who is in at the same time as you, which makes the difference. When it comes to private messaging in here, you start chatting with a profile that catches your eye, ticks the boxes you are looking for, and you go from there. If your messages go well, you arrange to meet, and it’s not like you’re meeting a complete stranger, as you already have a rapport built. Arriving at a club, if you know absolutely nobody, and haven’t arranged to meet someone in there, you’ve got it all to do, and that’s IF someone catches your eye. Add to that, if like the OP, you are a single guy, then you’re likely to have a lot of ‘competition’  |
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"Much prefer going to a club & seeing who I meet that I click with. No time wasters, everyone is there to have fun, you can gauge someone from actually meeting & chatting to them rather than from an online chat and it’s much better IMO.
But everyone’s different & clubs aren’t for everyone!
The thing with the clubs Morty is; it all depends on who is in at the same time as you, which makes the difference. When it comes to private messaging in here, you start chatting with a profile that catches your eye, ticks the boxes you are looking for, and you go from there. If your messages go well, you arrange to meet, and it’s not like you’re meeting a complete stranger, as you already have a rapport built. Arriving at a club, if you know absolutely nobody, and haven’t arranged to meet someone in there, you’ve got it all to do, and that’s IF someone catches your eye. Add to that, if like the OP, you are a single guy, then you’re likely to have a lot of ‘competition’ "
And there lies the problem!
Zero effort equals zero reward, those that put in the hard work are rarely on her moaning about not getting meets
You do the Math as the septics would say! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Much prefer going to a club & seeing who I meet that I click with. No time wasters, everyone is there to have fun, you can gauge someone from actually meeting & chatting to them rather than from an online chat and it’s much better IMO.
But everyone’s different & clubs aren’t for everyone!
The thing with the clubs Morty is; it all depends on who is in at the same time as you, which makes the difference. When it comes to private messaging in here, you start chatting with a profile that catches your eye, ticks the boxes you are looking for, and you go from there. If your messages go well, you arrange to meet, and it’s not like you’re meeting a complete stranger, as you already have a rapport built. Arriving at a club, if you know absolutely nobody, and haven’t arranged to meet someone in there, you’ve got it all to do, and that’s IF someone catches your eye. Add to that, if like the OP, you are a single guy, then you’re likely to have a lot of ‘competition’
And there lies the problem!
Zero effort equals zero reward, those that put in the hard work are rarely on her moaning about not getting meets
You do the Math as the septics would say!"
That's an assumption on your part. A lot of people (mainly single men) put a lot of effort in and still get nowhere. Assuming people get what their effort level deserves is just arrogant. |
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"Much prefer going to a club & seeing who I meet that I click with. No time wasters, everyone is there to have fun, you can gauge someone from actually meeting & chatting to them rather than from an online chat and it’s much better IMO.
But everyone’s different & clubs aren’t for everyone!
The thing with the clubs Morty is; it all depends on who is in at the same time as you, which makes the difference. When it comes to private messaging in here, you start chatting with a profile that catches your eye, ticks the boxes you are looking for, and you go from there. If your messages go well, you arrange to meet, and it’s not like you’re meeting a complete stranger, as you already have a rapport built. Arriving at a club, if you know absolutely nobody, and haven’t arranged to meet someone in there, you’ve got it all to do, and that’s IF someone catches your eye. Add to that, if like the OP, you are a single guy, then you’re likely to have a lot of ‘competition’
And there lies the problem!
Zero effort equals zero reward, those that put in the hard work are rarely on her moaning about not getting meets
You do the Math as the septics would say!"
I put in a lot of effort visiting several different clubs, by myself, and not knowing anyone in any of them. It’s no mean feat. Would Mr M venture in to one, that he isn’t known in, as a single male?
Are you admitting clubs are ‘hard work’ ?
I don’t struggle finding private meets, ergo; I’m not moaning about not getting meets
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"Much prefer going to a club & seeing who I meet that I click with. No time wasters, everyone is there to have fun, you can gauge someone from actually meeting & chatting to them rather than from an online chat and it’s much better IMO.
But everyone’s different & clubs aren’t for everyone!
The thing with the clubs Morty is; it all depends on who is in at the same time as you, which makes the difference. When it comes to private messaging in here, you start chatting with a profile that catches your eye, ticks the boxes you are looking for, and you go from there. If your messages go well, you arrange to meet, and it’s not like you’re meeting a complete stranger, as you already have a rapport built. Arriving at a club, if you know absolutely nobody, and haven’t arranged to meet someone in there, you’ve got it all to do, and that’s IF someone catches your eye. Add to that, if like the OP, you are a single guy, then you’re likely to have a lot of ‘competition’
And there lies the problem!
