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Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask 
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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Just put you big boy pants on and go! You wont be the only single fella there... you are unlikely to be the only one there for the first time. You will have fun as long as you are polite and friendly and respect others boundarys.
Go! |
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over a year ago
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol "
OP this is a great club you go in pay your money you will be shown the lockers and asked to stip to your boxers or a towel then staff will show you around I would the suggest going and sitting in the bar area chat to people and see where the night takes you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe look at when you maybe want to go...make a post on the clubs section asking people who’s going?
You can then try and get friendly with them and so you’ve got someone to chat to when you get there.
I think you’d get a better response than asking someone to join you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm just going to get this off my substantial chest: there is NOTHING less sexy than a grown man saying 'Can I come with you, I don't want to go alone?' when you advertise a club visit. Man up, do the prep as suggested above and just go. Hanging on a woman's apron (basque) strings just isn't a good look.
Clubs are friendly, the staff are generally helpful and friendly and you will have more joy going on your own and looking confident than sitting awkwardly next to someone you've just met with a total lack of chemistry evident.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yet another post from a guy thinking he can waltz into a club and the women are all lined up waiting for you. WRONG WROMG WRONG. Most clubs have a waiting list for males. And then there is no guarantee of entry as the club has to offer a pair balance. And then if you get in you actually have to find a willing couple. Most single guys spend the night wanking. I'd advise to find a like minded partner and join as a couple. |
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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol "
A big boi like you scared....never !!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yet another post from a guy thinking he can waltz into a club and the women are all lined up waiting for you. WRONG WROMG WRONG. Most clubs have a waiting list for males. And then there is no guarantee of entry as the club has to offer a pair balance. And then if you get in you actually have to find a willing couple. Most single guys spend the night wanking. I'd advise to find a like minded partner and join as a couple. "
Where in his post did he say he was expecting women to be lined up waiting?
All he said was he was curious as to what went on inside.
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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol
OP this is a great club you go in pay your money you will be shown the lockers and asked to stip to your boxers or a towel then staff will show you around I would the suggest going and sitting in the bar area chat to people and see where the night takes you xx"
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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago
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"Yet another post from a guy thinking he can waltz into a club and the women are all lined up waiting for you. WRONG WROMG WRONG. Most clubs have a waiting list for males. And then there is no guarantee of entry as the club has to offer a pair balance. And then if you get in you actually have to find a willing couple. Most single guys spend the night wanking. I'd advise to find a like minded partner and join as a couple.
Where in his post did he say he was expecting women to be lined up waiting?
All he said was he was curious as to what went on inside.
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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"Yet another post from a guy thinking he can waltz into a club and the women are all lined up waiting for you. WRONG WROMG WRONG. Most clubs have a waiting list for males. And then there is no guarantee of entry as the club has to offer a pair balance. And then if you get in you actually have to find a willing couple. Most single guys spend the night wanking. I'd advise to find a like minded partner and join as a couple. "
Thats a little harsh, I didn't get that impression of the OP at all... he was just nervous to go alone. Not all single men are bad, the vast majority are actually really nice and this one just needed a little push in the right direction. |
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"Yet another post from a guy thinking he can waltz into a club and the women are all lined up waiting for you. WRONG WROMG WRONG. Most clubs have a waiting list for males. And then there is no guarantee of entry as the club has to offer a pair balance. And then if you get in you actually have to find a willing couple. Most single guys spend the night wanking. I'd advise to find a like minded partner and join as a couple.
Where in his post did he say he was expecting women to be lined up waiting?
All he said was he was curious as to what went on inside.
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Whem I was curious about what went on inside a club the first thing I did was stick my hand down the front of my pants. I found a pair of balls there (and a dick) and so I went to the club by myself.
OP I suggest you do the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP I suggest calling chams to find out about membership then just take the plunge.
I'll be there tomorrow with my husband and hopefully another lady if she's feeling better, and unlike some who go on this thread, we're actually friendly. |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"OP I suggest calling chams to find out about membership then just take the plunge.
