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By *ikeC81 OP Man
over a year ago
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Yesterday I was in a club with a friend and we were in a jacuzzi, and this single guy kept touching my friend tbh she did move his hand away and another guy when we were up in the cinema moved really close again didn't talk to us or ask us if was ok
Now it's interesting as normally I play as a single to see the dynamics of this from the other side of the fence, and actually how it can be perceived as being rude. The guys never even asked could they watch or join or anything . It actually made me reasonably angry
This made me think a lot especially how my own behaviour, when I play as a single could be perceived. I realised there is a HUGE difference in behaviours and dynamics. It was also to see how i was treat as a male of a couple than a single people were more willing to talk and chat
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Totally can relate to your last paragraph.. after going to my local club with fb for years, everyone friendly and chatty.. after going to same club on my own for first time last week.. apperared less friendly, totally a different experience and less people I felt willing to chat. Just an observation |
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A single guy who can just act in a friendly, and flirtyish manner, and engage in conversations with people will do well. There's no need for un-invited touching anywhere, but a hot-tub is a social area anyway and is one of the easiest areas to strike up a conversation. People who can't interact there have no chance really.
Your view from both perspectives is interesting too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a similar experience at a club this year with my G/f. In jacuzzi as well, some guys seem to think any women that go to clubs are there's to touch and play with. One of reasons we now go on Saturday nights and not Friday nights to clubs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is interesting to see things from another perspective. When I first joined I was part of a couple. Went to clubs etc. People would only talk to me and ignore him. Down right rude I thought. As a single fem I feel like I have to make more of an effort and be social, as some are scared they may offend me. It's a mind field. Just treat people how you want to be treated. If you are not their thing then respect that. Overstep the mark and expect a ton of shit back (from me anyhow). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had this yesterday but from a woman in a couple. She thought it was fine to touch my male friend without asking and then later on came and touched my boobs without asking if it was ok.
We usually go out on a Friday night so are used to guys being around us but have to say most will ask before touching or engage in conversations with us.
If you were out yesterday was it a couples night? I think single guys get a bad rep but some couples can also act inappropriately at times.
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By *ikeC81 OP Man
over a year ago
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"We had this yesterday but from a woman in a couple. She thought it was fine to touch my male friend without asking and then later on came and touched my boobs without asking if it was ok.
We usually go out on a Friday night so are used to guys being around us but have to say most will ask before touching or engage in conversations with us.
If you were out yesterday was it a couples night? I think single guys get a bad rep but some couples can also act inappropriately at times.
S x"
It was a singles night till 7, then couples only. The couples were so well behaved and they were more of a laugh. I am a single guy but I coupled up with a friend
It's actually made me understand why couples are so fustrated with single guys. Also on a couples night rooms were more open to play which actually was different |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think all of us who've done the clubs have experienced this. Sadly some men follow you about and think your fair game because your in a club. I always have my husband or a male companion with me when I go. I now only go to clubs were I know the owners and if there's a problem it can be repeated and dealt with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because every man resembles the other right?
You know those guys who try and chat girls up but can't take obvious or subtle hints to get lost? They can be anywhere, including your precious swinger clubs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because every man resembles the other right?
You know those guys who try and chat girls up but can't take obvious or subtle hints to get lost? They can be anywhere, including your precious swinger clubs."
There aren't many jacuzzis in Tescos though.  |
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By *ikeC81 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Because every man resembles the other right?
You know those guys who try and chat girls up but can't take obvious or subtle hints to get lost? They can be anywhere, including your precious swinger clubs.
There aren't many jacuzzis in Tescos though. "
I head Waitrose has them  |
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"When I was in couple and attending clubs frequently other couples would approach us to chat. A month later as a single male those same couples would completely ignore me.
That sucks. "
Trust me, there's a lot of guys who will echo that. I had something similar a while ago when I went to another club (no jacuzzi) as a single guy on a Friday, and noted who it was who was being ignorant in my direction, because they were the same ones who wanted to be my best friends when I turned up with a lady the following (couples only) night.
What's really ironic is when you see the ex-couple guys playing solo, and then getting another partner...and promptly forgetting what they experienced and turning cold shoulders at the other single guys that they got to know as a single themselves. |
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"When I was in couple and attending clubs frequently other couples would approach us to chat. A month later as a single male those same couples would completely ignore me.
