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over a year ago
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"Ladies. How did you build up the confidence to start visiting clubs? Did you/ do you go alone? How did you make the jump to go?"
I arrange to meet someone there.  |
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By *orum TrollWoman
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not sure what they call them but i went on a 'themed' night, where someone arranges a specific night at a club. it was BMFC and the lady running it took her time to message me and reassure me i'd be safe.
the guys were great on that night and i never felt pressured, pestered or anything negatove. glad she took some time out as it encouraged me to go. 
some do socials as well. i feel more open to going to socials. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"not sure what they call them but i went on a 'themed' night, where someone arranges a specific night at a club. it was BMFC and the lady running it took her time to message me and reassure me i'd be safe.
the guys were great on that night and i never felt pressured, pestered or anything negatove. glad she took some time out as it encouraged me to go.
some do socials as well. i feel more open to going to socials."
Oh that sounds good. Im not sure. I have a female friend who would probably come but im not sure if our friendship is at that level.
When people say they arrange a meet was it with someone new or someone you had met socially first? I get nervy enough before meets I dont think i could manage that too
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By *orum TrollWoman
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i would on a social on my own no problem.
if i was going with the hope for sex then i'd meet someone i'd already met and i'd only meet someone new if i was confident the guy would not pressure me for sex, which most guys automatically presume they will get sex on a first meet at a club so i don't meet them. |
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First time I went to a club was with a female friend, and it was at the club that the name fab swingers was mentioned.
Times after I went alone or with friends or a guy I had met.
Was very nervous, but had no need to have been as everybody was so welcoming an friendly.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I waited until my sex drive demanded i do SOMETHING and then let it lead a little!
I've found it more fulfilling to chat to a couple of people that are also intending to go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went to a daytime event. It was quieter and eased me in gently. I'd rather go it alone to be honest. I am my own boss then. If I'm not feeling it I leave, without the guilt of ruining someone else's play time. Take a deep breath and go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ladies. How did you build up the confidence to start visiting clubs? Did you/ do you go alone? How did you make the jump to go?"
I just decided to go then went ... once your in your made to feel really welcome, everybody has a common interest so when u think about it it's even less random that just turning up at a pub or club alone ... I like going out and holidaying alone tho so maybe that made it easier for me ... I say just go for it girl ... u only live once xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In the past i went to clubs on my own. I enjoyed it and felt safe. Guys were respectful and fun. I felt confident to cope with guys who were a pain but also knew staff were around anyway.
Im not especially sociable so was happy with my own company although i enjoyed going with friends and my (now) hubby too. |
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I primarily go alone but over time you meet people then after a while you're among friends. I occasionally go with a friend and I like both. If you're going alone tell the club as you go in and ask them to maybe introduce you to a couple of people if you're nervous. They'll know the right people usually  |
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