I'll be there tomorrow with my husband and hopefully another lady if she's feeling better, and unlike some who go on this thread, we're actually friendly. "
Oi you we go and we are friendly.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP I suggest calling chams to find out about membership then just take the plunge.
I'll be there tomorrow with my husband and hopefully another lady if she's feeling better, and unlike some who go on this thread, we're actually friendly.
Oi you we go and we are friendly.
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But you've only just joined in, so doesn't count :p  |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"OP I suggest calling chams to find out about membership then just take the plunge.
I'll be there tomorrow with my husband and hopefully another lady if she's feeling better, and unlike some who go on this thread, we're actually friendly.
Oi you we go and we are friendly.
But you've only just joined in, so doesn't count :p "
I posted near the top suggesting the op called chams as last time we went we were told there was a waiting list for single men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP I suggest calling chams to find out about membership then just take the plunge.
I'll be there tomorrow with my husband and hopefully another lady if she's feeling better, and unlike some who go on this thread, we're actually friendly.
Oi you we go and we are friendly.
But you've only just joined in, so doesn't count :p
I posted near the top suggesting the op called chams as last time we went we were told there was a waiting list for single men. "
Nah if you ask sometimes you get me membership |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP I suggest calling chams to find out about membership then just take the plunge.
I'll be there tomorrow with my husband and hopefully another lady if she's feeling better, and unlike some who go on this thread, we're actually friendly.
Oi you we go and we are friendly.
But you've only just joined in, so doesn't count :p
I posted near the top suggesting the op called chams as last time we went we were told there was a waiting list for single men. "
How did I miss that! Bad sin  |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"OP I suggest calling chams to find out about membership then just take the plunge.
I'll be there tomorrow with my husband and hopefully another lady if she's feeling better, and unlike some who go on this thread, we're actually friendly.
Oi you we go and we are friendly.
But you've only just joined in, so doesn't count :p
I posted near the top suggesting the op called chams as last time we went we were told there was a waiting list for single men.
How did I miss that! Bad sin "
No worries x |
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"Yet another post from a guy thinking he can waltz into a club and the women are all lined up waiting for you. WRONG WROMG WRONG. Most clubs have a waiting list for males. And then there is no guarantee of entry as the club has to offer a pair balance. And then if you get in you actually have to find a willing couple. Most single guys spend the night wanking. I'd advise to find a like minded partner and join as a couple. "
Errrrrrr that was a bit of an hormonal rant |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Yet another post from a guy thinking he can waltz into a club and the women are all lined up waiting for you. WRONG WROMG WRONG.
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He asked a perfectly valid question and didn't say anything that you have accused him of |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.
Some a bit harsh and others great
Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!"
I'm feeling bad for my grumpy response, but once you go you'll realise there was nothing to be concerned about. View it as a networking opportunity. |
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"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.
Some a bit harsh and others great
Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!
I'm feeling bad for my grumpy response, but once you go you'll realise there was nothing to be concerned about. View it as a networking opportunity."
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"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.
Some a bit harsh and others great
Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!
Well if we're their when you go you can chat with us "
Sounds great thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.
Some a bit harsh and others great
Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!
Well if we're their when you go you can chat with us
Sounds great thanks "
Or if im in there |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.
Some a bit harsh and others great
Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!
Well if we're their when you go you can chat with us
Sounds great thanks
Or if im in there"
You'll have to say hello to us too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.
Some a bit harsh and others great
Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!
Well if we're their when you go you can chat with us
Sounds great thanks
Or if im in there
You'll have to say hello to us too "
Anytime xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol "
i’ve an event running next friday mate at xtasia aimed at singles and newbies to clubs, very welcoming and always a great event.
