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HELP! Single girl new to swinging wanting to try out a club for the first time...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi guys, for a while now i've been toying with the thought of going to a swingers club, i'm new to the swing scene and i'm pretty nervous! As a single female I just wondered if anyone had any advice on which clubs are the best? What do you wear, things like that? Any help would be appreciated ha   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
You've got a choice of two nearby - Quest in Leeds or La Chambre in Sheffield. If you don't mind travelling there's several in the Manchester area.
Most clubs are a non-obligatory place to get to know people in a safe atmosphere and location. Most clubs have a lounge area, private rooms, a couple of public rooms. Some have a cinema and/or a wet area (hot tub, sauna etc etc). Its good to chat in the lounge then if you decide to take things further go to a room.
I usually wear a dress that's easy to remove and put back on. Some women like to wear lingerie, or go dressed up then move to lingerie later. If its a wet club you might find it easier to change into a towel. Clubs have lockers for your valuables.
have a look at the clubs page on here for all the clubs and their reviews, but don't assume the reviews are all true. Like Trip Advisor, its best to make up your own mind. |
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I've been to la chambre, attic and chameleons and I like all those.
Each club as their own dress codes so it's best to check their websites on that one
La chambre is a nice one for a first timer as it's got a very relaxed pub type feel and the staff are lovely for taking you on a tour and introducing you to other etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sure you will be more than welcome at any club, whichever club you choose make sure you check their events or calendar to make sure it is a night you are interested in and that you're not going to turn up on BDSM night or whatever if that's not your thing.
Clubs have different dress codes some are dressed until a certain time, some only require you to undress in certain areas and some want you dressed down straight away. For dressed up we usually go in nice clothes the kind we would wear on a night out when we dress down I usually wear a babydoll, basque, corset or just knickers and a bra. Some people just wear a towel.
We like Townhouse and travel a fair way to get to it because we think it's worth it but we have also been to Partners, Cupids and Infusions and while we haven't always had a great night we've never been to a bad club. They're all welcoming and have good facilities. |
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
The North / Party Hard Everywhere |
I can recommend quest. Wear something sexy or if normal have something underneath or to change into once you're there. Most clubs have lockers so if you're not sure you can take stuff with you.
I'll be there tonight with another lady if you need a hand to hold for a little while |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy."
Rather disingenerous statement, "they all have there own agenda for offering"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy.
Rather disingenerous statement, "they all have there own agenda for offering" "
Don't they?? Very naive if you think they don't. Yes I stand by my statement. My experience of my years on the scene. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy.
Rather disingenerous statement, "they all have there own agenda for offering"
Don't they?? Very naive if you think they don't. Yes I stand by my statement. My experience of my years on the scene. "
It's the "all" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy.
Rather disingenerous statement, "they all have there own agenda for offering"
Don't they?? Very naive if you think they don't. Yes I stand by my statement. My experience of my years on the scene. "
It's the "all" we are not naive at all, we are aware of some people's agendas from the single lady luring people to clubs all the way to couples who bareback, many have agendas, many don't.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy.
Rather disingenerous statement, "they all have there own agenda for offering"
Don't they?? Very naive if you think they don't. Yes I stand by my statement. My experience of my years on the scene. "
I agree with you. They do have their own agenda...doesn't necessarily mean it's a negative one but still. You do have to choose carefully. |
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Wow....not all of us single men are that bad 
Anyway to the OP you are best going either alone or other girls. But ones that you get along with.
Simply put you are going to a naughty nightclub. go and enjoy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy.
Rather disingenerous statement, "they all have there own agenda for offering"
Don't they?? Very naive if you think they don't. Yes I stand by my statement. My experience of my years on the scene.
It's the "all" we are not naive at all, we are aware of some people's agendas from the single lady luring people to clubs all the way to couples who bareback, many have agendas, many don't...."
Yes all have agendas. Not necessary a bad one but all will be offering for for agenda, whatever that is. To believe otherwise is naive. This is a sex site. We are all here for what we can get not to be kind to others. As a new single fem this is even more important to bare in mind. If you agenda fits there's then great. If not then you will be used and taken advantage of. For some couples it maybe different. Tho couples having different agendas is something I could right a book about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy."
Yes be careful all the men on here are evil personified
Anyway to the OP whatever club you go to I hope you have a great time. I have my own agenda in saying this though don't forget |
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When you go for the first time get a lady friend to go with you and just relax and meet people without the pressure of playing . Watch others and relax . When you meet some one nice to play with you will know when to start to play . Good luck to you and hope you enjoy yourself . |
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy.
Yes be careful all the men on here are evil personified "
This was posted by a Bi-female to another newbie Bi-female So I guess she just wants to keep her for herself.
Oh the irony! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm taking a lady to a club for her first time tonight. I have no agenda other than enjoying her company and doing something we will both find a big turn on.
