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"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in.......... "You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you? It is always best to be positive about things and not dwell on the negative.  | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you? It is always best to be positive about things and not dwell on the negative. "This isn't supposed to be a negative thread, I'm being 'proactive' as has been advised in recent discussion, and inviting the fun, fabulous, friendly club lovers to engage with people who have had less than favourable club experiences. It's all about people talking to people
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"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?"Could you suggest another avenue?  | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue? "Which clubs have u been to so far | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue? "Socials Sex clubs Escorts | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far"In order; No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Socials
Sex clubs
Escorts"Noted, thanks | |||
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"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F "Personally only been no3 out of that list and wasn't keen on it , what are u looking for in a club setting can understand your pain as we live in the same area and nowt goes on round here lol | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F "I'm surprised did not have fun, if only watching, at Cupids !! We think that Cupids has a great layout and patrons who do go there with the intention of having a good time. We've also had fun in the other clubs you mention. But Cupids is the one which has the wow factor esp. for newbies. Did you go to Cupids on a week night, a weekend night or a party night ? | |||
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"Perhaps you need to lower your expectations. Even as a couple we never go to a club expecting to play with another couple, although it is a big bonus when we do. It all depends on where we go, what we are looking for at the time and who is in there. There has to be some attraction." To be fair; I only started this thread as a result of recent discussion regarding single guys in clubs, and as much as you are naturally only concerned with your own experiences, it has been interesting to discover I'm not alone. It's not like I've only been to one, and didn't enjoy it, so wrote the whole scene off, I have genuinely given it a good go. So, to help others feel good about themselves, and not frustrated, and get them thinking about trying again, I thought this 'group hug' might help | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F
Personally only been no3 out of that list and wasn't keen on it , what are u looking for in a club setting can understand your pain as we live in the same area and nowt goes on round here lol "I was really hopeful about that rumour which went around about a club starting in John St, Maryport, but obviously it came to nothing What does anyone really know about these places, until you've tried a few lol? Friendly banter with likeminded souls would do for a start. I'm not keen on the 'nightclub in your front room' aspect giving bleeding ears and tinitus, when I visited Chams last month with a lady friend, that has the best overall vibe and would be what I would look for in the future. Just need somewhere closer lol | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F
I'm surprised did not have fun, if only watching, at Cupids !! We think that Cupids has a great layout and patrons who do go there with the intention of having a good time. We've also had fun in the other clubs you mention. But Cupids is the one which has the wow factor esp. for newbies.
Did you go to Cupids on a week night, a weekend night or a party night ?"To be fair to Cupids, I went on a spur of the moment on a Thursday afternoon, mostly to check the place out, and spent my time drinking tea at the bar lol | |||
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"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in.......... "I go nearly every week to a club and don't often play, I like the social too. | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F "Ive been to all of those apart from atlantis and seen fun everytime and mainly had fun myself too. Think you need to look at the sirt of days/nights you are going to as someone has said. | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
H
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F
Personally only been no3 out of that list and wasn't keen on it , what are u looking for in a club setting can understand your pain as we live in the same area and nowt goes on round here lol
I was really hopeful about that rumour which went around about a club starting in John St, Maryport, but obviously it came to nothing What does anyone really know about these places, until you've tried a few lol? Friendly banter with likeminded souls would do for a start. I'm not keen on the 'nightclub in your front room' aspect giving bleeding ears and tinitus, when I visited Chams last month with a lady friend, that has the best overall vibe and would be what I would look for in the future. Just need somewhere closer lol "Club in maryport first I have heard of this? | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
H
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F
Personally only been no3 out of that list and wasn't keen on it , what are u looking for in a club setting can understand your pain as we live in the same area and nowt goes on round here lol
I was really hopeful about that rumour which went around about a club starting in John St, Maryport, but obviously it came to nothing What does anyone really know about these places, until you've tried a few lol? Friendly banter with likeminded souls would do for a start. I'm not keen on the 'nightclub in your front room' aspect giving bleeding ears and tinitus, when I visited Chams last month with a lady friend, that has the best overall vibe and would be what I would look for in the future. Just need somewhere closer lol
Club in maryport first I have heard of this?"It was a couple of years ago now, and was either just a Chinese whisper, or didn't get off the ground due to licences etc. A pity though | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
H
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F
Ive been to all of those apart from atlantis and seen fun everytime and mainly had fun myself too. Think you need to look at the sirt of days/nights you are going to as someone has said."There was only Cupids I went during the day, the others I visited on Friday nights. I have an amazing ability to pick 'quiet nights' lol | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
I go nearly every week to a club and don't often play, I like the social too. "You have lost your club cherry though? And as a matter of interest, what would you say your percentage of play-to-visit be? | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
H
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F
Personally only been no3 out of that list and wasn't keen on it , what are u looking for in a club setting can understand your pain as we live in the same area and nowt goes on round here lol
I was really hopeful about that rumour which went around about a club starting in John St, Maryport, but obviously it came to nothing What does anyone really know about these places, until you've tried a few lol? Friendly banter with likeminded souls would do for a start. I'm not keen on the 'nightclub in your front room' aspect giving bleeding ears and tinitus, when I visited Chams last month with a lady friend, that has the best overall vibe and would be what I would look for in the future. Just need somewhere closer lol
Club in maryport first I have heard of this?"Shame for u we wouldn't visit as to close to home lol | |||
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"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
H
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F
Personally only been no3 out of that list and wasn't keen on it , what are u looking for in a club setting can understand your pain as we live in the same area and nowt goes on round here lol
I was really hopeful about that rumour which went around about a club starting in John St, Maryport, but obviously it came to nothing What does anyone really know about these places, until you've tried a few lol? Friendly banter with likeminded souls would do for a start. I'm not keen on the 'nightclub in your front room' aspect giving bleeding ears and tinitus, when I visited Chams last month with a lady friend, that has the best overall vibe and would be what I would look for in the future. Just need somewhere closer lol
Club in maryport first I have heard of this?
