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"Sounds like going solo is easier " That is for female.. Males it would be different story...  | |||
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"Sounds like going solo is easier That is for female.. Males it would be different story... "Have you been? | |||
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"Sounds like going solo is easier That is for female.. Males it would be different story... "I go on my own to meet single blokes, as do many of us and if it makes them scared, they won’t be able to handle me. | |||
"So I’m relatively new to this and I’m far to scared to go to a club on my own but who does? And what’s it like on your own or with someone? " I’ve been to several clubs by myself, and survived. Go for it, broaden those horizons | |||
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"Go on my own quite a lot and started attending clubs on my own. Much easier...not waiting for someone or reliant upon and no expectation to play with your club buddy. " I didn't like the expectation to play when in a couple. It's easier alone in that way. I still prefer going as a couple though. | |||
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"I went recently on my own so I will list some of my previous worries/concerns and hopefully it will help you decide what to do. I was worried about my weight/appearance in a dress down club - In hindsight I had nothing to worry about, everyone else is in their underwear too and it just feels normal, I walked around in my boxers all night, didnt evdn wrap the towell around me, no one batted an eye lid or stared at me. I was unsure how you "got action"- well it was very much like a standard nightclub situation, just say hi to people and chat, everyone in their knows what its about, if you strike a convo maybe just say do you fancy going to one of the rooms? That would be a very clear show of interest for both parties if she said yes but tbh just getting a good convo will give you an inclination if they fancy it. I was worried I might be expected to sleep with anyone/everyone- ha ha, how wrong was I, it really isnt like that, infact your one of the lucky single men if you get an opportunity, 99% of people in these clubs are super respectfull and polite. I was worried of being invited to play with a couple, how do you initiate it, how do you get "permission" - well back to my previous point, you are all in there for the same reasons, so simply asking " what are the boundaries" is a very easy question to ask once in that environment. Trust me it isnt half as scary as your mind currently believes. In a nutshell it isnt seedy like most people think, yes it was incredibly scary for me to go, I had a fair few double brandys before I went to calm the nerves! But dont over do it or you will be refused entry. The bit that I didnt give too much thought about and dont let my experience put you off, was when it came to actually getting naughty I just couldnt get hard. I think although I was comfy being in there as a whole I was unfamiliar with sharing a women with her man. I still had a great time and will do it again in a heartbeat, it turns out a LOT of men have this issue, so if it did happen to you dont worry it will get better the more times you go, maybe you will be one of the lucky ones and be able to get stuck in and have a wicked time on your first visit! My advice to a first timer would be to go with no expectancies, just go out like you would if you were going to a club, enjoy your night, many men go home without having any action, its not just about getting sex, its a social club environment. For reference it was Cupids that I went too on a BBW night, Once I asked to be put on the guest list on here I had a few weomen message me asking me to say hi when I got there, so maybe follow suit and try and arrange something similar to me? TBF it was a couple who asked me to go and gave me that bit of comfort knowing I had atleast spoke to somone who will be in there. If you want to ask anything in private fire away mate, you might have to get me to message you first though as I have blocked men, had enough of Gays and TV pestering me
J "Fair play to you mate, for being so open and honest about your first club experience! For all the guys out there looking for advice, it’s a pity not more would come forward to share their positive thoughts. Good to hear you’re planning on more visits | |||
"I went recently on my own so I will list some of my previous worries/concerns and hopefully it will help you decide what to do. I was worried about my weight/appearance in a dress down club - In hindsight I had nothing to worry about, everyone else is in their underwear too and it just feels normal, I walked around in my boxers all night, didnt evdn wrap the towell around me, no one batted an eye lid or stared at me. I was unsure how you "got action"- well it was very much like a standard nightclub situation, just say hi to people and chat, everyone in their knows what its about, if you strike a convo maybe just say do you fancy going to one of the rooms? That would be a very clear show of interest for both parties if she said yes but tbh just getting a good convo will give you an inclination if they fancy it. I was worried I might be expected to sleep with anyone/everyone- ha ha, how wrong was I, it really isnt like that, infact your one of the lucky single men if you get an opportunity, 99% of people in these clubs are super respectfull and polite. I was worried of being invited to play with a couple, how do you initiate it, how do you get "permission" - well back to my previous point, you are all in there for the same reasons, so simply asking " what are the boundaries" is a very easy question to ask once in that environment. Trust me it isnt half as scary as your mind currently believes. In a nutshell it isnt seedy like most people think, yes it was incredibly scary for