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So here's my story, been on here a long time as you can see, proved myself as a genuine and decent guy I'd say.
Always thought about possibly attending a club one day, but been apprehensive. Cut a long story short, arranged to meet a female friend there, I was running late so she arrived before me, she went into Townhouse, and explained I would be there shortly to meet her. Staff said basically, No, he can't come in, simple as that, where not interested in listening to the situation, and just basically unfriendly, so basically, thanks Townhouse, thanks a lot, she then called me to say turn around don't come obviously it's not worth it they won't let you in etc etc, so I turned around went home. Basically ruined our night, and perception of "clubs" which I will never try again probably and maybe unfortunately, thanks for representing the scene so well, great job....Not. |
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If you wanted to go in as a couple, you need to arrive as a couple. If you are a single guy, you need to go on a Wednesday evening first or an event where it doesn't limit single guys. It's all on their website. Simples! |
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Tonight is a private party.
The hosts specifically stipulate on their forum thread m.fabswingers.com/forum/events/594924 that you need a townhouse couples membership OR an established and verified couples profile here on fab with the person you want to come in with of which you have neither.
A bit of reading around the event, a private message or a phone call would have cleared this up.
You are a single guy trying to get into a couples party.
The lady who you wanted to come in with only spoke to you for the first time recently and didn't even know your Fab name.
Sorry but you really should do your homework before trying to get into an event. |
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over a year ago
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It's couples and single ladies night so no single men and if you were attending together you would have to have a couple membership townhouse are very strict on single guys and if your not a member then as stated you would have to attend on a Wednesday but slating the club is pointless as it great club and the staff there would of explained the situation |
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When I would of arrived there, say 15 minutes later, we would of been a couple, going to try out a club, just would of thought that it may of been a good idea to let me get there, maybe see I'm friendly, genuine, maybe check my profile, that kind of thing, maybe make an informed decision from there maybe, everyone deals with things differently though I suppose. |
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"It's couples and single ladies night so no single men and if you were attending together you would have to have a couple membership townhouse are very strict on single guys and if your not a member then as stated you would have to attend on a Wednesday but slating the club is pointless as it great club and the staff there would of explained the situation "
hey how are you what have you been upto lately hope your ok message me
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I wouldn't be a single guy turning up to a club though would I, I was meeting her there, as a couple trying out the club scene. I'm not so much slating the club, or not meant to be, I'm just stating what happened to us tonight as my experience. |
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"When I would of arrived there, say 15 minutes later, we would of been a couple, going to try out a club, just would of thought that it may of been a good idea to let me get there, maybe see I'm friendly, genuine, maybe check my profile, that kind of thing, maybe make an informed decision from there maybe, everyone deals with things differently though I suppose."
Why should a club have to do that for all the guys wanting to get in, I have been many times to townhouse and my number one club in the UK by far, however I couldn't get in tonight if u wanted to as I don't meet the party rules, I'd say give them another try on a newbies night, the staff are the best staff i know at any club (swinger or not) and they will be more than accommodating |
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The lady who you were trying to gain entry with is well known to us and a single lady...not a couple.
The hosts are specific about what constitutes a couple and if you would have arrived together you still would not have gained entry because 1/ you were not booked in and 2/ you are not a couple on a couples night.
Like I said, a bit of homework into the club and the event could have avoided any upset and inconvenience |
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"I wouldn't be a single guy turning up to a club though would I, I was meeting her there, as a couple trying out the club scene. I'm not so much slating the club, or not meant to be, I'm just stating what happened to us tonight as my experience."
That's not a registered couple on here, or one of townhouse (I am one with my partner) but unfortunately it's against the themed nights rules |
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"I wouldn't be a single guy turning up to a club though would I, I was meeting her there, as a couple trying out the club scene. I'm not so much slating the club, or not meant to be, I'm just stating what happened to us tonight as my experience."
would you have been on the guest list as a couple |
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"Like I've said though we would be a couple trying out the club scene wouldn't we.
Thanks for the advice though.
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You would of been a single guy and a single girl sharing the cost of entry or cheaper for single guy, still not a couple unless you have an MF profile on here
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"When I would of arrived there, say 15 minutes later, we would of been a couple, going to try out a club, just would of thought that it may of been a good idea to let me get there, maybe see I'm friendly, genuine, maybe check my profile, that kind of thing, maybe make an informed decision from there maybe, everyone deals with things differently though I suppose."
You seem to be missing the point that not arriving together is not attending as a couple,any one could say "he/she is on their way".You could have waited in carpark or the fast food restaurant a few hundred yrds away.
Being on Fab and attending clubs go hand in hand but are not required for one of the other,and im pretty sure the club staff would be too busy welcoming everyone,to be able to cross reference profiles on here against those attending that night ? |
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I'm starting to see what you mean now, you have to have a MF profile to enable you to state yourself as a couple then ?