Shame for u we wouldn't visit as to close to home lol"It would’ve made a change not having to drive at least an hour to a club lol | |||
"Can I also suggest Townhouse...great place with some amazing events daytime and evening. Xxx" Thank you, I am working on a visit to TH, even though it’s going to cost me a bottle of gin aswell lol | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
H
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F
Personally only been no3 out of that list and wasn't keen on it , what are u looking for in a club setting can understand your pain as we live in the same area and nowt goes on round here lol
I was really hopeful about that rumour which went around about a club starting in John St, Maryport, but obviously it came to nothing What does anyone really know about these places, until you've tried a few lol? Friendly banter with likeminded souls would do for a start. I'm not keen on the 'nightclub in your front room' aspect giving bleeding ears and tinitus, when I visited Chams last month with a lady friend, that has the best overall vibe and would be what I would look for in the future. Just need somewhere closer lol
Club in maryport first I have heard of this?
Shame for u we wouldn't visit as to close to home lol
It would’ve made a change not having to drive at least an hour to a club lol "It's at least 2 hours drive for us I get what u mean it is a pain traveling all the Tim and costly | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
H
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F
Personally only been no3 out of that list and wasn't keen on it , what are u looking for in a club setting can understand your pain as we live in the same area and nowt goes on round here lol
I was really hopeful about that rumour which went around about a club starting in John St, Maryport, but obviously it came to nothing What does anyone really know about these places, until you've tried a few lol? Friendly banter with likeminded souls would do for a start. I'm not keen on the 'nightclub in your front room' aspect giving bleeding ears and tinitus, when I visited Chams last month with a lady friend, that has the best overall vibe and would be what I would look for in the future. Just need somewhere closer lol
Club in maryport first I have heard of this?
Shame for u we wouldn't visit as to close to home lol
It would’ve made a change not having to drive at least an hour to a club lol
It's at least 2 hours drive for us I get what u mean it is a pain traveling all the Tim and costly"I get that with you being from Workington, can understand why you chose No.3, it being the closest, I’m sure it was literally 60 minutes from my front door. It was the first club I ever visited, and took the ‘fear factor’ away for me to venture to other clubs | |||
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"It scared the shit out of me it put me off " You should try going in these places alone, as a single guy lol! Barrel of laughs 
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"We had only been on fab a week the same bloke followed me to the toilet everyone I went then touched me in the couples room were he wasn t allowed" Ouch! That’s not good at all, and thankfully, not something I’ve had to deal with. In fact, quite the opposite; I seem to become ‘Mr Instantly Forgettable’ lol | |||
"We had only been on fab a week the same bloke followed me to the toilet everyone I went then touched me in the couples room were he wasn t allowed" Have you seen the new club Entice, at Preston? | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in.......... "Just me then? Great! Makes me feel a lot better lol.......... | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Just me then? Great! Makes me feel a lot better lol.........."I've been going to swingers clubs For over 15 years now. Mainly as a single male but sometimes with friends and as part of a group on occassion. Quite a high percentage of those visits have been more on the social side rather than playing. Being in the company of like minded adults is great. Any play is a bonus and on quite a few occasions I've had the opportunity to play but not the inclination. I always try and do my homework before visiting a new club and attend on a night where I think I'll have the most fun rather than just turning up and hope for the best attitude. | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Just me then? Great! Makes me feel a lot better lol..........
I've been going to swingers clubs For over 15 years now. Mainly as a single male but sometimes with friends and as part of a group on occassion.
Quite a high percentage of those visits have been more on the social side rather than playing. Being in the company of like minded adults is great. Any play is a bonus and on quite a few occasions I've had the opportunity to play but not the inclination.
