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over a year ago
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Yes a very good chance , the play room area is where you will be approached and asked if ok to join you , has happened to us several times , the VA is a great place very relaxed atmosphere. Have fun xx |
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We have been to VA a couple of times. Even took our single fem playmate to one (handcuffed to Polly all night). Unfortunately we didn't get any invitations to join in with anyone, just a couple of voyeurs. Maybe there is truth to the perception that the club is quite cliquey? |
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"We have been to VA a couple of times. Even took our single fem playmate to one (handcuffed to Polly all night). Unfortunately we didn't get any invitations to join in with anyone, just a couple of voyeurs. Maybe there is truth to the perception that the club is quite cliquey?"
I have found people very friendly. But I think sometimes people sit away on a couch by themselves and this can give the impression that they don't want to be approached or are maybe waiting for an arranged meet to arrive. |
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Initial eye contact is good for first point of contact rather than just diving in . People there know the score no means no .
The bar area is a relaxed place to start chatting with other people |
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"We have been to VA a couple of times. Even took our single fem playmate to one (handcuffed to Polly all night). Unfortunately we didn't get any invitations to join in with anyone, just a couple of voyeurs. Maybe there is truth to the perception that the club is quite cliquey?
I have found people very friendly. But I think sometimes people sit away on a couch by themselves and this can give the impression that they don't want to be approached or are maybe waiting for an arranged meet to arrive."
Yes, that would be true in any venue, but both times we have been we have enjoyed ourselves on the beds and only been "observed". Having said that, one of the voyeur couples did catch us later having a coffee in the bar and thanked us for a great show.  |
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"We have been to VA a couple of times. Even took our single fem playmate to one (handcuffed to Polly all night). Unfortunately we didn't get any invitations to join in with anyone, just a couple of voyeurs. Maybe there is truth to the perception that the club is quite cliquey?
I have found people very friendly. But I think sometimes people sit away on a couch by themselves and this can give the impression that they don't want to be approached or are maybe waiting for an arranged meet to arrive.
Yes, that would be true in any venue, but both times we have been we have enjoyed ourselves on the beds and only been "observed". Having said that, one of the voyeur couples did catch us later having a coffee in the bar and thanked us for a great show. "
If you had two ladies handcuffed together we wouldn't approach you on the assumption you were already involved in your own thing with her to be honest. |
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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago
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If you had two ladies handcuffed together we wouldn't approach you on the assumption you were already involved in your own thing with her to be honest."
Completely agree with this.
Also you mention that you didn't get any invitations to join anyone. Did you invite anyone to join in with you?
Most of the time I see people talking about how cliquey clubs can be, they generally put in little to no effort "We went to X and no one came over to talk to us, it was quite cliquey". Every club is the same, you get out what you put in. If you're in a club and no one is making the effort to talk to you, why not try talking to them instead? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have been to VA a couple of times. Even took our single fem playmate to one (handcuffed to Polly all night). Unfortunately we didn't get any invitations to join in with anyone, just a couple of voyeurs. Maybe there is truth to the perception that the club is quite cliquey?
I have found people very friendly. But I think sometimes people sit away on a couch by themselves and this can give the impression that they don't want to be approached or are maybe waiting for an arranged meet to arrive.
Yes, that would be true in any venue, but both times we have been we have enjoyed ourselves on the beds and only been "observed". Having said that, one of the voyeur couples did catch us later having a coffee in the bar and thanked us for a great show.
If you had two ladies handcuffed together we wouldn't approach you on the assumption you were already involved in your own thing with her to be honest."
Yeah I wouldn't approach a group who were clearly enjoying their own scene already. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you had two ladies handcuffed together we wouldn't approach you on the assumption you were already involved in your own thing with her to be honest.
Completely agree with this.
Also you mention that you didn't get any invitations to join anyone. Did you invite anyone to join in with you?
Most of the time I see people talking about how cliquey clubs can be, they generally put in little to no effort "We went to X and no one came over to talk to us, it was quite cliquey". Every club is the same, you get out what you put in. If you're in a club and no one is making the effort to talk to you, why not try talking to them instead?"
The reality of clubs is that a proper, decent host would introduce newbies to regulars, check in on them regularly, move around the club, stop regulars hogging the bar, create an inclusive atmosphere, but most hosts just concentrate on getting people to there club night then a quick show round and left to there own devices.
Anyone who moans about a clique or no one talking to them has been let down by the host on that night, period. |
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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago
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"Anyone who moans about a clique or no one talking to them has been let down by the host on that night, period."