Oh well you live and learn, just not my understanding of "couple"
Thanks for the advice, no don't think it's for me maybe though, just one of those things I suppose |
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"Am wanting to go myself but won't go as a single guy
Why mate I went my first 10 or so times as a single guy and loved every night you are well looked after "
just not somewhere I would go on my own as I wouldn't know what to expect |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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"Am wanting to go myself but won't go as a single guy
Why mate I went my first 10 or so times as a single guy and loved every night you are well looked after just not somewhere I would go on my own as I wouldn't know what to expect "
The good thing about new single guys at Townhouse is they book in for an Induction on a Wednesday night. It's called Newbies and Notso. So you arrive early and have a chat with the owner and a few other new guys. You get an extensive tour of the club and it gives you an opportunity to ask as many questions about the club and the scene in general as you wish. Then you are free to go and mingle with everyone else. The regulars are really welcoming to newbies and the staff are on hand if you need anything. Wednesdays have a chilled vibe about them, even though they are busy.
So those nerves will disappear really quickly. |
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I think basically for me, it's near impossible to define "couple" in this day and age and this lifestyle. So what we saying, to be a real "couple" you have to share a FS profile ? Be married ? Be M/F M/M F/F ? have kids ? Have to of signed an official document ? Sent an Email ? The list goes on. I know "couples" that swing "together" as "couples" who definetly are not you could argue a "couple" they live seperatly, married to other people, are single in all other aspects of life apart from when they swing etc etc. To me a couple is 2 people, who are classing themselves as "together" and therefore a "couple" i think If your decision on what is a "couple" is defined by a 15 minute time gap, and not the actual people themselves and there story or situation, your just not my type of people really, all sounds way to clicky and unfriendly to me, each to there own as they say though, and it's just one of those things, it's concreated my pre conception of a club anyway and I certainly won't be doing that again thanks haha, that was just my story, and how it happened, so was interested in some feedback. So thanks for everyone who took time to read and reply, positive or negative it's all taken on board and appreciated. Happy Swinging  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I agree that being prepared for a private party night is the way to go to avoid this sort of disappointment. However, the woman got in. If she wasn't on the list, or was on the list but as part of a MF couple with the OP, how did she manage to get in but the OP didn't?
Clubs have rules, I understand that, but shouldn't the rules be applied across the board? |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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"I agree that being prepared for a private party night is the way to go to avoid this sort of disappointment. However, the woman got in. If she wasn't on the list, or was on the list but as part of a MF couple with the OP, how did she manage to get in but the OP didn't?
Clubs have rules, I understand that, but shouldn't the rules be applied across the board?"
It was a couples and single ladies party.
For me, someone meeting someone for the first time after talking to them for a few days and arranging to meet at a club, doesn't class as a couple. What if you'd have gotten into the party, realised you weren't attracted to each other or there was no chemistry and went your separate ways? Then you have a single guy at a couples and single ladies party.
The party was a private hire at the club so the club would have been following the hosts' guest list and attendee criteria. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I agree that being prepared for a private party night is the way to go to avoid this sort of disappointment. However, the woman got in. If she wasn't on the list, or was on the list but as part of a MF couple with the OP, how did she manage to get in but the OP didn't?
Clubs have rules, I understand that, but shouldn't the rules be applied across the board?
It was a couples and single ladies party.
For me, someone meeting someone for the first time after talking to them for a few days and arranging to meet at a club, doesn't class as a couple. What if you'd have gotten into the party, realised you weren't attracted to each other or there was no chemistry and went your separate ways? Then you have a single guy at a couples and single ladies party.
The party was a private hire at the club so the club would have been following the hosts' guest list and attendee criteria."
From the above post from the club owners:
"The hosts specifically stipulate on their forum thread m.fabswingers.com/forum/events/594924 that you need a townhouse couples membership OR an established and verified couples profile here on fab with the person you want to come in with of which you have neither."
The woman also had neither, but was allowed entry. This begs the question of whether the woman had put her name down as a single woman to gain access if things didn't pan out as a couple, which opens another kettle of worms. |
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By *eshzMan
over a year ago
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OP your replies are very immature. You are not even known by the club, and you expect the club rules to be relaxed just because you're a "nice" guy? And how are you a couple? Don't be a child, you very well know what a couple means, so stop turning this around into something sinister and then saying the club is unfriendly. You haven't even been there, and not only that the event organizer has stipulated what a couple means, so you ranging on about how great you are as a single guy and your 15minutes delay doesn't add up.
Seriously if having a great night was that important since you two were a couple, you could have picked her up, go for a meal or fun evening in town and have mind blowing sex. That didn't happen, not exactly couple is it?