me to go, I had a fair few double brandys before I went to calm the nerves! But dont over do it or you will be refused entry. The bit that I didnt give too much thought about and dont let my experience put you off, was when it came to actually getting naughty I just couldnt get hard. I think although I was comfy being in there as a whole I was unfamiliar with sharing a women with her man. I still had a great time and will do it again in a heartbeat, it turns out a LOT of men have this issue, so if it did happen to you dont worry it will get better the more times you go, maybe you will be one of the lucky ones and be able to get stuck in and have a wicked time on your first visit! My advice to a first timer would be to go with no expectancies, just go out like you would if you were going to a club, enjoy your night, many men go home without having any action, its not just about getting sex, its a social club environment. For reference it was Cupids that I went too on a BBW night, Once I asked to be put on the guest list on here I had a few weomen message me asking me to say hi when I got there, so maybe follow suit and try and arrange something similar to me? TBF it was a couple who asked me to go and gave me that bit of comfort knowing I had atleast spoke to somone who will be in there. If you want to ask anything in private fire away mate, you might have to get me to message you first though as I have blocked men, had enough of Gays and TV pestering me
J
Fair play to you mate, for being so open and honest about your first club experience! For all the guys out there looking for advice, it’s a pity not more would come forward to share their positive thoughts. Good to hear you’re planning on more visits "Cheers bud, this site and forum really helps, i found a thread about struggling in the heat of the moment and it is very very common, so the more open we all are the better for everyone. R.E going back to the club, well, life would be very boring if we ran from our fears 
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"I went recently on my own so I will list some of my previous worries/concerns and hopefully it will help you decide what to do. I was worried about my weight/appearance in a dress down club - In hindsight I had nothing to worry about, everyone else is in their underwear too and it just feels normal, I walked around in my boxers all night, didnt evdn wrap the towell around me, no one batted an eye lid or stared at me. I was unsure how you "got action"- well it was very much like a standard nightclub situation, just say hi to people and chat, everyone in their knows what its about, if you strike a convo maybe just say do you fancy going to one of the rooms? That would be a very clear show of interest for both parties if she said yes but tbh just getting a good convo will give you an inclination if they fancy it. I was worried I might be expected to sleep with anyone/everyone- ha ha, how wrong was I, it really isnt like that, infact your one of the lucky single men if you get an opportunity, 99% of people in these clubs are super respectfull and polite. I was worried of being invited to play with a couple, how do you initiate it, how do you get "permission" - well back to my previous point, you are all in there for the same reasons, so simply asking " what are the boundaries" is a very easy question to ask once in that environment. Trust me it isnt half as scary as your mind currently believes. In a nutshell it isnt seedy like most people think, yes it was incredibly scary for me to go, I had a fair few double brandys before I went to calm the nerves! But dont over do it or you will be refused entry. The bit that I didnt give too much thought about and dont let my experience put you off, was when it came to actually getting naughty I just couldnt get hard. I think although I was comfy being in there as a whole I was unfamiliar with sharing a women with her man. I still had a great time and will do it again in a heartbeat, it turns out a LOT of men have this issue, so if it did happen to you dont worry it will get better the more times you go, maybe you will be one of the lucky ones and be able to get stuck in and have a wicked time on your first visit! My advice to a first timer would be to go with no expectancies, just go out like you would if you were going to a club, enjoy your night, many men go home without having any action, its not just about getting sex, its a social club environment. For reference it was Cupids that I went too on a BBW night, Once I asked to be put on the guest list on here I had a few weomen message me asking me to say hi when I got there, so maybe follow suit and try and arrange something similar to me? TBF it was a couple who asked me to go and gave me that bit of comfort knowing I had atleast spoke to somone who will be in there. If you want to ask anything in private fire away mate, you might have to get me to message you first though as I have blocked men, had enough of Gays and TV pestering me
J "Love this post. It normally is ladies encouraging the single gents to be brave and try out club's. It is great to read your experiences. Shame we can't pit this as a pinned post to refer people to. Thanks for taking the time to write such an honest informative reply. | |||
