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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I love clubs, the sexiness, the openness the excitement. I have swung as a couple and a single and the couple nights are always so much more relaxed, would ladies happily be escorted with a single man ( no agenda ) or is it okay as ladies can attend anyway, please discuss...

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

There was a thread on this the other day. Some do (I do but don't want him expecting just as we are company he is Deffo getting to play with me) some see it as single guys just wanting to get in cheap or on no single guys night

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

I Think women are unlikely to hook up with a guy they don't know to go to a club. Most would see that as what it probably is : a means for the guy to get into a couples night with a larger proportion of women there. Obviously it's different if you know the guy already.

Personally we don't like couples only nights. Far too much chat and horrendous logistics of finding two couples where everyone likes each other

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

from reading many posts on the subject, I get the feeling many women would prefer to go with either a couple or another female friend as a man would expect sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I guess you are right its about knowing the person you are visiting with and being confident they are not trying to get a freebie (or more!)

And as for the couple dynamic , yes that can be tricky but worth it when you find that match!

It shouldn't be so complicated

But surely there are single women who would live to try clubs with knowledge they are going to be looked after...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I guess you are right its about knowing the person you are visiting with and being confident they are not trying to get a freebie (or more!)

And as for the couple dynamic , yes that can be tricky but worth it when you find that match!

It shouldn't be so complicated

But surely there are single women who would live to try clubs with knowledge they are going to be looked after..."

i can see what youre saying...but if they don't know you well already, then they can't really have any expectation that they'll be 'looked after' surely?..seen posts on here before from women going to clubs and being completely ignored,or left stranded there once their 'escort' has got in for a cheaper price than they would have done alone..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It is those few who ruin it for the many!! It would appear that ladies would prefer to go together and not necessarily trust a guy not to want more, we let ourselves down

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By *ohohoWoman over a year ago

Up North

I have attended clubs with single guys as a couple for several reasons.

- knowledge that at least I would know one person there.

- first time club experience for the guy.

- convienent place to meet.

However it does have its down sides.

- if you arrive as a couple you must leave as a couple.

- expectations that I would play with them and just them alone.

- being left alone whilst they spent quite a long time with others.

I found it better to attend clubs in the end either alone or with someone you know really well. The staff at clubs are normally very good at looking after single women so I never felt I needed to be looked after.

OP why do you want to attend with a woman rather than by yourself?

Nerves? Cost?

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By *dores blackmenWoman over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

In 2013 I was taken to a club by a guy I met a few times locally,I was a pawn for him to meet other couples as he left me at the club,went off home without me as I dared to have a ffmm without him lol

After that day I never looked back.I got in my car and was off to many clubs and parties by myself,occasionally with a female friend

I am going to Jaydee's bbw event this friday,never been there before,got a hotel as along way,I'm happy to go by meself to pastures new,I like to be free to play with who I like

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have attended clubs with single guys as a couple for several reasons.

- knowledge that at least I would know one person there.

- first time club experience for the guy.

- convienent place to meet.

No, Nerves and cost not an issue.

I enjoy the environment and the female interaction, I don't like the view that a lot of single males are after the same thing and have always enjoyed couple nights as they feel more relaxed and you dont get beaten in a single male bullrush if a couple go in a room and leave the door open a la single male nights

However it does have its down sides.

- if you arrive as a couple you must leave as a couple.

- expectations that I would play with them and just them alone.

- being left alone whilst they spent quite a long time with others.

OP why do you want to attend with a woman rather than by yourself?

Nerves? Cost?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

And balls just posted right in the middle of your thread, still getting used to this forum lark !!!

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I let someone escort me platonically to a club recently. I have known him for ages as friends and he was too shy to go alone.

It was a nightmare, for all the reasons covered in this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love clubs, the sexiness, the openness the excitement. I have swung as a couple and a single and the couple nights are always so much more relaxed, would ladies happily be escorted with a single man ( no agenda ) or is it okay as ladies can attend anyway, please discuss...

No. I don't need an 'escort', I am perfectly capable of leaving the house alone.

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

Taking a lady who you don't already know very well doesn't seem right to me.

1st, the woman isn't actually gaining anything, she just has a random guy with her, she wouldn't gain much and could be a hindrance to her.