If we weren't going to a club we would be fucking in a hotel, nobody is being used and I don't see how it is anything other than two friends doing something they will enjoy together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy.
Yes be careful all the men on here are evil personified
This was posted by a Bi-female to another newbie Bi-female So I guess she just wants to keep her for herself.
Oh the irony!"
Yeh cos I don't know enough bi fems ffs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The general thing I wear to clubs is a nice going out dress and sometimes I wear more daring dresses I wouldn't wear in public. After we have had our first play I tend to dress down into any kind of lingerie i.e. Simple underwear, stockings and suspenders etc or a nice body stocking or any of those small outfits from Ann summers.
H xx |
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy.
Yes be careful all the men on here are evil personified
This was posted by a Bi-female to another newbie Bi-female So I guess she just wants to keep her for herself.
Oh the irony!
Yeh cos I don't know enough bi fems ffs "
High 5 there gal, like me you've been around long enough to know the 'offers' we get for club nights and I personally am very comfortable to go to a club alone rather than be used as cheap entry fee!! OP if you'd like help and advice please feel free to message me and if you want to go to a club and would like someone to go with then I'm more than happy to hold you're hand |
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy."
Sssshhh no single guys will be able to bring some sand to the beach or swap their shiny football sticker again  It is all relative depends on the Lady and the guy, some women take advantage of men. I have seen women saying 'Pick me up take me a club, drop me home' etc then when they go in the club they don't even play with the guy who took them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy. Sssshhh no single guys will be able to bring some sand to the beach or swap their shiny football sticker again It is all relative depends on the Lady and the guy, some women take advantage of men. I have seen women saying 'Pick me up take me a club, drop me home' etc then when they go in the club they don't even play with the guy who took them. "
Aww so who was using who? The fella expected a fuck for driving. Why not just hire an an Escort? |
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy. Sssshhh no single guys will be able to bring some sand to the beach or swap their shiny football sticker again It is all relative depends on the Lady and the guy, some women take advantage of men. I have seen women saying 'Pick me up take me a club, drop me home' etc then when they go in the club they don't even play with the guy who took them.
Aww so who was using who? The fella expected a fuck for driving. Why not just hire an an Escort?"
Escorts are expensive to start and some people wanna have sex with people who want to have sex with them too as well. I'm not sure perhaps a both using each other who knows. You can't just say all men are bad though even though you may think it, that is my point. A lot of women want company or aren't as brave as others. Some clubs you can't really buddy up because of rules and they tend to get more single women because of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy. Sssshhh no single guys will be able to bring some sand to the beach or swap their shiny football sticker again It is all relative depends on the Lady and the guy, some women take advantage of men. I have seen women saying 'Pick me up take me a club, drop me home' etc then when they go in the club they don't even play with the guy who took them.
Aww so who was using who? The fella expected a fuck for driving. Why not just hire an an Escort? Escorts are expensive to start and some people wanna have sex with people who want to have sex with them too as well. I'm not sure perhaps a both using each other who knows. You can't just say all men are bad though even though you may think it, that is my point. A lot of women want company or aren't as brave as others. Some clubs you can't really buddy up because of rules and they tend to get more single women because of it. "
Where did I say all men are bad. I said they have an agenda. Not that they are bad. |
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy. Sssshhh no single guys will be able to bring some sand to the beach or swap their shiny football sticker again It is all relative depends on the Lady and the guy, some women take advantage of men. I have seen women saying 'Pick me up take me a club, drop me home' etc then when they go in the club they don't even play with the guy who took them.
Aww so who was using who? The fella expected a fuck for driving. Why not just hire an an Escort? Escorts are expensive to start and some people wanna have sex with people who want to have sex with them too as well. I'm not sure perhaps a both using each other who knows. You can't just say all men are bad though even though you may think it, that is my point. A lot of women want company or aren't as brave as others. Some clubs you can't really buddy up because of rules and they tend to get more single women because of it.
Where did I say all men are bad. I said they have an agenda. Not that they are bad."
Well bad agenda's then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy. Sssshhh no single guys will be able to bring some sand to the beach or swap their shiny football sticker again It is all relative depends on the Lady and the guy, some women take advantage of men. I have seen women saying 'Pick me up take me a club, drop me home' etc then when they go in the club they don't even play with the guy who took them.
Aww so who was using who? The fella expected a fuck for driving. Why not just hire an an Escort? Escorts are expensive to start and some people wanna have sex with people who want to have sex with them too as well. I'm not sure perhaps a both using each other who knows. You can't just say all men are bad though even though you may think it, that is my point. A lot of women want company or aren't as brave as others. Some clubs you can't really buddy up because of rules and they tend to get more single women because of it.
