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I've never been to a swingers club before but am really intrigued and would love to try one.
However as a single guy I don't really fancy going by myself. I'd love a partner in crime to go for a few drinks and show me the ropes.
Looking at clubs in Leeds and maybe Manchester. I'd be the perfect gentleman companion.
Any girls be interested in partnering up for club adventures? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jesus, you've been on the site over a year, yet you attempt the rookie "love someone to accompany me to a club" line, used so many times on the forum and without success, if you really want to go just go.... |
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I'm sure it would be fun on my own but reckon it would be a more relaxed and enjoyable experience with a fellow fabster.
I'm sure that single females must be super anxious about attending by themselves and might like the company too. I'm in no rush.
Cheers for the advice guys! X |
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"I'm sure it would be fun on my own but reckon it would be a more relaxed and enjoyable experience with a fellow fabster.
I'm sure that single females must be super anxious about attending by themselves and might like the company too. I'm in no rush.
Cheers for the advice guys! X"
Dear oh dear! Why is always single males who don't have the balls to go alone?
Op I was going to clubs as a single lady way before I met my husband. Was I nervous the first time? Hell yes! It's natural to be nervous about something for the first time. Did I try to find someone to hold my hand? No! I put my big girl pants on and went alone.
You say you're in no rush and that's a good thing. If you wait until someone agrees to hold your hand you'll be waiting a very long time. |
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"I'm sure it would be fun on my own but reckon it would be a more relaxed and enjoyable experience with a fellow fabster.
I'm sure that single females must be super anxious about attending by themselves and might like the company too. I'm in no rush.
Cheers for the advice guys! X"
It's often tried - 'I need a club buddy', but it doesn't carry water.
Single girls turn up on their own for the first time and are fine, are you saying you can't?
At some stage the big boy pants need to come out. What happens when the sexy couple ask you to fuck in front of some admiring by-standers? That needs some balls too.
The Pandora social suggested is a great idea. You have a million ways of chatting, while being toured round, shown rooms and facilities etc it's a perfect opportunity. |
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"I'm sure it would be fun on my own but reckon it would be a more relaxed and enjoyable experience with a fellow fabster.
I'm sure that single females must be super anxious about attending by themselves and might like the company too. I'm in no rush.
Cheers for the advice guys! X"
for me, i would be nervous yes, but if i wanted company it would be another woman not some random male stranger who may have a whole different agenda..as well as just being a cheapskate.. |
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Dear oh dear! Why is always single males who don't have the balls to go alone?
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It's not a question of having the balls to go alone. It more a question of social dynamic. I wouldn't go to a nightclub, cinema or restaurant alone either. Not because I don't have the balls but because it's a better shared social experience. For me. Each to their own.
Also find it weird that people who say grow balls and just go alone have 'Not looking for single guys' on their profile. ??? |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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Also find it weird that people who say grow balls and just go alone have 'Not looking for single guys' on their profile. ???"
Was just about to say "Go on my son!" and give you a high five until I realised that...you just don't get it...  |
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Dear oh dear! Why is always single males who don't have the balls to go alone?
It's not a question of having the balls to go alone. It more a question of social dynamic. I wouldn't go to a nightclub, cinema or restaurant alone either. Not because I don't have the balls but because it's a better shared social experience. For me. Each to their own.
Also find it weird that people who say grow balls and just go alone have 'Not looking for single guys' on their profile. ???"
They may well enjoy single guys in clubs, it's quite a different experience to many of the single guys on fab. I'm another lone female who goes to clubs. I've been with swinging partners before, but I'd already been meeting them for months by that point and trusted them. We understood the dynamics of our own play, and what each other enjoyed in that dynamic. |
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Dear oh dear! Why is always single males who don't have the balls to go alone?
It's not a question of having the balls to go alone. It more a question of social dynamic. I wouldn't go to a nightclub, cinema or restaurant alone either. Not because I don't have the balls but because it's a better shared social experience. For me. Each to their own.
Also find it weird that people who say grow balls and just go alone have 'Not looking for single guys' on their profile. ???"