2nd she would naturally expect to play with whoever she wants, including on her own with couples. That would leave you as a single man on a couples night.

3rd it smacks of a single guy trying to get in on couples night. That's one thing if you are a true fb couple, but not as just 'accompanying' a woman.

I don't think it's going to fly tbh.

MrB

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Oh booooooo, I was hoping to cheer myself up on a Monday morning but would appear my escorting days will be short lived, doomed!!

I guess it's about the individual, ladies have been let down and are rightly reluctant, why are some people so complicated and some men d**ks

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No. I don't need an 'escort', I am perfectly capable of leaving the house alone."

Yes was looking for another descriptor but was considering escort in the gentlemenly way !

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By *op gooserMan over a year ago

chester

It's all relative depends on the Man and the Woman. A lot of cynical women who have been butt hurt, or people suspicious of a guys agenda. Company is nice you know, I have taken ladies to clubs and had great times you just need communication beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's all relative depends on the Man and the Woman. A lot of cynical women who have been butt hurt, or people suspicious of a guys agenda. Company is nice you know, I have taken ladies to clubs and had great times you just need communication beforehand. "

It's that predictive text again "butt hurt" you're not supporting my thread here

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By *op gooserMan over a year ago

chester

It's that predictive text again "butt hurt" you're not supporting my thread here

"
no it's an actual saying look it up and used in the right context, I am in support.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's that predictive text again "butt hurt" you're not supporting my thread here

no it's an actual saying look it up and used in the right context, I am in support."

Every day is a school day ty rock

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest I prefer going on my own plenty of people to chat to, to make me feel good and staff always looks out for me so always totally safe for single ladies talking about chams here x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yes Chams is one of the finer ones but it was also where my couple experiences fell off as a single male tried to push my gf leg apart with his foot against hers, not good

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By *MFC PartiesWoman over a year ago

Here, There & Everywhere

Read this thread with interest as i often have this conversation with potential guests

In my opinion, if someone feels that they need a 'chaperone' to attend one of our parties, then i suggest they are possibly not ready to join us

We - and every swinging venue - have experienced staff who will happily ensure that EVERY guest feels safe and comfortable

If necessary, we can even introduce them to other guests but tbh we find that our 'regulars' are pretty damn good at welcoming newbies into the fold

Custom made couples are accepted at some venues - we allow them - but we do have stipulations - you arrive together, you leave together

But i would ALWAYS advise anyone who considers 'coupling up' to look at the reasons for doing so

I also question just how well they know this person and their behaviour because if they disrespect club etiquette do they really want to be associated with them as chances are they will be judged too

Coupling up can be more hassle than its worth and i know SO MANY single ladies and single guys that have tried it and vowed NEVER to do it again!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What a great post thanks and "chaperone" is such a better terminology, need to get my thesaurus out next time!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have taken a few....never expected to play just because we went together and did it for the company as opposed to cheap entry...always go out with the intention of just having a good night and anything else is a bonus

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By *ilk_TreMan over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"I have attended clubs with single guys as a couple for several reasons.

- knowledge that at least I would know one person there.

- first time club experience for the guy.

- convienent place to meet.

However it does have its down sides.

- if you arrive as a couple you must leave as a couple.

- expectations that I would play with them and just them alone.

- being left alone whilst they spent quite a long time with others.

OP why do you want to attend with a woman rather than by yourself?

Nerves? Cost?

I've had a few women ask me to escort them to a club but I mostly decline. I prefer to go alone and I'm careful with which cart I attach my horse to as reputation is currency in this lifestyle.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

I go to clubs on my own, I don't need escorting, I'm a grown up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think you would be better going on a night where single guys are allowed and there are couples who express a desire to play with single guys... It would be quite noticeable if you attended with a women purely to play with other people, especially if you did not play with her! Not welcomed on genuine 'couples only' nights and a lot of people would not be happy!

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By *MFC PartiesWoman over a year ago

Here, There & Everywhere

" .... I prefer to go alone and I'm careful with which cart I attach my horse to as reputation is currency in this lifestyle.

Love this phrase - and you just KNOW i'm gonna steal it!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Think you would be better going on a night where single guys are allowed and there are couples who express a desire to play with single guys... It would be quite noticeable if you attended with a women purely to play with other people, especially if you did not play with her! Not welcomed on genuine 'couples only' nights and a lot of people would not be happy! "

Yeah, this too.