I always try and do my homework before visiting a new club and attend on a night where I think I'll have the most fun rather than just turning up and hope for the best attitude. "Good point on the planning ahead, as up ‘till now I’ve swallowed the blurb on each club’s website, and built an image of lots of friendly, welcoming regulars in these places. Statements like “No. 1 Friendliest Club in the UK”, and “all our members want everyone to have a great time”, can give you a gilded image of what you actually find when you visit. But! This is a positive thread, so onwards and upwards! | |||
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"Good point on the planning ahead, as up ‘till now I’ve swallowed the blurb on each club’s website, and built an image of lots of friendly, welcoming regulars in these places. Statements like “No. 1 Friendliest Club in the UK”, and “all our members want everyone to have a great time”, can give you a gilded image of what you actually find when you visit. But! This is a positive thread, so onwards and upwards! "Make use of the 'swinging club/event ad' section on here. When events are advertised there keep an eye on the threads and see which ones have good guest lists with lots of different people commenting on them. Repeat events are normally the best if people are posting to say they are returning for it as well. | |||
"So for a positive thread how about this, we are heading to No 3 now, meet us there. We will def chat with you and if anyone else is there we know we will introduce you. It's one of the most social clubs we know, and we love the social side of clubbing. I can't guarantee you that elusive hard on, but I can guarantee we will be a friendly face to see if it helps you relax more as a single in that environment. Club opens at 9. We are on the 66 now so should be there pretty much bang on opening time after ditching car at hotel." I see they only let ‘select’ single males in on a Saturday, so I’ll give Mary a ring, see if she remembers me | |||
"So for a positive thread how about this, we are heading to No 3 now, meet us there. We will def chat with you and if anyone else is there we know we will introduce you. It's one of the most social clubs we know, and we love the social side of clubbing. I can't guarantee you that elusive hard on, but I can guarantee we will be a friendly face to see if it helps you relax more as a single in that environment. Club opens at 9. We are on the 66 now so should be there pretty much bang on opening time after ditching car at hotel. I see they only let ‘select’ single males in on a Saturday, so I’ll give Mary a ring, see if she remembers me "Sian said on the events post we could bring a single. Say you're meeting us if you would like, we are on the guest list. It's a genuine offer, you seem to really want to enjoy clubs and if having someone to chat to helps then more than happy to do so. | |||
"So for a positive thread how about this, we are heading to No 3 now, meet us there. We will def chat with you and if anyone else is there we know we will introduce you. It's one of the most social clubs we know, and we love the social side of clubbing. I can't guarantee you that elusive hard on, but I can guarantee we will be a friendly face to see if it helps you relax more as a single in that environment. Club opens at 9. We are on the 66 now so should be there pretty much bang on opening time after ditching car at hotel. I see they only let ‘select’ single males in on a Saturday, so I’ll give Mary a ring, see if she remembers me
Sian said on the events post we could bring a single. Say you're meeting us if you would like, we are on the guest list.
It's a genuine offer, you seem to really want to enjoy clubs and if having someone to chat to helps then more than happy to do so."Thank you for being so helpful! I’m on my way, see you soon | |||
"So for a positive thread how about this, we are heading to No 3 now, meet us there. We will def chat with you and if anyone else is there we know we will introduce you. It's one of the most social clubs we know, and we love the social side of clubbing. I can't guarantee you that elusive hard on, but I can guarantee we will be a friendly face to see if it helps you relax more as a single in that environment. Club opens at 9. We are on the 66 now so should be there pretty much bang on opening time after ditching car at hotel. I see they only let ‘select’ single males in on a Saturday, so I’ll give Mary a ring, see if she remembers me
Sian said on the events post we could bring a single. Say you're meeting us if you would like, we are on the guest list.
It's a genuine offer, you seem to really want to enjoy clubs and if having someone to chat to helps then more than happy to do so.
Thank you for being so helpful! I’m on my way, see you soon "Just ask Mary or Sian to point us out | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
I go nearly every week to a club and don't often play, I like the social too.
You have lost your club cherry though? And as a matter of interest, what would you say your percentage of play-to-visit be?"Yeah, I suppose I have lost it lol. Put it this way, Ive actually had full sex in the club around 5 times in the last year lol. | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
I go nearly every week to a club and don't often play, I like the social too.
You have lost your club cherry though? And as a matter of interest, what would you say your percentage of play-to-visit be?
Yeah, I suppose I have lost it lol. Put it this way, Ive actually had full sex in the club around 5 times in the last year lol. "Well, as of tonight, I am; Clubs 6 : Erections 0 | |||
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"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
I go nearly every week to a club and don't often play, I like the social too.
You have lost your club cherry though? And as a matter of interest, what would you say your percentage of play-to-visit be?
Yeah, I suppose I have lost it lol. Put it this way, Ive actually had full sex in the club around 5 times in the last year lol.
Well, as of tonight, I am; Clubs 6 : Erections 0 "You need to look at what you are doing wrong. Going to a variety of clubs, on a variety of different nights/events and not having any fun and not even an erection leaves only one common demominator. You. What do you think you are doing to not have fun and why do you keep doing it. Unless you address this issue you could visit every club in England and not play. Why put yourself through it? | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in.......... "No cherry here but we've been to club nights and not found people on those particular nights that we want to play with. We've been with a bunch of friends and only played with them. Club nights vary so enormously from night to night. It's not the fault of the club or the owners. They're a bit like this site...they just provide a place where apparently like minded individuals can be in a space together...anything that happens once you're there is pretty much down to you and those around you... | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Just me then? Great! Makes me feel a lot better lol..........
I've been going to swingers clubs For over 15 years now. Mainly as a single male but sometimes with friends and as part of a group on occassion.
Quite a high percentage of those visits have been more on the social side rather than playing. Being in the company of like minded adults is great. Any play is a bonus and on quite a few occasions I've had the opportunity to play but not the inclination.
I always try and do my homework before visiting a new club and attend on a night where I think I'll have the most fun rather than just turning up and hope for the best attitude. "If we're going to an organised event, we have a look at any forum threads, check who's going who we feel we might be interested in and drop them a message from their forum post to say hi. It helps to know that there are a few people we've established some kind of basic rapport with. | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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I go nearly every week to a club and don't often play, I like the social too.
You have lost your club cherry though? And as a matter of interest, what would you say your percentage of play-to-visit be?
Yeah, I suppose I have lost it lol. Put it this way, Ive actually had full sex in the club around 5 times in the last year lol.
