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If you check statuses on the day you will see who is going....  | |||
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"Fridays is a busy night, and 13th will be lucky....
If you check statuses on the day you will see who is going.... "Lmao! Friday 22 December wasn’t a busy night.........  | |||
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"3 days before Christmas?? Lol ok, pretty much every friday is a busy night "Yep, the last Friday before Xmas, the day most people finish work for their winter break, definitely the worst night for a single guy to choose to visit the ‘No.1 Friendliest Club in the UK’  | |||
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"Ah sorry about that, but to be fair you cant judge from one night and also sometimes the quiet nights are better. "It was a quiet night for sure, and the longest two hours of my life. I’ve not been tempted to make the drive across the A66 again I’m afraid | |||
"Ah sorry about that, but to be fair you cant judge from one night and also sometimes the quiet nights are better. "and tbh our last 2 meets in the club was quiet night then hey presto we got meets in the last hour as the staff nocked on the door to say time up fust in last out haha | |||
"Ah sorry about that, but to be fair you cant judge from one night and also sometimes the quiet nights are better.
It was a quiet night for sure, and the longest two hours of my life. I’ve not been tempted to make the drive across the A66 again I’m afraid "sorry you basically have used this thread as a tool to "piss in someone else's cornflakes" a couples of things to consider.... a) litteraly 3 days before xmas.... b) the xmas parties at the club were the week before c) maybe "some" people took that weekend to go and travel for xmas d) see A i normally go to clubs at the weekends... i didn't that one because i went back to see family... because it literaly was 3 days before xmas!!! i'm sorry not everyone seems to have the same flexability you seem to have.....  | |||
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"It’s always heaving when I go on a fri! Must have just been a rarity!" Yes Fridays are fun and busy usually xx xx | |||
"Ah sorry about that, but to be fair you cant judge from one night and also sometimes the quiet nights are better.
It was a quiet night for sure, and the longest two hours of my life. I’ve not been tempted to make the drive across the A66 again I’m afraid
sorry you basically have used this thread as a tool to "piss in someone else's cornflakes"
a couples of things to consider....
a) litteraly 3 days before xmas....
b) the xmas parties at the club were the week before
c) maybe "some" people took that weekend to go and travel for xmas
d) see A
i normally go to clubs at the weekends... i didn't that one because i went back to see family... because it literaly was 3 days before xmas!!!
i'm sorry not everyone seems to have the same flexability you seem to have..... "The irony here Fab is; I could so easily have been ‘gushing’ about how great my first visit to this club was
I had been reading through the reviews in the weeks leading up to the night I chose, and not one of them mentioned ‘don’t come 3 days before Xmas’, in fact, the overall impression I got was that ANY night would be a great night. Not only that, but I had spoken via private mail to a couple local to me about going, and they confirmed that ANY Friday night was good for a single guy, and that single guys are welcomed. They even messaged me two days before, saying they had been chatting with friends who were club regulars, and that that Friday was looking to be a busy night.