It’s in the forums just have a search for swingles or i can drop you a link it’s in westbrom |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol "
I go alone every week, I do meet friends there later but I always arrive alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol
I go alone every week, I do meet friends there later but I always arrive alone. "
that’s because your a trooper |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol
I go alone every week, I do meet friends there later but I always arrive alone.
that’s because your a trooper "
Naw, I'm just unlikable!  |
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol
I go alone every week, I do meet friends there later but I always arrive alone.
that’s because your a trooper
Naw, I'm just unlikable! "
Yeah I can't stand ya lol x |
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Chams is a great club but it does have a waiting list. Just call and ask the club before you turn up.
There is Xtasia in West Bromwich which is more like a night club. Unlike Chams yu stay in your clothes all night.
I have looked at your pics and you should do fine at both.
Just be open and chatty and engage with both people in a couple.
I know loads of single guys who do really well at clubs. All they do it go with no expectations and are happy to engage in conversation with everyone.
My advice would to talk to anyone even single guys. You might not want to play with them but its better to have someone to chat to than sit there like billy no mates. |
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"Chams is a great club but it does have a waiting list. Just call and ask the club before you turn up.
There is Xtasia in West Bromwich which is more like a night club. Unlike Chams yu stay in your clothes all night."
Not at all you take your clothes off when ever you like  you come dressed smart make an effort ( ladies like that) but if taking your clothes if your thing you are more then welcome to
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol
I go alone every week, I do meet friends there later but I always arrive alone.
that’s because your a trooper
Naw, I'm just unlikable!
Yeah I can't stand ya lol x"
Dammit, lost my last friend  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.
Some a bit harsh and others great
Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!"
Im heading there tomorrow..ive been around 7 times so far and love it every time .
It has a non licensed bar so you can if you wish bring a small amount of alcoholic drinks and leave behind the bar though personally i dont drink when im there
2nd tip..chat to other blokes like you would anywhere else.
3rd consent in swingers clubs is same as anywher respect and positive permission
Any way if you see me there tomorrow feel free to hello. Oh and you will love chams yes its pricey but its worth it.
Message me if you need to know more.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well this weekend all going well I shall be braving it!
Hope to see some of you there  "
Good luck. Some good advice on the thread. Especially from tomharper above- talk to the other blokes.
I would never have gone on my own either. My first trip to a club was with a male friend.
Men often get ignored at clubs, so I don't blame you for being nervous.
Sex isn't guaranteed and always ask before you touch. People are swingers not prostitutes. I'm not trying to infer that you're a bad person, just many people don't know if they've never been that's all- just telling you for info. x |
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"Well this weekend all going well I shall be braving it!
Hope to see some of you there
Good luck. Some good advice on the thread. Especially from tomharper above- talk to the other blokes.
I would never have gone on my own either. My first trip to a club was with a male friend.
Men often get ignored at clubs, so I don't blame you for being nervous.
Sex isn't guaranteed and always ask before you touch. People are swingers not prostitutes. I'm not trying to infer that you're a bad person, just many people don't know if they've never been that's all- just telling you for info. x"
Thabks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well this weekend all going well I shall be braving it!
Hope to see some of you there
I'll be there Friday late afternoon until they kick me out.
Hooligan  "
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol "
end of the day if you too scard to go to a club on your own perhaps it’s not for you, usually it’s us girls that are a bit nervous not the men |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol "
pretend nothing happens in there , or go (phone them for their rules first) |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Can you just pay at the door or do you have to become a member"
some clubs have a vetting process, some dont, some have a waiting list, some dont, some have a single new guy night to see they get on in a club environment, some dont..so, depends which club you are asking about, the determined, phone them up and ask x
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By *hropmMan
over a year ago
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"Can you just pay at the door or do you have to become a membersome clubs have a vetting process, some dont, some have a waiting list, some dont, some have a single new guy night to see they get on in a club environment, some dont..so, depends which club you are asking about, the determined, phone them up and ask x"
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol end of the day if you too scard to go to a club on your own perhaps it’s not for you, usually it’s us girls that are a bit nervous not the men "
Equal rights and all that
Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along? |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol end of the day if you too scard to go to a club on your own perhaps it’s not for you, usually it’s us girls that are a bit nervous not the men
Equal rights and all that
Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along?"