You should seriously take time to think with a calm mind before coming here and hurling statements which are ridiculous. Maybe you not being a member of this club would be a good thing as you're coming across as a man child for not getting your way.
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"I agree that being prepared for a private party night is the way to go to avoid this sort of disappointment. However, the woman got in. If she wasn't on the list, or was on the list but as part of a MF couple with the OP, how did she manage to get in but the OP didn't?
Clubs have rules, I understand that, but shouldn't the rules be applied across the board?"
Because she's a unicorn. If she's a regular she should of known the rules and this mix up wouldn't have happened. Hopefully the club owners explained it to her after letting her in  |
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This is a great advert for townhouse.
Its always nice to see clubs being strict on the rules as it increases confidence for everyone who attends.
I remember going to quest our first time and seeing a single guy chancing his arm on a couples night. It was good to see they were polite but firm.
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"I agree that being prepared for a private party night is the way to go to avoid this sort of disappointment. However, the woman got in. If she wasn't on the list, or was on the list but as part of a MF couple with the OP, how did she manage to get in but the OP didn't?
Clubs have rules, I understand that, but shouldn't the rules be applied across the board?
Because she's a unicorn. If she's a regular she should of known the rules and this mix up wouldn't have happened. Hopefully the club owners explained it to her after letting her in "
Taken from the advert.
ALL COUPLES & FEMALES welcome, if your not members you will need 2 types of ID with you for entry.
So basically this girl dumped him on entry. Maybe she did not fancy signing up with him for cpls entry. Maybe she forgot her 2 forms of id and thought I'm not going home to get them I'll use my single fem membership instead.
Either way they arrived separately so if my wife had done that to me I'd still expect to be stood out in the cold, despite 20 years together. |
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"This is a great advert for townhouse.
Its always nice to see clubs being strict on the rules as it increases confidence for everyone who attends.
I remember going to quest our first time and seeing a single guy chancing his arm on a couples night. It was good to see they were polite but firm.
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Couldn't agree more. TH is a fantastic club and it's great that they stick politely and clearly to their rules. But seriously OP, try it out on a night that does accept single chaps, you'll have a super time and you can still meet your new lady friend there. Bit of an oversight on your part regarding attending the party, but learn and carry on having fun. |
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"I agree that being prepared for a private party night is the way to go to avoid this sort of disappointment. However, the woman got in. If she wasn't on the list, or was on the list but as part of a MF couple with the OP, how did she manage to get in but the OP didn't?
Clubs have rules, I understand that, but shouldn't the rules be applied across the board?
Because she's a unicorn. If she's a regular she should of known the rules and this mix up wouldn't have happened. Hopefully the club owners explained it to her after letting her in
Taken from the advert.
ALL COUPLES & FEMALES welcome, if your not members you will need 2 types of ID with you for entry.
So basically this girl dumped him on entry. Maybe she did not fancy signing up with him for cpls entry. Maybe she forgot her 2 forms of id and thought I'm not going home to get them I'll use my single fem membership instead.
Either way they arrived separately so if my wife had done that to me I'd still expect to be stood out in the cold, despite 20 years together. "
Oh not to worry then. He's just another single guy. Plenty more where they came from hey |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I agree that being prepared for a private party night is the way to go to avoid this sort of disappointment. However, the woman got in. If she wasn't on the list, or was on the list but as part of a MF couple with the OP, how did she manage to get in but the OP didn't?
Clubs have rules, I understand that, but shouldn't the rules be applied across the board?
Because she's a unicorn. If she's a regular she should of known the rules and this mix up wouldn't have happened. Hopefully the club owners explained it to her after letting her in
Taken from the advert.
ALL COUPLES & FEMALES welcome, if your not members you will need 2 types of ID with you for entry.
So basically this girl dumped him on entry. Maybe she did not fancy signing up with him for cpls entry. Maybe she forgot her 2 forms of id and thought I'm not going home to get them I'll use my single fem membership instead.
Either way they arrived separately so if my wife had done that to me I'd still expect to be stood out in the cold, despite 20 years together. "
In which case the OP shouldn't be ranting about the club, and should be ranting about the behaviour of the woman who left him to go home alone. I would have left the club and gone elsewhere if my date for the night was not allowed in.
However, if it was a 'names on the list' event and she wasn't down as a single female, she shouldn't have been allowed in. |
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"OP your replies are very immature. You are not even known by the club, and you expect the club rules to be relaxed just because you're a "nice" guy? And how are you a couple? Don't be a child, you very well know what a couple means, so stop turning this around into something sinister and then saying the club is unfriendly. You haven't even been there, and not only that the event organizer has stipulated what a couple means, so you ranging on about how great you are as a single guy and your 15minutes delay doesn't add up.
Seriously if having a great night was that important since you two were a couple, you could have picked her up, go for a meal or fun evening in town and have mind blowing sex. That didn't happen, not exactly couple is it?