Well, as of tonight, I am; Clubs 6 : Erections 0
You need to look at what you are doing wrong. Going to a variety of clubs, on a variety of different nights/events and not having any fun and not even an erection leaves only one common demominator. You. What do you think you are doing to not have fun and why do you keep doing it. Unless you address this issue you could visit every club in England and not play. Why put yourself through it?"The people I met last night in No.3 might be able to answer the question about what I am doing wrong, and whether or not I am just plain unattractive. If you hadn’t blocked me you would be able to see that I do pretty well for private meets, and yet appear to struggle in a club environment. Perhaps there is a difference between those who use clubs as their only area of swinging fun, to those who only meet privately? I don’t know, but I’m not the kind of guy who gives up easily | |||
"If you have tried 6 Clubs and failed each time maybe you need to look at the approach you are using? " Would I be right in thinking it would be better to stick to just one club, and network through it? | |||
"I’ve been to my regular club and not played somenights... sometimes it’s nice just having a social. Just checking..... are you socialising with people? My advice to any club go-er is to be friendly and chat to people, how else are you really gonna find that attraction? " Thank you | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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No cherry here but we've been to club nights and not found people on those particular nights that we want to play with. We've been with a bunch of friends and only played with them. Club nights vary so enormously from night to night. It's not the fault of the club or the owners. They're a bit like this site...they just provide a place where apparently like minded individuals can be in a space together...anything that happens once you're there is pretty much down to you and those around you..."Yes, I agree with you here totally. Going to a club has never been about just playing with someone, anyone who happens to be there and is ‘up for it’. EVEN in a club there has to be attraction | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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No cherry here but we've been to club nights and not found people on those particular nights that we want to play with. We've been with a bunch of friends and only played with them. Club nights vary so enormously from night to night. It's not the fault of the club or the owners. They're a bit like this site...they just provide a place where apparently like minded individuals can be in a space together...anything that happens once you're there is pretty much down to you and those around you...
Yes, I agree with you here totally. Going to a club has never been about just playing with someone, anyone who happens to be there and is ‘up for it’. EVEN in a club there has to be attraction "You'll have to pop to Chams again on a Friday and I'll tell you if it's anything you're doing wrong. | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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No cherry here but we've been to club nights and not found people on those particular nights that we want to play with. We've been with a bunch of friends and only played with them. Club nights vary so enormously from night to night. It's not the fault of the club or the owners. They're a bit like this site...they just provide a place where apparently like minded individuals can be in a space together...anything that happens once you're there is pretty much down to you and those around you...
Yes, I agree with you here totally. Going to a club has never been about just playing with someone, anyone who happens to be there and is ‘up for it’. EVEN in a club there has to be attraction
You'll have to pop to Chams again on a Friday and I'll tell you if it's anything you're doing wrong.
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"Would I be right in thinking it would be better to stick to just one club, and network through it?" Every time you go to a new club you are a total newbie to the regulars. Choose a club and stick to it and become known. With the best will in the world people are not going to expend a lot of social energy on someone who they may never see again. Sexually it is different but you don't sound as if you're someone looking for purely one offs. Always chat to the other single guys there, don't just make a beeline for the couples and any single women. That shows you are looking to be sociable rather than just hitting on the women. Good luck. | |||
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"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F "You MUST TRY XTASIA! X | |||
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"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F
You MUST TRY XTASIA! X"If I can, I will, thank you | |||
"Would I be right in thinking it would be better to stick to just one club, and network through it?Every time you go to a new club you are a total newbie to the regulars. Choose a club and stick to it and become known. With the best will in the world people are not going to expend a lot of social energy on someone who they may never see again. Sexually it is different but you don't sound as if you're someone looking for purely one offs. Always chat to the other single guys there, don't just make a beeline for the couples and any single women. That shows you are looking to be sociable rather than just hitting on the women. Good luck." Thank you, all good points, and will be noted. No, I’m not just going there for a numbers tally | |||
"i think it is partly mindset... in that people tend to judge a night in a club as being good or not depending on whether they play or not, which is unfair to the clubs as there is only so much they can do.... at the end of the day the clubs can provide the facilities people may want, but the onus is still on people to go round and talk to other people, and whilst people just mooch or sit in there own little bubbles that isn't changing......." Just Fab, Fab | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F
You MUST TRY XTASIA! X
If I can, I will, thank you "I've been to a few clubs and not played....but I've still had a great time. To me Swinging is not just about fucking but the social side also. I find the play is much better if you know the person a little, there's more of a connection. Thingy X | |||