Fab is full of single men who despite not fitting what couples and ladies say they are looking for, will chance their arm anyway. For this reason many of us will choose to do the looking ourselves rather than be inundated with hundreds of messages from men that have ignored our preferences and thought we'd make an exception for them.
When setting message filters it automatically adds not looking for single males to your profile when you block them from messaging you. |
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Dear oh dear! Why is always single males who don't have the balls to go alone?
It's not a question of having the balls to go alone. It more a question of social dynamic. I wouldn't go to a nightclub, cinema or restaurant alone either. Not because I don't have the balls but because it's a better shared social experience. For me. Each to their own.
Also find it weird that people who say grow balls and just go alone have 'Not looking for single guys' on their profile. ???"
I said words to that effect, and we have that on our profile.
For most people, that's just a filter to stop hundreds of daily messages. Us and others with that, look for sociable confident guys at clubs, and play with them there.
The social dynamic you describe isn't going to work. You are a single guy, you need to be able to socialise in the club as a single. Going with a woman won't benefit you or her. She wants to meets other singles, couples etc not act as a chaperone.
Just go and be sociable, there's loads of people who want to meet single guys in clubs. |
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Also find it weird that people who say grow balls and just go alone have 'Not looking for single guys' on their profile. ???
Was just about to say "Go on my son!" and give you a high five until I realised that...you just don't get it... "
Enlighten me brosef? |
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Dear oh dear! Why is always single males who don't have the balls to go alone?
It's not a question of having the balls to go alone. It more a question of social dynamic. I wouldn't go to a nightclub, cinema or restaurant alone either. Not because I don't have the balls but because it's a better shared social experience. For me. Each to their own.
Also find it weird that people who say grow balls and just go alone have 'Not looking for single guys' on their profile. ???"
Townhouse Newbies & Notsos have a buddy system in place. They are experienced swingers and regulars who buddy up and be your wingman or wing woman for the evening. They make sure you don't sit in the corner alone.
It's much better to find your feet as a single guy and if you go to a club and socialise and ask people there to give you a Fab verification, you'll find it opens up lots more avenues for you. |
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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago
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It's not a question of having the balls to go alone. It more a question of social dynamic. I wouldn't go to a nightclub, cinema or restaurant alone either"
You could always go to a club with another single male then since you would go to those places you mentioned with 'the lads'.
And who better to show you around this new environment that someone who's been through it.
There's a lot of single guys asking for this. All. The. Time.
No one wants to be lumbered hand holding. Or be a single guy's means to a cheaper entry fee  |
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Dear oh dear! Why is always single males who don't have the balls to go alone?
It's not a question of having the balls to go alone. It more a question of social dynamic. I wouldn't go to a nightclub, cinema or restaurant alone either. Not because I don't have the balls but because it's a better shared social experience. For me. Each to their own.
Also find it weird that people who say grow balls and just go alone have 'Not looking for single guys' on their profile. ???"
I'm looking for single guys and I'm saying grow some balls 
What happens if you find someone to hold your hand and there's a single girl, couple of group action that you want to get involved with? Do you leave her and be rude, stay with her and regret being with her? Serious go on your own, I go alone purely so I'm not stuck with someone I hardly know. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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i do find it interesting that singles guys want to go to clubs... but don't actually want to be seen as a "single guy"....
its almost like they don't want to be seen as if they are "one of us"
so here is a question?
so what is the difference between going to club on your own and talking to people you don't know, and going with someone to a club you don't know to talk to people you don't know....
the answer is there isn't.... and at some point, whether you are a single or a couple... you are going to have to talk to people!!! (unless you are expecting your new "friend" to do all the talking for you)
look.... its really down to this.... if you are socialable then clubs are brilliant, if you have trouble talking to people, then clubs are probably not for you......
do you need someone to hold your hand to be socialable.... thought not!!!!!
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"i do find it interesting that singles guys want to go to clubs... but don't actually want to be seen as a "single guy"....
its almost like they don't want to be seen as if they are "one of us"
so here is a question?
so what is the difference between going to club on your own and talking to people you don't know, and going with someone to a club you don't know to talk to people you don't know....
the answer is there isn't.... and at some point, whether you are a single or a couple... you are going to have to talk to people!!! (unless you are expecting your new "friend" to do all the talking for you)
look.... its really down to this.... if you are socialable then clubs are brilliant, if you have trouble talking to people, then clubs are probably not for you......
do you need someone to hold your hand to be socialable.... thought not!!!!!