Zero effort equals zero reward, those that put in the hard work are rarely on her moaning about not getting meets
You do the Math as the septics would say!
That's an assumption on your part. A lot of people (mainly single men) put a lot of effort in and still get nowhere. Assuming people get what their effort level deserves is just arrogant. "
Rubbish
My comment was based upon guys who think that they have an entitlement.
You will see the same or similar comments in many other threads based on or about the same subject in these threads also.
The bleating hearts are those who want to put in no effort but expect the rewards, then moan in the forums when it doesn't happen.
And in answer to the comment from the poster below, Mr M wouldn't attend a club as a single male as we are a couple but as he understands what the lifestyle is about he would easily fit in if he were to do so.
Its not all about sex, there is a great social side to this too.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Much prefer going to a club & seeing who I meet that I click with. No time wasters, everyone is there to have fun, you can gauge someone from actually meeting & chatting to them rather than from an online chat and it’s much better IMO.
But everyone’s different & clubs aren’t for everyone!
The thing with the clubs Morty is; it all depends on who is in at the same time as you, which makes the difference. When it comes to private messaging in here, you start chatting with a profile that catches your eye, ticks the boxes you are looking for, and you go from there. If your messages go well, you arrange to meet, and it’s not like you’re meeting a complete stranger, as you already have a rapport built. Arriving at a club, if you know absolutely nobody, and haven’t arranged to meet someone in there, you’ve got it all to do, and that’s IF someone catches your eye. Add to that, if like the OP, you are a single guy, then you’re likely to have a lot of ‘competition’
And there lies the problem!
Zero effort equals zero reward, those that put in the hard work are rarely on her moaning about not getting meets
You do the Math as the septics would say!
That's an assumption on your part. A lot of people (mainly single men) put a lot of effort in and still get nowhere. Assuming people get what their effort level deserves is just arrogant.
Rubbish
My comment was based upon guys who think that they have an entitlement.
You will see the same or similar comments in many other threads based on or about the same subject in these threads also.
The bleating hearts are those who want to put in no effort but expect the rewards, then moan in the forums when it doesn't happen.
And in answer to the comment from the poster below, Mr M wouldn't attend a club as a single male as we are a couple but as he understands what the lifestyle is about he would easily fit in if he were to do so.
Its not all about sex, there is a great social side to this too. "
And there's the arrogance again. |
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"Much prefer going to a club & seeing who I meet that I click with. No time wasters, everyone is there to have fun, you can gauge someone from actually meeting & chatting to them rather than from an online chat and it’s much better IMO.
But everyone’s different & clubs aren’t for everyone!
The thing with the clubs Morty is; it all depends on who is in at the same time as you, which makes the difference. When it comes to private messaging in here, you start chatting with a profile that catches your eye, ticks the boxes you are looking for, and you go from there. If your messages go well, you arrange to meet, and it’s not like you’re meeting a complete stranger, as you already have a rapport built. Arriving at a club, if you know absolutely nobody, and haven’t arranged to meet someone in there, you’ve got it all to do, and that’s IF someone catches your eye. Add to that, if like the OP, you are a single guy, then you’re likely to have a lot of ‘competition’
And there lies the problem!
Zero effort equals zero reward, those that put in the hard work are rarely on her moaning about not getting meets
You do the Math as the septics would say!
That's an assumption on your part. A lot of people (mainly single men) put a lot of effort in and still get nowhere. Assuming people get what their effort level deserves is just arrogant.
Rubbish
My comment was based upon guys who think that they have an entitlement.
You will see the same or similar comments in many other threads based on or about the same subject in these threads also.
The bleating hearts are those who want to put in no effort but expect the rewards, then moan in the forums when it doesn't happen.
And in answer to the comment from the poster below, Mr M wouldn't attend a club as a single male as we are a couple but as he understands what the lifestyle is about he would easily fit in if he were to do so.
Its not all about sex, there is a great social side to this too.
And there's the arrogance again."
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"Much prefer going to a club & seeing who I meet that I click with. No time wasters, everyone is there to have fun, you can gauge someone from actually meeting & chatting to them rather than from an online chat and it’s much better IMO.
But everyone’s different & clubs aren’t for everyone!