That sucks.
Trust me, there's a lot of guys who will echo that. I had something similar a while ago when I went to another club (no jacuzzi) as a single guy on a Friday, and noted who it was who was being ignorant in my direction, because they were the same ones who wanted to be my best friends when I turned up with a lady the following (couples only) night.
What's really ironic is when you see the ex-couple guys playing solo, and then getting another partner...and promptly forgetting what they experienced and turning cold shoulders at the other single guys that they got to know as a single themselves."
I must admit, it's hard not to change your behaviour when you're there as half of a couple as apposed to being there as a single guy. I've noticed myself doing it once or twice. I don't like it but can't help it sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because every man resembles the other right?
You know those guys who try and chat girls up but can't take obvious or subtle hints to get lost? They can be anywhere, including your precious swinger clubs.
There aren't many jacuzzis in Tescos though. "
And tescos doesn't have as much salt as you currently have either.
Whatever will people do with single males!
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"Totally can relate to your last paragraph.. after going to my local club with fb for years, everyone friendly and chatty.. after going to same club on my own for first time last week.. apperared less friendly, totally a different experience and less people I felt willing to chat. Just an observation "
It's definitely not easy being a single male in a club that's for sure  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I was in couple and attending clubs frequently other couples would approach us to chat. A month later as a single male those same couples would completely ignore me.
That sucks.
Trust me, there's a lot of guys who will echo that. I had something similar a while ago when I went to another club (no jacuzzi) as a single guy on a Friday, and noted who it was who was being ignorant in my direction, because they were the same ones who wanted to be my best friends when I turned up with a lady the following (couples only) night.
What's really ironic is when you see the ex-couple guys playing solo, and then getting another partner...and promptly forgetting what they experienced and turning cold shoulders at the other single guys that they got to know as a single themselves.
I must admit, it's hard not to change your behaviour when you're there as half of a couple as apposed to being there as a single guy. I've noticed myself doing it once or twice. I don't like it but can't help it sometimes."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Was debating going to a club but after reading all this I'm not so sure sounds like I'd be better off going as a couple, the single guys who do go by the sounds of it are just a load of frustrated sexual predators! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Was debating going to a club but after reading all this I'm not so sure sounds like I'd be better off going as a couple, the single guys who do go by the sounds of it are just a load of frustrated sexual predators! "
actually they aren't, I've met some nice guys in clubs, it's only the odd one who's like that
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"Was debating going to a club but after reading all this I'm not so sure sounds like I'd be better off going as a couple, the single guys who do go by the sounds of it are just a load of frustrated sexual predators! "
Not really mate, but it can be a bit of a tough gig sometimes |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"When I was in couple and attending clubs frequently other couples would approach us to chat. A month later as a single male those same couples would completely ignore me.
That sucks. "
Just goes to show how ignorant people can be, well if you go as a couple again I'd ignore the ones that did that to you xx |
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"Was debating going to a club but after reading all this I'm not so sure sounds like I'd be better off going as a couple, the single guys who do go by the sounds of it are just a load of frustrated sexual predators! "
When you go as a couple and get in with the couples crowd, you'll notice that the male halves of a lot of couples will do and get away with doing so many things that a genuinely single guy couldn't.
Single guys get a bad rap, but in all honesty, because they have to walk on egg shells so as not to upset anyone, they do far less harm than some of those guys who have the diplomatic immunity of a female partner on their arms. |
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Awwwww maaaaaan. I was going to go to the next Swindon Remix but now it doesnt look like its going to be a lot of fun. Why dont couples stop being so arrogant and single men stop being so desperate. Its swinging not snobbery. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Was debating going to a club but after reading all this I'm not so sure sounds like I'd be better off going as a couple, the single guys who do go by the sounds of it are just a load of frustrated sexual predators!
When you go as a couple and get in with the couples crowd, you'll notice that the male halves of a lot of couples will do and get away with doing so many things that a genuinely single guy couldn't.
Single guys get a bad rap, but in all honesty, because they have to walk on egg shells so as not to upset anyone, they do far less harm than some of those guys who have the diplomatic immunity of a female partner on their arms."
Unfortunately this is so true |
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