Where did I say all men are bad. I said they have an agenda. Not that they are bad. Well bad agenda's then. "
Where did I say bad agendas? You said bad agendas not me. I saud their agenda. |
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By *issVeryWoman
over a year ago
streatham |
"Hi guys, for a while now i've been toying with the thought of going to a swingers club, i'm new to the swing scene and i'm pretty nervous! As a single female I just wondered if anyone had any advice on which clubs are the best? What do you wear, things like that? Any help would be appreciated ha "
Oh gosh! This question was my first dip into the swinging world 5 years ago..I was so curious to go to a club and wondered how it would work as a single gal. I said to myself, I'm just going to join the site(not fab), ask this question and definitely delete my profile afterwards...aaaah 
If you are ever in London and want a couple of friendly females to take you along pm me 
Wherever you choose though, I am sure you will be looked after! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure men would want to go with a single woman to a club to get in cheap lol........someones dreaming."
You are joking right?! If I had £1 for each time!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It might be a good idea to arrange a meet with another single female n go together or even a couple for your first visit if nothing else it would give you security n some talk too x "
Think that's what i'm going to try to do thank you xx |
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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm taking a lady to a club for her first time tonight. I have no agenda other than enjoying her company and doing something we will both find a big turn on.
If we weren't going to a club we would be fucking in a hotel, nobody is being used and I don't see how it is anything other than two friends doing something they will enjoy together."
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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago
Birstall, Leicester |
"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy."
Wise words |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Hi guys, for a while now i've been toying with the thought of going to a swingers club, i'm new to the swing scene and i'm pretty nervous! As a single female I just wondered if anyone had any advice on which clubs are the best? What do you wear, things like that? Any help would be appreciated ha "
Let me know if you're ever round my way, you could come with me, I've got a group of friends, some single women, some men and some couples, you'd be more than welcome to join us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy."
Some of us are just nice. I cant imagine how intimadating it must be to go alone the first time as a single female. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After reading the entire thread I have to stick up for strawberry here. Shes right everyone has an agenda. Mine is to meet friends so I dont feel like I stick out like a sore thumb. Single males will stalk, will try to get in cheap, will expect sex.
We are not all like that but a big % are. Hope OP had fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's a friend of mine on here who takes single girls out to clubs and looks after them and makes sure they have a good time but are still comfortable. They've all had fantastic nights and his verifications speak for themselves.
If OP ever wants to try a new place out then either me or him are your men, we pick up and drop off or accommodate too. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy."
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"You will be inundated with 'kind' offers from single men to take you hun. Be very careful they all have their own agenda for offering (to get in cheaper, use you as bait, cos they don't have the balls to go alone etc etc).
Best to do your research and pick a good club that is female friendly. Tell them you are new and they will look after you. Enjoy.
Yes be careful all the men on here are evil personified
This was posted by a Bi-female to another newbie Bi-female So I guess she just wants to keep her for herself.
Oh the irony!
Yeh cos I don't know enough bi fems ffs
High 5 there gal, like me you've been around long enough to know the 'offers' we get for club nights and I personally am very comfortable to go to a club alone rather than be used as cheap entry fee!! OP if you'd like help and advice please feel free to message me and if you want to go to a club and would like someone to go with then I'm more than happy to hold you're hand"
There are so many kind men here who have offered to take me to clubs and pay for my entrance. Even 'pay' for my entrance to clubs which are FREE for me to enter |
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By *aggersMan
over a year ago
portsmouth |
There's a social in lincoln this weekend look up lincoln social in the forums that would be a great way to start it's just drinks with likeminded people and you'll get loads of advice from the couples that are going .. le chambre is supposed to be good in Sheffield that's near you
Welcome to fab you'll have a great time like one of the previous posts though just be wary of the guys you meet tho they do have they're own agenda look at they're veri's
Hope this helps
Happy swinging |
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By *aggersMan
over a year ago
portsmouth |
"There's a social in lincoln this weekend look up lincoln social in the forums that would be a great way to start it's just drinks with likeminded people and you'll get loads of advice from the couples that are going .. le chambre is supposed to be good in Sheffield that's near you
Welcome to fab you'll have a great time like one of the previous posts though just be wary of the guys you meet tho they do have they're own agenda look at they're veri's
Hope this helps
Happy swinging "
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/meets/600816 |
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By *xijenWoman
over a year ago
manchester |
i go to clubs on my own(my choice)been to most northwest clubs and never had a problem at any.as a single female am always well looked after by some very nice people and made quite a few wonderful friends. |
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By *xijenWoman
over a year ago
manchester |
"i go to clubs on my own(my choice)been to most northwest clubs and never had a problem at any.as a single female am always well looked after by some very nice people and made quite a few wonderful friends. "
ps if your ever in the northwest and want someone to hold your hand am here ,in a friendly way that is lol |
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