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"Tell you what op. Give me a shout if you decide you might go again and if I am free I will come chat your ears off xx" Thanks for that, like I told Charlotte, I still have two £11 entry tickets to use sometime  | |||
"Tell you what op. Give me a shout if you decide you might go again and if I am free I will come chat your ears off xx Thanks for that, like I told Charlotte, I still have two £11 entry tickets to use sometime "I’m not the OP btw | |||
"Hang on a sec, this is getting daft. We have no idea how busy we are going to be , just like a pub it depends who comes out on the night. The only things we do know is when we have new members as they book to Come along for the first visit. Or if you want a room then people pretty much book in advance . I have often thought it’s going to be a quiet night and it’s chocca and vice versa. You cannot predict except you can sometimes get an idea by people’s status. Tbh I was surprised it was quiet but then realised it was so close to Xmas and there is no way we could have (or anyone could have) predicted. I am Sorry it wasn’t as you expected but then it’s best to have no expectations and then anything extra is a bonus. What I do know though is it’s a positive and happy environment and people have a tendency to be optimistic. "I totally appreciate you cannot predict how any night is going to turn out, as it does depend on who is there on the night. I didn’t actually mind it being as quiet as it was, a ‘newbie’ is easier spotted, and people generally are interested in getting to know that new face, by himself, looking a bit lost, but it wasn’t to be, no matter where I placed myself in the bar, in that cosy tent/lounge area, that first chill out room where you can use your phone, the second chillout/smoking hut, or wandering lonely as a cloud through the play areas. I didn’t want a dip in the hot tub as I’d showered and ‘prepped’ before I came out. As for ‘expectations’, all I’d hoped for was a friendly welcome and maybe a bit of networking | |||
"Hang on a sec, this is getting daft. We have no idea how busy we are going to be , just like a pub it depends who comes out on the night. The only things we do know is when we have new members as they book to Come along for the first visit. Or if you want a room then people pretty much book in advance . I have often thought it’s going to be a quiet night and it’s chocca and vice versa. You cannot predict except you can sometimes get an idea by people’s status. Tbh I was surprised it was quiet but then realised it was so close to Xmas and there is no way we could have (or anyone could have) predicted. I am Sorry it wasn’t as you expected but then it’s best to have no expectations and then anything extra is a bonus. What I do know though is it’s a positive and happy environment and people have a tendency to be optimistic.
I totally appreciate you cannot predict how any night is going to turn out, as it does depend on who is there on the night. I didn’t actually mind it being as quiet as it was, a ‘newbie’ is easier spotted, and people generally are interested in getting to know that new face, by himself, looking a bit lost, but it wasn’t to be, no matter where I placed myself in the bar, in that cosy tent/lounge area, that first chill out room where you can use your phone, the second chillout/smoking hut, or wandering lonely as a cloud through the play areas. I didn’t want a dip in the hot tub as I’d showered and ‘prepped’ before I came out. As for ‘expectations’, all I’d hoped for was a friendly welcome and maybe a bit of networking "thing is if say charlotte or tbh most staff usually say "this is ,,," and drop you in who evers company to get a bit of crack away .early on we both at the bar having a crack on , i (m) usually am off in hot tubs mrs always sits cracking on till am ready then about 10 ish shes off to change and then we off around the rooms . a week or so ago i was getting changed was 9 ish 2 lads were having a convo 1 said seen nowt should ask for his money back , as theres women in the bar fully cloth , i explaned women dont come and get naked for others entertainment they sitting socializing for men to chat and find out what they after to chat see if they click , anyways seemed to have took that bit of advice , by time we got home he had sent a email saying " love to lick your mrs fanny" so some really dont know how to go about it , id say to you watch whats on at the club say if fridays are you thing try the next bmfc that night should be bouncing m8 | |||
"Hang on a sec, this is getting daft. We have no idea how busy we are going to be , just like a pub it depends who comes out on the night. The only things we do know is when we have new members as they book to Come along for the first visit. Or if you want a room then people pretty much book in advance . I have often thought it’s going to be a quiet night and it’s chocca and vice versa. You cannot predict except you can sometimes get an idea by people’s status. Tbh I was surprised it was quiet but then realised it was so close to Xmas and there is no way we could have (or anyone could have) predicted. I am Sorry it wasn’t as you expected but then it’s best to have no expectations and then anything extra is a bonus. What I do know though is it’s a positive and happy environment and people have a tendency to be optimistic.
