FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swinging Club Discussion > Best way to meet couples at Chams
Best way to meet couples at Chams
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By *and26 OP Man
over a year ago
coventry |
"Sometimes you just have to ask. After all we are all there for the shame reason. "
Thank you, as it was my first time I wasn’t sure of how best to do it and didn’t wanna course any offence x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I'm off to Chams on Friday as a newbie.. can't wait to meet people.. the best way I'm guessing is not going there expecting anything.. just chat and socialise.. You'll find me on the dance floor or the bar lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"As a Chams newbie how is the best way for me and my partner to meet other couples for fun at Chams, had plenty of sex last night in jacuzzi but no couples looking to join us "
I thought there was a no play rule in the Jacuzzi?  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ingo!Woman
over a year ago
manchester |
"As a Chams newbie how is the best way for me and my partner to meet other couples for fun at Chams, had plenty of sex last night in jacuzzi but no couples looking to join us
I thought there was a no play rule in the Jacuzzi? "
The jacuzzis in chams are huge and you’re allowed to play in them. Every hour or so they test the water and add chemicals as and when necessary. They’ve never appeared unclean in any way. They’re brilliant but the chlorine gets to my eyes after a while. They’re a fantastic way to meet new people.    |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago
swingers clubs |
"As a Chams newbie how is the best way for me and my partner to meet other couples for fun at Chams, had plenty of sex last night in jacuzzi but no couples looking to join us "
1. Go on a couples night to increase chances of meeting couples who are looking for couples.
2. Chat to said couples in social areas without any expectations from them.
3. If they float your boat ask them if they'd like to join you in a non-pressure way, so that if they don't want to join you they feel they can say no without offending you. Remember they may need a moment to discuss this between themselves. Our preferred way to do this is to say we're going off to play in ^insert name of playroom here^ and they're welcome to join us if they'd like, then leave them to discuss.
4.If they say yes - job's a good'un.
If they say no go back to step 2
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *and26 OP Man
over a year ago
coventry |
"As a Chams newbie how is the best way for me and my partner to meet other couples for fun at Chams, had plenty of sex last night in jacuzzi but no couples looking to join us
1. Go on a couples night to increase chances of meeting couples who are looking for couples.
2. Chat to said couples in social areas without any expectations from them.
3. If they float your boat ask them if they'd like to join you in a non-pressure way, so that if they don't want to join you they feel they can say no without offending you. Remember they may need a moment to discuss this between themselves. Our preferred way to do this is to say we're going off to play in ^insert name of playroom here^ and they're welcome to join us if they'd like, then leave them to discuss.
4.If they say yes - job's a good'un.
If they say no go back to step 2
"
Thank you, Ifrom all the advice it seems the biggest thing is just confidence to talk to others  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"As a Chams newbie how is the best way for me and my partner to meet other couples for fun at Chams, had plenty of sex last night in jacuzzi but no couples looking to join us
1. Go on a couples night to increase chances of meeting couples who are looking for couples.
2. Chat to said couples in social areas without any expectations from them.
3. If they float your boat ask them if they'd like to join you in a non-pressure way, so that if they don't want to join you they feel they can say no without offending you. Remember they may need a moment to discuss this between themselves. Our preferred way to do this is to say we're going off to play in ^insert name of playroom here^ and they're welcome to join us if they'd like, then leave them to discuss.
4.If they say yes - job's a good'un.
