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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Membership as always required !!no getting away from it and CLUB rules to be respected. "
OR!... Climb in the toilet window..  
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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago
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"Membership as always required !!no getting away from it and CLUB rules to be respected.
OR!... Climb in the toilet window..
Possibly gett stuck n calling the fire brigade "
Now you're going to have ladies trying this to be rescued by men in helmets  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can anyone tell me the rules for club f please? Do u need to be a member or just turn up?"
Its a great place and lots of info on website...and check out the veri's on the clubs enjoy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always feel sorry for all the single guys at this club...they pay a small fortune to get in and rarely seem to get any action...just wondering aimlessly from room to room like a pack of wolves...I think the club let’s too many of them in and many of them expect something because of the amount they have paid to get in. I just find it entertaining watching them. |
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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago
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"I always feel sorry for all the single guys at this club...they pay a small fortune to get in and rarely seem to get any action...just wondering aimlessly from room to room like a pack of wolves...I think the club let’s too many of them in and many of them expect something because of the amount they have paid to get in. I just find it entertaining watching them."
We usually play with single guys here. The decent ones. It's rare that we don't end up playing with a single guy or two.
If they're aimless or expecting or otherwise undesirable then no, we won't play with them but that's down to their own attitude, no? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always feel sorry for all the single guys at this club...they pay a small fortune to get in and rarely seem to get any action...just wondering aimlessly from room to room like a pack of wolves...I think the club let’s too many of them in and many of them expect something because of the amount they have paid to get in. I just find it entertaining watching them.
We usually play with single guys here. The decent ones. It's rare that we don't end up playing with a single guy or two.
If they're aimless or expecting or otherwise undesirable then no, we won't play with them but that's down to their own attitude, no? "
I am just speaking from my experience and what others say. I agree you do get decent ones, but there are so many single guys in this club that even if one couple is playing with one or two of them the trend is that you get most of them just wondering aimlessly in the hope of finding something. As the night goes on you just feel their hopes of “even anything” just dwindling away. Once a couple even moves more than 10 feet they are like a pack of wolves following them around. This can be very off putting for the couples and the single guys even.
I know this can happen in any such club but I always notice it to a far greater extent in Clubf. Most of them leave feeling disappointed and out of pocket.
What is the solution? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
i would always say to guys... just go with an open mind and no expectations....
talk to people in the social areas, at the bar! in the smoking areas! the outside area if the weather is nice! (okay.. this is the northeast!) all good conversations all start with the same word...hello!
"hello" is the quickest way to make yourself stand out! and yet most guys won't say boo to a goose and will aimlessly wander round the play areas!
the guys there that have the most success are those who say hello just for the sake of saying hello... no m.o behind it, who can show they they can chat
maybe because i go saturdays i don't see as much of what you suggest... but for too many guys many they and judge there night on whether they play or not... because people see thru that kind of attitude very quickly.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Believe me they are trying, more than a hello but more often than not couples are either blanking them or just continuing with what they are doing...it is renowned in clubf for being cliquey.
Try as they might they continue to wonder back and fore up and down the stairs, just in the slightest of hopes. Most people who go, will go with an open mind, but they will hope for at least a chance. Especially when they pay £25 to get in with a towel, add a few drinks, Petrol money and yearly membership and their night is costing around £50.
It just seems more often than not things can be dead in this club, unless you are into chocolate fountains etc.  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
i thought i would answer your question from a standpoint of objectivity.... but your answer seems to show you have already made up your mind.....
it takes two in any club.... and it takes effort on all sides! but if guys for example don't open their mouths and say hello... and chat to people.... they will never know if the people they are talking to are their type or not.....
and sometimes, and i know this will go down well, "some" single guys are their own worst enemies....
thats not to say single guys are all the blame and couples are blameless, but if people don't talk to each other how is anyone suppose to know?
i despair sometimes that people socialising gets conflated with people not wanting to play!
I will chat to anyone, i don't care! attitudes are as important as anything else... and if it all about the "end goal" that attitude sticks out a mile...
we can try and be objective... or people can take dig after dig,but that doesn't help solve the perceived problem.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be followed around in any club is quite common , not just Club f. As _abio said socialising plays a big part in any subsequent play scenarios . And generally is a great starting point, getting to know people in the bar area prior is always a good thing. We as staff always encourage this with new members who are just finding their feet as do any other club I have visited.