The thing with the clubs Morty is; it all depends on who is in at the same time as you, which makes the difference. When it comes to private messaging in here, you start chatting with a profile that catches your eye, ticks the boxes you are looking for, and you go from there. If your messages go well, you arrange to meet, and it’s not like you’re meeting a complete stranger, as you already have a rapport built. Arriving at a club, if you know absolutely nobody, and haven’t arranged to meet someone in there, you’ve got it all to do, and that’s IF someone catches your eye. Add to that, if like the OP, you are a single guy, then you’re likely to have a lot of ‘competition’
And there lies the problem!
Zero effort equals zero reward, those that put in the hard work are rarely on her moaning about not getting meets
You do the Math as the septics would say!
That's an assumption on your part. A lot of people (mainly single men) put a lot of effort in and still get nowhere. Assuming people get what their effort level deserves is just arrogant.
Rubbish
My comment was based upon guys who think that they have an entitlement.
You will see the same or similar comments in many other threads based on or about the same subject in these threads also.
The bleating hearts are those who want to put in no effort but expect the rewards, then moan in the forums when it doesn't happen.
And in answer to the comment from the poster below, Mr M wouldn't attend a club as a single male as we are a couple but as he understands what the lifestyle is about he would easily fit in if he were to do so.
Its not all about sex, there is a great social side to this too. "
I’ve never thought I had an entitlement when I’ve been in a club, I’ve genuinely only ever gone in with an open mind, and zero expectations. My original post on this thread was in reply to the OP’s question of whether clubs were better than using Fab for private meets, to which I answered honestly. |
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"Much prefer going to a club & seeing who I meet that I click with. No time wasters, everyone is there to have fun, you can gauge someone from actually meeting & chatting to them rather than from an online chat and it’s much better IMO.
But everyone’s different & clubs aren’t for everyone!
The thing with the clubs Morty is; it all depends on who is in at the same time as you, which makes the difference. When it comes to private messaging in here, you start chatting with a profile that catches your eye, ticks the boxes you are looking for, and you go from there. If your messages go well, you arrange to meet, and it’s not like you’re meeting a complete stranger, as you already have a rapport built. Arriving at a club, if you know absolutely nobody, and haven’t arranged to meet someone in there, you’ve got it all to do, and that’s IF someone catches your eye. Add to that, if like the OP, you are a single guy, then you’re likely to have a lot of ‘competition’
And there lies the problem!
Zero effort equals zero reward, those that put in the hard work are rarely on her moaning about not getting meets
You do the Math as the septics would say!
That's an assumption on your part. A lot of people (mainly single men) put a lot of effort in and still get nowhere. Assuming people get what their effort level deserves is just arrogant.
Rubbish
My comment was based upon guys who think that they have an entitlement.
You will see the same or similar comments in many other threads based on or about the same subject in these threads also.
The bleating hearts are those who want to put in no effort but expect the rewards, then moan in the forums when it doesn't happen.
And in answer to the comment from the poster below, Mr M wouldn't attend a club as a single male as we are a couple but as he understands what the lifestyle is about he would easily fit in if he were to do so.
Its not all about sex, there is a great social side to this too.
I’ve never thought I had an entitlement when I’ve been in a club, I’ve genuinely only ever gone in with an open mind, and zero expectations. My original post on this thread was in reply to the OP’s question of whether clubs were better than using Fab for private meets, to which I answered honestly. "
We were not having a snipe at you personally but were just stating that a lot of guys do feel that they are entitled in the club's as well as on here.
There was no offence to you intended, apologies if that's how it came across. |
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"Much prefer going to a club & seeing who I meet that I click with. No time wasters, everyone is there to have fun, you can gauge someone from actually meeting & chatting to them rather than from an online chat and it’s much better IMO.
But everyone’s different & clubs aren’t for everyone!
The thing with the clubs Morty is; it all depends on who is in at the same time as you, which makes the difference. When it comes to private messaging in here, you start chatting with a profile that catches your eye, ticks the boxes you are looking for, and you go from there. If your messages go well, you arrange to meet, and it’s not like you’re meeting a complete stranger, as you already have a rapport built. Arriving at a club, if you know absolutely nobody, and haven’t arranged to meet someone in there, you’ve got it all to do, and that’s IF someone catches your eye. Add to that, if like the OP, you are a single guy, then you’re likely to have a lot of ‘competition’
And there lies the problem!
Zero effort equals zero reward, those that put in the hard work are rarely on her moaning about not getting meets
You do the Math as the septics would say!
That's an assumption on your part. A lot of people (mainly single men) put a lot of effort in and still get nowhere. Assuming people get what their effort level deserves is just arrogant.