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"I have just looked through your verifications OP and apart from a mention from someone behind the bar, I cannot see any from people you talked to at club's . I know I wasn't at my local club, the night you visited, but when I asked about you, I believe you sat at the bar with your body turned towards the bar and chatted to the bar staff. If you are in the Midlands again, call into Atlantis when I am there and I will go through some tips on how to interact more with people. If you keep returning to one club, people will start to recognise you and are more likely to chat. However friendly a club is, people might smile and interact with you, but often they don't approach until YOU make some effort and start the conversation. I am happy to introduce you to people and give you some pointers, check I will be there first this time "Thanks Lizzy, but I am rarely in the Midlands, and I had to engineer some work-based training at the Yarnfield Centre, 9 months in advance, to be able to visit Atlantis. Hence my disappointment on the actual night, I had built the excitement in my head too much. The numbers in the club were down according to your barman due in part to your very successful 'Rock night' the previous week? If only that had been the night I was there. I did sit at the bar for the majority of time I was there, mainly because the two times I wandered around upstairs, there really wasn't anyone to chat with, and I didn't want to appear like one of 'those guys' who follow people around all night. Not that there was anyone to follow, but you know what I mean. The other reason I sat at the bar, was because there were two other single guys in that night, for their first ever club visit, who were also feeling neglected, so it was nice to just chat with them, like three amigos. My body was turned towards the bar, as the only couples in there were gathered next to the dj stand, and the only people behind me was the group of Asian guys sat on the sofa. I had a very nice return visit to No.3 on Saturday night(check my club review), and will definitely be back there again soon. The couple who invited me down, did a great job of introducing me to others, and my networking has already started
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"Next club visit confirmed; hopefully not my last "I think getting to know people in one club is definitely your best bet! And if I find that JetSki for you, I’m happy to introduce you to people at Townhouse
Hope you’re next visit is a lucky 7 xx | |||
"Next club visit confirmed; hopefully not my last
I think getting to know people in one club is definitely your best bet! And if I find that JetSki for you, I’m happy to introduce you to people at Townhouse
Hope you’re next visit is a lucky 7 xx"If it turns out to be 'Clubs 7:Erections 0' it will definitely be my last club visit. Thank you for your well-wishing and advice though | |||
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"Have you seen the Blackpool Social weekend arranged for May? Maybe something less focused on play and more about building a network of potential playmates may help. (Tho lots of play goes on at these weekends believe me!)" I haven't, thank you, although my racing season starts in April, so I'll be busy with that until November again. Perhaps I should just forever remain 'The Guy Who Couldn't Get Laid In A Swingers' Club' | |||
"Have you seen the Blackpool Social weekend arranged for May? Maybe something less focused on play and more about building a network of potential playmates may help. (Tho lots of play goes on at these weekends believe me!)" Yep, just checked the date of the Blackpool Social, and I'm at a racetrack in Lincolnshire that weekend | |||
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"Wrong clubs then xx" I appreciate that, thank you | |||
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"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in.......... "Stage fright is a real thing at clubs....sometimes being in the room whilst others are around can be off putting....don’t expect to have a raging hard on just walking round and watching....my playmate was worried that he wasn’t walking round with a stiffy the first time we went lol....but all was fine in the end... | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Stage fright is a real thing at clubs....sometimes being in the room whilst others are around can be off putting....don’t expect to have a raging hard on just walking round and watching....my playmate was worried that he wasn’t walking round with a stiffy the first time we went lol....but all was fine in the end..."It's not a question of stage fright, it's about my lack of interaction with anyone, and as I've now done 7 club visits, I'm feeling 'lacking' in more ways than one | |||
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"Perhaps you need to lower your expectations. Even as a couple we never go to a club expecting to play with another couple, although it is a big bonus when we do. It all depends on where we go, what we are looking for at the time and who is in there. There has to be some attraction. To be fair; I only started this thread as a result of recent discussion regarding single guys in clubs, and as much as you are naturally only concerned with your own experiences, it has been interesting to discover I'm not alone. It's not like I've only been to one, and didn't enjoy it, so wrote the whole scene off, I have genuinely given it a good go. So, to help others feel good about themselves, and not frustrated, and get them thinking about trying again, I thought this 'group hug' might help "After speaking to you privately on a past thread I’ve sent you a pm with some more advice and tips to put the swing in your life | |||
"Perhaps you need to lower your expectations. Even as a couple we never go to a club expecting to play with another couple, although it is a big bonus when we do. It all depends on where we go, what we are looking for at the time and who is in there. There has to be some attraction. To be fair; I only started this thread as a result of recent discussion regarding single guys in clubs, and as much as you are naturally only concerned with your own experiences, it has been interesting to discover I'm not alone. It's not like I've only been to one, and didn't enjoy it, so wrote the whole scene off, I have genuinely given it a good go. So, to help others feel good about themselves, and not frustrated, and get them thinking about trying again, I thought this 'group hug' might help After speaking to you privately on a past thread I’ve sent you a pm with some more advice and tips to put the swing in your life "Thanks mate | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in.......... "Me suspects OP is attention seeking....  | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Stage fright is a real thing at clubs....sometimes being in the room whilst others are around can be off putting....don’t expect to have a raging hard on just walking round and watching....my playmate was worried that he wasn’t walking round with a stiffy the first time we went lol....but all was fine in the end...