I totally appreciate you cannot predict how any night is going to turn out, as it does depend on who is there on the night. I didn’t actually mind it being as quiet as it was, a ‘newbie’ is easier spotted, and people generally are interested in getting to know that new face, by himself, looking a bit lost, but it wasn’t to be, no matter where I placed myself in the bar, in that cosy tent/lounge area, that first chill out room where you can use your phone, the second chillout/smoking hut, or wandering lonely as a cloud through the play areas. I didn’t want a dip in the hot tub as I’d showered and ‘prepped’ before I came out. As for ‘expectations’, all I’d hoped for was a friendly welcome and maybe a bit of networking thing is if say charlotte or tbh most staff usually say "this is ,,," and drop you in who evers company to get a bit of crack away .early on we both at the bar having a crack on , i (m) usually am off in hot tubs mrs always sits cracking on till am ready then about 10 ish shes off to change and then we off around the rooms . a week or so ago i was getting changed was 9 ish 2 lads were having a convo 1 said seen nowt should ask for his money back , as theres women in the bar fully cloth , i explaned women dont come and get naked for others entertainment they sitting socializing for men to chat and find out what they after to chat see if they click , anyways seemed to have took that bit of advice , by time we got home he had sent a email saying " love to lick your mrs fanny" so some really dont know how to go about it , id say to you watch whats on at the club say if fridays are you thing try the next bmfc that night should be bouncing m8"Yep, I remember you told me that last time we spoke? I’ve never been anything but polite, respectful, and basically, just myself. People who have met me, would, I am sure, confirm that I am not one of ‘those guys’. Read my veris, do i sound like an arse lol? Do people interested in bmfc events, hope to find a Celtic complexion guy like me? | |||
"Hang on a sec, this is getting daft. We have no idea how busy we are going to be , just like a pub it depends who comes out on the night. The only things we do know is when we have new members as they book to Come along for the first visit. Or if you want a room then people pretty much book in advance . I have often thought it’s going to be a quiet night and it’s chocca and vice versa. You cannot predict except you can sometimes get an idea by people’s status. Tbh I was surprised it was quiet but then realised it was so close to Xmas and there is no way we could have (or anyone could have) predicted. I am Sorry it wasn’t as you expected but then it’s best to have no expectations and then anything extra is a bonus. What I do know though is it’s a positive and happy environment and people have a tendency to be optimistic.
I totally appreciate you cannot predict how any night is going to turn out, as it does depend on who is there on the night. I didn’t actually mind it being as quiet as it was, a ‘newbie’ is easier spotted, and people generally are interested in getting to know that new face, by himself, looking a bit lost, but it wasn’t to be, no matter where I placed myself in the bar, in that cosy tent/lounge area, that first chill out room where you can use your phone, the second chillout/smoking hut, or wandering lonely as a cloud through the play areas. I didn’t want a dip in the hot tub as I’d showered and ‘prepped’ before I came out. As for ‘expectations’, all I’d hoped for was a friendly welcome and maybe a bit of networking thing is if say charlotte or tbh most staff usually say "this is ,,," and drop you in who evers company to get a bit of crack away .early on we both at the bar having a crack on , i (m) usually am off in hot tubs mrs always sits cracking on till am ready then about 10 ish shes off to change and then we off around the rooms . a week or so ago i was getting changed was 9 ish 2 lads were having a convo 1 said seen nowt should ask for his money back , as theres women in the bar fully cloth , i explaned women dont come and get naked for others entertainment they sitting socializing for men to chat and find out what they after to chat see if they click , anyways seemed to have took that bit of advice , by time we got home he had sent a email saying " love to lick your mrs fanny" so some really dont know how to go about it , id say to you watch whats on at the club say if fridays are you thing try the next bmfc that night should be bouncing m8
Yep, I remember you told me that last time we spoke? I’ve never been anything but polite, respectful, and basically, just myself. People who have met me, would, I am sure, confirm that I am not one of ‘those guys’. Read my veris, do i sound like an arse lol?
Do people interested in bmfc events, hope to find a Celtic complexion guy like me? "He has point there mind T! | |||
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"As for ‘expectations’, all I’d hoped for was a friendly welcome and maybe a bit of networking "And did you get that? | |||
"Hang on a sec, this is getting daft. We have no idea how busy we are going to be , just like a pub it depends who comes out on the night. The only things we do know is when we have new members as they book to Come along for the first visit. Or if you want a room then people pretty much book in advance . I have often thought it’s going to be a quiet night and it’s chocca and vice versa. You cannot predict except you can sometimes get an idea by people’s status. Tbh I was surprised it was quiet but then realised it was so close to Xmas and there is no way we could have (or anyone could have) predicted. I am Sorry it wasn’t as you expected but then it’s best to have no expectations and then anything extra is a bonus. What I do know though is it’s a positive and happy environment and people have a tendency to be optimistic.