You should seriously take time to think with a calm mind before coming here and hurling statements which are ridiculous. Maybe you not being a member of this club would be a good thing as you're coming across as a man child for not getting your way.
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You sound a fair and friendly guy, maybe a regular at Townhouse ? I don't really appreciate your insults thanks, I'd suggest keeping respectful and keeping your comments constructive. I can assure you 100% I am a fully grown arse man and definetly not a child. |
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"I agree that being prepared for a private party night is the way to go to avoid this sort of disappointment. However, the woman got in. If she wasn't on the list, or was on the list but as part of a MF couple with the OP, how did she manage to get in but the OP didn't?
Clubs have rules, I understand that, but shouldn't the rules be applied across the board?
Because she's a unicorn. If she's a regular she should of known the rules and this mix up wouldn't have happened. Hopefully the club owners explained it to her after letting her in
Taken from the advert.
ALL COUPLES & FEMALES welcome, if your not members you will need 2 types of ID with you for entry.
So basically this girl dumped him on entry. Maybe she did not fancy signing up with him for cpls entry. Maybe she forgot her 2 forms of id and thought I'm not going home to get them I'll use my single fem membership instead.
Either way they arrived separately so if my wife had done that to me I'd still expect to be stood out in the cold, despite 20 years together.
In which case the OP shouldn't be ranting about the club, and should be ranting about the behaviour of the woman who left him to go home alone. I would have left the club and gone elsewhere if my date for the night was not allowed in.
However, if it was a 'names on the list' event and she wasn't down as a single female, she shouldn't have been allowed in."
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"I agree that being prepared for a private party night is the way to go to avoid this sort of disappointment. However, the woman got in. If she wasn't on the list, or was on the list but as part of a MF couple with the OP, how did she manage to get in but the OP didn't?
Clubs have rules, I understand that, but shouldn't the rules be applied across the board?
Because she's a unicorn. If she's a regular she should of known the rules and this mix up wouldn't have happened. Hopefully the club owners explained it to her after letting her in
Taken from the advert.
ALL COUPLES & FEMALES welcome, if your not members you will need 2 types of ID with you for entry.
So basically this girl dumped him on entry. Maybe she did not fancy signing up with him for cpls entry. Maybe she forgot her 2 forms of id and thought I'm not going home to get them I'll use my single fem membership instead.
Either way they arrived separately so if my wife had done that to me I'd still expect to be stood out in the cold, despite 20 years together.
In which case the OP shouldn't be ranting about the club, and should be ranting about the behaviour of the woman who left him to go home alone. I would have left the club and gone elsewhere if my date for the night was not allowed in.
However, if it was a 'names on the list' event and she wasn't down as a single female, she shouldn't have been allowed in."
I wasn't rating the club, that's a different section on here, I was sharing my experience and looking for some feedback. Thanks. |
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"This is a great advert for townhouse.
Its always nice to see clubs being strict on the rules as it increases confidence for everyone who attends.
I remember going to quest our first time and seeing a single guy chancing his arm on a couples night. It was good to see they were polite but firm.
Couldn't agree more. TH is a fantastic club and it's great that they stick politely and clearly to their rules. But seriously OP, try it out on a night that does accept single chaps, you'll have a super time and you can still meet your new lady friend there. Bit of an oversight on your part regarding attending the party, but learn and carry on having fun. "
Yeah maybe I did, you live and learn though hey, not the end of the world, thanks |
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The lady had called to go on the list but made no mention whatsoever of her single guy friend lol She turned up and said in a by the way manner, is it ok if i bring in a guy as a couple? I said, but i know you're not a couple, what's his fab name and do you have a couples profile with him on fab? Her response 'errrr I don't know his fab name but I know his first name, well the he gave me..we only started chatting on Thursday' My response,' well I'm sorry but regardless of the fact I know you and you are on the list, you are not a couple with this guy and he's not on the list. She said 'but he's on his way'. My response 'well you'll have to tell him the situation or go meet him to go elsewhere '
She stayed and the guy wasn't mentioned again. She had a ball. |
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Basically ruined our night, and perception of "clubs" which I will never try again probably and maybe unfortunately, thanks for representing the scene so well, great job....Not.
Sounds like you are rating the club with this comment.
Completely ignoring that you did not meet the rules and your lady dumped you on entry.