We can’t stop the single male followers who wish to wander around the club they have just as much right to do that as couples or single ladies !!!
I do understand this can be off putting so we do ask that people give others space to play if they aren’t wishing these guys join in.
We do limit the amount of single guys on a Saturday evening for this reason as it is our couples night so anyone not wishing to be ‘followed’ around try a Saturday .
Yes we have yearly membership fees and entry fees which you may feel are expensive but when you think about it this just covers staffing and the legal costs of running a Club. Which in hindsight is good value for money at the end of the day.
If we have single guys joining and there are too many of them, then we limit the amount of new single male members because of that reason .
So that there isn’t a majority of guys to females ratio.
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By (user no longer on site)
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You are both missing the point.
I blame the club not the single guys and as I said I feel sorry for them. They are the biggest income to the club and I feel the club exploits them at times.
Like on a Wednesday or Friday night there is no control over volume ratios. The couples feel over powered and the single guys feel out numbered.
The majority know they must socialise but how can they when the couples are already surrounded or if they just chose to ignore the single guy.
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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago
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"You are both missing the point.
I blame the club not the single guys and as I said I feel sorry for them. They are the biggest income to the club and I feel the club exploits them at times.
Like on a Wednesday or Friday night there is no control over volume ratios. The couples feel over powered and the single guys feel out numbered.
The majority know they must socialise but how can they when the couples are already surrounded or if they just chose to ignore the single guy.
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Im not sure I understand. Are the couples overpowered by the number of single males or are the males outnumbered by the other singles/ couples.
At any rate we'd hate to see a reduction of number of single males allowed into a club. We don't go on Saturdays for this reason.
What you describe happens the whole club scene over. This is not specific to ClubF or even more prevelent in ClubF as you suggest. On only one occasion we have experienced being followed by a pack of zombies here yet have visited other clubs only once and experienced this on that one visit |
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"You are both missing the point.
I blame the club not the single guys and as I said I feel sorry for them. They are the biggest income to the club and I feel the club exploits them at times.
Like on a Wednesday or Friday night there is no control over volume ratios. The couples feel over powered and the single guys feel out numbered.
The majority know they must socialise but how can they when the couples are already surrounded or if they just chose to ignore the single guy.
Im not sure I understand. Are the couples overpowered by the number of single males or are the males outnumbered by the other singles/ couples.
At any rate we'd hate to see a reduction of number of single males allowed into a club. We don't go on Saturdays for this reason.
What you describe happens the whole club scene over. This is not specific to ClubF or even more prevelent in ClubF as you suggest. On only one occasion we have experienced being followed by a pack of zombies here yet have visited other clubs only once and experienced this on that one visit "
"pack of zombies".. |
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"Believe me they are trying, more than a hello but more often than not couples are either blanking them or just continuing with what they are doing...it is renowned in clubf for being cliquey.
Try as they might they continue to wonder back and fore up and down the stairs, just in the slightest of hopes. Most people who go, will go with an open mind, but they will hope for at least a chance. Especially when they pay £25 to get in with a towel, add a few drinks, Petrol money and yearly membership and their night is costing around £50.
It just seems more often than not things can be dead in this club, unless you are into chocolate fountains etc. "
Speaking as a single guy who visited this club for the first time last week, it cost me £30 membership, + £22 entry, + £1 corkage on the beers I brought myself, so a total of £53 on the night. My next two entries will be half price @ £11 a pop, should I return. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Believe me they are trying, more than a hello but more often than not couples are either blanking them or just continuing with what they are doing...it is renowned in clubf for being cliquey.
Try as they might they continue to wonder back and fore up and down the stairs, just in the slightest of hopes. Most people who go, will go with an open mind, but they will hope for at least a chance. Especially when they pay £25 to get in with a towel, add a few drinks, Petrol money and yearly membership and their night is costing around £50.