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Perfect answer mate! |
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There is clearly a consensus where everyone is saying to go alone.
Fuck it! You're probably right!
I'll bops in slap my big shaved balls on the bar. Order a round of tequila for everybody in sight. Fist the barman without lube then start pole dancing and try that upside down spinny move. What could go wrong?
See you next week. I'm buying. X |
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"There is clearly a consensus where everyone is saying to go alone.
Fuck it! You're probably right!
I'll bops in slap my big shaved balls on the bar. Order a round of tequila for everybody in sight. Fist the barman without lube then start pole dancing and try that upside down spinny move. What could go wrong?
See you next week. I'm buying. X"
Better check the club have an alcohol licence first or better still, take the tequila with you  |
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"There is clearly a consensus where everyone is saying to go alone.
Fuck it! You're probably right!
I'll bops in slap my big shaved balls on the bar. Order a round of tequila for everybody in sight. Fist the barman without lube then start pole dancing and try that upside down spinny move. What could go wrong?
See you next week. I'm buying. X"
Definitely worth coming to watch. See you ther! |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
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"I'm sure it would be fun on my own but reckon it would be a more relaxed and enjoyable experience with a fellow fabster.
I'm sure that single females must be super anxious about attending by themselves and might like the company too. I'm in no rush.
Cheers for the advice guys! X"
There are lots of single females who go on their own but you never see them on here asking for someone to go with, they just go.
Go on a busy night if your nervous, that way you can blend in. If you go on a quiet night you'll stand out more, having said that, done of the most memorable nights I've had in clubs have been on quiet nights.
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Pretty much no-one would go to a pub on their own, they'd go to meet up with mates. So why the fuck they slag anyone off for not wanting to go to a club on their own is beyond me. 
Social nights are probably your best bet OP. That's what I did for my first visit to a club.
I've seen many women ask on the forums for someone to go with their first time and they got showered with glitter and hugs. Make of that what you will!! |
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Dear oh dear! Why is always single males who don't have the balls to go alone?
It's not a question of having the balls to go alone. It more a question of social dynamic. I wouldn't go to a nightclub, cinema or restaurant alone either. Not because I don't have the balls but because it's a better shared social experience. For me. Each to their own. "
It's a good point. I go to the cinema alone cos I have time off in the week while my mates are in the office and don't think twice about it. I go to gigs alone cos my mates don't have the same taste in music as me. I go to swingers clubs on my own cos swinging is something I keep separate from my vanilla mates. Yet I still find it weird walking into a restaurant on my own.
My advice is find a smaller club as in my experience, a guy on his own can feel a little lost in bigger venues. Somewhere with background music rather than a night club style venue where the loud music makes it harder to start a conversation. Failing that, smoking areas and hot tubs are best to strike up a conversation. I can sit on my own in a tub without feeling or looking like you're on your own, you just look like you're relaxing and enjoying the water. |
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"Pretty much no-one would go to a pub on their own, they'd go to meet up with mates. So why the fuck they slag anyone off for not wanting to go to a club on their own is beyond me.
Social nights are probably your best bet OP. That's what I did for my first visit to a club.
I've seen many women ask on the forums for someone to go with their first time and they got showered with glitter and hugs. Make of that what you will!!"
Cheers Doris!
Exactly. I don't go to the pub alone either. Why would you?
Guess this forum must have run out of glitter and hugs! |
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I go to clubs as a single guy. Sometimes I meet people I already know once I get there.
I'm not the most confident guy, but not shy either, and I'm wary of being pushy or desperate so it takes time to relax but I usually do. And I usually have a good time in one form or another.
So just go for it OP. |
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"Pretty much no-one would go to a pub on their own, they'd go to meet up with mates. So why the fuck they slag anyone off for not wanting to go to a club on their own is beyond me.
Social nights are probably your best bet OP. That's what I did for my first visit to a club.