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"The lady had called to go on the list but made no mention whatsoever of her single guy friend lol She turned up and said in a by the way manner, is it ok if i bring in a guy as a couple? I said, but i know you're not a couple, what's his fab name and do you have a couples profile with him on fab? Her response 'errrr I don't know his fab name but I know his first name, well the he gave me..we only started chatting on Thursday' My response,' well I'm sorry but regardless of the fact I know you and you are on the list, you are not a couple with this guy and he's not on the list. She said 'but he's on his way'. My response 'well you'll have to tell him the situation or go meet him to go elsewhere '
She stayed and the guy wasn't mentioned again. She had a ball. "
Yes i know I told her to just go in and have a ball and we could meet as a couple another time, and they did, she was also with her single female friend from out of town who also wasn't on any list so I didn't want any of us to spoil her night, hopefully they had a fab night |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"The lady had called to go on the list but made no mention whatsoever of her single guy friend lol She turned up and said in a by the way manner, is it ok if i bring in a guy as a couple? I said, but i know you're not a couple, what's his fab name and do you have a couples profile with him on fab? Her response 'errrr I don't know his fab name but I know his first name, well the he gave me..we only started chatting on Thursday' My response,' well I'm sorry but regardless of the fact I know you and you are on the list, you are not a couple with this guy and he's not on the list. She said 'but he's on his way'. My response 'well you'll have to tell him the situation or go meet him to go elsewhere '
She stayed and the guy wasn't mentioned again. She had a ball.
Yes i know I told her to just go in and have a ball and we could meet as a couple another time, and they did, she was also with her single female friend from out of town who also wasn't on any list so I didn't want any of us to spoil her night, hopefully they had a fab night "
In which case the club was not at fault in this instance.
I am all for equal treatment of men and women in clubs but when we break this down we get the following:
This was a private party for couples and single women, requiring MF membership or MF Fab profile.
You and a woman attempted to gain entry as a couple despite having neither of the above.
The woman was on the list as a single female.
She asked for you to get in but had not applied for entry as MF couple.
The club advised her of the rules, which she then passed to you.
She stayed, you didn't, by your own choice.
At what point was the club at fault for this? |
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"The lady had called to go on the list but made no mention whatsoever of her single guy friend lol She turned up and said in a by the way manner, is it ok if i bring in a guy as a couple? I said, but i know you're not a couple, what's his fab name and do you have a couples profile with him on fab? Her response 'errrr I don't know his fab name but I know his first name, well the he gave me..we only started chatting on Thursday' My response,' well I'm sorry but regardless of the fact I know you and you are on the list, you are not a couple with this guy and he's not on the list. She said 'but he's on his way'. My response 'well you'll have to tell him the situation or go meet him to go elsewhere '
She stayed and the guy wasn't mentioned again. She had a ball.
Yes i know I told her to just go in and have a ball and we could meet as a couple another time, and they did, she was also with her single female friend from out of town who also wasn't on any list so I didn't want any of us to spoil her night, hopefully they had a fab night "
You won't win op. No one on this site. Club. Couple. Single is gonna turn a unicorn away. |
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"The lady had called to go on the list but made no mention whatsoever of her single guy friend lol She turned up and said in a by the way manner, is it ok if i bring in a guy as a couple? I said, but i know you're not a couple, what's his fab name and do you have a couples profile with him on fab? Her response 'errrr I don't know his fab name but I know his first name, well the he gave me..we only started chatting on Thursday' My response,' well I'm sorry but regardless of the fact I know you and you are on the list, you are not a couple with this guy and he's not on the list. She said 'but he's on his way'. My response 'well you'll have to tell him the situation or go meet him to go elsewhere '
She stayed and the guy wasn't mentioned again. She had a ball.
Yes i know I told her to just go in and have a ball and we could meet as a couple another time, and they did, she was also with her single female friend from out of town who also wasn't on any list so I didn't want any of us to spoil her night, hopefully they had a fab night
In which case the club was not at fault in this instance.
I am all for equal treatment of men and women in clubs but when we break this down we get the following:
This was a private party for couples and single women, requiring MF membership or MF Fab profile.
You and a woman attempted to gain entry as a couple despite having neither of the above.
The woman was on the list as a single female.
She asked for you to get in but had not applied for entry as MF couple.
The club advised her of the rules, which she then passed to you.
She stayed, you didn't, by your own choice.
At what point was the club at fault for this?"
Single female friend from outta town not on any list maybe. But that old chestnut of she rang the club before will sort that |
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"The lady had called to go on the list but made no mention whatsoever of her single guy friend lol She turned up and said in a by the way manner, is it ok if i bring in a guy as a couple? I said, but i know you're not a couple, what's his fab name and do you have a couples profile with him on fab? Her response 'errrr I don't know his fab name but I know his first name, well the he gave me..we only started chatting on Thursday' My response,' well I'm sorry but regardless of the fact I know you and you are on the list, you are not a couple with this guy and he's not on the list. She said 'but he's on his way'. My response 'well you'll have to tell him the situation or go meet him to go elsewhere '
She stayed and the guy wasn't mentioned again. She had a ball.