It just seems more often than not things can be dead in this club, unless you are into chocolate fountains etc. "
That’s not my experience at ClubF. There were single guys there. They spoke and were really friendly. (Yoo hoo Graham!!). I got off with another single guy (Hi Murray!!). It was far from dead and the single guys added to the mix. I’d hate it if it was just couples. |
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By *eadyforachangeWoman
over a year ago
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Given this thread was for OP to ask about Club F rules it appears to have branched off somewhat but I like a good branch so here's my take on things.
Having visited many times on different nights numbers can vary drastically depending on god knows what as from what I've seen no two nights are the same.
I have witnessed "the following" if a female or couple move and heard the locker key ring tunes played in the dim light (previous club visitors will get that reference). The only time I have felt the numbers were off was on a particular Wednesday. The single guys outnumbered everyone. The club don't have a guest list for such nights therefore single ladies, couples and single guys who are already members turn up at will and it may or may not be a busy night.
I have talked to many new single guys and always encourage them to say hello to people and to feel free to wander around but also emphasis club rules which are no more than basic common sense and to respect boundaries. On a personal note re boundaries I have been approached by guys to play with very little interaction beforehand and on one occasion hadn't even taken my coat off which amused me but a polite no thanks was all that's been needed.
Anyone who walks through the door regardless of how much they pay expecting to play is in the wrong place with the wrong attitude in my opinion. If you want a guarantee of play other avenues exist for both males and females.
I choose to travel a fair distance and sometimes stay overnight to visit the club as I like the vibe of the place and if play happens then that is a bonus.
OP sorry to hijack your thread and hope you give the place a try. No it's not a cheap night out but in my time I have spent a small fortune on nights out in Vanilla Land but keep going back to taste this place. x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always feel sorry for all the single guys at this club...they pay a small fortune to get in and rarely seem to get any action...just wondering aimlessly from room to room like a pack of wolves...I think the club let’s too many of them in and many of them expect something because of the amount they have paid to get in. I just find it entertaining watching them.
We usually play with single guys here. The decent ones. It's rare that we don't end up playing with a single guy or two.
If they're aimless or expecting or otherwise undesirable then no, we won't play with them but that's down to their own attitude, no?
I am just speaking from my experience and what others say. I agree you do get decent ones, but there are so many single guys in this club that even if one couple is playing with one or two of them the trend is that you get most of them just wondering aimlessly in the hope of finding something. As the night goes on you just feel their hopes of “even anything” just dwindling away. Once a couple even moves more than 10 feet they are like a pack of wolves following them around. This can be very off putting for the couples and the single guys even.
I know this can happen in any such club but I always notice it to a far greater extent in Clubf. Most of them leave feeling disappointed and out of pocket.
What is the solution?"
I work at clubf and I'm also a member and I can tell u now the club is not over run with single men.
They try to even it out so there are an even amount of singles ( either sex ) as well as couples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are both missing the point.
I blame the club not the single guys and as I said I feel sorry for them. They are the biggest income to the club and I feel the club exploits them at times.
Like on a Wednesday or Friday night there is no control over volume ratios. The couples feel over powered and the single guys feel out numbered.
The majority know they must socialise but how can they when the couples are already surrounded or if they just chose to ignore the single guy.
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Thanks for your comments and we take all
Comments on board, some things we can do something about (if people tell us at the time) some we cant and some say more about the person who writes them.
We Do our best and so do our Staff, I dont (on the whole) exclude people unless they have caused trouble.
I always say its like a pub, you never know who is coming in until they actually come in, and we are exactly the same.
OP, of course you are entitled to your viewpoint, but the problems you describe are UK wide not just us, and the answer is to educate people and ensure that people show respect to EVERYONE, we do try but that wont happen overnight, its also other members who can help here, and if there is a problem please tell us. We arent ogres. And neither are single guys. Nor are the couples & single ladies.
Respect and manners go a long way, along with communication.
Thanks for this thread, its been interesting to see how many think and that mostly (but not always) I am on the right track.
Clubf rules!!!! Get in and try it...., |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always feel sorry for all the single guys at this club...they pay a small fortune to get in and rarely seem to get any action...just wondering aimlessly from room to room like a pack of wolves...I think the club let’s too many of them in and many of them expect something because of the amount they have paid to get in. I just find it entertaining watching them."