Occasionally I've got the feeling that my partner and I aren't welcome at some couples nights because we don't live together and we also have other partners - which means we're not a 'genuine' couple.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
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My Own Little World

Nope.

I wouldn't get I a car and drive miles to a club with a guy I don't know. And what guarantee would I have that I would get a ride back home, not dumped in a club, miles from home in the middle of the night with no way back, after he had got in on the cheap and emptied his balls.

Safety first

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a man doesn't have the balls to walk into a club alone then he isn't much of a man...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Jeez, this thread was more about whether ladies would enjoy being "chaperoned" (which i agree is now the best description ) and whether they would enjoy company, somehow its developed into men trying to get in on the cheap and blokes being unreliable, all good discussion though which I guess is what a forum us about!

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I only attend as a couple with someone if I have an existing and ongoing friendship with them. Anything else is often just a ticket. Plus I prefer guys with the balls to go alone, so many can't or won't!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks softie, I think the relationship is key which leads to the trust and then the further enjoyment of the lifestyle, it is apparent that a number of ladies have been let down but also that clubs support them, I must admit every club I have visited as a single I have always been made to feel very welcome

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"Thanks softie, I think the relationship is key which leads to the trust and then the further enjoyment of the lifestyle, it is apparent that a number of ladies have been let down but also that clubs support them, I must admit every club I have visited as a single I have always been made to feel very welcome

If guys understood that it's the relationship comes first if you want repeat club visits as a couple many more would have these opportunities. They miss it though I think. I get first messages asking to be a club buddy without even finding out anything about me or if we get on. Very strange

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By *ohohoWoman over a year ago

Up North

I've had a few women ask me to escort them to a club but I mostly decline. I prefer to go alone and I'm careful with which cart I attach my horse to as reputation is currency in this lifestyle.

You are so right!

The last single guy I went to a club with apparently broke into some lockers whilst I was busy. They caught him on camera. I only found out much later by someone who worked at the club. Luckily I wasn't tarred with the same brush. But it could have easily meant a ban for me as well.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

I do like to be chaperoned but not just by anybody but I'm fine going to a club on my own if I know there will be people I know in there.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"Jeez, this thread was more about whether ladies would enjoy being "chaperoned" (which i agree is now the best description ) and whether they would enjoy company, somehow its developed into men trying to get in on the cheap and blokes being unreliable, all good discussion though which I guess is what a forum us about!"

The problem is guys position it as one thing but often is the other

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

Would they have to join the club as a couple membership? Not sure about rules for two singles going in as a 'couple'?

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By *ohohoWoman over a year ago

Up North

"Would they have to join the club as a couple membership? Not sure about rules for two singles going in as a 'couple'?"

Not every club needs couples to join as a member.

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

"Would they have to join the club as a couple membership? Not sure about rules for two singles going in as a 'couple'?

Not every club needs couples to join as a member. "

True. We've been to one and just entered as non-members (doh !)

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple over a year ago

Edinburgh.

Nothing worse than a single guy at a couples night. They are without exception a pain in the ass. If they are sleekit enough to get in on a woman's coat tails they will be a pest in the club.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only go to clubs with guys I know well. I prefer to attend solo or with some girlfriends.

My reason for not wanting to go to a club with a fella I don't know well is about reputation - if the guy disappears off and acts like an idiot (wanky behaviour, following, gets d*unk and lairy, whatever really) that will impact on my reputation. I don't want to compromise my relationship with the club owners or staffjust because the guy is being a dick.

I like confident guys who will say "see you at the club" and actually turn up - not the endless stream of guys that want handholding.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I only go to clubs with guys I know well. I prefer to attend solo or with some girlfriends.

I like confident guys who will say "see you at the club" and actually turn up - not the endless stream of guys that want handholding. "

Abso-fucking-lutely

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By *ilk_TreMan over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"I only go to clubs with guys I know well. I prefer to attend solo or with some girlfriends.

I like confident guys who will say "see you at the club" and actually turn up - not the endless stream of guys that want handholding. "

QFT!

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By *ilk_TreMan over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

" .... I prefer to go alone and I'm careful with which cart I attach my horse to as reputation is currency in this lifestyle.