Yes i know I told her to just go in and have a ball and we could meet as a couple another time, and they did, she was also with her single female friend from out of town who also wasn't on any list so I didn't want any of us to spoil her night, hopefully they had a fab night
In which case the club was not at fault in this instance.
I am all for equal treatment of men and women in clubs but when we break this down we get the following:
This was a private party for couples and single women, requiring MF membership or MF Fab profile.
You and a woman attempted to gain entry as a couple despite having neither of the above.
The woman was on the list as a single female.
She asked for you to get in but had not applied for entry as MF couple.
The club advised her of the rules, which she then passed to you.
She stayed, you didn't, by your own choice.
At what point was the club at fault for this?"
I see, thanks for making it clearer, I didn't know they had put you had to have a M/F profile or be a couple membership, her female friend wasn't on any list ? But yeah thanks for the constructive clarification, makes it a lot clearer. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"The lady had called to go on the list but made no mention whatsoever of her single guy friend lol She turned up and said in a by the way manner, is it ok if i bring in a guy as a couple? I said, but i know you're not a couple, what's his fab name and do you have a couples profile with him on fab? Her response 'errrr I don't know his fab name but I know his first name, well the he gave me..we only started chatting on Thursday' My response,' well I'm sorry but regardless of the fact I know you and you are on the list, you are not a couple with this guy and he's not on the list. She said 'but he's on his way'. My response 'well you'll have to tell him the situation or go meet him to go elsewhere '
She stayed and the guy wasn't mentioned again. She had a ball.
Yes i know I told her to just go in and have a ball and we could meet as a couple another time, and they did, she was also with her single female friend from out of town who also wasn't on any list so I didn't want any of us to spoil her night, hopefully they had a fab night
In which case the club was not at fault in this instance.
I am all for equal treatment of men and women in clubs but when we break this down we get the following:
This was a private party for couples and single women, requiring MF membership or MF Fab profile.
You and a woman attempted to gain entry as a couple despite having neither of the above.
The woman was on the list as a single female.
She asked for you to get in but had not applied for entry as MF couple.
The club advised her of the rules, which she then passed to you.
She stayed, you didn't, by your own choice.
At what point was the club at fault for this?
Single female friend from outta town not on any list maybe. But that old chestnut of she rang the club before will sort that "
That is true, but I still think the fault lay with the woman in this case. Very poor behaviour. |
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"The lady had called to go on the list but made no mention whatsoever of her single guy friend lol She turned up and said in a by the way manner, is it ok if i bring in a guy as a couple? I said, but i know you're not a couple, what's his fab name and do you have a couples profile with him on fab? Her response 'errrr I don't know his fab name but I know his first name, well the he gave me..we only started chatting on Thursday' My response,' well I'm sorry but regardless of the fact I know you and you are on the list, you are not a couple with this guy and he's not on the list. She said 'but he's on his way'. My response 'well you'll have to tell him the situation or go meet him to go elsewhere '
She stayed and the guy wasn't mentioned again. She had a ball.
Yes i know I told her to just go in and have a ball and we could meet as a couple another time, and they did, she was also with her single female friend from out of town who also wasn't on any list so I didn't want any of us to spoil her night, hopefully they had a fab night
In which case the club was not at fault in this instance.
I am all for equal treatment of men and women in clubs but when we break this down we get the following:
This was a private party for couples and single women, requiring MF membership or MF Fab profile.
You and a woman attempted to gain entry as a couple despite having neither of the above.
The woman was on the list as a single female.
She asked for you to get in but had not applied for entry as MF couple.
The club advised her of the rules, which she then passed to you.
She stayed, you didn't, by your own choice.
At what point was the club at fault for this?
Single female friend from outta town not on any list maybe. But that old chestnut of she rang the club before will sort that
That is true, but I still think the fault lay with the woman in this case. Very poor behaviour."
Very. But she had a ball so it's ok |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"The lady had called to go on the list but made no mention whatsoever of her single guy friend lol She turned up and said in a by the way manner, is it ok if i bring in a guy as a couple? I said, but i know you're not a couple, what's his fab name and do you have a couples profile with him on fab? Her response 'errrr I don't know his fab name but I know his first name, well the he gave me..we only started chatting on Thursday' My response,' well I'm sorry but regardless of the fact I know you and you are on the list, you are not a couple with this guy and he's not on the list. She said 'but he's on his way'. My response 'well you'll have to tell him the situation or go meet him to go elsewhere '
She stayed and the guy wasn't mentioned again. She had a ball.
Yes i know I told her to just go in and have a ball and we could meet as a couple another time, and they did, she was also with her single female friend from out of town who also wasn't on any list so I didn't want any of us to spoil her night, hopefully they had a fab night
In which case the club was not at fault in this instance.
I am all for equal treatment of men and women in clubs but when we break this down we get the following:
This was a private party for couples and single women, requiring MF membership or MF Fab profile.