I totally appreciate you cannot predict how any night is going to turn out, as it does depend on who is there on the night. I didn’t actually mind it being as quiet as it was, a ‘newbie’ is easier spotted, and people generally are interested in getting to know that new face, by himself, looking a bit lost, but it wasn’t to be, no matter where I placed myself in the bar, in that cosy tent/lounge area, that first chill out room where you can use your phone, the second chillout/smoking hut, or wandering lonely as a cloud through the play areas. I didn’t want a dip in the hot tub as I’d showered and ‘prepped’ before I came out. As for ‘expectations’, all I’d hoped for was a friendly welcome and maybe a bit of networking thing is if say charlotte or tbh most staff usually say "this is ,,," and drop you in who evers company to get a bit of crack away .early on we both at the bar having a crack on , i (m) usually am off in hot tubs mrs always sits cracking on till am ready then about 10 ish shes off to change and then we off around the rooms . a week or so ago i was getting changed was 9 ish 2 lads were having a convo 1 said seen nowt should ask for his money back , as theres women in the bar fully cloth , i explaned women dont come and get naked for others entertainment they sitting socializing for men to chat and find out what they after to chat see if they click , anyways seemed to have took that bit of advice , by time we got home he had sent a email saying " love to lick your mrs fanny" so some really dont know how to go about it , id say to you watch whats on at the club say if fridays are you thing try the next bmfc that night should be bouncing m8
Yep, I remember you told me that last time we spoke? I’ve never been anything but polite, respectful, and basically, just myself. People who have met me, would, I am sure, confirm that I am not one of ‘those guys’. Read my veris, do i sound like an arse lol?
Do people interested in bmfc events, hope to find a Celtic complexion guy like me?
He has point there mind T!"its just an event and also still a club night just because its bmfc dont mean all the girls are there just for one of there following so others just use it as a normal night , we played last bmfc was not one of the bmfc . just an event that gets a few more into the club , so dont see why not. | |||
"As for ‘expectations’, all I’d hoped for was a friendly welcome and maybe a bit of networking
And did you get that?"The only people who spoke to me were the girls on reception as they booked me in and took my money, and the tall guy dressed as an elf who gave me and the other first timer ‘The Tour’. Apart from that, I felt like I was wearing Harry Potter’s invisibility cloak | |||
"As for ‘expectations’, all I’d hoped for was a friendly welcome and maybe a bit of networking
And did you get that?
The only people who spoke to me were the girls on reception as they booked me in and took my money, and the tall guy dressed as an elf who gave me and the other first timer ‘The Tour’. Apart from that, I felt like I was wearing Harry Potter’s invisibility cloak "That I am amazed at and tbh I am not sure I totally believe you unless you kept out of the was of everyone and lurked in dark places?? Surely people didnt ignore you when you approached them and chatted? Xx | |||
"As for ‘expectations’, all I’d hoped for was a friendly welcome and maybe a bit of networking
And did you get that?
The only people who spoke to me were the girls on reception as they booked me in and took my money, and the tall guy dressed as an elf who gave me and the other first timer ‘The Tour’. Apart from that, I felt like I was wearing Harry Potter’s invisibility cloak
That I am amazed at and tbh I am not sure I totally believe you unless you kept out of the was of everyone and lurked in dark places??
Surely people didnt ignore you when you approached them and chatted? Xx"Answered via pm | |||
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"As for ‘expectations’, all I’d hoped for was a friendly welcome and maybe a bit of networking
And did you get that?