It's not a question of stage fright, it's about my lack of interaction with anyone, and as I've now done 7 club visits, I'm feeling 'lacking' in more ways than one "They're obviously just not for you. This pastime isn't a 'ones size fits all' one...each of us has our preferences for how we conduct our swinging lives. At least you've given the options a try before making a decision rather than just turning your nose up at something outside your apparent comfort zone. People are often affronted when someone doesn't want to play the game the way they think it should be played. Just pick what suits you going forward-after all-this is meant to be fun | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Me suspects OP is attention seeking.... "Unfortunately that seems to be the usual reaction when a guy asks for help on here but on this occasion the op has followed advise and got himself to some clubs and it doesn’t seemed to have worked out but at least he’s given it a go so surely he deserves some credit | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Me suspects OP is attention seeking.... Unfortunately that seems to be the usual reaction when a guy asks for help on here but on this occasion the op has followed advise and got himself to some clubs and it doesn’t seemed to have worked out but at least he’s given it a go so surely he deserves some credit"Does he now? | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Me suspects OP is attention seeking.... Unfortunately that seems to be the usual reaction when a guy asks for help on here but on this occasion the op has followed advise and got himself to some clubs and it doesn’t seemed to have worked out but at least he’s given it a go so surely he deserves some credit
Does he now? "Me thinks you’re being a little harsh | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F "Do you often have trouble getting an erection?. | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Me suspects OP is attention seeking.... Unfortunately that seems to be the usual reaction when a guy asks for help on here but on this occasion the op has followed advise and got himself to some clubs and it doesn’t seemed to have worked out but at least he’s given it a go so surely he deserves some credit
Does he now? Me thinks you’re being a little harsh "Me thinks if you’re that concerned you take him to a Club and show him what to do unless you already have privately | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
You bring up clubs a lot in your posts, maybe you should try another avenue and see if that works for you?
Could you suggest another avenue?
Which clubs have u been to so far
In order;
No.3; Cupids; Atlantis; Club F
Do you often have trouble getting an erection?."I had no problem about an hour and a half ago lol | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
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Me suspects OP is attention seeking.... "If asking for advice on a public forum can be viewed as attention seeking, then yes, I am | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Me suspects OP is attention seeking.... Unfortunately that seems to be the usual reaction when a guy asks for help on here but on this occasion the op has followed advise and got himself to some clubs and it doesn’t seemed to have worked out but at least he’s given it a go so surely he deserves some credit
Does he now? Me thinks you’re being a little harsh
Me thinks if you’re that concerned you take him to a Club and show him what to do unless you already have privately "Just for the record Ive invited him to join me and a few others at a large social gathering.While I’m not a fan of hand holding I don’t mind trying to help someone out if they’ll make some effort how that goes down with the I’m alright jack brigade I’m not sure | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Me suspects OP is attention seeking.... Unfortunately that seems to be the usual reaction when a guy asks for help on here but on this occasion the op has followed advise and got himself to some clubs and it doesn’t seemed to have worked out but at least he’s given it a go so surely he deserves some credit
Does he now? Me thinks you’re being a little harsh
Me thinks if you’re that concerned you take him to a Club and show him what to do unless you already have privately Just for the record Ive invited him to join me and a few others at a large social gathering.While I’m not a fan of hand holding I don’t mind trying to help someone out if they’ll make some effort how that goes down with the I’m alright jack brigade I’m not sure "One word - Commendable! Show him the ropes so to speak. Me thinks you should be an Ambassador here. Someone these waifs and straifs can turn to for valued advice | |||
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"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Me suspects OP is attention seeking.... Unfortunately that seems to be the usual reaction when a guy asks for help on here but on this occasion the op has followed advise and got himself to some clubs and it doesn’t seemed to have worked out but at least he’s given it a go so surely he deserves some credit
Does he now? Me thinks you’re being a little harsh
Me thinks if you’re that concerned you take him to a Club and show him what to do unless you already have privately Just for the record Ive invited him to join me and a few others at a large social gathering.While I’m not a fan of hand holding I don’t mind trying to help someone out if they’ll make some effort how that goes down with the I’m alright jack brigade I’m not sure "Whamboy that's a nice thing to do. I offered to show him round and keep him company at Atlantis, but he visited without notice when I wasn't there and I know Morticia at Townhouse has also offered to keep him company and help him settle there. I don't know that going to several different venues helps. I think people need to make an effort , smile and get involved by chatting to people. I think he holds the record for most club visits without getting aroused or involved 
But if you can give him some tips and help him enjoy club visits like most people seem to ...great | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Stage fright is a real thing at clubs....sometimes being in the room whilst others are around can be off putting....don’t expect to have a raging hard on just walking round and watching....my playmate was worried that he wasn’t walking round with a stiffy the first time we went lol....but all was fine in the end...
It's not a question of stage fright, it's about my lack of interaction with anyone, and as I've now done 7 club visits, I'm feeling 'lacking' in more ways than one "I'm really confused as to how you can go to 7 clubs and interact with nobody. Do you have the plague?
Seriously though, that's proper boggled my mind! | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Stage fright is a real thing at clubs....sometimes being in the room whilst others are around can be off putting....don’t expect to have a raging hard on just walking round and watching....my playmate was worried that he wasn’t walking round with a stiffy the first time we went lol....but all was fine in the end...
It's not a question of stage fright, it's about my lack of interaction with anyone, and as I've now done 7 club visits, I'm feeling 'lacking' in more ways than one "Maybe trying to get to socials around NW you would get the interaction more so than in clubs. We know a few single guys who go to socials around here and do well as they are networking and making friends. To be honest we don't interact with single men in clubs as that's not what we are looking for, however at socials is a completely different story. If we seen a guy sitting in a corner nervous and not interacting at a social we would try and involve him in the chat with people. Suppose for us its the thought of a guy thinking, brilliant I've scored, if we speak to them in a club, where as a social is just that. Strange how a train of thought can change with a different environment. To sum up what I'm thinking is. Ok we not or not likely to look for single men but getting to know the guys we do at the local socials, if, and that's a big IF, we wanted a guy to meet us we would approach the guys we have met at the socials rather than picking a stranger at a club or off FAB. Hope all that makes sense, it does to us. | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Stage fright is a real thing at clubs....sometimes being in the room whilst others are around can be off putting....don’t expect to have a raging hard on just walking round and watching....my playmate was worried that he wasn’t walking round with a stiffy the first time we went lol....but all was fine in the end...