You and a woman attempted to gain entry as a couple despite having neither of the above.
The woman was on the list as a single female.
She asked for you to get in but had not applied for entry as MF couple.
The club advised her of the rules, which she then passed to you.
She stayed, you didn't, by your own choice.
At what point was the club at fault for this?
Single female friend from outta town not on any list maybe. But that old chestnut of she rang the club before will sort that
That is true, but I still think the fault lay with the woman in this case. Very poor behaviour.
Very. But she had a ball so it's ok "
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"The lady had called to go on the list but made no mention whatsoever of her single guy friend lol She turned up and said in a by the way manner, is it ok if i bring in a guy as a couple? I said, but i know you're not a couple, what's his fab name and do you have a couples profile with him on fab? Her response 'errrr I don't know his fab name but I know his first name, well the he gave me..we only started chatting on Thursday' My response,' well I'm sorry but regardless of the fact I know you and you are on the list, you are not a couple with this guy and he's not on the list. She said 'but he's on his way'. My response 'well you'll have to tell him the situation or go meet him to go elsewhere '
She stayed and the guy wasn't mentioned again. She had a ball.
Yes i know I told her to just go in and have a ball and we could meet as a couple another time, and they did, she was also with her single female friend from out of town who also wasn't on any list so I didn't want any of us to spoil her night, hopefully they had a fab night
In which case the club was not at fault in this instance.
I am all for equal treatment of men and women in clubs but when we break this down we get the following:
This was a private party for couples and single women, requiring MF membership or MF Fab profile.
You and a woman attempted to gain entry as a couple despite having neither of the above.
The woman was on the list as a single female.
She asked for you to get in but had not applied for entry as MF couple.
The club advised her of the rules, which she then passed to you.
She stayed, you didn't, by your own choice.
At what point was the club at fault for this?
Single female friend from outta town not on any list maybe. But that old chestnut of she rang the club before will sort that
That is true, but I still think the fault lay with the woman in this case. Very poor behaviour."
I have to say I agree with you there, poor behaviour indeed. |
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Just a minute where did this other female friend pop up from?
Not been mentioned before.
She may very well have met the rules by doing her own single fem admission with 2 forms of id.
If she was not known to the club she could have waited for this chap and gone in as a couple together.
Every way you look at it a lack of knowledge of the rules and getting left at the door by not one but two women is down to poor planning. |
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"Just a minute where did this other female friend pop up from?
Not been mentioned before.
She may very well have met the rules by doing her own single fem admission with 2 forms of id.
If she was not known to the club she could have waited for this chap and gone in as a couple together.
Every way you look at it a lack of knowledge of the rules and getting left at the door by not one but two women is down to poor planning. "
She was a single female in her own right xx |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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It is a separate issue from the OP but if I invited a bloke to club and found out I'd got the admission rules wrong, I wouldn't have left him to go off alone, fuming. I would have left and gone out with the guy.
Doesn't matter if she had already put her name down as a single female, you just don't do that. Men on here get enough guff without women wasting their time like that. |
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"It is a separate issue from the OP but if I invited a bloke to club and found out I'd got the admission rules wrong, I wouldn't have left him to go off alone, fuming. I would have left and gone out with the guy.
Doesn't matter if she had already put her name down as a single female, you just don't do that. Men on here get enough guff without women wasting their time like that."
Yes but your a nice person (judging by your other posts over the yrs)! |
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"It is a separate issue from the OP but if I invited a bloke to club and found out I'd got the admission rules wrong, I wouldn't have left him to go off alone, fuming. I would have left and gone out with the guy.
Doesn't matter if she had already put her name down as a single female, you just don't do that. Men on here get enough guff without women wasting their time like that."
Do you know what...You are absolutely right. I wouldn't have done that either if I'm honest. Even if I was given 'permission' to go in and enjoy myself, the guy was on his way in a cab; I would have met him and gone out into Liverpool or something. But they barely knew each other, so she must have thought that a night in the club was more enticing lol I told her this last night; I said that she could go and meet him, but it wasn't even an option..she was coming in! lol
OP, I am sorry this happened and your night was ruined. You have a little more knowledge now based on what has been said above. If you change your mind and you decide to go to a club (any club) then just do some due diligence and find out what night it is, hat you need to bring and if you are eligible. I would also attend alone as hooking up with a girl in these circumstances doesn't always work out.
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By *unLuvazCouple
over a year ago
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"Like I've said though we would be a couple trying out the club scene wouldn't we.
Thanks for the advice though.
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You where not a couple though. You don't have a couples club membership and you don't have verified couples fab account. It was our party last night and you wouldn't of gotten in. Maybe next time message the owners of the club or the people holding the event. Then you won't waste your time. |
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By *unLuvazCouple
over a year ago
cheshire |
"I agree that being prepared for a private party night is the way to go to avoid this sort of disappointment. However, the woman got in. If she wasn't on the list, or was on the list but as part of a MF couple with the OP, how did she manage to get in but the OP didn't?