If they say no go back to step 2
Thank you, Ifrom all the advice it seems the biggest thing is just confidence to talk to others "
You will be fine |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Get on the bed in the round room
 That’d do it
What's the bed in the round room for then? Lol
A big ol’ nap I think  "
That's what I'm thinking.. and of course everyone stands around it to watch eh 
I've not been before and going next week.. not many pictures online so I'm getting as much info as I can haha.. so far, I plan on sitting in the bar with me vodka lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Get on the bed in the round room
That’d do it
What's the bed in the round room for then? Lol
A big ol’ nap I think
That's what I'm thinking.. and of course everyone stands around it to watch eh
I've not been before and going next week.. not many pictures online so I'm getting as much info as I can haha.. so far, I plan on sitting in the bar with me vodka lol"
You will be fine. Chams is friendly and socialable |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Get on the bed in the round room
That’d do it
What's the bed in the round room for then? Lol
A big ol’ nap I think
That's what I'm thinking.. and of course everyone stands around it to watch eh
I've not been before and going next week.. not many pictures online so I'm getting as much info as I can haha.. so far, I plan on sitting in the bar with me vodka lol
You will be fine. Chams is friendly and socialable "
I'm looking forward to it I love the social side of things as much as the fun side. Thank you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Get on the bed in the round room
That’d do it
What's the bed in the round room for then? Lol
A big ol’ nap I think
That's what I'm thinking.. and of course everyone stands around it to watch eh
I've not been before and going next week.. not many pictures online so I'm getting as much info as I can haha.. so far, I plan on sitting in the bar with me vodka lol
You will be fine. Chams is friendly and socialable
I'm looking forward to it I love the social side of things as much as the fun side. Thank you."
I’m sure some lovely lady, gent or both will come and chat you up whilst you’re doing just that |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
love Chams, we were made to feel very welcome on our first visit. However, it does help that one of us is quite the extrovert. But it is a genuinely nice atmosphere, you’ll really enjoy it I suspect |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I'm guessing it also helps to have a great figure? Or not? I'm a larger than life, in ya face kinda girl with bags of confidence once I'm getting to know anyone. I know I'm not for anyone and just hope in that case they just pass me by politely. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'm guessing it also helps to have a great figure? Or not? I'm a larger than life, in ya face kinda girl with bags of confidence once I'm getting to know anyone. I know I'm not for anyone and just hope in that case they just pass me by politely. "
I wouldn’t say so. All folks enjoy different strokes and what tickles one’s pickle simply won’t do for another. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I'm guessing it also helps to have a great figure? Or not? I'm a larger than life, in ya face kinda girl with bags of confidence once I'm getting to know anyone. I know I'm not for anyone and just hope in that case they just pass me by politely.
I wouldn’t say so. All folks enjoy different strokes and what tickles one’s pickle simply won’t do for another. "
Well I'm lookingbforwar to it none the less. Look forward to meeting new faces |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'm guessing it also helps to have a great figure? Or not? I'm a larger than life, in ya face kinda girl with bags of confidence once I'm getting to know anyone. I know I'm not for anyone and just hope in that case they just pass me by politely.
I wouldn’t say so. All folks enjoy different strokes and what tickles one’s pickle simply won’t do for another.
Well I'm lookingbforwar to it none the less. Look forward to meeting new faces "
Faces are very good for sitting on |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I'm guessing it also helps to have a great figure? Or not? I'm a larger than life, in ya face kinda girl with bags of confidence once I'm getting to know anyone. I know I'm not for anyone and just hope in that case they just pass me by politely.
I wouldn’t say so. All folks enjoy different strokes and what tickles one’s pickle simply won’t do for another.
Well I'm lookingbforwar to it none the less. Look forward to meeting new faces
Faces are very good for sitting on "
I agree |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
We went for the first time last night, we had a little more confidence, chatted to people and in the play areas, xouples room etc just asked, or found that people touched a boob, or started to kiss one of us, if we said no then that was taken well and no issues.
You will become more confident as time goes on. But the key is to talk and ask, as peoole have said everyone is there for the same reason. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *and26 OP Man
over a year ago
coventry |
"We went for the first time last night, we had a little more confidence, chatted to people and in the play areas, xouples room etc just asked, or found that people touched a boob, or started to kiss one of us, if we said no then that was taken well and no issues.
You will become more confident as time goes on. But the key is to talk and ask, as peoole have said everyone is there for the same reason."
Thank you, hopefully will see you there |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"We went for the first time last night, we had a little more confidence, chatted to people and in the play areas, xouples room etc just asked, or found that people touched a boob, or started to kiss one of us, if we said no then that was taken well and no issues.
You will become more confident as time goes on. But the key is to talk and ask, as peoole have said everyone is there for the same reason."