Love this phrase - and you just KNOW i'm gonna steal it!!

Or you could do the decent thing and pay the...er...royalties...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I Think women are unlikely to hook up with a guy they don't know to go to a club. Most would see that as what it probably is : a means for the guy to get into a couples night with a larger proportion of women there. Obviously it's different if you know the guy already.

Personally we don't like couples only nights. Far too much chat and horrendous logistics of finding two couples where everyone likes each other

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plenty of women do. When I first meet Mr.. he was bringing different women every week to club's and rarely played. In fact one week he escorted 3.. I was working at the club at the time..

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By *ohohoWoman over a year ago

Up North

"Nothing worse than a single guy at a couples night. They are without exception a pain in the ass. If they are sleekit enough to get in on a woman's coat tails they will be a pest in the club. "

To be fair to single guys though I have always found the men who are part of a couple worse.

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By *op gooserMan over a year ago

chester

"Nothing worse than a single guy at a couples night. They are without exception a pain in the ass. If they are sleekit enough to get in on a woman's coat tails they will be a pest in the club. "
I wonder which part of the couple posted this

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

I only meet single men at clubs.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

I only meet single men at clubs. "

Ooops, that should read, at clubs, I only meet single men.

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple over a year ago

Edinburgh.

We are parts. How nice.

just what we have seen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I guess you are right its about knowing the person you are visiting with and being confident they are not trying to get a freebie (or more!)

And as for the couple dynamic , yes that can be tricky but worth it when you find that match!

It shouldn't be so complicated

But surely there are single women who would live to try clubs with knowledge they are going to be looked after..."

I have been attending clubs as a single lady regularly over the past few years when my husband is not able to come out ...... the management of the clubs look after us ladies very well, I have never felt the need for an escort.....Single blokes should pay their entrance fee and enjoy the fun! Xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have always thought that clubs should try single nights for a change x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I suppose the real question is - is it the women who need chaperoning, or is it you?

Because I see no reason why you'd want to go to a club with a stranger, unless you didn't have the confidence to go on your own.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

More than comfortable enough going on my own and based on comments on my thread escorting a lady would not be needed or wanted, either my the female population or the couple community. Going to start a simpler thread tomorrow of "how to solve 3rd world debt"

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple over a year ago

Edinburgh.

"More than comfortable enough going on my own and based on comments on my thread escorting a lady would not be needed or wanted, either my the female population or the couple community. Going to start a simpler thread tomorrow of "how to solve 3rd world debt" "
thing is if you are a decent guy you won't see the issue with it. You just have to go in and see a plonker like the ones we described in action and you will get why it's a no no. As is typical, people spoil what should be cool.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Nail on head, my original post was about the fact the vibe on couples night is more enjoyable, will settle on a good local club, cupids or armour and build up my friendships

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You got to be careful cowboy, play your cards wrong and you are one lady friend down. They are certainly more jealous and possessive than they let on

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You got to be careful cowboy, play your cards wrong and you are one lady friend down. They are certainly more jealous and possessive than they let on

Love it, never been called cowboy before could be my new handle!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Done this a few times....but only with/for ladies I already knew/had met/friends.

It just sounds odd/needy for it to be done with a stranger.

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By *imon and saffyCouple over a year ago

southampton

As others have said it's not a good idea.

If you were two singles who were going to play as a couple then that's fine. If not then issues start, it's a couples night because couples want to play with couples, a single man wanting to play on his own might be accepted by some but is likely to annoy loads of others.

Find a single woman that wants to play as a couple and you've cracked it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nail on head, my original post was about the fact the vibe on couples night is more enjoyable, will settle on a good local club, cupids or armour and build up my friendships"

You're not a couple - therefore you wouldn't be welcome at a couples night.

If all the couples at a couples night were just men chaperoning women, then it would just be a singles night.

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By *ilk_TreMan over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Done this a few times....but only with/for ladies I already knew/had met/friends.