I disagree. Go to Libs on a Chic night, VA during the festival or XT when there's a Dpraved party and there's 100s in attendance. The amount of staff needed to police if everyone is having a good time just isn't viable.
We're all adults in a swingers clubs, everyone has a pretty good idea as to why each other is there. What's wrong with approaching people yourself instead of waiting on others to make a move?
As I said previous, some people will attend, be nervous/shy and distance themselves. It can be misinterpreted as them being standoffish and people won't approach them. They have a crap night, come home, and leave a review that the club was cliquey.
If you're attending a club be prepared to put some effort in instead of expecting everyone else to do the leg work. Arrange a social beforehand, put an ad up in the meets section, or just turn up and socialise instead of sitting in the corner as far away from people as possible.
We've been doing this over ten years and visited loads of clubs, and out of 100s of nights out we've only experienced one cliquey situation. There was only us and a few regulars who had no interest in talking to 'strangers'. But then again we're quite sociable and aren't afraid to speak to people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone who moans about a clique or no one talking to them has been let down by the host on that night, period.
I disagree. Go to Libs on a Chic night, VA during the festival or XT when there's a Dpraved party and there's 100s in attendance. The amount of staff needed to police if everyone is having a good time just isn't viable.
We're all adults in a swingers clubs, everyone has a pretty good idea as to why each other is there. What's wrong with approaching people yourself instead of waiting on others to make a move?
As I said previous, some people will attend, be nervous/shy and distance themselves. It can be misinterpreted as them being standoffish and people won't approach them. They have a crap night, come home, and leave a review that the club was cliquey.
If you're attending a club be prepared to put some effort in instead of expecting everyone else to do the leg work. Arrange a social beforehand, put an ad up in the meets section, or just turn up and socialise instead of sitting in the corner as far away from people as possible.
We've been doing this over ten years and visited loads of clubs, and out of 100s of nights out we've only experienced one cliquey situation. There was only us and a few regulars who had no interest in talking to 'strangers'. But then again we're quite sociable and aren't afraid to speak to people."
Agreed festival of fun, Chic etc are busy so hosts can't get around to everyone, but for 99% of club nights they can but don't and surely that is there job, to host, not to set the place up beforehand, not to ensure staff are ready, not to be on the door, they are in place to host the night, take it from us who ran a hugely successful club night it's fundemental that hosts speak to everyone, introduce people, use there skills to identify people on there own and get them involved, that is what a host should do, host!  |
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"Anyone who moans about a clique or no one talking to them has been let down by the host on that night, period.
I disagree. Go to Libs on a Chic night, VA during the festival or XT when there's a Dpraved party and there's 100s in attendance. The amount of staff needed to police if everyone is having a good time just isn't viable.
We're all adults in a swingers clubs, everyone has a pretty good idea as to why each other is there. What's wrong with approaching people yourself instead of waiting on others to make a move?
As I said previous, some people will attend, be nervous/shy and distance themselves. It can be misinterpreted as them being standoffish and people won't approach them. They have a crap night, come home, and leave a review that the club was cliquey.
If you're attending a club be prepared to put some effort in instead of expecting everyone else to do the leg work. Arrange a social beforehand, put an ad up in the meets section, or just turn up and socialise instead of sitting in the corner as far away from people as possible.
We've been doing this over ten years and visited loads of clubs, and out of 100s of nights out we've only experienced one cliquey situation. There was only us and a few regulars who had no interest in talking to 'strangers'. But then again we're quite sociable and aren't afraid to speak to people.
Agreed festival of fun, Chic etc are busy so hosts can't get around to everyone, but for 99% of club nights they can but don't and surely that is there job, to host, not to set the place up beforehand, not to ensure staff are ready, not to be on the door, they are in place to host the night, take it from us who ran a hugely successful club night it's fundemental that hosts speak to everyone, introduce people, use there skills to identify people on there own and get them involved, that is what a host should do, host! "
I think that's the ideal when you're not running the club. Xtasia's for example is massive. We've spoken to the owners in flirts and hen again on the door to the club, after that they have been stuck behind the bar all night. It's a big venue and the customers can get very spread out! Thinking about it Townhouse is the same but when we've been there Vic and her hubby were working the bar all night too.
Hosting is great when that's all you've got to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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And if clubs really cared about there clientele then maybe they should think about employing hosts on every club night, instead of relying on club groupies, themselves, bar staff etc to integrate new people.... |
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"And if clubs really cared about there clientele then maybe they should think about employing hosts on every club night, instead of relying on club groupies, themselves, bar staff etc to integrate new people.... "
Sounds like a good idea if their margins allow them to still make a living. Do any clubs do that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And if clubs really cared about there clientele then maybe they should think about employing hosts on every club night, instead of relying on club groupies, themselves, bar staff etc to integrate new people....