So your saying the club allows too many single men in but u feel sorry for them?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always feel sorry for all the single guys at this club...they pay a small fortune to get in and rarely seem to get any action...
So your saying the club allows too many single men in but u feel sorry for them? "
Yes exactly, the club just lets them in, they don’t know until they have paid their entry in and are in the club how many singles are in. But I understand the club makes a high proportion of its money from single guys so just let’s them roll in regardless and the balance becomes seriously one sided.
That was my point, simple really, and amazing what people read into a few comments. I don’t expect any one to agree as they won’t want to risk their membership.
That’s all I am saying.
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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago
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"I always feel sorry for all the single guys at this club...they pay a small fortune to get in and rarely seem to get any action...
So your saying the club allows too many single men in but u feel sorry for them?
Yes exactly, the club just lets them in, they don’t know until they have paid their entry in and are in the club how many singles are in. But I understand the club makes a high proportion of its money from single guys so just let’s them roll in regardless and the balance becomes seriously one sided.
That was my point, simple really, and amazing what people read into a few comments. I don’t expect any one to agree as they won’t want to risk their membership.
That’s all I am saying.
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Club F has never seemed like a take your money and don't give a damn club.
We go Fridays as for us there is a much better ratio of couples and singles.
But we have been to clubs up and down the country and we can say that this is one of the best.
Yes Friday nights can see a lot of singles guys in there. That's not necessarily a bad thing. It tends to be why couples go on a Friday night. If you want just couples, then you go on a Saturday.
We've had great nights at Club F. And can honestly say apart from one instance have never felt like we've been followed or hounded by single men. We've never felt this 'expectation' that you speak of
We wander the club, sometimes it's nice to see what is going on, sometimes it's just to get away from the bar area, sometimes it's because there's someone we're looking to speak to.
It doesn't mean we're expecting anything.
We would be rather disappointed if Club F started limiting singles on a Friday. It's actually nice to have a club that welcomes singles where so many clubs try to drive them away.
Don't feel sorry for the single guys. There's a reason so many of them come back. And that's because they met some great people and had a good time.
And if there are any that go expecting play and hounding and pestering people, they won't enjoy it, won't come back, then they won't be a problem anymore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Try the new (club) I hear it's full of single men "
Now now charlotte..... Be nice. lol
Been reading this with intense curiosity to see where it goes and just to throw my coin in I'm backing up this awesome club and it's dedicated staff 100%
Firstly.... Sue (The club's hardworking owner) does not just let ANYONE in, this awesome business woman and open minded lady knows what she's doing and on the rare occasions a single guy with the intention of expecting an "end result" and created problems have been removed from the club, 2nd the Saturday night guest list is strictly monitored and selected single men are part of the crowd, Friday nights have the regular single guys who are polite, respectful and more often than not end up enjoying the company of a couple or 2, Wednesday is greedy girls night and the title says it all. The reality is this..... Club f is a place to go, dress down, reveal your ambitious nature and ENJOY THE EVENING... the reason it has regular single men who keep coming back is because they do exactly that, they don't expect anything and they don't hassle anyone, the problem is the 1 time guys, they turn up, pay money and "Expect" something in return and when they don't get it that never return and pass bad publicity about the club.
The bottom line is simple..... Go along, join the club, and get involved in the social aspects before anything else. xx |
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Communication and feedback (good or less good), will always work towards the greater good, for all concerned.
I would like to discuss this word 'expectations' which is always thrown at single guys in the wake of their 'less than happy' club visits. I cannot speak for others, but I will speak about my experience of Club F;
I'd read through the reviews and saw many good reports from single guys, so decided the 1 hour 45 minute drive over would be worth it;
The club itself is actually ok, I do like the 'spa hotel' feel about the place. It is bigger than the other clubs I've been to, and there are plenty of options in the variety of play areas around the place. It was clean and tidy throughout too;
It was a 'quiet night', there weren't that many people in, but of those who were, there was an even mix of single guys, females, and couples;
I stayed just over 2 hours. Sat by myself at the bar, in that cosy 'snug' area, in the area where you can use your 'phone, out in the chillout hut, and yes , I wandered lonely as a cloud around the play areas. Two people spoke to me in that time; the guy dressed as an elf who gave me and another single guy 'The Tour', and the other single guy's mate who looked incredulous as I checked out before "it all kicks off soon mate" (They were leaving to go in to Durham for drinks though);
I've never 'expected' play in any of the clubs I've been to, and even having visited 4 now, I've not played with anyone. All I have 'expected' is a warm welcome, and a friendly chat or two. If anything else happened, that would be a bonus.