It just sounds odd/needy for it to be done with a stranger."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Read this thread with interest as i often have this conversation with potential guests

In my opinion, if someone feels that they need a 'chaperone' to attend one of our parties, then i suggest they are possibly not ready to join us

We - and every swinging venue - have experienced staff who will happily ensure that EVERY guest feels safe and comfortable

If necessary, we can even introduce them to other guests but tbh we find that our 'regulars' are pretty damn good at welcoming newbies into the fold

Custom made couples are accepted at some venues - we allow them - but we do have stipulations - you arrive together, you leave together

But i would ALWAYS advise anyone who considers 'coupling up' to look at the reasons for doing so

I also question just how well they know this person and their behaviour because if they disrespect club etiquette do they really want to be associated with them as chances are they will be judged too

Coupling up can be more hassle than its worth and i know SO MANY single ladies and single guys that have tried it and vowed NEVER to do it again!

Interesting thread and I enjoyed reading this post because 'regulars' at BMFC have been trying to welcome me into the community for years

Apparently I will fit in

Heard only good things about BMFC from my friends, but I am a shy newbie so not been yet

@ all the single men:

I will come back in here later and share my opinions/experience on this topic because some things need to be said...

Don't panic guys I got your back!

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By *MFC PartiesWoman over a year ago

Here, There & Everywhere

Interesting thread and I enjoyed reading this post because 'regulars' at BMFC have been trying to welcome me into the community for years

Apparently I will fit in

Heard only good things about BMFC from my friends, but I am a shy newbie so not been yet

@ all the single men:

I will come back in here later and share my opinions/experience on this topic because some things need to be said...

Don't panic guys I got your back!"

I KNOW that you will fit in too, but as we discussed at great length my procedures are in place because they work ...

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By *eady and Willing 9Man over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Personally we don't like couples only nights. Far too much chat and horrendous logistics of finding two couples where everyone likes each other

Here here

. It's a lot harder to please 4 people as opposed to only 2.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Interesting thread and I enjoyed reading this post because 'regulars' at BMFC have been trying to welcome me into the community for years

Apparently I will fit in

Heard only good things about BMFC from my friends, but I am a shy newbie so not been yet

@ all the single men:

I will come back in here later and share my opinions/experience on this topic because some things need to be said...

Don't panic guys I got your back!

I KNOW that you will fit in too, but as we discussed at great length my procedures are in place because they work ...

Ha ha you remember our conversations Helen! That was a long time ago

I knew from our phone call I belong at BMFC because your events all over the UK produce maximum pleasure for compatible people. Your procedures do work, but...

I am stubborn as fuck and this usually helps me in sticky situations and my procedures work for me. I have to admit in this situation being stubborn is my downfall and my friends remind me all the time.

Or...

What if I already been to BMFC under the radar? Snuck in through the back door

Only messing! I have not been, but one day the temptation will get the better of me

Right, going to start a new post back on the topic of this thread because it is important.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Some clubs wouldn't allow you in as a couple when you're not one

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"Some clubs wouldn't allow you in as a couple when you're not one "

How would they know though?

There are different types of couples,

how do people know who are real and who aren't? I'm not talking about the ones who leave the other half although I do know married couples who do do that so even that isn't a real indication.

I can never tell.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Here it goes...

I am single and have been since I joined Fab.

Single men:

Yes we already know some guys may have hidden motives, agenda, can be jealous and possessive. They can also be rude, abusive and numpties at times! This has been mentioned a million times. I admit have made minor errors in the past, which could have been avoided. I am a quick learner so don't repeat silly mistakes.

However...

I have been lucky enough to travel all around UK and go to some of the most well known clubs as a single and with female friends. Never had a negative experience and always been fun for everyone involved.

I have been to clubs with women who never met me before. Not like met them in the club... literally met them on the day and off we went to club together. Cheeky I know I love it

Here is an example:

Chatting to a woman on here 2 years ago... she said a few guys taken her to clubs and she did not enjoy it at all because they would get jelous when she got attention from other men. She had enough... so she said no matter what I say it will be too good to be true.

But somehow she trusted me and I explained the dynamics to her. We are not a couple nor do I expect anything in return. I took her on a Friday night where single men are allowed (yes I am brave!!) Everything I told her about the dynamics between us remained the same once we went into the club. She had no restrictions because I don't like restrictions on me...

She was soo happy that night we continued to go to clubs together when we could. Both as singles, but have fun bouncing off of each other.

After the 5th/6th club together I had arranged to attend a club with another female friend... she found out and switched! Just random, saying 'Why are you going to club without me' Eek

So those conversations progressed and was not fun anymore. Friendship had ended.