The only people who spoke to me were the girls on reception as they booked me in and took my money, and the tall guy dressed as an elf who gave me and the other first timer ‘The Tour’. Apart from that, I felt like I was wearing Harry Potter’s invisibility cloak "well we defo wernt in that night we were at harrys trying his new wand out but serious we defo wernt in that night as usually one of the first there and at the bar , i say this because most the staff usually bring them over to the bar and say this tng and who ever else sat there to , and maybe leave newbies in the bar company | |||
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"As for ‘expectations’, all I’d hoped for was a friendly welcome and maybe a bit of networking
And did you get that?
The only people who spoke to me were the girls on reception as they booked me in and took my money, and the tall guy dressed as an elf who gave me and the other first timer ‘The Tour’. Apart from that, I felt like I was wearing Harry Potter’s invisibility cloak well we defo wernt in that night we were at harrys trying his new wand out but serious we defo wernt in that night as usually one of the first there and at the bar , i say this because most the staff usually bring them over to the bar and say this tng and who ever else sat there to , and maybe leave newbies in the bar company "Nope, I didn’t receive any such introductions | |||
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"So, bow you dont just want a friendly welcome and a bit of networking, you also want introductions as well?? Tbh unless someone joins and the sits in the corner or makes no effort other that hello or sits texting or similar, well they are highly likely to get some sort of interaction, unless of course they are miserable twats "Depending on who else is in on the night, of course | |||
Effort being a key word here
And two way street is another something to think about, meaning this, you say hello, they say hello, you then ask a question, they answer the question and so it goes on, like ping pong, you keep it going, you dont expect someone else to keep bouncing the ball, it goes back and forth.
Unless they or you is not interested or pretty ignorant or some such similar thing, thats how you strike up conversations, rather than blaming everyone else  | |||
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" just to add our tuppence, we've not seen a quiet Friday at this for maybe 3-4 years. We've never been here on black eye Friday (Fri before Xmas) but have visited other clubs on BYF and found them to be quieter than usual. Guess it's a time for family/ shopping/ drinking with friends or colleagues. As the advice on here always goes, clubs are what you make of them. But then some folk need to manage their expectations "Giggles at tuppence - is that just a Wakefield thing or do children all over the north call their bits this? | |||
"Giggles at tuppence - is that just a Wakefield thing or do children all over the north call their bits this? " A bit further north it does sometimes get used for that. May have slid a little pun in there  | |||
"There is always someone in, even when quiet, in fact quiet evenings are often the best as people tend to make more effort
Effort being a key word here
And two way street is another something to think about, meaning this, you say hello, they say hello, you then ask a question, they answer the question and so it goes on, like ping pong, you keep it going, you dont expect someone else to keep bouncing the ball, it goes back and forth.
Unless they or you is not interested or pretty ignorant or some such similar thing, thats how you strike up conversations, rather than blaming everyone else "If you check my veris, you’ll see I had no problem engaging with others in Cupid’s, Chams, or No.3. Indeed, the word ‘chatty’ is used to describe me
I don’t know what went ‘wrong’ for me on that night, let’s hope next time I’m in things are different | |||
"Did you not go out to the smoking Area?! That’s where I went wrong! It’s like banter central! " I’m not a smoker, but I don’t remember that being pointed out, unless it was the ‘chillout’ hut? I do remember people smoking in there? | |||
"Did you not go out to the smoking Area?! That’s where I went wrong! It’s like banter central! I’m not a smoker, but I don’t remember that being pointed out, unless it was the ‘chillout’ hut? I do remember people smoking in there?" Yes that’ll be it. I’m not a smoker either but it seemed the place to be for a chat xx | |||
" just to add our tuppence, we've not seen a quiet Friday at this for maybe 3-4 years. We've never been here on black eye Friday (Fri before Xmas) but have visited other clubs on BYF and found them to be quieter than usual. Guess it's a time for family/ shopping/ drinking with friends or colleagues. As the advice on here always goes, clubs are what you make of them. But then some folk need to manage their expectations "I did mention in an earlier post, that all I’d ‘expected’ from “The No.1 Friendliest Club in the UK”, was a friendly welcome, and a bit of networking | |||
"Did you not go out to the smoking Area?! That’s where I went wrong! It’s like banter central! I’m not a smoker, but I don’t remember that being pointed out, unless it was the ‘chillout’ hut? I do remember people smoking in there? Yes that’ll be it. I’m not a smoker either but it seemed the place to be for a chat xx" There was a couple in there, I did go in, there’s a wipeboard for you to write messages on in the corner right? Next time I’ll write “Hi Sue from Doiluvfun” on it | |||
"There is always someone in, even when quiet, in fact quiet evenings are often the best as people tend to make more effort
Effort being a key word here
And two way street is another something to think about, meaning this, you say hello, they say hello, you then ask a question, they answer the question and so it goes on, like ping pong, you keep it going, you dont expect someone else to keep bouncing the ball, it goes back and forth.