In summary; would I visit Club F again? It's a long drive for me, and from where I live, there are other clubs closer, offering very much the same, so I'll have to think about that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi was going to give it a go but that has put me off a little as I went out on my own and never again felt like such a saddo standing and sitting in a pub on my own.Do many people on here meet for a social at say a pub or other places for a chat and see how things go |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Hi was going to give it a go but that has put me off a little as I went out on my own and never again felt like such a saddo standing and sitting in a pub on my own.Do many people on here meet for a social at say a pub or other places for a chat and see how things go "
see.... what i would say is this...
how do you think every other single guy who went on their own coped?
i think what is almost being talked about here is those who are reactive (and basically wait of people to come up to them!) as opposed to those who are proactive (who go out and just talk to people and will socialise with anyone and everyone)
if you don't feel comfortable going out and putting your best foot forward, you can't really pin that at the door of the club!
the easy thing is to just sit at the bar and watching to world go by.... but if everyone does that then no one talks to anyone!!!
sometimes you have to put yourself out of your comfort zone and talk to people, because you are going to make a better impression but talking rather than awaiting the world to come to you!
the other thing is that different nights and different themes appeal to different people...
so what is being talked about is different experiences on different nights!
I ended up trying the different nights, and at the end worked out that a saturday was the best suit for me, so even though it cost me more, and it is primarilly a couples night, because i found it more socialable that worked for me
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi was going to give it a go but that has put me off a little as I went out on my own and never again felt like such a saddo standing and sitting in a pub on my own.Do many people on here meet for a social at say a pub or other places for a chat and see how things go
see.... what i would say is this...
how do you think every other single guy who went on their own coped?
i think what is almost being talked about here is those who are reactive (and basically wait of people to come up to them!) as opposed to those who are proactive (who go out and just talk to people and will socialise with anyone and everyone)
if you don't feel comfortable going out and putting your best foot forward, you can't really pin that at the door of the club!
the easy thing is to just sit at the bar and watching to world go by.... but if everyone does that then no one talks to anyone!!!
sometimes you have to put yourself out of your comfort zone and talk to people, because you are going to make a better impression but talking rather than awaiting the world to come to you!
the other thing is that different nights and different themes appeal to different people...
so what is being talked about is different experiences on different nights!
I ended up trying the different nights, and at the end worked out that a saturday was the best suit for me, so even though it cost me more, and it is primarilly a couples night, because i found it more socialable that worked for me
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Anyone reading this now "let's drag the North East best swingers club down" forum....
I advise you to take on board Fabios words.
This guy is a regular single man at club f and everyone... And I do mean EVERYONE makes the effort to chat with him across Saturday evenings.
Why? Because he bothered to put the groundwork in himself to build up a reputation as a genuine guy who enjoys people's company. He's had many good experiences with others and had many more just strolling around making himself known and getting to know people.
Never one to leave a newbie couple sat in a corner he will make groundbreaking effort to chat with absolutely everyone across the course of the night.
Single men who seem to think that club f is a minefield of cliques who shun singles, all we can say is of that's the impression your getting then maybe it's not our club isn't right for you, more likely YOUR not right for our club. x |
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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago
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"Hi was going to give it a go but that has put me off a little as I went out on my own and never again felt like such a saddo standing and sitting in a pub on my own.Do many people on here meet for a social at say a pub or other places for a chat and see how things go
see.... what i would say is this...
how do you think every other single guy who went on their own coped?
i think what is almost being talked about here is those who are reactive (and basically wait of people to come up to them!) as opposed to those who are proactive (who go out and just talk to people and will socialise with anyone and everyone)
if you don't feel comfortable going out and putting your best foot forward, you can't really pin that at the door of the club!
the easy thing is to just sit at the bar and watching to world go by.... but if everyone does that then no one talks to anyone!!!
sometimes you have to put yourself out of your comfort zone and talk to people, because you are going to make a better impression but talking rather than awaiting the world to come to you!