Fastforward 2 years similar situations have occured where it all starts great then the women prehaps not intentionally alter the dynamics of friendship where they can have fun, but I had restrictions on me

So guys...

I totally understand having been through certain situations that women are just as bad. In fact soo many women tell me and admit they are a lot worse when it comes to being jealous and possessive. It is what it is and we are all humans with emotions.

In reality women agree, but on Fab sometimes it comes across as men are the issue most of the time. That is not true and accurate

It is easy to say in general terms men or women this and that... what is right or wrong. It comes down to how compatible the single individuals are and honest communication is the key for long lasting friendships.

I know soo many singles who come together and have amazing time at clubs. Don't be put off... just be sensible, take safety measures and no always means no.

I agree with the policy:

'If you come together you leave together'

This protects men and women. The amount of times I been in a club and guys have told me they came with a woman and she ditched him as soon as they got in club

she found another guy or couple and went off!

Over the years soo many women have said to me oh I need a lift to a club and can you pay the entrance fee and buy the drinks... er no! Guys there are always tell tell signs if a woman is going to use you. I know the temptation is difficult to resist, she looks hot and you just want to stand next to her for 5 seconds, but please don't put yourself in that position.

It has been an awesome Fab rollercoaster soo far and I have enjoyed learning soo much on my journey. I look forward to making many more friends with substance.

If you managed to read this whole post... bloody hell you love reading

Have fun and be safe everyone!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Great balanced post Adam, I started to get bored of my own thread as I was being told I was strange to start this discussion and have no confidence to go to a club, both incorrect !

I also saw a meet in the North today by a lady who wanted to be escorted to cupids, was so tempted to offer to show how enjoyable it could be but that was a game I didnt want to play as it didn't feel right.

I will continue with my journey of the lifestyle and I am sure I will meet positive and negative people of all different sex, background, etc, etc.

I am just happy I don't live in banbury!

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By *op gooserMan over a year ago

chester

"Great balanced post Adam, I started to get bored of my own thread as I was being told I was strange to start this discussion and have no confidence to go to a club, both incorrect !

I will continue with my journey of the lifestyle and I am sure I will meet positive and negative people of all different sex, background, etc, etc.

I am just happy I don't live in banbury!"
Don't listen to the majority of people on the forum. Cynical armchair swingers a lot of them and Militant feminists as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Some clubs wouldn't allow you in as a couple when you're not one

How would they know though?

There are different types of couples,

how do people know who are real and who aren't? I'm not talking about the ones who leave the other half although I do know married couples who do do that so even that isn't a real indication.

I can never tell.

Let's go and party at chams kailey, I will treat you like a lady and entertain you (non-sexually) with some great northern humour!!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Its not cynicism if its true.

I have been to clubs with men and woman, and in a huge group of people. I have experienced both the man ditching me once we're through the door, and the man who clung to me all night, audibly growling if anyone dared to venture near. I have also experienced men who have been excellent fun, and so I visited clubs with them again.

However, I find it easier and more relaxing to go to clubs with women as there is no chance of there being any misunderstandings, or groups where we can all have a laugh, but nip off for a quick knee trembler or two during the evening.

Each to their own. OP, you might struggle, but you might meet 'the one' and get a successful club buddy. No reason to not try at least.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am just happy I don't live in banbury!"

Yeah, it's a very economically deprived area. It's not a great place to live because of that.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

I've been with a few men who were newbies and scared. I don't play at clubs so there was no expectation from them.

I did end up doing stuff at home with one of them later and seeing another for 18 months.

But they were all perfect gentlemen at the club

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nail on head, my original post was about the fact the vibe on couples night is more enjoyable, will settle on a good local club, cupids or armour and build up my friendships

You're not a couple - therefore you wouldn't be welcome at a couples night.

If all the couples at a couples night were just men chaperoning women, then it would just be a singles night."
as long as you go as a couple. There most clubs would let you in. I know many single ladies that take new gentlemen to clubs as a couple

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By *arksidesubCouple over a year ago

not far from you..

...I have nobody to go with & very much enjoy clubs (especially La chambre) as I know this club well. Would love to get to know a female /couple non pushy, who I could attend with.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"Some clubs wouldn't allow you in as a couple when you're not one

How would they know though?