I've seen many women ask on the forums for someone to go with their first time and they got showered with glitter and hugs. Make of that what you will!!
Cheers Doris!
Exactly. I don't go to the pub alone either. Why would you?
Guess this forum must have run out of glitter and hugs!"
Because the pub hasn't got people in it looking for switched on single guys.
It's entirely up to you what you do. The general consensus is to man up and do it. You can do that, or hold out for a someone to take you (long wait)
Btw, someone suggested going with another bloke. Why wouldn't that work for you? |
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For your first time fella, pick one that is open during the daytime; it'll be quieter and not as scary, so you can just go in and have a mooch around, cup of tea etc. The 'fear factor' will go, and you won't be as nervous if you decide to go again  |
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"Pretty much no-one would go to a pub on their own, they'd go to meet up with mates. So why the fuck they slag anyone off for not wanting to go to a club on their own is beyond me.
Social nights are probably your best bet OP. That's what I did for my first visit to a club.
I've seen many women ask on the forums for someone to go with their first time and they got showered with glitter and hugs. Make of that what you will!!
Cheers Doris!
Exactly. I don't go to the pub alone either. Why would you?
Guess this forum must have run out of glitter and hugs!
Because the pub hasn't got people in it looking for switched on single guys.
It's entirely up to you what you do. The general consensus is to man up and do it. You can do that, or hold out for a someone to take you (long wait)
Btw, someone suggested going with another bloke. Why wouldn't that work for you?"
Again, kind of missing the point. It's not a question of having confidence or balls. I have both thanks, it's more a question of social dynamic.
I have read that you are treated very differently as a single guy compared to when part of a couple. When in a couple people were happy to chat and interact but when they went back later as a single guy they were ignored by the very same people.
Is this true?
I've found a girl that wants to go but darent go by herself. She's a complete nympho so that may present its own set of problems anyway! I'm in no rush but would like to see if it's for me or not. I'm sure it'll be an experience whatever! Thanks for all the advice!
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"I'm sure it would be fun on my own but reckon it would be a more relaxed and enjoyable experience with a fellow fabster.
I'm sure that single females must be super anxious about attending by themselves and might like the company too. I'm in no rush.
Cheers for the advice guys! X
for me, i would be nervous yes, but if i wanted company it would be another woman not some random male stranger who may have a whole different agenda..as well as just being a cheapskate.."
Interesting viewpoint you have; what other agenda would a guy have going to a swingers' club with a woman, and why do you immediately assume he's just being a cheapskate? Did the OP start the thread with "Need a cheap entry to a swing club can anyone help?' |
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"Pretty much no-one would go to a pub on their own, they'd go to meet up with mates. So why the fuck they slag anyone off for not wanting to go to a club on their own is beyond me.
Social nights are probably your best bet OP. That's what I did for my first visit to a club.
I've seen many women ask on the forums for someone to go with their first time and they got showered with glitter and hugs. Make of that what you will!!
Cheers Doris!
Exactly. I don't go to the pub alone either. Why would you?
Guess this forum must have run out of glitter and hugs!
Because the pub hasn't got people in it looking for switched on single guys.
It's entirely up to you what you do. The general consensus is to man up and do it. You can do that, or hold out for a someone to take you (long wait)
Btw, someone suggested going with another bloke. Why wouldn't that work for you?
Again, kind of missing the point. It's not a question of having confidence or balls. I have both thanks, it's more a question of social dynamic.
I have read that you are treated very differently as a single guy compared to when part of a couple. When in a couple people were happy to chat and interact but when they went back later as a single guy they were ignored by the very same people.
Is this true?
I've found a girl that wants to go but darent go by herself. She's a complete nympho so that may present its own set of problems anyway! I'm in no rush but would like to see if it's for me or not. I'm sure it'll be an experience whatever! Thanks for all the advice!
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Some couples and women are very rude to single men in clubs. Some single men are very rude to women and couples in clubs.
If you're friendly people are more likely to chat. If they treat you like a lesser being see it as a positive because who would want to fuck anyone like that.
Men in couples often have much worse attitudes than single men. They use the woman as bait and think it makes them higher beings. |
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