"I went recently on my own so I will list some of my previous worries/concerns and hopefully it will help you decide what to do. I was worried about my weight/appearance in a dress down club - In hindsight I had nothing to worry about, everyone else is in their underwear too and it just feels normal, I walked around in my boxers all night, didnt evdn wrap the towell around me, no one batted an eye lid or stared at me. I was unsure how you "got action"- well it was very much like a standard nightclub situation, just say hi to people and chat, everyone in their knows what its about, if you strike a convo maybe just say do you fancy going to one of the rooms? That would be a very clear show of interest for both parties if she said yes but tbh just getting a good convo will give you an inclination if they fancy it. I was worried I might be expected to sleep with anyone/everyone- ha ha, how wrong was I, it really isnt like that, infact your one of the lucky single men if you get an opportunity, 99% of people in these clubs are super respectfull and polite. I was worried of being invited to play with a couple, how do you initiate it, how do you get "permission" - well back to my previous point, you are all in there for the same reasons, so simply asking " what are the boundaries" is a very easy question to ask once in that environment. Trust me it isnt half as scary as your mind currently believes. In a nutshell it isnt seedy like most people think, yes it was incredibly scary for me to go, I had a fair few double brandys before I went to calm the nerves! But dont over do it or you will be refused entry. The bit that I didnt give too much thought about and dont let my experience put you off, was when it came to actually getting naughty I just couldnt get hard. I think although I was comfy being in there as a whole I was unfamiliar with sharing a women with her man. I still had a great time and will do it again in a heartbeat, it turns out a LOT of men have this issue, so if it did happen to you dont worry it will get better the more times you go, maybe you will be one of the lucky ones and be able to get stuck in and have a wicked time on your first visit! My advice to a first timer would be to go with no expectancies, just go out like you would if you were going to a club, enjoy your night, many men go home without having any action, its not just about getting sex, its a social club environment. For reference it was Cupids that I went too on a BBW night, Once I asked to be put on the guest list on here I had a few weomen message me asking me to say hi when I got there, so maybe follow suit and try and arrange something similar to me? TBF it was a couple who asked me to go and gave me that bit of comfort knowing I had atleast spoke to somone who will be in there. If you want to ask anything in private fire away mate, you might have to get me to message you first though as I have blocked men, had enough of Gays and TV pestering me
J
Love this post. It normally is ladies encouraging the single gents to be brave and try out club's. It is great to read your experiences. Shame we can't pit this as a pinned post to refer people to. Thanks for taking the time to write such an honest informative reply. "If admin want to use it as a sticky they can, just fix the grammer for me first
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"I went recently on my own so I will list some of my previous worries/concerns and hopefully it will help you decide what to do. I was worried about my weight/appearance in a dress down club - In hindsight I had nothing to worry about, everyone else is in their underwear too and it just feels normal, I walked around in my boxers all night, didnt evdn wrap the towell around me, no one batted an eye lid or stared at me. I was unsure how you "got action"- well it was very much like a standard nightclub situation, just say hi to people and chat, everyone in their knows what its about, if you strike a convo maybe just say do you fancy going to one of the rooms? That would be a very clear show of interest for both parties if she said yes but tbh just getting a good convo will give you an inclination if they fancy it. I was worried I might be expected to sleep with anyone/everyone- ha ha, how wrong was I, it really isnt like that, infact your one of the lucky single men if you get an opportunity, 99% of people in these clubs are super respectfull and polite. I was worried of being invited to play with a couple, how do you initiate it, how do you get "permission" - well back to my previous point, you are all in there for the same reasons, so simply asking " what are the boundaries" is a very easy question to ask once in that environment. Trust me it isnt half as scary as your mind currently believes. In a nutshell it isnt seedy like most people think, yes it was incredibly scary for me to go, I had a fair few double brandys before I went to calm the nerves! But dont over do it or you will be refused entry. The bit that I didnt give too much thought about and dont let my experience put you off, was when it came to actually getting naughty I just couldnt get hard. I think although I was comfy being in there as a whole I was unfamiliar with sharing a women with her man. I still had a great time and will do it again in a heartbeat, it turns out a LOT of men have this issue, so if it did happen to you dont worry it will get better the more times you go, maybe you will be one of the lucky ones and be able to get stuck in and have a wicked time on your first visit! My advice to a first timer would be to go with no expectancies, just go out like you would if you were going to a club, enjoy your night, many men go home without having any action, its not just about getting sex, its a social club environment. For reference it was Cupids that I went too on a BBW night, Once I asked to be put on the guest list on here I had a few weomen message me asking me to say hi when I got there, so maybe follow suit and try and arrange something similar to me? TBF it was a couple who asked me to go and gave me that bit of comfort knowing I had atleast spoke to somone who will be in there. If you want to ask anything in private fire away mate, you might have to get me to message you first though as I have blocked men, had enough of Gays and TV pestering me
J
Love this post. It normally is ladies encouraging the single gents to be brave and try out club's. It is great to read your experiences. Shame we can't pit this as a pinned post to refer people to. Thanks for taking the time to write such an honest informative reply.