There are different types of couples,

how do people know who are real and who aren't? I'm not talking about the ones who leave the other half although I do know married couples who do do that so even that isn't a real indication.

I can never tell.

Let's go and party at chams kailey, I will treat you like a lady and entertain you (non-sexually) with some great northern humour!!!

Your not using me to get in on a Saturday mate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't need a chaperone, I'm a big girl now.

I would be pretty uncomfortable taking a single bloke to a couples night as it disingenuous and disrespectful to the club and other guests.

I don't go on my own to couples nights, why should you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Some clubs wouldn't allow you in as a couple when you're not one

How would they know though?

There are different types of couples,

how do people know who are real and who aren't? I'm not talking about the ones who leave the other half although I do know married couples who do do that so even that isn't a real indication.

I can never tell.

Let's go and party at chams kailey, I will treat you like a lady and entertain you (non-sexually) with some great northern humour!!!

Your not using me to get in on a Saturday mate

Can't do Saturday, I'm in Amsterdam, havent you read my status ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"...I have nobody to go with & very much enjoy clubs (especially La chambre) as I know this club well. Would love to get to know a female /couple non pushy, who I could attend with.

Using this thread to shamelessly promote

the offers will be rolling in

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Its not cynicism if its true.

Each to their own. OP, you might struggle, but you might meet 'the one' and get a successful club buddy. No reason to not try at least."

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By *arksidesubCouple over a year ago

not far from you..

"...I have nobody to go with & very much enjoy clubs (especially La chambre) as I know this club well. Would love to get to know a female /couple non pushy, who I could attend with.

Using this thread to shamelessly promote

the offers will be rolling in

If you don't ask...you don't get!

One can try

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"...I have nobody to go with & very much enjoy clubs (especially La chambre) as I know this club well. Would love to get to know a female /couple non pushy, who I could attend with.

Using this thread to shamelessly promote

the offers will be rolling in

If you don't ask...you don't get!

One can try

I'm sure you will get

if you are ever in the Manchester area or need help from the man with the tiger pouch then just holler

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Some clubs wouldn't allow you in as a couple when you're not one

How would they know though?

There are different types of couples,

how do people know who are real and who aren't? I'm not talking about the ones who leave the other half although I do know married couples who do do that so even that isn't a real indication.

I can never tell.

It's a vibe you get. I can often tell on sheer body language alone.

It's hard to explain but Genuine (for lack of a better word) couples have a natural chemistry and relaxed vibe with each other that FB couples or escorting couples don't.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"Some clubs wouldn't allow you in as a couple when you're not one

How would they know though?

There are different types of couples,

how do people know who are real and who aren't? I'm not talking about the ones who leave the other half although I do know married couples who do do that so even that isn't a real indication.

I can never tell.

Let's go and party at chams kailey, I will treat you like a lady and entertain you (non-sexually) with some great northern humour!!!

Your not using me to get in on a Saturday mate

Can't do Saturday, I'm in Amsterdam, havent you read my status ?

I said on "a" Saturday not this Saturday, haven't you read my post?

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"Some clubs wouldn't allow you in as a couple when you're not one

How would they know though?

There are different types of couples,

how do people know who are real and who aren't? I'm not talking about the ones who leave the other half although I do know married couples who do do that so even that isn't a real indication.

I can never tell.

It's a vibe you get. I can often tell on sheer body language alone.

It's hard to explain but Genuine (for lack of a better word) couples have a natural chemistry and relaxed vibe with each other that FB couples or escorting couples don't.

I'm glad you can tell, I'm gonna start starring at couples now when out at clubs lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some clubs wouldn't allow you in as a couple when you're not one

How would they know though?

There are different types of couples,

how do people know who are real and who aren't? I'm not talking about the ones who leave the other half although I do know married couples who do do that so even that isn't a real indication.

I can never tell.

It's a vibe you get. I can often tell on sheer body language alone.

It's hard to explain but Genuine (for lack of a better word) couples have a natural chemistry and relaxed vibe with each other that FB couples or escorting couples don't.

"
I disagree... quite a lot of play couple's seem to have better chemistry and more relaxed body language than many "proper" couples. Not all but definitely we have found this to be the case. And ive only been had a go at by couples from real couples.

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By *he PlaygroundsCouple over a year ago

Somewhere Over The Rainbow