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Oddly enough we were saying the very same thing about couples the other night !!
We were in a swingers club in Leeds and observed some couples sat on their own from coming in till when we left.
We fancied the look of one couple, so Shel just walked up to them and said "Hi". That was enough to break the ice and we got on fine ! But we did remark to them that as the whole reason to go to a swingers club is to meet other people, it's odd how reticent people can be to make the first move, us included.
I (John) admit that I'd find it difficult to go to a swingers club as a single guy, but speaking from a couple perspective, it's guys who can use an opening, chatwise, to start a convo with a couple who have the most success.
It may be something as simple as asking if you'd come far to visit the club, but the convo could easily flow from there.
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You can never please everyone but in our experience club f is very well run with staff who care about the place and make a big effort to look after you. It always feels like club not a commercial venture. As with anywhere it is what you make it and if you want to get to know people you need to say hi and be willing to chat and that's the same for couples, single fems or single guys... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Also if this club put profits before safety then why is it costing thousands each year for insurance, something every club should have but doesn't including fire and safety, food hygene.club license. This club has all what it should have and more unlike some other clubs!"
I think you are missing the point and concerns raised about safety.
What you mention there is the regulations and the law. The safety concerns the poster has are a lack of a duty of care for an individuals well being...which is very worrying to hear.
Charlotte I think with your lack of knowledge and concern you are making the situation worse for the club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that all clubs across the uk can suffer from the "wank brigade" following single female or couples from room to room. But it's certainly not the majority of the single men swingers. Yes it's annoyingly and offputting. However some people love being watched and the more the merrier !
The difference is in the word "swingers". Single men who want to embrace the scene , it sometimes takes them a little while to get to grips with how things work and that can take an element of watching. But then they soon engage in conversation and before you know it mingle in with everyone else.
Like _ollipine say, the ones that just walk from one room to another generally won't have a good time and won't return.
It can feel daunting sometimes to speak up and say no thankyou. But it's all it takes. And if it doesn't, then I've not been on any club so far (only visited seven so far) that if there is an issue where no thank you doesn't work, that haven't sorted the issue.
I'm all for couples only evenings and all for fully mixed evenings. Something for everyone and people can choose what night and what mix suits them best.
Happy swinging everyone. And happy new year x
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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Oddly enough we were saying the very same thing about couples the other night !!
We were in a swingers club in Leeds and observed some couples sat on their own from coming in till when we left.
We fancied the look of one couple, so Shel just walked up to them and said "Hi". That was enough to break the ice and we got on fine ! But we did remark to them that as the whole reason to go to a swingers club is to meet other people, it's odd how reticent people can be to make the first move, us included.
I (John) admit that I'd find it difficult to go to a swingers club as a single guy, but speaking from a couple perspective, it's guys who can use an opening, chatwise, to start a convo with a couple who have the most success.
It may be something as simple as asking if you'd come far to visit the club, but the convo could easily flow from there.
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the easiest thing for a single guy to do is plonk themselves at the end of a bar and watch the world go by....
the easiest thing for a couple to do is plonk themselves in a corner and watch the world go by....
if everyone is watching the world go by... then no one is talking... and all you are doing is creating a little bubble around yourself....
its even worse if a new couple goes in with another new couple, in the sense that you are creating a larger bubble
here is one of the things i have learnt in life:
if "someone" is waiting on "everyone" to do "something".... then invariably "NOTHING" will end up being done....
all good conversations and crap ones all tend to start with the same word...
hello!!!
people never know which one they will have unless they are prepared to say something... that goes for both singles and couples! and that is what i mean by being proactive!
i do fully understand it won't be everyone comfort zone but if you are telling me that the effort of talking to people is not worth the reward of a damn good night out.... i would absolutely disagree
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are a couple that go to ClubF. I also used to be a single male that went on my own.
At no point does any Bar, Club, swingers Club, sauna, pub, working man’s club... any where at all tell you who is in as you pay your entry fee.
We absolutely hate “cock zombies” they are a real problem. They are blokes that treat the place as a brothel and follow girls and couples about.
But at no point can the management of any club stop this until they over step the mark. At that point you tell the staff and they are removed... which we have seen happen.