People touching a boob or kissing you and waiting to see how you react....yep. that's why I am not keen on Chams. But if you are happy to be followed by a row of single guys and groped without permission, it's a very active club  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"We went for the first time last night, we had a little more confidence, chatted to people and in the play areas, xouples room etc just asked, or found that people touched a boob, or started to kiss one of us, if we said no then that was taken well and no issues.
You will become more confident as time goes on. But the key is to talk and ask, as peoole have said everyone is there for the same reason.
People touching a boob or kissing you and waiting to see how you react....yep. that's why I am not keen on Chams. But if you are happy to be followed by a row of single guys and groped without permission, it's a very active club "
I'd soon tell am where to go lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *umpkinMan
over a year ago
near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack! |
"........................ But the key is to talk and ask ............................
People touching a boob or kissing you and waiting to see how you react....yep. that's why I am not keen on Chams. But if you are happy to be followed by a row of single guys and groped without permission, it's a very active club "
You make it sound like Chams is just one big grope fest, which it certainly isn`t and hence why I`ve quoted that little bit from the comment you`ve quoted and obviously missed!
I wouldn`t DARE grope someone on the off-chance I might strike it lucky and I`ve not seen it happen often, if ever when I`ve been. Once you`ve got chatting and permission gained, different story!
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
"We went for the first time last night, we had a little more confidence, chatted to people and in the play areas, xouples room etc just asked, or found that people touched a boob, or started to kiss one of us, if we said no then that was taken well and no issues.
You will become more confident as time goes on. But the key is to talk and ask, as peoole have said everyone is there for the same reason.
People touching a boob or kissing you and waiting to see how you react....yep. that's why I am not keen on Chams. But if you are happy to be followed by a row of single guys and groped without permission, it's a very active club "
That would piss us right off! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
We have been members at Chams for years and what anyone going for the first time should realise is it's a swingers club, where people go to enjoy the lifestyle. Its not a "social club". If thats what you want with limited swinging activity go to Xtasia.
We can never understand why people go to Chams and spend all night sitting at the bar, surely its cheaper and more convenient to go to a pub.
The single guys are mainly not a problem but as in life generally you are going to get the occassional prat.
We find that a firm NO always does the trick. You dont have to be nasty, just make it clear that they not your cup of tea.
Remember everyone was a newbie at some time and to our knowledge no-one comes into this world with a degree in swinging. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"We have been members at Chams for years and what anyone going for the first time should realise is it's a swingers club, where people go to enjoy the lifestyle. Its not a "social club". If thats what you want with limited swinging activity go to Xtasia.
We can never understand why people go to Chams and spend all night sitting at the bar, surely its cheaper and more convenient to go to a pub.
The single guys are mainly not a problem but as in life generally you are going to get the occassional prat.
We find that a firm NO always does the trick. You dont have to be nasty, just make it clear that they not your cup of tea.
Remember everyone was a newbie at some time and to our knowledge no-one comes into this world with a degree in swinging. "
Totally agree - while there always be the occasional idiots(couples who aren’t really couples, single guys who think it ok to touch first etc) we’ve generally found that on both couples and singles nights that the behaviour of all is great - anyone that’s pushed things, or equally those that have gone about it the right way but just not our type/thing or right time, have always responded well to us saying no. Chams is a swingers club - and I think if you lie in the middle of the round bed on a Friday night you have to expect a few extra hands - but even so a quick no will fix it - elsewhere you can normally expect to be asked, talked to etc before anything happens. I agree that xtasia sometimes been a bit lacking in actual swinging - but I think that’s more to do with how he club layed out - but looks like with recent changes and hopefully more to come - that will make it a bit more of a swingers club while still keeping the vibe of the nightclub etc. The more they bring the swinging areas as part of the club rather than feeling you go off to a limited area(considering how big the place is) the sexier it be - but still giving people the freedom to party and fuck as they desire! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"........................ But the key is to talk and ask ............................