You're a big lad, put your big boy pants on and take the plunge! |
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol end of the day if you too scard to go to a club on your own perhaps it’s not for you, usually it’s us girls that are a bit nervous not the men
Equal rights and all that
Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along?
You're a big lad, put your big boy pants on and take the plunge! "
Ok boss |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol end of the day if you too scard to go to a club on your own perhaps it’s not for you, usually it’s us girls that are a bit nervous not the men
Equal rights and all that
Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along?
You're a big lad, put your big boy pants on and take the plunge!
Ok boss "
they give u nice advice go with it |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol end of the day if you too scard to go to a club on your own perhaps it’s not for you, usually it’s us girls that are a bit nervous not the men
Equal rights and all that
Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along?
You're a big lad, put your big boy pants on and take the plunge!
Ok boss "
Ah, well trained already! |
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol end of the day if you too scard to go to a club on your own perhaps it’s not for you, usually it’s us girls that are a bit nervous not the men
Equal rights and all that
Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along?
You're a big lad, put your big boy pants on and take the plunge!
Ok boss
Ah, well trained already!"
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Mate I went today alone and I'm not the most outgoing person. Sometimes I get social anxiety problems.. Hell I even got naked today! If I can do it I'm sure you can. What's the problem for you?"
well done you xxxx |
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"Mate I went today alone and I'm not the most outgoing person. Sometimes I get social anxiety problems.. Hell I even got naked today! If I can do it I'm sure you can. What's the problem for you?"
Fair play mate .
Same with me suffer from a bit of the anxiety etc it’s just the thought of going alone I guess.. but hey never Gona have any fun if I don’t dive in the deep end |
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"Mate I went today alone and I'm not the most outgoing person. Sometimes I get social anxiety problems.. Hell I even got naked today! If I can do it I'm sure you can. What's the problem for you?well done you xxxx"
Aw thanks! 
I felt relaxed when I got in. No problems. |
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"Mate I went today alone and I'm not the most outgoing person. Sometimes I get social anxiety problems.. Hell I even got naked today! If I can do it I'm sure you can. What's the problem for you?
Fair play mate .
Same with me suffer from a bit of the anxiety etc it’s just the thought of going alone I guess.. but hey never Gona have any fun if I don’t dive in the deep end "
Fair enough. Everyone's friendly at these places I'm sure.
Give it a go, you'll probably wonder what you were worried about afterwards! If anything just go for the experience like I did and go from there. |
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I’m still yet to visit a club too.. I am pretty nervous about it though! I was told during one of my very first social meets on fab that my ethnicity would cause me problems in a club 
which is kinda disheartening as I’ve had some great meets/interactions with some amazing people! and I’ve heard the clubs can be a good experience..
I think it’d be best to chaperone
still...maybe one day lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good on you OP, doing things like this can be hard enough for the first time, but having anxiety makes them feel so much bigger and a bloody massive challenge.
All credit to you for trying, I'm far too scared |
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over a year ago
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Why not put something in the meets/events
You may find someone to go with.
I remember going to a club on my own.
I went but couldn't bring myself to talk to anyone through being nervous.
Found myself just woundering around then left.
It was a few months after that until I went again.
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over a year ago
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"Yet another post from a guy thinking he can waltz into a club and the women are all lined up waiting for you. WRONG WROMG WRONG. Most clubs have a waiting list for males. And then there is no guarantee of entry as the club has to offer a pair balance. And then if you get in you actually have to find a willing couple. Most single guys spend the night wanking. I'd advise to find a like minded partner and join as a couple. "
Dont see where he said anything if the sort. It's this sort of response from couples that put me off going for so long and then when I did there were some couples like this in there. Put me off going again completely.
Best advice I can give is find a lady friend to go with. It'll get round a couple obsticles.. 1) Being seen as a single man with its added entrance cost and all the wrong perceptions and 2) You have someone to chat to when in there and you'll feel more relaxed and the response will be better.
I will go back to town house or Cupids a second time but only with a friend and not as a single guy.