If admin want to use it as a sticky they can, just fix the grammer for me first
J x"Brilliant post! Maybe you could paste it as a new thread? Helpful info. | |||
"I went recently on my own so I will list some of my previous worries/concerns and hopefully it will help you decide what to do. I was worried about my weight/appearance in a dress down club - In hindsight I had nothing to worry about, everyone else is in their underwear too and it just feels normal, I walked around in my boxers all night, didnt evdn wrap the towell around me, no one batted an eye lid or stared at me. I was unsure how you "got action"- well it was very much like a standard nightclub situation, just say hi to people and chat, everyone in their knows what its about, if you strike a convo maybe just say do you fancy going to one of the rooms? That would be a very clear show of interest for both parties if she said yes but tbh just getting a good convo will give you an inclination if they fancy it. I was worried I might be expected to sleep with anyone/everyone- ha ha, how wrong was I, it really isnt like that, infact your one of the lucky single men if you get an opportunity, 99% of people in these clubs are super respectfull and polite. I was worried of being invited to play with a couple, how do you initiate it, how do you get "permission" - well back to my previous point, you are all in there for the same reasons, so simply asking " what are the boundaries" is a very easy question to ask once in that environment. Trust me it isnt half as scary as your mind currently believes. In a nutshell it isnt seedy like most people think, yes it was incredibly scary for me to go, I had a fair few double brandys before I went to calm the nerves! But dont over do it or you will be refused entry. The bit that I didnt give too much thought about and dont let my experience put you off, was when it came to actually getting naughty I just couldnt get hard. I think although I was comfy being in there as a whole I was unfamiliar with sharing a women with her man. I still had a great time and will do it again in a heartbeat, it turns out a LOT of men have this issue, so if it did happen to you dont worry it will get better the more times you go, maybe you will be one of the lucky ones and be able to get stuck in and have a wicked time on your first visit! My advice to a first timer would be to go with no expectancies, just go out like you would if you were going to a club, enjoy your night, many men go home without having any action, its not just about getting sex, its a social club environment. For reference it was Cupids that I went too on a BBW night, Once I asked to be put on the guest list on here I had a few weomen message me asking me to say hi when I got there, so maybe follow suit and try and arrange something similar to me? TBF it was a couple who asked me to go and gave me that bit of comfort knowing I had atleast spoke to somone who will be in there. If you want to ask anything in private fire away mate, you might have to get me to message you first though as I have blocked men, had enough of Gays and TV pestering me
J
Love this post. It normally is ladies encouraging the single gents to be brave and try out club's. It is great to read your experiences. Shame we can't pit this as a pinned post to refer people to. Thanks for taking the time to write such an honest informative reply.
If admin want to use it as a sticky they can, just fix the grammer for me first
J x
Brilliant post! Maybe you could paste it as a new thread? Helpful info. "What section would it be best posted? I will create a thread. Maybe in the Introductions? X | |||
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"Thanks to everyone sharing there stories and experiences I think I definitely need to give it a go after reading " Just go for it bud! The worst that can happen is you don’t like it, but even that you can turn in to a positive experience with bragging rights in the pub with your mates; “Yeah lads, so I went to this swingers’ club last week, and...........” then just fill in the gap with whatever you like lol | |||
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