Sounds like a good idea if their margins allow them to still make a living. Do any clubs do that?"
Lots of clubs do specific nights hosted by others aka The Playgrounds, Chic, Lovetoparty etc etc funny how these nights are the busiest and most popular eh? Proper hosts looking after all the clientele.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We love VA. On specific nights there the host (s) will introduce people to people. Show new ppl around, explain the rules etc, but other than on a specific night, eg Bi Night, I don't think there are 'hosts' as such and we can't expect the owners to run around, running things behind the scenes etc AND make sure ppl are mingling. If you go to a club, put your big girl/boy pants on and talk to people.
A party is different but the few different party venues we have been to we didn't expect the hosts to introduce us to ppl and 'hook us up' with ppl then moan when that didn't happen 
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you had two ladies handcuffed together we wouldn't approach you on the assumption you were already involved in your own thing with her to be honest.
Completely agree with this.
Also you mention that you didn't get any invitations to join anyone. Did you invite anyone to join in with you?
Most of the time I see people talking about how cliquey clubs can be, they generally put in little to no effort "We went to X and no one came over to talk to us, it was quite cliquey". Every club is the same, you get out what you put in. If you're in a club and no one is making the effort to talk to you, why not try talking to them instead?"
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"And if clubs really cared about there clientele then maybe they should think about employing hosts on every club night, instead of relying on club groupies, themselves, bar staff etc to integrate new people....
Sounds like a good idea if their margins allow them to still make a living. Do any clubs do that?
Lots of clubs do specific nights hosted by others aka The Playgrounds, Chic, Lovetoparty etc etc funny how these nights are the busiest and most popular eh? Proper hosts looking after all the clientele.."
Well yeah... the hosts only have an event to worry about.
Their not running a club week in week out with the clubs overheads. They just want the use of a premises to run their events once a month lol. Or are those hosts all employed by the clubs they're based at? Or maybe just taking a cut off the top for running the event wherever it may be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And if clubs really cared about there clientele then maybe they should think about employing hosts on every club night, instead of relying on club groupies, themselves, bar staff etc to integrate new people....
Sounds like a good idea if their margins allow them to still make a living. Do any clubs do that?
Lots of clubs do specific nights hosted by others aka The Playgrounds, Chic, Lovetoparty etc etc funny how these nights are the busiest and most popular eh? Proper hosts looking after all the clientele..
Well yeah... the hosts only have an event to worry about.
Their not running a club week in week out with the clubs overheads. They just want the use of a premises to run their events once a month lol. Or are those hosts all employed by the clubs they're based at? Or maybe just taking a cut off the top for running the event wherever it may be."
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And that's the point, when clubs either employ proper hosts or enter into an agreement for another party to host a night e.g. Playgrounds, Chic, then these are generally the best nights so why don't they do this more? As properly employing there own hosts would easily pay for itself and ease the burden of the owners, that's our point, we are fully aware how owners have to spread themselves so thinly multi tasking and this is to the detriment of both the club and the paying customers... |
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"And that's the point, when clubs either employ proper hosts or enter into an agreement for another party to host a night e.g. Playgrounds, Chic, then these are generally the best nights so why don't they do this more? As properly employing there own hosts would easily pay for itself and ease the burden of the owners, that's our point, we are fully aware how owners have to spread themselves so thinly multi tasking and this is to the detriment of both the club and the paying customers..."
Maybe because those that are really good at organising those events don't want to work for an hourly rate. They'd rather run their own event in their own name and take it wherever they want and make more than they would working for a club, in the clubs name and with clubs customers not their own.
If it were as easy as you say how come not a single club pays for their own staff to host as professional hosts? |
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By *teed99Man
over a year ago
Kettering |
"Just wondering what people are wearing? When you say it's jungle theme does that mean fancy dress? What will guys be expected to wear?"
I think Jules is thinking more animal print sexy rather than Lenny the Lion. I've already got a nice satin printed shirt from a well known internet site. |
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If you had two ladies handcuffed together we wouldn't approach you on the assumption you were already involved in your own thing with her to be honest.
Completely agree with this.
Also you mention that you didn't get any invitations to join anyone. Did you invite anyone to join in with you?
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Yes we did, One couple were very close and I asked if they wanted to join in. The woman said "Yes please" and the guy immediately said, "but your man cannot touch my wife". Tone replied "that is okay with me, but you don't touch my girls". The guy got the hump and immediately left dragging his complaining wife with him!  |
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