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New couple looking for advice

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Evening everyone, we where just after a little bit of advice and will try keep it short and sweet

We are new to the idea of swinging and we are enjoying using this site, apart from some pushy people messaging bit we can deal with that, we have been talking about maybe going to one of the social meets at a club to get a better idea of how things work and hopefully to speak to other people , we wouldnt be planning on playing while at the club though, would this he a good introduction for us?

We are London based but would be happy to travel if it's for the right club, having read the club reviews on here we don't fancy the club based at someone's house, a proper venue appeals to us a lot more, a pub type venue if that makes sense

any ideas or advice is greatly appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Socials are a good way to meet people. For an intro to club nights Look up FFFF at xtasia in the forum club section. Its a great night and it's a free entrance night, there always busy and great fun. you could stop in one of the many local hotels with the prem in just 2 min walk from their door

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Socials are a good way to meet people. For an intro to club nights Look up FFFF at xtasia in the forum club section. Its a great night and it's a free entrance night, there always busy and great fun. you could stop in one of the many local hotels with the prem in just 2 min walk from their door

Thank you, we will look it up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Newbie night at Jaydees would be an excellent place to start. Depending on which part of London you're from it could only be about an hour's drive up the A1. It's a very social night and there will probably some play you can simply avoid it by not joining in, rest assured that there will be no pressure for you to do so. I'll pm you an invitation but feel free to message us if you'd like any further information xx

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By *teed99Man over a year ago

Kettering

Lots of people start their swinging club experience at The Vanilla Alternative, which is an upmarket venue right on the A1 close to Bedford. With a massive hot tub, licenced bar and onsite hotel rooms, if needed, it's easy to decide what you want to do on your first visit. Saturday night, when it's couples only would probably be best but check out the Events page of the club's website.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple over a year ago

bedford

As said in previous replies two are mentioned quite close to each other VA or jaydees , we use jaydees and it a great club for newbies , we haven't tried VA as of yet but have been told it's a bit similar but know private play areas , no harm in trying either ??

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By *onny MCMan over a year ago

Crawley

Bit out of London but Bristol Gardens in Brighton isn't a bad place for newbies. Quiet, not open too late, couples only weekend evenings so you can get comfortable before you have to start dealing with the horde of guys and they're very strict on keeping all "intimate" behaviour to just the sectioned off 1st floor space, so if you're not ready to play, just stay down in the spa. Spa facilities are pretty good too. You have to be naked though.

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

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Wherever you go and whatever you try, there should never be any pressure to play. If and when you are ready sometime you can and you can just play with each other if that's what you want. There should never be any pressure for anybody to play.

You shouldn't have to take it into consideration, just know that you have agreed what you like between you and go wherever you like, to relax and see what it is like.

It may be a good idea to try a couple only night for your first time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Saturday night at Ab Fabs - it's couples only and as it doesn't appear on the club guide you might have missed it.

Again depending where you are in London the Heathrow social is a good place to meet like minded people..

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By *aydeesclubCouple over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Hi Newcople2this if you decide to come along to Jaydees you will love it here, we have lots of lockable playrooms that you can go in a just play together or we have one lockable room that is a viewing room where you can be watched but no one can enter. We are a bring your own drinks venue so there is no expensive bar bill. Plus lots more, as SXFM have said we do have a Newbie Night this saturrday x Love Tracy

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Evening everyone, thank you for the nice replies and advice, I think we would prefer the couples nights by the sounds of it to get to know the more social side if things before we try anything else.

We where a bit concerned that this site may be a reflection of what to expect in terms of pushy single males just trying to get it on with my wife, as her husband if someone where to put an unwanted hand on her I wouldn't stand for it or just turn a blind eye, so a couples night sounds the way to go.

I've seen a lot of people mention about VA and we revived a nice PM for jaydees,thank you for that, so we will certainly be looking into it, was hoping to get to know a few couples via messaging on here to find out a bit more and put our minds at ease, I didn't even notice there was a forum on here at first but glad we have found it

Thanks everyone x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Our first introduction to swinging was by visiting Le Boudoir. We just talked to people, danced and then played with one another.

Lots of people visit clubs just to enjoy the social side. Enjoy your first visit xx

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By *heRealHousewivesofEurekaCouple over a year ago

dartford

Hi Eureka in North Kent (15 mins from Dartford Crossing) have their couples and single female party this Thursday, hosted by a great couple who will be on hand to show you around and introduce you to others and for just £10 entry including membership you can't go wrong. Its a great intro to the club scene, we will be around so if you decide to pop along come say hi x

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple over a year ago

London

From your profile and what you have said, you definitely want to go to a Couples only night and one of the more upmarket venues. If your Mrs gets horny (like I do) from dancing, then somewhere, where people actually get up and dance is always good too.

VA is a good suggestion and one of the more top end clubs near London. Abfabs the same.

For clubs with good DJs and dancing, you can try Atlantis in Stoke (extremely friendly club) and Xtasia in West Brom which we did door to door from London in 2 hours 20 minutes by train and tram. Really easy.

To add to what others have said, you can go to a club as many times as you want and do absolutely nothing with anyone else unless you both feel comfortable and you both want to actually play. (Anything else simply is not worth your relationship)

You will find most couples at clubs are not pushy at all and a good host or owner at a club will make sure your given a tour, often by a regular and they will chat to you a little more about the scene. No one should ever make any physical contact with you, without asking or being given a green light to do so, by you or your partner. Once you have been to one decent club, you will quickly realise the whole thing is less daunting that you imagine.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple over a year ago

Bristol

Clubs are as much about the social aspect of swinging, so a great no pressure way of dipping your toes in.

Go have fun, nobody will find it odd if you don't play

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks again everyone for you replies and advice, we might look more into VA or abfabs as suggested above, a bit more at ease with the idea after what you have all said

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By *inderellaRockerfellazCouple over a year ago

warrington

"Evening everyone, we where just after a little bit of advice and will try keep it short and sweet

any ideas or advice is greatly appreciated

Some excellent advice from true swingers so we can't really add to it. If your ever in the frozen north swing by we would love to have you visit xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

eureaka is a great venue to start off with , they are open all day so you could go and enjoy the outside facilitys and get used to the environment before the party starts in the evening

just to add , when you go to any club you do not have to play its your choice just to watch and take in the culture, but of course if the mood takes you your in the right place to act upon any impulses you may have , where ever you go your sure to have fun, enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If your near Heathrow, check out Whiterabbit9 who runs the Heathrow socials

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi. I'm also a newbie and have my 1st meet tomorrow night. Excited but also a bit scared! There's so much more I want to experience but definitely made the right decision to start with a couple! Good luck xx

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By *attoedMan over a year ago

Aldershot

S private club is a new club in slough

It's an excellent venue very clean and very welcoming

The owners Annie and Sam are brilliant

Going there would get you to see the social side aswell within the lifestyle as not everyone plays at the club and there is no pressure to play and I'm sure you would be very welcome .

Message Annie in the forum or on their profile she will be most approachable and will help you in there way

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We think we will go for VA as a starting point, just need to find a weekend we have child free and go and see what it's like, hopefully be nice to befriend some couples on here to go with so we don't feel so out of place or it could spoil the whole experience

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