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Hi, I have been to a few swingers club as a single and have had an Ok time l. However, clearly it is much more focused on couples. I have realised that I want to now attend with a single female, just for the social side of it and also this will open up new experiences. So, my question is, are there women out there who would go to a club with a single guy? And if so what’s the best way finding such ladies? Any advice really welcome. |
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I was being sarcastic 
Look I don’t mind being honest, I am looking for a social meet, coffee, chat see what happens. Just a bit bored with attending a single as it is quite limited and also intimidating for couples when there are to many singles. |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
In a sleepy little village |
"Thanks. Bit confused. You saying I should get a girlfriend and take her, ie my own sweeties to the sweets shop lol ?? "
No I mean as a single fem I wouldn't take a guy with me when there's guys there already  |
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By *haunMan
over a year ago
Halton |
"Oh I see. I would not expect to stay with the lady all night. Would be happy for her to do her own thing if that’s what she wanted. Any way thanks for ur advice. It has actually been useful. "
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Does that not defeat the object of going in as a couple?
As if that's the case?
Then a lot of clubs won't particularly like this behaviour.
Also a lot of people in the club won't appreciate this behaviour as it can come across as a single man using the lady as an opportunity to get in the club and appear to be part of a couple. (Regardless of how genuine your intentions are.) It's the initial impressions that this gives, which could ultimately go against you.
And as mentioned above.. why would a lady want to tie herself in (so-to-speak) with someone she doesn't really know when she can go in on her own and not be responsible for the behaviour of the other person.
For the majority of single men, it does take a little time to build up your reputation. Go along a couple of times and chat and socialise normally at the bar / lounge or social areas.
And maybe look to flip it a little bit and arrange to catch-up inside the club for a little bit with a single lady or couple.
They know you can be arsed going to the club on your own and make an effort without giving the appearance of needing someone to hold your hand.
The more you just chill, relax and enjoy the social atmosphere of a club (with the added benefits of like-minded people and occasionally Gorgeous ladies dressed down).
The more that people will chat and socialise back with you.
And who then knows where that will lead?
It can be a challenge at times as occasionally people may just not be interested as they are there for their own needs.
So just pull up a chair and chat at the bar enjoying the atmosphere around you.
The more continued efforts you put in the better it should be for you in the longer term.
And just remember...
Clubs (especially for single men) are social places with like-minded people. Enjoy the experience and everything else is the amazing extra that it should be.
Good luck OP.
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"Hi, I have been to a few swingers club as a single and have had an Ok time l. However, clearly it is much more focused on couples. I have realised that I want to now attend with a single female, just for the social side of it and also this will open up new experiences. So, my question is, are there women out there who would go to a club with a single guy? And if so what’s the best way finding such ladies? Any advice really welcome. "
A couple of years ago, a lady in here was happy to accompany a single guy to clubs in the Manchester area, she even offered to take me, for my first ever visit. Sadly she appears to have left the site now, but you could always list a ‘Club meet’ for a specific date and see what happens? The majority of couples on a couples-only night won’t be interested in meeting a ‘made-up’ couple though, and to be fair; a lot of them aren’t interested in single guys on a couples and singles night either  |
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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago
West Kent (near Tonbridge) |
"Oh I see. I would not expect to stay with the lady all night. Would be happy for her to do her own thing if that’s what she wanted. Any way thanks for ur advice. It has actually been useful.
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Does that not defeat the object of going in as a couple?
As if that's the case?
Then a lot of clubs won't particularly like this behaviour.
Also a lot of people in the club won't appreciate this behaviour as it can come across as a single man using the lady as an opportunity to get in the club and appear to be part of a couple. (Regardless of how genuine your intentions are.) It's the initial impressions that this gives, which could ultimately go against you.
And as mentioned above.. why would a lady want to tie herself in (so-to-speak) with someone she doesn't really know when she can go in on her own and not be responsible for the behaviour of the other person.
For the majority of single men, it does take a little time to build up your reputation. Go along a couple of times and chat and socialise normally at the bar / lounge or social areas.
And maybe look to flip it a little bit and arrange to catch-up inside the club for a little bit with a single lady or couple.
They know you can be arsed going to the club on your own and make an effort without giving the appearance of needing someone to hold your hand.
The more you just chill, relax and enjoy the social atmosphere of a club (with the added benefits of like-minded people and occasionally Gorgeous ladies dressed down).
The more that people will chat and socialise back with you.
And who then knows where that will lead?
It can be a challenge at times as occasionally people may just not be interested as they are there for their own needs.
So just pull up a chair and chat at the bar enjoying the atmosphere around you.
The more continued efforts you put in the better it should be for you in the longer term.
And just remember...
Clubs (especially for single men) are social places with like-minded people. Enjoy the experience and everything else is the amazing extra that it should be.
Good luck OP.
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Well said  |
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