Saturdays are specifically designed to stop this, couples and single girls only (with a few selected genetlemen like Fabio who we know well).
I was once a single guy going to ClubF, and to be honest if you’re just friendly and nice, talk about anything without it starting
“So do you guys play with single guys?”
You will be welcomed in with open arms.
This thread has gone on to a tangent to put down one of the uks best and hard working clubs, and say it is too expensive with exaggerated cost claims from a profile that is 3 weeks old (just assay old enough to comment on the forums) with little profile info, when we know there is another Club opened with slashed intro rates for guys that obviously can’t be kept at those prices... which can only mean there are MORE men to couples ratio.
This stinks of a sabotage attempt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi yes you will need to be a member please see web page for club f. But I can assure you it is well worth a visit friendly people and staff "
Except me! Im horrible!! 'fwaa ha ha haaarr!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a couple that go to ClubF. I also used to be a single male that went on my own.
At no point does any Bar, Club, swingers Club, sauna, pub, working man’s club... any where at all tell you who is in as you pay your entry fee.
We absolutely hate “cock zombies” they are a real problem. They are blokes that treat the place as a brothel and follow girls and couples about.
But at no point can the management of any club stop this until they over step the mark. At that point you tell the staff and they are removed... which we have seen happen.
Saturdays are specifically designed to stop this, couples and single girls only (with a few selected genetlemen like Fabio who we know well).
I was once a single guy going to ClubF, and to be honest if you’re just friendly and nice, talk about anything without it starting
“So do you guys play with single guys?”
You will be welcomed in with open arms.
This thread has gone on to a tangent to put down one of the uks best and hard working clubs, and say it is too expensive with exaggerated cost claims from a profile that is 3 weeks old (just assay old enough to comment on the forums) with little profile info, when we know there is another Club opened with slashed intro rates for guys that obviously can’t be kept at those prices... which can only mean there are MORE men to couples ratio.
This stinks of a sabotage attempt."
I think people should be very careful at pointing fingers and conclusion jumping. Without facts people would be very naive to make comments about rumour.
And as for a certain new club being "full of single males". Absolutely BOLLOCKS. !! And as for knowing who can and can't hold certain entrance rates, without knowing a clubs books who could you make an informed and educated comment ?
There is room everywhere for different types of clubs and venues. People should support eachother and lift each other up. Rather than starting rumours from thin air without even visiting the place for them selves. Look at Manchester area. Plenty clubs and all have plentiful members. And all support eachother. Same with Leeds. Plenty people. Same as our local area. More than plentiful amounts of lovely swingers who are quite happy and excited to use both venues. Loving the fact that they have completely different venues on offer. I love travelling to Leeds and Blackpool and west mids to try new clubs and make new friends. As do people who travel to the north east.
We are all in the swinging scene because variety is he spice of life. Why grumble when more variety becomes available !
I've swung at club f as a single and as a couple. I've loved meeting single men on Wednesday and Friday nights when playing as a single. And loved the more social element and intimate setting on Saturdays. I've made amazing friends. The place yes does have the "wank brigade " that follow. Bus as do ALL clubs when single men are allowed.
I remember once someone becoming to over familiar and club f strap stopped this and sorted it out immediately making me feel very comfortable as a single woman.
I've experienced the following men in quest also and politely just tell them no.
Out of the seven (not many I know ) clubs I've visited so far and can't wait to experience more. They all have completely different things to offer. Different vibes and all do different types of events. Which once again variety is the spice of life.
Get out and explore and see what suits your preferences. There is no rift or wrong answer. Because what one couple wants is different from another couple. And the same goes for singles.
I love having two clubs on my doorstep. Leeds a couple of hours away with another two and then Manchester. We are pretty lucky in the north x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have just repeated what I wrote with a load of personal insults.
I didn’t say it will be full of single men, I said if it is cheaper, then the ratio will be higher. One of the ways of lowering the numbers of single men, as the tangent comments are about, is to raise the price a little to thin them out.
Personally I think £20 entry is not a lot of money when you have no drinks to pay for, I’ve paid more than that for a single round for just the two of us in normal bars.