Unless they or you is not interested or pretty ignorant or some such similar thing, thats how you strike up conversations, rather than blaming everyone else "I think this is vitally important. Some club goers do seem to expect people to go and speak to them. How do regulars know if people just want to take it all in and are not ready to chat ? I try to be friendly, smile and say ok. But it really needs the newcomer to introduce themselves and be sociable. If you do not put the effort in , then don't expect to have a great night. | |||
"Did you not go out to the smoking Area?! That’s where I went wrong! It’s like banter central! I’m not a smoker, but I don’t remember that being pointed out, unless it was the ‘chillout’ hut? I do remember people smoking in there? Yes that’ll be it. I’m not a smoker either but it seemed the place to be for a chat xx There was a couple in there, I did go in, there’s a wipeboard for you to write messages on in the corner right? Next time I’ll write “Hi Sue from Doiluvfun” on it "That will be lovely but it wont help you in your quest for people to chat to you, though I suppose it may start a conversation...... | |||
"Did you not go out to the smoking Area?! That’s where I went wrong! It’s like banter central! I’m not a smoker, but I don’t remember that being pointed out, unless it was the ‘chillout’ hut? I do remember people smoking in there? Yes that’ll be it. I’m not a smoker either but it seemed the place to be for a chat xx There was a couple in there, I did go in, there’s a wipeboard for you to write messages on in the corner right? Next time I’ll write “Hi Sue from Doiluvfun” on it
That will be lovely but it wont help you in your quest for people to chat to you, though I suppose it may start a conversation......"Maybe you can just both add to it every time he comes. Like pen pals. | |||
" just to add our tuppence, we've not seen a quiet Friday at this for maybe 3-4 years. We've never been here on black eye Friday (Fri before Xmas) but have visited other clubs on BYF and found them to be quieter than usual. Guess it's a time for family/ shopping/ drinking with friends or colleagues. As the advice on here always goes, clubs are what you make of them. But then some folk need to manage their expectations
I did mention in an earlier post, that all I’d ‘expected’ from “The No.1 Friendliest Club in the UK”, was a friendly welcome, and a bit of networking "And you got a friendly welcome and the opportunity to network, like I keep saying and you wont let it go, its a two way street and everyone has to make an effort or it doesnt work. Now I can absolutely guarantee you that however quiet it was that night, there will have been people in that would have been happy to chat to a newbie, but you have to make an effort as well as people arent mindreaders. If you would perhaps acknowledge that instead of pushing the blame onto others, it may help you in future visits to any club. | |||
"Did you not go out to the smoking Area?! That’s where I went wrong! It’s like banter central! I’m not a smoker, but I don’t remember that being pointed out, unless it was the ‘chillout’ hut? I do remember people smoking in there? Yes that’ll be it. I’m not a smoker either but it seemed the place to be for a chat xx There was a couple in there, I did go in, there’s a wipeboard for you to write messages on in the corner right? Next time I’ll write “Hi Sue from Doiluvfun” on it
That will be lovely but it wont help you in your quest for people to chat to you, though I suppose it may start a conversation......
Maybe you can just both add to it every time he comes. Like pen pals. "I think we're doing that here already | |||
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