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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm sure you can manage to walk through the door on your own.obviously! But would rather someone to show me around show me the ropes as they say "
Clubs usually give you a quick tour of the facilities and ensure you're comfortable rather than just letting you blindly get on with it. I'm sure you'd be very welcome.
Perhaps a better approach might be to chat to a few women and arrange to meet one or two inside the club? |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Lol how are you x would u like to meet lool x
Pretty much. It works for me. "
More accurately, it works for the women who suggest that I meet them there. Trust me, you do NOT want to take a woman to a swinging club. |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Lol ur a mad man"
For suggesting that you go to a club with a woman from your area? Who likes you?
Nah, you're right. I'm sure there's a Scottish woman who can't stand the sight of you who would be a PERFECT swinging partner for you...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No don't get shirty I know what your saying mate no appreciate the advise but not her that's all I'm saying "
Well, this is a site full of people who enjoy swinging. I'm sure you can find *someone* to arrange to have a quick drink with once you're at a club.
Or just do what the rest of us do - talk to people when you're there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any lovely ladies want to take me to my first club night x"
How come men always seem to be looking for women to accompany them? What's wrong with having a bloke do it! Surely it'll give you a better view of how to behave and what to do? |
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"Any lovely ladies want to take me to my first club night x
How come men always seem to be looking for women to accompany them? What's wrong with having a bloke do it! Surely it'll give you a better view of how to behave and what to do?"
That's a fair point actually  |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Any lovely ladies want to take me to my first club night x
How come men always seem to be looking for women to accompany them? What's wrong with having a bloke do it! Surely it'll give you a better view of how to behave and what to do?"
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Any lovely ladies want to take me to my first club night x
How come men always seem to be looking for women to accompany them? What's wrong with having a bloke do it! Surely it'll give you a better view of how to behave and what to do?
That's a fair point actually "
I've learned more in this lifestyle from sticking to and listening to guys who are: a) experienced and b) prolific players
You can spot these guys a mile off as people call them by name as they walk through the door, they're friendly, chatty etc. Try to strike up a conversation with these guys at an appropriate time and LISTEN.
Try to use the (VERY rough) formula 5 mins learning/observing = 10 mins of play. Think of yourself as "the new kid in town". Even when you've been doing it for a year.
Don't chase after the sexytime. If you're "doing it right" it'll just happen...
Hope this helps. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any lovely ladies want to take me to my first club night x
How come men always seem to be looking for women to accompany them? What's wrong with having a bloke do it! Surely it'll give you a better view of how to behave and what to do?
That's a fair point actually
I've learned more in this lifestyle from sticking to and listening to guys who are: a) experienced and b) prolific players
You can spot these guys a mile off as people call them by name as they walk through the door, they're friendly, chatty etc. Try to strike up a conversation with these guys at an appropriate time and LISTEN.
Try to use the (VERY rough) formula 5 mins learning/observing = 10 mins of play. Think of yourself as "the new kid in town". Even when you've been doing it for a year.
Don't chase after the sexytime. If you're "doing it right" it'll just happen...
Hope this helps."
Trouble is that if you're an asshole or believe you're God's gift to women no amount of coaching will make a difference. |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Any lovely ladies want to take me to my first club night x
How come men always seem to be looking for women to accompany them? What's wrong with having a bloke do it! Surely it'll give you a better view of how to behave and what to do?
That's a fair point actually
I've learned more in this lifestyle from sticking to and listening to guys who are: a) experienced and b) prolific players
You can spot these guys a mile off as people call them by name as they walk through the door, they're friendly, chatty etc. Try to strike up a conversation with these guys at an appropriate time and LISTEN.
Try to use the (VERY rough) formula 5 mins learning/observing = 10 mins of play. Think of yourself as "the new kid in town". Even when you've been doing it for a year.
Don't chase after the sexytime. If you're "doing it right" it'll just happen...
Hope this helps.
Trouble is that if you're an asshole or believe you're God's gift to women no amount of coaching will make a difference. "
That's why I try to emphasise the listening process. I have a mate who wants me to introduce him to the lifestyle but I'm kinda wary as he has this attitude that floats between "I do ok with getting women" to "I can adapt to any situation".
I think it's just my inner geek that makes me want research and learn about everything that I get involved in. Even sex! Then you get the guys that say they don't need to read stuff to learn how to interact with people. What's the difference between reading some advice or hearing it directly from someone who is clued up? |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"Any lovely ladies want to take me to my first club night x
How come men always seem to be looking for women to accompany them? What's wrong with having a bloke do it! Surely it'll give you a better view of how to behave and what to do?"
Ah many reasons why.
1) they might see as it being as gay
2) he might find it comforting to be with a women, phichiatry reserch has shown that men are more likley to find other men as a threat, if they are in a role of mentoring.
3) he might want to shag her pr find freinship with her in a world where intimacy is a prerequacet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any lovely ladies want to take me to my first club night x
How come men always seem to be looking for women to accompany them? What's wrong with having a bloke do it! Surely it'll give you a better view of how to behave and what to do?
Ah many reasons why.
1) they might see as it being as gay
2) he might find it comforting to be with a women, phichiatry reserch has shown that men are more likley to find other men as a threat, if they are in a role of mentoring.
3) he might want to shag her pr find freinship with her in a world where intimacy is a prerequacet."
This post gave me cancer. |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Any lovely ladies want to take me to my first club night x
How come men always seem to be looking for women to accompany them? What's wrong with having a bloke do it! Surely it'll give you a better view of how to behave and what to do?
Ah many reasons why.
1) they might see as it being as gay
2) he might find it comforting to be with a women, phichiatry reserch has shown that men are more likley to find other men as a threat, if they are in a role of mentoring.
3) he might want to shag her pr find freinship with her in a world where intimacy is a prerequacet.
This post gave me cancer."
These forums can be toxic sometimes!  |
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