It's not a question of stage fright, it's about my lack of interaction with anyone, and as I've now done 7 club visits, I'm feeling 'lacking' in more ways than one
Maybe trying to get to socials around NW you would get the interaction more so than in clubs. We know a few single guys who go to socials around here and do well as they are networking and making friends. To be honest we don't interact with single men in clubs as that's not what we are looking for, however at socials is a completely different story. If we seen a guy sitting in a corner nervous and not interacting at a social we would try and involve him in the chat with people. Suppose for us its the thought of a guy thinking, brilliant I've scored, if we speak to them in a club, where as a social is just that. Strange how a train of thought can change with a different environment. To sum up what I'm thinking is. Ok we not or not likely to look for single men but getting to know the guys we do at the local socials, if, and that's a big IF, we wanted a guy to meet us we would approach the guys we have met at the socials rather than picking a stranger at a club or off FAB. Hope all that makes sense, it does to us. "Excellent answer / advice. | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Stage fright is a real thing at clubs....sometimes being in the room whilst others are around can be off putting....don’t expect to have a raging hard on just walking round and watching....my playmate was worried that he wasn’t walking round with a stiffy the first time we went lol....but all was fine in the end...
It's not a question of stage fright, it's about my lack of interaction with anyone, and as I've now done 7 club visits, I'm feeling 'lacking' in more ways than one
Maybe trying to get to socials around NW you would get the interaction more so than in clubs. We know a few single guys who go to socials around here and do well as they are networking and making friends. To be honest we don't interact with single men in clubs as that's not what we are looking for, however at socials is a completely different story. If we seen a guy sitting in a corner nervous and not interacting at a social we would try and involve him in the chat with people. Suppose for us its the thought of a guy thinking, brilliant I've scored, if we speak to them in a club, where as a social is just that. Strange how a train of thought can change with a different environment. To sum up what I'm thinking is. Ok we not or not likely to look for single men but getting to know the guys we do at the local socials, if, and that's a big IF, we wanted a guy to meet us we would approach the guys we have met at the socials rather than picking a stranger at a club or off FAB. Hope all that makes sense, it does to us. "What a shame that you don't tell single guys that you have no interest in playing, but are happy to chat. I don't understand why people only speak to people they might want to get sexual with. No wonder single men have a hard time in club's. But maybe the club's you go to, men are not as polite and respectful as where I go. | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Stage fright is a real thing at clubs....sometimes being in the room whilst others are around can be off putting....don’t expect to have a raging hard on just walking round and watching....my playmate was worried that he wasn’t walking round with a stiffy the first time we went lol....but all was fine in the end...
It's not a question of stage fright, it's about my lack of interaction with anyone, and as I've now done 7 club visits, I'm feeling 'lacking' in more ways than one
I'm really confused as to how you can go to 7 clubs and interact with nobody. Do you have the plague?
Seriously though, that's proper boggled my mind! "There's only been one club I visited where I was completely ignored, and failed to chat with anyone present, but the others I did engage with couples, ladies, and single guys. I do have veris on my profile to back this up? I'm not a complete social leper, nor do I have the plague, but I haven't been fortunate to have any play, of any kind, with anyone in a club | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Stage fright is a real thing at clubs....sometimes being in the room whilst others are around can be off putting....don’t expect to have a raging hard on just walking round and watching....my playmate was worried that he wasn’t walking round with a stiffy the first time we went lol....but all was fine in the end...
It's not a question of stage fright, it's about my lack of interaction with anyone, and as I've now done 7 club visits, I'm feeling 'lacking' in more ways than one
Maybe trying to get to socials around NW you would get the interaction more so than in clubs. We know a few single guys who go to socials around here and do well as they are networking and making friends. To be honest we don't interact with single men in clubs as that's not what we are looking for, however at socials is a completely different story. If we seen a guy sitting in a corner nervous and not interacting at a social we would try and involve him in the chat with people. Suppose for us its the thought of a guy thinking, brilliant I've scored, if we speak to them in a club, where as a social is just that. Strange how a train of thought can change with a different environment. To sum up what I'm thinking is. Ok we not or not likely to look for single men but getting to know the guys we do at the local socials, if, and that's a big IF, we wanted a guy to meet us we would approach the guys we have met at the socials rather than picking a stranger at a club or off FAB. Hope all that makes sense, it does to us.
What a shame that you don't tell single guys that you have no interest in playing, but are happy to chat. I don't understand why people only speak to people they might want to get sexual with. No wonder single men have a hard time in club's. But maybe the club's you go to, men are not as polite and respectful as where I go. "Knew some one would get the wrong end of the advice. We have no problem with chatting with people at all anywhere. the advice was how things are not who we are. We chatted all night with a single guy at Cheshire Parties last time we were there, we shared mutual interests. Made it clear from the start we don't play with single guys but we had a great night chatting on a social level We pick the clubs we go to for the very reason you said, the guys are always respectful where we go. Only had two bad experiences at clubs, one was a guy touching without permission and one was a single woman touching without permission. | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Me suspects OP is attention seeking.... Unfortunately that seems to be the usual reaction when a guy asks for help on here but on this occasion the op has followed advise and got himself to some clubs and it doesn’t seemed to have worked out but at least he’s given it a go so surely he deserves some credit
Does he now? Me thinks you’re being a little harsh
Me thinks if you’re that concerned you take him to a Club and show him what to do unless you already have privately Just for the record Ive invited him to join me and a few others at a large social gathering.While I’m not a fan of hand holding I don’t mind trying to help someone out if they’ll make some effort how that goes down with the I’m alright jack brigade I’m not sure
Whamboy that's a nice thing to do. I offered to show him round and keep him company at Atlantis, but he visited without notice when I wasn't there and I know Morticia at Townhouse has also offered to keep him company and help him settle there.