And I don’t need to look at any books to see that £10 entry with free stay over can’t make profit or even cover costs.
Stagecoach when they came to the north’s east operated for free for the first year, making all the other bus companies bankrupt and then shot the prices up. It’s a well known tactic.
If one clubs closes another down then the choices as you say won’t be there.
So yes, I love that there are other clubs. We have been to others and would like to see them work.
But can’t see how this thread is helping in any form. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You have just repeated what I wrote with a load of personal insults.
Personally I think £20 entry is not a lot of money when you have no drinks to pay for, I’ve paid more than that for a single round for just the two of us in normal bars.
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No drinks to pay for? Does clubf have free drinks now?
As for putting prices up for single men to filter them out? Really? Why don’t they just limit them on the night? Nothing to do with single guys being a cash cow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You have just repeated what I wrote with a load of personal insults.
I didn’t say it will be full of single men, I said if it is cheaper, then the ratio will be higher. One of the ways of lowering the numbers of single men, as the tangent comments are about, is to raise the price a little to thin them out.
Personally I think £20 entry is not a lot of money when you have no drinks to pay for, I’ve paid more than that for a single round for just the two of us in normal bars.
And I don’t need to look at any books to see that £10 entry with free stay over can’t make profit or even cover costs.
Stagecoach when they came to the north’s east operated for free for the first year, making all the other bus companies bankrupt and then shot the prices up. It’s a well known tactic.
If one clubs closes another down then the choices as you say won’t be there.
So yes, I love that there are other clubs. We have been to others and would like to see them work.
But can’t see how this thread is helping in any form."
Insult ? My reply was in no way to insult you.
Have a good evening. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been wanting to go to club f to but unsure of going on my own.
Maybè we could meet up and go together.
Pm me "
Lucy everyone is really friendly at club f. When you get there a member of staff shows you around. My first visit I was petrified. Essie showed me around and the nerves soon melted away.
You'll definately be well looked after.
Hope you enjoy !
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
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I think it's become a bit of a bashing tangent on this thread..... it started off as an innocent enough query and grew arms and legs.
Without knowing the overheads of any venue one can only merely guess whether there is any profit or not and besides competition and diversity is healthy. No one moans that Tesco and asda co exist |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been wanting to go to club f to but unsure of going on my own.
Maybè we could meet up and go together.
Pm me "
Cone along and u will be out at ease straight away it's a very friendly club and very friendly staff (meeee) |
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We're just back from our 1st visit to the club and could not recommend it enough!!!
The staff are amazing and run the place very professionally, they certainly looked after us. The club itself is immaculate and they have thought of every little detail, all fantasies and desires are catered for, play rooms and social areas are great. And the members are just a wonderful bunch, so welcoming, a sexy group of couples, single guys and girls, the mix was just perfect.
We had an awesome time and will definitely be back. By far the best club we have visited in the uk, you won't regret it xxx |
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"We're just back from our 1st visit to the club and could not recommend it enough!!!
The staff are amazing and run the place very professionally, they certainly looked after us. The club itself is immaculate and they have thought of every little detail, all fantasies and desires are catered for, play rooms and social areas are great. And the members are just a wonderful bunch, so welcoming, a sexy group of couples, single guys and girls, the mix was just perfect.
We had an awesome time and will definitely be back. By far the best club we have visited in the uk, you won't regret it xxx "
Watch out, these stunning two try to get their whicked way with whiskey ) |
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Don't be too hard on the single guys. Most of them are very shy and just want to talk to someone. Unfortunately, if I smile and am friendly then I'm followed all night so I have to be harsh and snappy. Go into any pub and see how many single men are in there alone, talking to no one, just sitting drinking. It's a lonely world out there for a lot of people these days. |
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"Don't be too hard on the single guys. Most of them are very shy and just want to talk to someone. Unfortunately, if I smile and am friendly then I'm followed all night so I have to be harsh and snappy. Go into any pub and see how many single men are in there alone, talking to no one, just sitting drinking. It's a lonely world out there for a lot of people these days. "
A positive post on this thread, thank you for that I would also like to thank people for the private messages of encouragement I’ve received. It really goes to show how many people read these threads, and who knows, perhaps I’ll be able to thank you in person sometime
All the best to everyone |
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