Rubbish
My comment was based upon guys who think that they have an entitlement.
You will see the same or similar comments in many other threads based on or about the same subject in these threads also.
The bleating hearts are those who want to put in no effort but expect the rewards, then moan in the forums when it doesn't happen.
And in answer to the comment from the poster below, Mr M wouldn't attend a club as a single male as we are a couple but as he understands what the lifestyle is about he would easily fit in if he were to do so.
Its not all about sex, there is a great social side to this too.
I’ve never thought I had an entitlement when I’ve been in a club, I’ve genuinely only ever gone in with an open mind, and zero expectations. My original post on this thread was in reply to the OP’s question of whether clubs were better than using Fab for private meets, to which I answered honestly.
We were not having a snipe at you personally but were just stating that a lot of guys do feel that they are entitled in the club's as well as on here.
There was no offence to you intended, apologies if that's how it came across."
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"Much prefer going to a club & seeing who I meet that I click with. No time wasters, everyone is there to have fun, you can gauge someone from actually meeting & chatting to them rather than from an online chat and it’s much better IMO.
But everyone’s different & clubs aren’t for everyone!
The thing with the clubs Morty is; it all depends on who is in at the same time as you, which makes the difference. When it comes to private messaging in here, you start chatting with a profile that catches your eye, ticks the boxes you are looking for, and you go from there. If your messages go well, you arrange to meet, and it’s not like you’re meeting a complete stranger, as you already have a rapport built. Arriving at a club, if you know absolutely nobody, and haven’t arranged to meet someone in there, you’ve got it all to do, and that’s IF someone catches your eye. Add to that, if like the OP, you are a single guy, then you’re likely to have a lot of ‘competition’
And there lies the problem!
Zero effort equals zero reward, those that put in the hard work are rarely on her moaning about not getting meets
You do the Math as the septics would say!
That's an assumption on your part. A lot of people (mainly single men) put a lot of effort in and still get nowhere. Assuming people get what their effort level deserves is just arrogant.
Rubbish
My comment was based upon guys who think that they have an entitlement.
You will see the same or similar comments in many other threads based on or about the same subject in these threads also.
The bleating hearts are those who want to put in no effort but expect the rewards, then moan in the forums when it doesn't happen.
And in answer to the comment from the poster below, Mr M wouldn't attend a club as a single male as we are a couple but as he understands what the lifestyle is about he would easily fit in if he were to do so.
Its not all about sex, there is a great social side to this too.
I’ve never thought I had an entitlement when I’ve been in a club, I’ve genuinely only ever gone in with an open mind, and zero expectations. My original post on this thread was in reply to the OP’s question of whether clubs were better than using Fab for private meets, to which I answered honestly.
We were not having a snipe at you personally but were just stating that a lot of guys do feel that they are entitled in the club's as well as on here.
There was no offence to you intended, apologies if that's how it came across.
Thank you "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Much prefer going to a club & seeing who I meet that I click with. No time wasters, everyone is there to have fun, you can gauge someone from actually meeting & chatting to them rather than from an online chat and it’s much better IMO.
But everyone’s different & clubs aren’t for everyone!
The thing with the clubs Morty is; it all depends on who is in at the same time as you, which makes the difference. When it comes to private messaging in here, you start chatting with a profile that catches your eye, ticks the boxes you are looking for, and you go from there. If your messages go well, you arrange to meet, and it’s not like you’re meeting a complete stranger, as you already have a rapport built. Arriving at a club, if you know absolutely nobody, and haven’t arranged to meet someone in there, you’ve got it all to do, and that’s IF someone catches your eye. Add to that, if like the OP, you are a single guy, then you’re likely to have a lot of ‘competition’
And there lies the problem!
Zero effort equals zero reward, those that put in the hard work are rarely on her moaning about not getting meets
You do the Math as the septics would say!
That's an assumption on your part. A lot of people (mainly single men) put a lot of effort in and still get nowhere. Assuming people get what their effort level deserves is just arrogant. "
Have to agree here. I put effort in chatting to couples and usually get snubbed more than if i were in a different environment like a pub, possibly because they think I'm just after a shag, whereas im just being sociable.
Some people are up their own arses with attitude and i just stay clear, some are great to chat to without sex of any kind entering the conversation, sometimes we do play. Single men do get prejudged i have to say, based on some single guys behaviour. I just take people for what they are.
Couples and women will argue against what I've said but;They aint a single guy so can't appreciate the experiences of one, or be treated like one when in a club
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