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"Feel the fear and do it anyway" or what ever the self help book title is - that's what I've trying to do. I've never been to a club before, have wanted to go for a while but so far chickened out. Now I've finally decided to overcome my nervousness and do it - going to Black Boudoir at Le Boudoir tonight.
OP - if I can do it, you can do it too! Good luck! |
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Well done OP for posting this and persisting in spite of some taunts. It's great to see some ladies giving a guy a helping hand in this area. I think a lot more singles could help each other out in this area. |
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"Yet another post from a guy thinking he can waltz into a club and the women are all lined up waiting for you. WRONG WROMG WRONG.
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He asked a perfectly valid question and didn't say anything that you have accused him of"
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Mate I went today alone and I'm not the most outgoing person. Sometimes I get social anxiety problems.. Hell I even got naked today! If I can do it I'm sure you can. What's the problem for you?well done you xxxx
Aw thanks!
I felt relaxed when I got in. No problems."
excellent, welcome to the 'its not so bad, in fact its kind of great, when you finally do it', club
when i first started i went to a club on my own, before i even knew of here(this site). i had a great time and been doing it, with and without people for a few years now. i still get butterflies especially going somewhere new, but i actually prefer to walk in to the new thing alone, i tend to cope with it better. im not under any pressure then x |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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""Feel the fear and do it anyway" or what ever the self help book title is - that's what I've trying to do. I've never been to a club before, have wanted to go for a while but so far chickened out. Now I've finally decided to overcome my nervousness and do it - going to Black Boudoir at Le Boudoir tonight.
OP - if I can do it, you can do it too! Good luck! "
have a wonderful time xxxx |
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" when i first started i went to a club on my own, before i even knew of here(this site). i had a great time and been doing it, with and without people for a few years now. i still get butterflies especially going somewhere new, but i actually prefer to walk in to the new thing alone, i tend to cope with it better. im not under any pressure then x"
That's exactly why I've chosen to go on my for the first time - no pressure from anyone to do anything, I can just go with my own flow.
"have a wonderful time xxxx"
Thank you so much - I intend to! xx |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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" when i first started i went to a club on my own, before i even knew of here(this site). i had a great time and been doing it, with and without people for a few years now. i still get butterflies especially going somewhere new, but i actually prefer to walk in to the new thing alone, i tend to cope with it better. im not under any pressure then x
That's exactly why I've chosen to go on my for the first time - no pressure from anyone to do anything, I can just go with my own flow.
have a wonderful time xxxx
Thank you so much - I intend to! xx"
awesome !!! xxxxxx |
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This will probably make no sense what so ever but i went into Chams not too long ago as a single guy. Agreed to meet a couple in there, so i bit the bullet, registered, paid on the door and got in.
I was nervous as fuck, didn't know what to expect but It turned out to be an okay evening.
I didnt play, I didnt meet the couple I was hoping to meet. I didnt really mingle with anyone else either. Couples seemed to click with couples and I felt like the spare prick at the wedding.
Glad I experienced it but wont be in a rush to head back. I guess you need to make it a regular thing to get somewhat more comfortable.
Good luck. Bite the bullet and go for it. Just don't expect, never expect to play |
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over a year ago
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol "
Dragging you no. Attaching a lead an walking you in on all fours yes
Maybe op has done his homework an doesn’t like waiting. So wants to jump to the front of the que with a woman
What’s with the witch hunts on posts??
Lately. |
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over a year ago
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"This will probably make no sense what so ever but i went into Chams not too long ago as a single guy. Agreed to meet a couple in there, so i bit the bullet, registered, paid on the door and got in.
I was nervous as fuck, didn't know what to expect but It turned out to be an okay evening.
I didnt play, I didnt meet the couple I was hoping to meet. I didnt really mingle with anyone else either. Couples seemed to click with couples and I felt like the spare prick at the wedding.
Glad I experienced it but wont be in a rush to head back. I guess you need to make it a regular thing to get somewhat more comfortable.