I don't know that going to several different venues helps. I think people need to make an effort , smile and get involved by chatting to people.
I think he holds the record for most club visits without getting aroused or involved
But if you can give him some tips and help him enjoy club visits like most people seem to ...great " | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Stage fright is a real thing at clubs....sometimes being in the room whilst others are around can be off putting....don’t expect to have a raging hard on just walking round and watching....my playmate was worried that he wasn’t walking round with a stiffy the first time we went lol....but all was fine in the end...
It's not a question of stage fright, it's about my lack of interaction with anyone, and as I've now done 7 club visits, I'm feeling 'lacking' in more ways than one
I'm really confused as to how you can go to 7 clubs and interact with nobody. Do you have the plague?
Seriously though, that's proper boggled my mind!
There's only been one club I visited where I was completely ignored, and failed to chat with anyone present, but the others I did engage with couples, ladies, and single guys. I do have veris on my profile to back this up? I'm not a complete social leper, nor do I have the plague, but I haven't been fortunate to have any play, of any kind, with anyone in a club "My post was meant in a jokey way. I thought you'd played with your female friend when you went to Chams? Or are you just talking about people you met there that night? | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Stage fright is a real thing at clubs....sometimes being in the room whilst others are around can be off putting....don’t expect to have a raging hard on just walking round and watching....my playmate was worried that he wasn’t walking round with a stiffy the first time we went lol....but all was fine in the end...
It's not a question of stage fright, it's about my lack of interaction with anyone, and as I've now done 7 club visits, I'm feeling 'lacking' in more ways than one
I'm really confused as to how you can go to 7 clubs and interact with nobody. Do you have the plague?
Seriously though, that's proper boggled my mind!
There's only been one club I visited where I was completely ignored, and failed to chat with anyone present, but the others I did engage with couples, ladies, and single guys. I do have veris on my profile to back this up? I'm not a complete social leper, nor do I have the plague, but I haven't been fortunate to have any play, of any kind, with anyone in a club
My post was meant in a jokey way. I thought you'd played with your female friend when you went to Chams? Or are you just talking about people you met there that night? "Yes, when I visited Chams with my female friend, of course we played with each other. It was a fantastic, laid-back, friendly, good-humoured evening, and her first time in any club, so we had agreed beforehand to only play with each other, but to enjoy the atmosphere. Which we did, and it was great But that was the only time I’ve been to a club as a couple, and there was a noticeable difference to my visiting as a single guy | |||
"Who else has been to a swingers' club, but not been fortunate enough, or inclined, to have sex with someone in there? I have been to 4 different clubs now, and can honestly say, I've never had so much as an erection
Post below, fellow 'Cherry holders', and wait for the offers to flood in..........
Me suspects OP is attention seeking.... Unfortunately that seems to be the usual reaction when a guy asks for help on here but on this occasion the op has followed advise and got himself to some clubs and it doesn’t seemed to have worked out but at least he’s given it a go so surely he deserves some credit
Does he now? Me thinks you’re being a little harsh
Me thinks if you’re that concerned you take him to a Club and show him what to do unless you already have privately Just for the record Ive invited him to join me and a few others at a large social gathering.While I’m not a fan of hand holding I don’t mind trying to help someone out if they’ll make some effort how that goes down with the I’m alright jack brigade I’m not sure
Whamboy that's a nice thing to do. I offered to show him round and keep him company at Atlantis, but he visited without notice when I wasn't there and I know Morticia at Townhouse has also offered to keep him company and help him settle there.
I don't know that going to several different venues helps. I think people need to make an effort , smile and get involved by chatting to people.
I think he holds the record for most club visits without getting aroused or involved
"I am ‘The Man Who Couldn’t Get Laid In A Swingers’ Club’ lol | |||
" What a shame that you don't tell single guys that you have no interest in playing, but are happy to chat. I don't understand why people only speak to people they might want to get sexual with. No wonder single men have a hard time in club's. But maybe the club's you go to, men are not as polite and respectful as where I go. " there is part of this i agree with.... which is why i say to people talk to everyone you can regardless.... there may be people you find physically attractive, but once they open their mouths it might be a no.... but if you just want the purely physical and you can let that slide... then sure! there may be people who you wouldn't normally find physically attractive but their personalities blow you away, and you think "my god wow!,I have to play with them" but the one thing for certain... you never know one way or another for absolutely sure is unless you talk to people.... too many people talk with a mo, and don't just talk for the sake of talking! if i say hello... and people scowl, thats not my issue, thats theirs!!!! i talk to people because i am a gasbag.... I socialise because i am a social whore!.... people get to try me before they buy me so to speak!!! | |||