Clubs have rules, I understand that, but shouldn't the rules be applied across the board?"
The single fem got in as she messaged us to say she was coming. But didn't say anything about coming as a couple. And just to clarify its a couples and single females event. |
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"I think basically for me, it's near impossible to define "couple" in this day and age and this lifestyle. So what we saying, to be a real "couple" you have to share a FS profile ? Be married ? Be M/F M/M F/F ? have kids ? Have to of signed an official document ? Sent an Email ? The list goes on. I know "couples" that swing "together" as "couples" who definetly are not you could argue a "couple" they live seperatly, married to other people, are single in all other aspects of life apart from when they swing etc etc. To me a couple is 2 people, who are classing themselves as "together" and therefore a "couple" i think If your decision on what is a "couple" is defined by a 15 minute time gap, and not the actual people themselves and there story or situation, your just not my type of people really, all sounds way to clicky and unfriendly to me, each to there own as they say though, and it's just one of those things, it's concreated my pre conception of a club anyway and I certainly won't be doing that again thanks haha, that was just my story, and how it happened, so was interested in some feedback. So thanks for everyone who took time to read and reply, positive or negative it's all taken on board and appreciated. Happy Swinging "
The difference here is... TH did define it. They also pointed it out twice on this thread.. on their website AND on the event listed on here. |
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By *unLuvazCouple
over a year ago
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Oh and another thing.... Single female that came with her had I'd and had every right to attend... I was there when they came in. At the end of the day it was our private party.... And it was a great night.... Looking forward to our next party already...  |
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"I think basically for me, it's near impossible to define "couple" in this day and age and this lifestyle. So what we saying, to be a real "couple" you have to share a FS profile ? Be married ? Be M/F M/M F/F ? have kids ? Have to of signed an official document ? Sent an Email ? The list goes on. I know "couples" that swing "together" as "couples" who definetly are not you could argue a "couple" they live seperatly, married to other people, are single in all other aspects of life apart from when they swing etc etc. To me a couple is 2 people, who are classing themselves as "together" and therefore a "couple" i think If your decision on what is a "couple" is defined by a 15 minute time gap, and not the actual people themselves and there story or situation, your just not my type of people really, all sounds way to clicky and unfriendly to me, each to there own as they say though, and it's just one of those things, it's concreated my pre conception of a club anyway and I certainly won't be doing that again thanks haha, that was just my story, and how it happened, so was interested in some feedback. So thanks for everyone who took time to read and reply, positive or negative it's all taken on board and appreciated. Happy Swinging
The difference here is... TH did define it. They also pointed it out twice on this thread.. on their website AND on the event listed on here. "
do you go to townhouse ? |
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By *mega_1Woman
over a year ago
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Just echoing the many comments above, this particular night is for single women and couples, there are many other events which welcome single guys.
You should definitely check the club out the club on a Wednesday night for the Newbies and Notso's event.
Decent single guys are really well looked after at the club and made to feel welcome by both the staff and other customers. |
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This thread confirms why Townhouse is one of the very top clubs in the region! Clear and simple rules that are consistently applied. It only gives us more confidence in the club and makes us want to go back.
Getting butthurt because you didn't do your homework isn't the club's fault. |
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We had a bit of grief from a couple of local clubs when we got together on here. We were pretty much a couple from the beginning, but it took a while to convince some of them, more so than our families who saw us together. No problems joining clubs as a couple in advance of going. Personally I have issues with going to couples and single fems only nights anyway ..... I just found it offensive that some clubs assumed the OH was only with me to get into clubs. |
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We went to the Party Night at Townhouse, we had a great night just talking to newbies asking questions etc. We didn't find anyone to swing with, so we just used the dentist chair room together for some kinky fun.
Unless you have preplanned to meet and swing with another couple/single, it's best to be prepared for just talk to lovely kind people and treat actually finding someone to have fun with as an added bonus. |
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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago
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I`m a regular as I can be customer at Chameleons so won`t be visiting Townhouse, but purely for logistical reasons. I really am too far away!
Yet, having seen how the TH management post on here, not only about their own club, but about others means that I would have no qualms about recommending their club to prospective customers. Utterly fair, completely straight and exactly how a club should be run! |
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By *unLuvazCouple
over a year ago
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"I`m a regular as I can be customer at Chameleons so won`t be visiting Townhouse, but purely for logistical reasons. I really am too far away!
Yet, having seen how the TH management post on here, not only about their own club, but about others means that I would have no qualms about recommending their club to prospective customers. Utterly fair, completely straight and exactly how a club should be run!"
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