Good luck. Bite the bullet and go for it. Just don't expect, never expect to play"
sorry sweet you had this, even more gutted your time was wasted by a couple..if you get known over a couple of visits, it will take off, or try a smaller club where you wont get lost in the masses and yes it does help if you actually just say hi to people..pretend you are at a social, have in your head you are choosing to talk, not that you are being, the wanted/unwanted. single girls have similar issues, probably for different reasons..but i use same strategy. hope you go to a club again soon x |
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol
Dragging you no. Attaching a lead an walking you in on all fours yes
Maybe op has done his homework an doesn’t like waiting. So wants to jump to the front of the que with a woman
What’s with the witch hunts on posts??
Lately. "
. Witch hunts are proberly because it always seems to be single guys with ; look at my profile “ wat do you think , I haven’t had a meet and need help as to why , , attention seeking because they haven’t found an easy shag on here within a week of joining , get a grip guys and actually read a couples or woman’s profile before sending a message or a wink , you might not be what they are looking for |
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol
Dragging you no. Attaching a lead an walking you in on all fours yes
Maybe op has done his homework an doesn’t like waiting. So wants to jump to the front of the que with a woman
What’s with the witch hunts on posts??
Lately. . Witch hunts are proberly because it always seems to be single guys with ; look at my profile “ wat do you think , I haven’t had a meet and need help as to why , , attention seeking because they haven’t found an easy shag on here within a week of joining , get a grip guys and actually read a couples or woman’s profile before sending a message or a wink , you might not be what they are looking for "
He made a forum post. Yes single men send loads of crap messages. So do couples on the hunt for single women |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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Another option for people who are nervous about clubs is to go to events where playing isn’t the focus or doesn’t occur.
I’m keen on photography so I went to a Townhouse event specifically for that. It was a good experience and it gave me a chance to be inside a club and get a feel for the place without any nervousness/ pressure.
Sure other places must do events along similar lines.
I’m not talking to the OP specifically, more generally - he’s probably strapped to a bed in Shrewsbury at a post-club orgy right now |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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Where I am in London there are 2 clubs that I can get to with a hour.How ever to go you have to apply for membership and be accepted.I am a member of one of them and I go when I get the chance to I always go on my own.As long as you are polite and respectful there is nonething stopping you from having a good night anything more makes it a even better nite |
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"Another option for people who are nervous about clubs is to go to events where playing isn’t the focus or doesn’t occur.
I’m keen on photography so I went to a Townhouse event specifically for that. It was a good experience and it gave me a chance to be inside a club and get a feel for the place without any nervousness/ pressure.
Sure other places must do events along similar lines.
I’m not talking to the OP specifically, more generally - he’s probably strapped to a bed in Shrewsbury at a post-club orgy right now "
I wish lol |
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over a year ago
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"Kinky 888 try the hot tub parties in Hull run by ladies "
Thanks , I don’t go to things alone though. I did meet two lovely ladies who host in hull before. So will keep this in mind |
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"Not been yet unfortunately as had work at 5 this morning lol.
Need to have a look what’s on there tonight... need to pull my finger out in all honestly "
Tonight is couplesonly and single females |
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol end of the day if you too scard to go to a club on your own perhaps it’s not for you, usually it’s us girls that are a bit nervous not the men
Equal rights and all that
Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along?"
I offered further up that if you got membership we could arrange to meet there with my husband, so you wouldn't be on your own until you found your feet.
Got to love selective reading. |
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"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.
I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?
Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask
I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol end of the day if you too scard to go to a club on your own perhaps it’s not for you, usually it’s us girls that are a bit nervous not the men
Equal rights and all that
Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along?
I offered further up that if you got membership we could arrange to meet there with my husband, so you wouldn't be on your own until you found your feet.
Got to love selective reading. "
hardly selective reading.... just mossed it that’s all |
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"Well done OP for posting this and persisting in spite of some taunts. It's great to see some ladies giving a guy a helping hand in this area. I think a lot more singles could help each other out in this area."
I'm sorry, I wasn't meant to be taunting. |
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