People touching a boob or kissing you and waiting to see how you react....yep. that's why I am not keen on Chams. But if you are happy to be followed by a row of single guys and groped without permission, it's a very active club
You make it sound like Chams is just one big grope fest, which it certainly isn`t and hence why I`ve quoted that little bit from the comment you`ve quoted and obviously missed!
I wouldn`t DARE grope someone on the off-chance I might strike it lucky and I`ve not seen it happen often, if ever when I`ve been. Once you`ve got chatting and permission gained, different story!
"
It certainly isnt like that, however as some have said if you are in the larger rooms then people ask, touching will happen but you just say no thank you abd its taken well and off you go. As for having a row of single guys well that doesnt happen either, we chose to go on a couples and single female night and it was a great atmoshphere, lots of chatting goug on and alot of playing but its a swingers club id be suprised if that wasnt going on. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"........................ But the key is to talk and ask ............................
People touching a boob or kissing you and waiting to see how you react....yep. that's why I am not keen on Chams. But if you are happy to be followed by a row of single guys and groped without permission, it's a very active club
You make it sound like Chams is just one big grope fest, which it certainly isn`t and hence why I`ve quoted that little bit from the comment you`ve quoted and obviously missed!
I wouldn`t DARE grope someone on the off-chance I might strike it lucky and I`ve not seen it happen often, if ever when I`ve been. Once you`ve got chatting and permission gained, different story!
It certainly isnt like that, however as some have said if you are in the larger rooms then people ask, touching will happen but you just say no thank you abd its taken well and off you go. As for having a row of single guys well that doesnt happen either, we chose to go on a couples and single female night and it was a great atmoshphere, lots of chatting goug on and alot of playing but its a swingers club id be suprised if that wasnt going on. "
We love Chams as variety of rooms for everyone, on a Saturday the round bed is in essence couples/singles ladies only, there is official couples only room both unlocked so interaction occurs. There are lockable playrooms for those who want more private play. The disco room is brill, bar area social as are various seated areas inc busstop. Its a huge club and always have a varied great night |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"Chams has probably the best reputation for etiquette . It really is very non pushy and 1 no is enough without offence eitherway "
Best reputation for etiquette!!!!! Maybe it's safe for me to try again. ???
I found the walking zombies following couples and patrolling room to room, touching as you pass on the stairs and joining in without asking very intimidating.
Maybe I should try it for about the 5th time and see if it has changed.
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Chams has probably the best reputation for etiquette . It really is very non pushy and 1 no is enough without offence eitherway
Best reputation for etiquette!!!!! Maybe it's safe for me to try again. ???
I found the walking zombies following couples and patrolling room to room, touching as you pass on the stairs and joining in without asking very intimidating.
Maybe I should try it for about the 5th time and see if it has changed.
"
We havent found that on a Saturday as couples/single fems - only been once on a Friday & some singles spoilt it for others |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *azmar62Couple
over a year ago
Hinckley |
"Chams has probably the best reputation for etiquette . It really is very non pushy and 1 no is enough without offence eitherway
Best reputation for etiquette!!!!! Maybe it's safe for me to try again. ???
I found the walking zombies following couples and patrolling room to room, touching as you pass on the stairs and joining in without asking very intimidating.
Maybe I should try it for about the 5th time and see if it has changed.
We havent found that on a Saturday as couples/single fems - only been once on a Friday & some singles spoilt it for others "
We call them the wanking dead? Singles go round in herds. Lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Chams has probably the best reputation for etiquette . It really is very non pushy and 1 no is enough without offence eitherway
Best reputation for etiquette!!!!! Maybe it's safe for me to try again. ???
I found the walking zombies following couples and patrolling room to room, touching as you pass on the stairs and joining in without asking very intimidating.
Maybe I should try it for about the 5th time and see if it has changed.
We havent found that on a Saturday as couples/single fems - only been once on a Friday & some singles spoilt it for others
We call them the wanking dead? Singles go round in herds. Lol "
Yes no need is there |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly) |
The more times you visit a club, the more your confidence grows. The bus stop has got to be one of the best places to see people passing and striking up conversations. We love sitting at the bus stop n chatting, leading to playtime xxxx Suzi |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
